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Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
Doctor Becc and Kristeen Barker
87 episodes
10 hours ago
In "Am I Doing It Wrong?” Doctor Becc & Kristeen Barker have the vulnerable conversations all doctors need to remind us "You're not crazy, life as a doctor is". You'll feel seen & connected again & you'll also get actionable strategies to be able to show up as your favourite version of you as a doctor regardless of the daily challenges. Dr Kristeen Barker, nephrologist at Alfred Health, runs online medical education courses for physicians & trainees. Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) is coach & host of Dare, Darling—a transformative group coaching program for doctors who are people-pleasers.
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In "Am I Doing It Wrong?” Doctor Becc & Kristeen Barker have the vulnerable conversations all doctors need to remind us "You're not crazy, life as a doctor is". You'll feel seen & connected again & you'll also get actionable strategies to be able to show up as your favourite version of you as a doctor regardless of the daily challenges. Dr Kristeen Barker, nephrologist at Alfred Health, runs online medical education courses for physicians & trainees. Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) is coach & host of Dare, Darling—a transformative group coaching program for doctors who are people-pleasers.
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Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
87: Doctors, Why Can’t You Leave Work On Time?

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc's Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz‌💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27dxL

Hello doctor humans!

Today, we’re diving into a topic that hits every doctor’s nerve: why we don’t leave work on time.

If you’ve ever found yourself staying late to finish that “one last thing,” or if you’ve felt guilty walking out on time while others keep working — this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the seven hidden reasons we stay past our shifts, from the sneaky “hero complex” to cultural expectations and even our perfectionist brains chasing that sweet, sweet dopamine hit of a cleared to-do list. We promise — this one’s going to stir up some feelings, but also offer a whole lot of clarity and compassion.


In this episode, we’ll dive into:

  • The Hero Complex – That internal belief that “if I don’t do it, everything will fall apart” — and how this noble intention can quietly burn us out.
  • Being Overly Available – How being too approachable and visible keeps you stuck doing extra work that isn’t yours.
  • Toxic Culture & Expectations – Why hospital culture normalizes staying late — and how to start challenging it (with empathy and courage).
  • Short Staffing ≠ Your Responsibility – Learning to set limits, advocate for yourself, and stop carrying an entire team’s workload on your back.
  • The To-Do List Trap – The myth of “finishing everything” and how chasing that relief keeps you stuck in an unhealthy cycle.
  • Self-Worth & Avoidance – Exploring how staying late can sometimes be about avoiding our own lives outside of work.
  • Redefining What Makes a ‘Good Doctor’ – Choosing alignment over exhaustion and giving yourself permission to go home.


If this episode hits close to home — if you’ve found yourself torn between being a “good doctor” and taking care of yourself — we’d love to hear from you.

Share your thoughts with us in the comments or DM us on Instagram. Tell us: What’s the hardest part about leaving work on time for you?

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10 hours ago
45 minutes 6 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
86: Doctors, can you handle your team’s emotional emergencies?

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc's Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz‌💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27dxL

Today’s episode is especially close to our hearts because we’re diving into what it really means to show up as a positive leader in medicine. Whether you’re managing a whole team, supporting a stressed-out colleague on night shift, or holding space for a loved one who’s struggling, this conversation is about navigating emotional emergencies with compassion, calm, and true leadership.

If you’ve ever wondered how to balance empathy with effectiveness—or how to hold space without trying to “fix” everything—this episode is for you.

In this episode, we’ll dive into:

  • Why doctors step into leadership without formal training—and why that matters.
  • How to handle emotional “emergencies” from colleagues (or even loved ones) without rushing to fix them.
  • The hidden cost of trying to make distress “go away” (and how it can backfire).
  • The power of validating, normalising, and simply holding space for emotions at work.
  • Three real-life scenarios to practice your own responses as a leader and support person.
  • Why your own emotional self-work is essential to leading with empathy and impact.

We’d love to hear from you—what’s been your biggest leadership challenge when supporting someone in distress? Did your medical training give you the tools to deal with it?

Drop us a comment or DM us on Instagram. Your stories help shape this community, and we can’t wait to continue the conversation with you. 💌

Hello, doctor humans!

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2 weeks ago
35 minutes 59 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
85: Doctors, What If the Easier Path Is Enough?

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faP

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💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE 💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27UJ6

Hello, doctor humans!

In this episode we’re unpacking a familiar but sneaky story many doctors carry: the belief that “if it isn’t hard, it isn’t worthy.” From choosing a specialty, to surviving exams, to finally finishing training and wondering why we can’t just relax. We talk about where that drive comes from, how it shapes our choices, and how to intentionally choose ease (without shame) so we can build a fuller life beyond constant struggle. If you’ve ever felt like you must earn your worth through effort, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we’ll dive into:

  • The “no pain, no gain” narrative is common in medicine and leads us to equate worthiness with hardship.
  • Many doctors choose harder paths (or avoid ease) because of an underlying sense of “not enough.”
  • Finishing training often leaves a weird limbo — we expect relief but can feel guilty for wanting ease.
  • Practical examples: specialty-choice paralysis, doing medical reading on holiday, and abandoning hobbies during exams.
  • How to spot the drivers behind decisions: look at the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that push you toward hard or easy choices.
  • The cost of always choosing hard: missed presence, relationships, creativity, and micro-moments we can’t get back.
  • Small experiments to test a new way of living: try bringing work to the beach and being present, or deliberately choosing the easier route and noticing the outcome.
  • Reframing: acknowledging we are already enough and that ease, joy, and presence are valid, valuable ways to live.

We’d love to hear from you — do you feel confident enough to choose the easier path? Or does the idea of not having your foot heavy on the accelerator terrify you?

Share this episode with a colleague who needs permission to take their heavy foot off the accelerator — let’s normalise choosing ease together.

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4 weeks ago
33 minutes 57 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
84: This is the ’sweet spot’ that makes doctors thrive in clinic

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faP

‌

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE 💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27UJ6


Hello, doctor humans!


In this week’s episode, we’re diving into something that feels like a game-changer for both of us in clinic and beyond—finding what we’re calling “The Sweet Spot.” It’s that place where we’re not in survival mode, not overextending ourselves trying to be the “perfect” doctor, but instead showing up authentically, with enoughness at the core. We can’t wait to share it with you because we know so many of you will resonate with the tug-of-war between “not enough” and “trying too hard.”

In this episode, we’ll dive into:

  • Kristeen’s breakthrough in clinic: discovering “The Sweet Spot” between survival and over-performance.
  • Why both extremes—barely coping and overextending—leave us drained.
  • How subconscious narratives of “not being enough” sneak into our work and self-image.
  • The idea of the infinite hypothesis—why the “I’m not enough” story can never be proven wrong if we keep feeding it.
  • What changes when we stop performing and simply show up as our authentic selves.
  • How feedback from patients and colleagues can affirm that who we are is already enough.
  • Why aging, life experience, and self-awareness can open the door to releasing old narratives.


We’d love to hear from you—do you know this feeling of neutrality or is it a new concept for you? Have you found your own “sweet spot” in medicine or life?

Experiment in your clinic and report back. We can’t wait to keep this conversation going with you.

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1 month ago
29 minutes 4 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
83: Doctors, your little white lies are hurting you more than you think.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faP

‌

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE 💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27UJ6


Hello, doctor humans!

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a topic we know so many of us can relate to: that tempting urge to pretend. Whether it’s in front of patients, colleagues, or even friends, there are those moments where we feel pressure to act like we know more, feel less, or have it all together.


Today, we’re unpacking what’s really happening underneath that urge (often shame, fear, or people-pleasing) and exploring how telling the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable, can free us and deepen our relationships.


In this episode, we’ll dive into:

  • Why the instinct to “pretend” shows up in professional and personal spaces.
  • How people-pleasing and small “white lies” can erode trust over time.
  • A vulnerable story about missing commitments and the pull to hide versus choosing honesty.
  • The powerful role of shame in driving us to cover up—and how truth is the antidote.
  • Why patients, colleagues, and loved ones can handle the truth—and why it honors them when we share it.
  • How practicing authenticity sets healthier expectations in both personal and professional relationships.


What situations have tempted you to pretend, and how did you handle it? Drop us a comment, send us a message, or share this episode with someone who might need the reminder that honesty really is the more powerful path.


Will you challenge yourself to come on a truth-telling journey with us? Even for the ‘little’ white lies? Tell us in the comments if you’re in!

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1 month ago
34 minutes 31 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
82: The resentment that doctors feel… Let’s talk about it.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube: https://2ly.link/27faP

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO

‌

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27dxL


Hello our beautiful friends and doctor humans!

Ever catch yourself feeling grumpy, drained, or inexplicably furious at a meeting, a shift, or a project you technically said yes to? Yep, that sneaky little monster is called resentment, and today we’re talking all about it.


From unpaid overtime to those “this could’ve been an email” meetings, we explore why resentment shows up, what it really means, and—most importantly, how we can stop it from sucking our energy and joy.


Doctor Becc shares a real-life moment (yes, just yesterday!) of getting stuck in the resentment loop, and we both unpack the layers of this heavy feeling with humour, humility, and practical tools to help you move through it.



In this episode, we’ll dive into:


🔁 Why resentment is a lie built on fantasy planning and unrealistic expectations

🚗 A real-time story of Becc’s weekend resentment spiral and how she pulled herself out

📉 How resentment hurts us, drains our energy, and sabotages our goals

⛓️ The lie that we’re “stuck” or “forced” into things (and how that lie fuels resentment)

🧠 Why just telling yourself “you chose this” doesn’t work—and what to do instead

🧾 The power of a good, ugly Thought Download (yes, even the thoughts you’re ashamed of)

💡 Practical mindset tools for transforming resentment into empowerment and connection


Where does resentment show up for you in doctor life? Is it meetings? On-call shifts? The sneaky projects that eat your weekends?


Share your story in the comments or leave a review telling us what hit home for you in this episode. 💬

Your voice matters, and we can’t wait to keep this conversation going. 💖

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2 months ago
32 minutes 53 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
81: How to be an On-Call Doctor without losing your mind or FOMO

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube:  https://2ly.link/27faP

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE

💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT to join? 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27UJ6


Hello our beautiful friends and doctor humans!

In this episode, we’re diving into something that so many of us in medicine quietly wrestle with: the emotional chaos of being on call.


Not just the practicalities, but the deeper, stickier stuff, like the loss of freedom, the hypervigilance, the interruption of joy, and how that bloody phone ring can yank you straight out of flow and into fury. 😤


Kristeen opens up about her very real struggle with on-call life (and her deep dislike of it), and Doctor Becc walks her through the emotional layers behind that resentment, grief for lost control, perfectionism, and the pain of feeling your goals slip further away.


Whether it’s just a 60-second phone call or being called in to operate all night after being called in that whole day so far…


If being on call ever makes you feel like you’re constantly bracing for impact, this one is absolutely for you.


In this episode, we’ll dive into:

📞 Why being on call feels like a bomb that could go off at any moment

💣 How living life around “maybe” calls steals more than just your time

🧠 The hidden link between being interrupted and fear of not reaching your goals

😣 The emotional cost of avoiding pain… and how that avoidance steals more than the call itself

💡 Coaching questions to help you untangle what’s really upsetting you on call

🥴 Real talk about overreactions (that aren’t actually overreactions)

💬 And an example from Becc about where she was not owning her emotions herself - and what if really means to take responsibility for generating them instead of blaming the world.


We want to hear from you: What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to being on call? Is it the sleep? The uncertainty? The lack of control?

Drop us a comment, message us, or leave a review telling us your on-call story (the good, the bad, and the grumbly). 💬✨

Let’s talk about it. Because you deserve a life that feels like yours, even when you’re on call. 💖

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2 months ago
35 minutes 30 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
80 Doctors, come to CCIM25 with us! Here's 3 reasons why YOU should come.

✨ WILL WE SEE YOU at the Creative Careers in Medicine Conference ? August 23rd + 24th Albert Park, Melbourne 📍 Come and tell us all of your glory cringe stories that give you all that sweet, sweet growth. Don't cringe alone, cringe with friends.


Use our code: CCIMFIFTY

🎟️ https://events.humanitix.com/ccim-conference-2025-let-s-create?discountcode=CCIMFIFTY


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Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 

🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube:  ⁠https://2ly.link/27faP⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO⁠


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: ⁠https://2ly.link/27UJX⁠


In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE

💜 You can apply for a NO-COST CONSULT here to join us 👭👭👭 ⁠https://2ly.link/27dxL

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3 months ago
38 minutes 7 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
79: Doctors, get good at cringe and GROW WITH US

✨ WILL WE SEE YOU at the Creative Careers in Medicine Conference - August 23rd + 24th Albert Park, Melbourne 📍 Come and tell us all of your glory cringe stories that give you all that sweet, sweet growth. Don't cringe alone, cringe with friends.


Use our code: CCIMFIFTY

🎟️ https://events.humanitix.com/ccim-conference-2025-let-s-create?discountcode=CCIMFIFTY


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Doctors, are you holding back because you’re afraid to be... rubbish? 😅

In this cringe-filled yet power-packed episode, Doctor Becc (aka Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker dive deep into one of the biggest unspoken blocks for so many high-achieving medics: the fear of being bad at something new.

Whether you’re dreaming of launching a business, creating educational content, or starting a podcast of your own—there’s a big ol’ cringe tax at the beginning... and surprise! Cringe is forever.

This episode is for the creatively curious, the impact-driven innovators, and any doctor who's ever said, "I have this idea, but…".


Doctor Becc and Kristeen get real about:

  • Why being bad at something is the price of doing anything bold

  • How perfectionism sneaks in disguised as “reasonable planning”

  • The magic of letting it be easy—and letting it be cringe

  • Strategic byproducts: why your creative side hustle gives you more than just a goal

  • How building your cringe muscle might just unlock your best self


🎧 Come hang out, laugh with us, cringe a little, and leave with a whole new lens on growth.

👉 Was this the push you needed? Tell us what you’re finally starting (or cringing your way through)! Leave a comment, write us a review, or tag us in your cringe debut.

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3 months ago
26 minutes 27 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
78: Doctors, if you’ve just had a big loss or rejection, listen to this

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube:  https://2ly.link/27faP

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE

💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT to join? 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27UJ6


Hello our beautiful friends and doctor humans!

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt like their story is falling apart. Whether you’ve experienced a personal loss, faced professional rejection, or find yourself sitting in the middle of something that just hurts, we’re right here with you.


Today we’re unpacking that gut-wrenching moment when you don’t get what you wanted and the False Finality (thought error) that our brain creates.


We’ll explore why it feels like the end of the story (and why it isn’t), how to spot this mindset trap in real time, and how to open to the possibility that your heartbreak might actually be a plot twist… not a failure.


We’ve found - and we bet you have too - often a loss is actually a gain disguised as a loss in the moment.


We’re sharing our own stories, coaching insights, and powerful real-life moments from our doctor community to help you move through disappointment with more compassion, wisdom, and unshakable next-level confidence.


In this episode, we’ll uncover:

✨ Why not getting what you wanted can feel like the end of the story—and why that’s a lie

🌍 A heartfelt moment from our support peer group, where specialty rejection turned into hope

💔 Kristeen’s experience of personal loss and the unexpected growth it sparked

🧠 Why grief is valid but unnecessary suffering is optional—and how to tell the difference

🔄 How to stop judging a painful chapter as “the ending” and actively create an opportunity


If this episode speaks to you, we’d love to hear from you.

Share your story, send us a DM, or leave a review if this helped reframe something tough.

We love hearing from you.

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4 months ago
28 minutes 35 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
77: How to be calm & confident EVEN IN in UNCERTAINTY as a doctor

Book a NO-COST CONSULT to understand how Dare, Darling can make you unshakeable 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27dxL


Dare, Darling is for the woman in medicine who ‘has ticked all the boxes’ but still feels not enough.

Dare, Darling is where high-performing, caring doctors become unshameable, unshakeable, & unstoppable—by freeing themselves from the pressure to prove, please, & perfect. You don’t need to work harder, ‘cope’ better or be more organised. You need more power.

Through weekly coaching sessions, a curriculum of self-coaching courses, & a community of doctors like you who ‘get it’, this is the support system that high-performers in any other industry receive.

Even in the uncertainty & adversity of life in clinical medicine, gain unshakeable self-leadership, emotional mastery, and feel in proud & in control.

The pressures aren’t going away. Stop trying to stabilise the world to feel grounded. Become unshakeable.

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music: 🎧🎬 

Track: LiQWYD - Eyes Closed | Royalty Free Music - No Copyright Music | https://goo.gl/Fv1DxA | Best And New Background Music


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4 months ago
27 minutes 13 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
76: Unshakeable Doctors: The 3 Phases You MUST Go Through (and Why You Need a Support System)

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF

📽 Becc's Youtube:  https://2ly.link/27faP

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27dxL


Hello our beautiful friends and doctor humans!We’re celebrating one whole year of Dare Darling, and this episode is the ultimate love letter to the glorious messiness of transformational growth.


If you’ve ever felt like everything is going wrong when you step outside your comfort zone, this one’s for you.


Join us as Kristeen shares a hilariously relatable story of a tech-meltdown mid-presentation, and how that imperfect moment became the perfect proof she’s now totally unshakeable.


We’re unpacking the three phases every doctor goes through on the way to becoming unshakeable with next-level confidence, self-trust, and showing up big even when everything isn’t perfect (spoiler: it never is!).


In this episode, we’ll explore:

💥 The 3 Phases of Becoming Unshakeable: Phase Zero (safe + stuck), Phase One (action-taking, shaking), and Phase Two (unshakeable, bold action)

🎤 How Kristeen’s live talk went completely sideways, and why that was the best case scenario

🧠 What actually builds real confidence (hint: it’s not “doing it perfectly”)

❤️‍🔥 Why Phase One is messy and emotionally challenging… and absolutely necessary

🧘‍♀️ Self-trust as a skill: building it with every imperfect moment

📚 Yes, Dare Darling counts for CPD (and we’re giddy about it)


We’d love to hear from you!

What phase are you in right now? Are you feeling stuck in Phase Zero, braving the wild of Phase One, or basking in your unshakeable glow in Phase Two?


Leave a comment, message us, or drop a review—we’re here for the real talk and the messy wins. Let’s start a convo. 💬✨

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5 months ago
49 minutes 18 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
75: Doctors, 3 things BEING NICE STEALS from you and what to do about it

Ever find yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no"?

In this episode, Kristeen and Becc get honest about people pleasing — how it shows up in the lives of doctors (often without us realising), what it quietly takes from us, and what you can do to break the cycle.

We explore:
🧠 3 sneaky ways people pleasing shows up
😞 3 things it’s silently stealing from you
💡 3 practical tools to shift from pleasing to authentic professionalism

Whether you’re drowning in obligations, stuck in “yes mode,” or just wondering if this is part of why you’re so exhausted — this conversation is for you.

You’re not alone. And you can reclaim your time, your energy, and your why.


Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0

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💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: 

Mindset Moments - Remember You're Unshakeable

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 

Dare, Darling | Doctor Becc


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5 months ago
52 minutes 50 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
74: The Surprising Ways You Can Use ChatGPT as a Doctor—And How It Can Transform Your Life Beyond Medicine!

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠

💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hey, Doctor Humans! 👩‍⚕️👨‍⚕️

In this episode, we’re diving into an unexpected way to use ChatGPT (aka Sparks, Kristeen's AI bestie) to simplify everyday life—starting with meal planning and grocery shopping. If you’ve ever felt the cognitive load of figuring out what to eat, making sure you have the right ingredients, and dreading the grocery store, this one’s for you!

Kristeen shares her genius AI hack that’s changed the game for her weekly grocery planning, helping her stay organized and avoid those dreaded “trip of shame” supermarket runs. 🛒✨ But it doesn’t stop there! We also chat about:

✔️ How AI can streamline repetitive tasks (so you can spend less time on life admin and more time doing what matters)
✔️ The power of Custom GPTs to personalize AI for your needs
✔️ AI-powered ways to reduce mental resistance and get things DONE
✔️ How AI is already making waves in clinical practice—and why we refuse to get left behind

Whether you’re an AI skeptic or already besties with your own ChatGPT, this episode will spark (pun intended) some ideas on how to make life a little easier. Let us know in the comments—how are YOU using AI to level up your personal or professional life? 🚀

🔗 Resources mentioned:

  • Woolworths Online Shopping (for our Aussie listeners!)
  • ChatGPT Custom GPTs (for those curious about making AI work exactly how you want it to)

🎧 Listen now and let’s make life less exhausting, one AI hack at a time!

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6 months ago
12 minutes 59 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
73: The silent stress sabotaging your day: 3 tools every doctor needs

Think you're just "a bit tired" or "pushing through" another long clinical shift? Think again. That low-key buzz in your body might not be caffeine—it could be chronic nervous system activation. 🧠💥

In this powerful episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?, Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker break down the silent stress response that so many doctors unknowingly operate from—and how it's quietly hijacking your energy, clarity, and well-being.

Whether you’re running on adrenaline without realising it, skipping lunch again (guilty), or feeling wired-but-exhausted by 10 a.m., this one’s for you.

You’ll learn:

  • The subtle signs you're stuck in fight-or-flight mode (spoiler: it’s not always a racing heart)

  • 3 science-backed, real-world tools to actually reset your parasympathetic nervous system

  • How to weave calm into your clinical day—without needing extra time, yoga pants, or a retreat in Bali

Doctor Becc shares a game-changing moment of self-awareness mid-shift, and Kristeen reveals how adrenaline used to fuel her registrar years without her even knowing it. This is the kind of wisdom that comes from being in the trenches—and finding a better way out.

👉 Feeling this episode? Let us know! Drop a comment, leave a review, or share it with a colleague who needs less sympathetic in their life. We love hearing how you're doing this doctor life—your way. 💬💛

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6 months ago
29 minutes 24 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
72: Doctors, of course you’re feeling that. Emotional Mastery without the Toxic Positivity

Here's what we all know, even if you put a lid on it, those tears are still going to boil over. What you don't know is the lid only makes those tears MORE FORCEFUL. 🫀 ⚡️Ever felt totally thrown off by a stressful moment—only to realize, nothing actually happened? Welcome to being human, Doctor.In this episode of Am I Doing It Wrong?, Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker unpack the emotional rollercoaster that so many doctors experience—but rarely talk about. From dinner table panics to near-miss dog rescues, they take you through real-life moments when the nervous system goes DEFCON 1… even when everything ends up being fine.But here’s the juicy bit: they’ll show you exactly how to intercept that stress spiral before it hijacks your whole day. With powerful analogies (hello, boiling pasta pot), quick-to-use mindset tools like the “Of course” technique, and heartfelt validation that your feelings are always valid (even when your brain is making stuff up), this episode is your new emotional first aid kit.You’ll learn:🫀 Why “toxic positivity” and “just think positive” don’t actually help (and what to do instead)🫀 How to stop invalidating your own emotions (guilty!)🫀 The difference between spark, fire, pot, and stove—and why that matters for your stress🫀 Practical tools for not just surviving, but thriving in your doctor life, especially during exam seasonThis one’s a warm hug, a reality check, and a nervous system reset all rolled into one.👉 So tell us, beautiful doctors—what’s your “spark-fire” story? Have you tried the “of course” technique? Leave a review, drop us a comment, or send us a DM. We love hearing how these tools are landing with you.🎧 Subscribe, share with your favorite stressed-out colleague, and don’t miss the next episode—we’re diving into calming your nervous system in actual minutes. Let’s do this, doctors!

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7 months ago
38 minutes 7 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
71: Being the "Difficult Doctor": speaking up in a culture of silence

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au


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Are you brave enough to be that doctor?

In this heartfelt and fiercely real episode of Am I Doing It Wrong? — the podcast for doctors by doctors — Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker open up the emotional floodgates on one of the toughest challenges in medicine: speaking up when something isn’t right. 

Whether it’s toxic gossip in the tea room or uncomfortable political clashes around the ward, the cost of staying silent can be far greater than the risk of speaking out.

⚡ Doctor Becc and Kristeen Barker dive into:

  • Why doctors often don’t speak up — and what stops us

  • The unseen ripple effect of hospital culture and public shaming

  • Real-life moments where staying silent wasn’t an option

  • How to sit with the discomfort of being “the unpopular one”

  • The art of speaking truth with empathy (and surviving the fallout)

This episode isn’t about telling you what’s right or wrong. It’s about helping you build your own inner compass, find your voice, and stand by your values — even when it’s scary, uncomfortable, or unpopular.

🌱 Expect plenty of laughs, a few emotional gut punches, and that signature Doctor Becc & Kristeen warmth as they ask the real questions: Am I doing it wrong… or am I just being brave?


💌 We want to hear from you!

Have you got a personal experience here? We'd LOVE to hear it and be inspired. Or to have a look at the challenges together.

Maybe you want to prepare yourself for what's right for you in the next situation?

⬇️ Let's talk about it in the comments.

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7 months ago
40 minutes 18 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
70: How to have better friendships as a time poor doctor

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments


💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hi, friends! It’s Kristeen Becc here, and we are so excited to have you join us for today’s episode where we talk all things friendship.


As doctors, we often feel stretched thin between work, family, and other commitments, leaving little time for friendships. In this episode, we explore how to foster deeper, more meaningful friendships—even with limited time.


We'll be shining light on the limitations of "catch-up culture" and together setting the goal of creating shared experiences which truly strengthen relationships and enrich your life.


We hope you love this episode and share with all the friends you want to make memories with.


And if you are enjoying the poddy don't forget to subscribe and leave us an honest review.


Thank you so much for being here and we looking forward to hanging out with you again very soon.



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7 months ago
22 minutes 19 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
69: Doctors, how do you know if you're really a good person?

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on social media! 🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au___________________
Hi there beautiful friends and doctor humans!

It’s Kristeen and Doctor Becc here. We're so glad you're joining us today for another heartfelt chat.

In this episode, we’re diving into a topic we know many of you will relate to: the tension between wanting to be good, kind, and giving while learning to balance that with the realities of life and our human limits.


1. The Myth of Goodness:

Being "nice" or a "good person" often comes with perfectionistic definitions that set us up for self-doubt.

2. Perfectionism’s Trap:

High performers, like doctors, are especially prone to believing they must operate at 10/10 all the time. This mindset not only leads to burnout but also undercuts our ability to appreciate our efforts.

3. Redefining Goodness:

Instead of striving for perfection, we can focus on showing up with authenticity and giving our best within the energy we have each day.

4. Boundaries Are Key:

Being kind to yourself and setting healthy limits allows you to sustainably care for others without depleting your own reserves.

5. Rejecting Perfectionistic Thinking:

Learning to validate our own efforts, even when they’re not “perfect,” creates space for compassion and growth.


We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Have you ever struggled with perfectionism or doubting whether you’re "good enough"?

Share your insights or stories with us by leaving a comment or sending us a message. If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with a friend and help us spread the word. Don’t forget to subscribe for more meaningful conversations—we’ll see you in the next episode!

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8 months ago
19 minutes 58 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
68: 3 ‘BAD’ TRAITS every good doctor should have

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎

📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3JaSHBE⁠⁠

👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/4aKX5mq⁠⁠

📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3TQbLKl⁠⁠

👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3QgkTqT⁠⁠


💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://doctorbecc.myflodesk.com/mindsetmoments

💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes empathetic doctors UNSHAKEABLE. ⏭️ WANT TO KNOW MORE or apply for a spot in the next cohort? 👭👭👭 https://www.doctorbecc.com.au

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Hi, friends! It’s Kristeen Barker and Dr. Becc here, and we are so excited to have you join us for today’s episode.

We’re talking about something that hits close to home for so many of us—traits we’ve been told are “bad” but are actually game-changers when it comes to leadership, self-growth, and making an impact.

We want to give you access to these these incredible traits. AND FIRST, we need to clean up our ICK about the words.

You'll have to listen to the ep to hear which traits we're talking about!


⏭️ Did anything up for you when you heard these words? We’d love to know! Drop us a DM, comment on social media, or leave us a review to share your thoughts. Let’s start a conversation about how we can reframe these ideas and grow together.

Don’t forget to subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs a mindset shift, and tune in next week for more!

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8 months ago
34 minutes 16 seconds

Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.
In "Am I Doing It Wrong?” Doctor Becc & Kristeen Barker have the vulnerable conversations all doctors need to remind us "You're not crazy, life as a doctor is". You'll feel seen & connected again & you'll also get actionable strategies to be able to show up as your favourite version of you as a doctor regardless of the daily challenges. Dr Kristeen Barker, nephrologist at Alfred Health, runs online medical education courses for physicians & trainees. Doctor Becc (Dr Rebecca Nothrop) is coach & host of Dare, Darling—a transformative group coaching program for doctors who are people-pleasers.