African people were never ready and will never be ready and they are not the only ones exhibiting this behavior. This phenomenon is uniform to all human beings around the world. It’s not only in black people. For Example:
So, as you can see, BLACK PEOPLE are not the only ones with these behaviors. Now, let’s find out the psychological barriers that are behind what Vusi calls not being ready and crab mentality.
What’s really going on in people’s minds when they reject and fight something that is good for them like what Vusi was trying to do.
In this short clip from our previous episode, we talk about things that keep our countries from progressing.
You are the sum of your habits. You become what you constantly do. As the author of Atomic Habits puts it, “Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your habits. Your net worth is a lagging measure of your financial habits. Your weight is a lagging measure of your eating habits. Your knowledge is a lagging measure of your learning habits. Your clutter is a lagging measure of your cleaning habits. You get what you repeat.”
When we are born, we never imagine growing up and becoming our own caretaker. From age zero, we depend on our guardians to motivate, push, and guide us in everything we do. Unfortunately, most of us never prepare for the day that our caretakers won't be there anymore. Taking responsibility is about self parenting, self leadership, and self authoring. Ask yourself these following questions to know if you are responsible.
- If no one told you what to do, would you know what to do?
- When is the last time you learned a skill on your own?
- When is the last time you asked someone for advice?
- Are you consistently searching for solutions on your own?
If your answer to any of these questions is NO, then you need to examine your life.
You are the manager, secretary, and auditor of your days. Take a deep look into your life and take ownership of your life. Spend every hour with intentions doing something productive. They say, luck is when opportunity meets preparedness. It's your job to be prepared in order to be blessed.
Ese koko abakobwa bakunda amafaranga? Ese abantu bashobora gukundana nta mafaranga? Ibi bibazo n'ibindi, nibyo turibuganireho hamwe na Ariane Uwimana muri iki kiganiro. Muryoherwe n'iki kiganiro.
In this episode I talk about what most people told me.
"I hope you didn't change." said one old friend.
"What did you do to my son?" Said my mother.
Conclusion: Change is the most feared aspect of life. Yet it's inevitable and unpredictable. For more about this topic keep listening and learn how I deal with it.
Hari ibintu abagabo n'abagore duhuriyeho n'ibindi dutandukaniyeho. Ariko hari abatabyemera batekereza ko abagabo n'abagore bose bashobora kuba bamwe. Muri iki kiganiro turiburebere hamwe uko twasobanukirwa kamere zacu n'ukuntu byadufasha kubana neza.
In this episode, I talk about
1. My healing journey from grief of my Father, my little brother, my auntie, and my two uncles.
2. Consequences of unhealed trauma like loss and how you can naturally heal from any illness.
3. HOW and WHY;
- I quit playing and leading music
- Dropped out of college
- Stopped going to church
- Stopped hanging out with people who drained my energy
- Started my side hustle.
- Moved to Africa
I DID IT ALL to protect my mental health because I was struggling with depression and loss of six family members including my father and our last born. Being unaware of mental health, grieving process, and support from my family and community, I had to solve this problem on my own. - I started eating healthy, sleeping early, hanging out with my close friends, and going in nature.
More in this episode:
- Simone Biles
- In her Tedx talk, Lisa Rankin talks about the origin of all illnesses and what makes us more prone to them. Things like stress, lack of rest, lack of fulfilment and purpose, lack of spiritual lifestyle, lack of healthy relationships, lack of great sex, lack of healthy food, lack of emotional health etc...All these things are important for our well being. When they are not fully met, out immune system becomes weak. When our immune system is weak, that's when we get sick. Dr. Lisa discusses how you can heal yourself. In this episode I discuss what I did to become healthy.
Tedx link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWQfe__fNbs
Did you know Amazon started as an online book store. They sold books only. Today Amazon sales almost anything you can think of. One of the reason why we fail to create change is wasting our time, resources, and energy waiting for our calling and passion to be revealed to us. The truth is, finding one's calling is about engaging and trying all the talents and ideas given to us. If you want to know what you're meant to do in your life, start by pursuing anything you're interested in.
"The truth is that we are lazy and want the outcome without sacrifice and hard work." Irakoze Gisele.
As a founder of Ndabaga Impact, a university student, and first born, Irakoze Gisele shares how she went from being told she could be a computer programmer, lawyer, and now management to becoming an activist who helps young people. It all started with herself ignoring society's prescription of success and dive deep in her heart to find out what she was made to do. In this episode you will learn her path, tricks, struggles, and what worked for her. You will also learn how to concur your fears, build strong work ethics to pursue your dreams. Hope you enjoy it.
"The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want now."~ Zig Ziglar
The biggest obstacle between our desired best life can be narrowed down to self control.
Join Sauti Zetu Team discussing the difference between being civilised and being open minded. This our first episode together face to face since we started working together last year.
Most complaints and disagreements come from lack of understanding. When we fail to listen carefully what the person is saying, they remain unheard which leads to feeling dissatisfied. Our job in any relationship is to understand other people's needs and find a way of meeting them since we are the only people who promised to meet their needs. This goes both ways.
Most relationships fade not because of lack of passion but because of lack of attention and intentionality. To be able to maintain a long term relationship one needs to be able to self regulate, correct, and lead in supporting and meeting their significant other's needs. If you can control your attention and what you do with it, you can definitely build a long lasting relationship. It all begins with ourselves. We blame others while we can't even notice what's going on with people in our lives.
If you want to be a billionaire, you need to reach a billion of people. There is a system to wealth creation and job creation. In this episode you will discover the most obvious system behind wealth. No one becomes rich by accident unless they've won lottery.
There is a reason why Jews believe they were meant to be rich. This doesn't mean all Jews are wealthier. But those who are rich, are those who believe they were destined for greatness. What you tel yourself determines the quality of your life. You cannot become successful is you believe your salvation will come from outside. You will never be free if you believe it's someone else's duty to create that. Those who are wealth, free, and happy in life, are those who believe they have what it takes and can create anything they want in life.
The biggest challenge facing our continent is wealth creation. With the highest unemployment rates, we need to understand how wealth is created which will lead us to be self sufficient. We don't need outside help to save us from poverty. What we need is understanding how wealth countries created their wealth. In this episode you will discover how rich we are in terms of row material and resources that is needed to create our own wealth and employment.
If you met the love of your life, would you confidently say you are ready for them? The truth about relationships is that we were never raised with necessary tools and knowledge that would prepare us for love and marriage. Most of us just know what we want but we have no clue what it takes to keep it and maintain it. The person you are searching for won't just happen by accident. And if they happened, do you know what it takes to meet their needs and maintain a long lasting relationships with them? Everybody knows what is good and great, but few of us want to be the best version of ourselves.
What if the person you've been looking for isn't from your religious background, race, or social class? For most of us, the issues isn't even finding someone who would love us. The issue is our biases, ignorance, and prejudice towards others. If we believe we are all human beings, then let's start acting and doing what we preach. If what we need is love, let be love and not our indifferences. This a compiling story of how two young people found love in the most unexpected places.
