Dating while neurodivergent can feel like playing a game where everyone else got the rulebook and you’re improvising. This week, Sarah and I sit down with Brit, an autism specialist, to unpack the real challenges (and surprising strengths) of dating with ADHD, autism, and beyond. From oversharing to rejection sensitivity, overstimulation to ghosting, we get into what’s really happening under the surface—and how to date with more clarity, grace, and self-compassion.
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Timestamps:
00:00 – Late-in-life diagnoses & light bulb moments
03:00 – Social cues, sarcasm & sensory overload
08:30 – Oversharing vs. undersharing: finding the middle
19:50 – Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in dating
23:30 – Anger, patriarchy & rejection
25:20 – Limerence: when crushes tip into obsession
30:00 – Ghosting, texting back & repair strategies
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This week, Sarah and I had what I’m calling our “first fight” — over women getting engaged to their AI boyfriends. That debate led us straight into AI psychosis, grief, loneliness, and one very messy story about a woman who claimed she fell in love with her psychiatrist. It’s about empathy, boundaries, and why real connection matters more than any chatbot.
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This week on Worth the Weight, Sarah and I close the book on And Just Like That—series finale or not. From Carrie’s tomato-doll “party of one” to Miranda’s spiral, Seema’s revelation, and Charlotte’s relentless optimism, we dig into the messy truths midlife women actually live. Was it rushed? Absolutely. Did we love parts anyway? Shockingly, yes.
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Are you as emotionally available as you think? In this solo bonus, I share the signs you might not be — and how to break those self-protection habits one small risk at a time.
If you’ve ever wondered why real intimacy feels scary, why you gravitate toward people who can’t (or won’t) show up for you, or how to stop self-sabotaging before anything begins — this one’s for you
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Carrie finally centers herself. Took you long enough, sis.
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This week, Sarah and I sink our teeth into what might be the meatiest And Just Like That episode yet—one that hits every theme we love to unpack. We talk traditional gender roles, the messy intersection of masculinity and femininity, and the complicated emotions family and friends navigate when a loved one comes out as queer, trans, or non-binary.
And, of course, we get into the big one: the stigma around being single. From Carrie’s agent pushing her to tack on a “happy ending” to her manuscript, to Seema’s offer that forces Carrie to confront her life without a partner, this episode asks—what if being alone is actually the point? I share why that scene resonated with me, and how reframing singlehood as a choice (not a failure) can change everything.
We also dissect Charlotte’s emotional moment with Rock, Miranda’s rocky Thanksgiving guest list, and Harry’s selective memory about who he really is as a partner. Plus, we’ve got a juicy “f*ck that person” letter that proves core values matter more than love when it comes to lasting compatibility.
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I’m digging into the difference between being valued for your vibe versus your value—and why so many of us are exhausted by being treated like a mood instead of a whole person. I discuss dating apps, performative chemistry, boundaries, and the subtle ways women are trained to shrink their substance to stay likable.
If you’ve ever put effort into showing your depth only to be reduced to “hot in that dress,” this one’s for you.
Make sure to like, comment, and subscribe if this resonates—or pisses you off in a productive way.
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This week’s episode of Worth The Weight is a wild ride. First, Sarah and I break down the latest episode of And Just Like That, where Carrie mistakes attention for intellectual validation, Miranda confuses judgment for curiosity, and Seema somehow turns a plant into a red flag. (Girl, it’s chlorophyll not trauma.)
But that’s just the warm-up.
Then we dig into a listener letter about a guy who seems great on paper—until the paper starts burning. It sparks a much-needed convo about core values—what they are, why they matter, and how to spot the difference between surface-level chemistry and actual compatibility. (Spoiler: Just because you both like road trips doesn't mean you're soulmates.)
I break down the five tiers of core values and show you how to suss out emotional intelligence early—yes, even before the third date.
And finally, we talk about the fuck that guy of all fuck that guys: Russell Hartley. If you don’t know him, consider yourself lucky. If you do, we’re serving a takedown so savage it might need its own trigger warning. From red-pill grifter to "girl’s girl" rebrand, we dissect why some male “dating coaches” are just digital predators with ring lights.
So pour the scotch you probably keep around for him, and press play. This one’s got it all: fake feminists, fake publishing chemistry, and the very real importance of knowing your worth.
✨ Center yourself. De-center men. Value your damn time. ✨
00:00 – AJLT Recap (Carrie & Duncan, Miranda’s mess, Seema’s plant guy)
20:10 – Core Values 101: The 5 Tiers That Actually Matter
28:45 – Fuck That Guy: Russell Hartley’s Rebrand Is a Scam
36:00 – How to Spot a Grifter in a Suit
Journaling
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Whether you're actively swiping or on the verge of deleting everything, this one’s for you.
Flirty, Fun, and Zero Cringe: TableTopics for First Dates
Table Topics conversation starter cards go way beyond “What do you do for work?” These questions are equal parts fun, unexpected, and wildly revealing. Think: first-date energy meets group chat chaos. If you've ever wanted to skip the small talk and get to the good stuff, this one's for you. Learn more here. (As an Amazon Affiliate, I receive a commission for each sale.)
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Protect Your Peace, Honor Your Worth, and Still Put Yourself Out There
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It’s just me this week, and I’m diving into something I know so many of us struggle with: how to use dating apps without completely wrecking your nervous system (and your self-worth). In this bonus episode, I break down what apps are really doing to your brain and body — from the dopamine rollercoasters to the rejection spirals — and more importantly, how to protect your peace while still putting yourself out there.
I share practical strategies to avoid burnout, recognize dysregulation, and date from a place of clarity instead of chaos. I also talk about how I’ve been using journaling — and let’s be real, an embarrassing number of pens and highlighters — as a grounding tool to process the emotional ups and downs that come with app culture.
Journaling
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Whether you're actively swiping or on the verge of deleting everything, this one’s for you.
Flirty, Fun, and Zero Cringe: TableTopics for First Dates
Table Topics conversation starter cards go way beyond “What do you do for work?” These questions are equal parts fun, unexpected, and wildly revealing. Think: first-date energy meets group chat chaos. If you've ever wanted to skip the small talk and get to the good stuff, this one's for you. Learn more here. (As an Amazon Affiliate, I receive a commission for each sale.)
Podcast Recommendations
Playlists
Carrie’s chasing closure (again), Aiden’s tossing guilt like steak on a grill, and Miranda and Joy give us the emotional intimacy we actually want to see. This week, we’re unpacking the latest And Just Like That—from toxic dating patterns and emotional baggage to that five-word kiss of death: “You smell like smoke. Get away.”
We break down the difference between closure and clarity, why Aiden’s still the same insecure guy from 2002, and how emotional labor shows up in the tiniest moments (looking at you, Herbert).
Plus, a rare scene that made me cry—in a good way. Miranda opens up, Joy doesn’t flinch, and we talk about what it really means to share your baggage without dumping it.
Also: crystal deodorant, passive-aggressive dinner invites, and the official start of Fuck That Guy Fall. You’ve been warned.
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⏰ Episode Breakdown: Toxic Men, Emotional Baggage & the Myth of Closure
00:00 – 05:00 – Carrie’s need for closure & Aiden’s boundary stomping
05:00 – 10:00 – Passive-aggression, guilt trips & the “get away from me” moment
10:00 – 15:00 – Aiden’s control issues, emotional sabotage & toxic dynamics
15:00 – 20:00 – Seema’s subplot + commentary on dating red flags
20:00 – 25:00 – Miranda opens up, Joy responds with real vulnerability
25:00 – 30:00 – Emotional intimacy vs. oversharing & the value of clarity
30:00 – 35:00 – Duncan = Big 2.0? Carrie repeats her toxic patterns
35:00 – 43:00 – Closure vs. clarity, trauma loops & Fuck That Guy Fall begins.
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In this week’s episode, we kick off another installment of Fuck That Guy Palooza—because apparently cheating CEOs at Coldplay concerts just won’t stop giving. Yes, we’re talking about the Astronomer CEO who thought snuggling up to HR mid-marriage was a stealth move… until he got smacked by the karmic arm of the Jumbotron. Sir, you’re not even the brightest star in your own scandal.
But that’s not all—we also dive into the emotional mess that is Aiden 2.0. This man really said, “When did I become the bad guy?” as if gaslighting your partner, overstaying your welcome, and sabotaging her career meeting with a bestselling author isn’t textbook man-baby behavior. (Spoiler: it’s been 20 years, bro.)
We break down the week’s And Just Like That episode—where self-abandonment is still trending, sober compatibility gets tested, and someone almost cheats (again) with someone named Marion. We also explore the very real emotional gymnastics women perform to keep the peace, hold the line, and hold their own.
Come for the sarcasm, stay for the heartbreak, and don’t forget to decenter mediocre men.
Time Breakdown (because consent includes skipping the recap):
00:00 – And Just Like That Recap: Emotional manipulation, mid-life self-abandonment, and man-baby tantrums
19:00 – LTW’s creative chemistry: harmless crush or looming chaos?
30:00 – Miranda’s gin dilemma: alcoholish, addiction, or just plain denial?
49:00 – Fuck That Guy Palooza: The Astronomer CEO, HR side chick, and the cold slap of Chris Martin
60:00 – Patreon bonus episodes, dating advice updates, and final thoughts
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This week on Worth The Wait, Sarah and I kick off another round of Fuck That Guy Palooza—and this one’s a doozy. We start with a listener letter about a woman who put together a thoughtful care package for a guy she’d been seeing for two months… only to get a text back that basically said, “Cool stuff, but calm down, Fatal Attraction.” We break down whether that kind of response is emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or just plain rude—and why so many women internalize shame when men show zero empathy.
Then we dive into a second letter from someone dating a guy who’s “nice” but totally shut off emotionally. We talk about how to tell the difference between avoidant behavior and a man who’s simply not invested—and why consistency is the key.
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
In this week’s episode, Sarah provides two book recommendations.
Pixel Flesh
Pixel Flesh is a bold, brilliant exposé on toxic beauty culture and the pressure to perform femininity online.
✨ If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered who you're really trying to impress, this book is for you.
🔗Buy it here https://amzn.to/4eDjFRh (As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)
Writers & Lovers
If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you were supposed to become and who you actually are, Writers & Lovers will hit you right in the gut.
📚Buy it here https://amzn.to/3G1BlcE(As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)
If you were still on the fence about Carrie Bradshaw being the actual worst, this episode knocked you off and dragged you. Between flinching at Miranda’s kiss, sabotaging Miranda’s party plans, and pulling a full “What are you doing in my kitchen?” meltdown because Miranda made an observation, our girl Carrie is out here giving main character syndrome a bad name.
We talk Patti LuPone (yes, she was right there and did not sing), Joy’s tragic gift mix-up, Harry’s redemption arc (that’s our guy!), and how Carrie’s entire personality shapeshifts depending on which man is orbiting her that week.
Also: Miranda was thriving. Lily was sulking. Charlotte deserved a better party. And the writers clearly stopped caring about continuity somewhere around 2022.
And yes—Carrie really said she’s been with Aidan for 20 years. This bitch.
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Flirty, Fun, and Zero Cringe: TableTopics for First Dates
Table Topics conversation starter cards go way beyond “What do you do for work?” These questions are equal parts fun, unexpected, and wildly revealing. Think: first-date energy meets group chat chaos. If you've ever wanted to skip the small talk and get to the good stuff, this one's for you. Learn more here. (As a TikTok Affiliate, I receive a commission for each sale.)
Aidan breaks a 200-year-old window trying to be romantic, and somehow, that sets the tone for everything that follows: emotional cracks, bad communication, and a man spiraling while a woman tries to hold it all together. Again.
This week, we unpack the guilt women carry for wanting more than caretaking roles, the emotional labor they’re expected to perform without recognition, and how female friendships continue to be the most stable, honest, and life-saving relationships on this show.
Charlotte’s quietly falling apart as she keeps Harry’s diagnosis a secret, and when she finally breaks—in the middle of Duane Reade, no less. This episode calls back to one of our favorite Sex and the City scenes: the Shabbos dinner. It was a turning point for Charlotte, and this week’s breakdown feels like another. Her fear, her silence, her invisible labor—it all crashes through the surface.
Also: Lisa’s grieving (again), Miranda’s redecorating her life for someone she barely knows, and Carrie’s still emotionally editing herself to keep the peace.
If you’ve ever looked like you had it together while slowly unraveling—this one’s for you.
⏱️ AJLT Recap – Core Episode Moments
00:00 – Aidan breaks the window, foreshadowing the cracks in their relationship.
01:45 – He confesses to sleeping with his ex; Carrie absorbs it without reaction.
05:10 – Neither of them discussed monogamy—because women are expected to just know.
09:20 – Aidan’s jealousy flares the moment Carrie gets attention elsewhere.
17:45 – Charlotte collapses under the weight of Harry’s health secret in Duane Reade.
20:30 – The Shabbos dinner callback marks another shift in Charlotte’s emotional arc.
24:50 – Lisa’s father dies (again), and she’s buried in guilt for missing the call.
27:00 – Carrie shows up for Charlotte—the realest relationship in the show.
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
Pixel Flesh
Pixel Flesh is a bold, brilliant exposé on toxic beauty culture and the pressure to perform femininity online.
✨ If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered who you're really trying to impress, this book is for you.
🔗Buy it here https://amzn.to/4eDjFRh (As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)
Writers & Lovers
If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you were supposed to become and who you actually are, Writers & Lovers will hit you right in the gut.
📚Buy it here https://amzn.to/3G1BlcE(As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)
This week on Worth The Weight, we’re talking about a man who ghosted a woman for three weeks—only to crawl back into her inbox to declare he was “0% interested” and demand she unmatch him. (Because clearly, unmatching is a task best outsourced to the woman you just emotionally sucker-punched.)
We break down how this kind of passive-aggressive tantrum is less about closure and more about control, and why so many men would rather hurt a woman than admit they’re hurt by a woman. We talk emotional dysregulation, scorekeeping in dating, and how apps are turning everyone into exhausted, defensive messes waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I also open up about how dating apps used to send my rejection sensitivity dysphoria into overdrive—and why so many of us with ADHD find these platforms especially brutal.
Later in the episode, Sarah and I unpack a viral post from a woman who's been dating a guy for six weeks… and still doesn’t know if he’s attracted to her. No flirting, no physical affection, but sure, he did call her gorgeous once and laughed at her jokes. Is he just being respectful… or is he emotionally squatting for free therapy and attention?
We also discuss why emotional labor shouldn’t be the price of admission just to date a man in 2025, how filtered social media has warped our sense of reality (especially his), and what it means when a man can't tell you what he wants—but definitely expects you to read his mind.
Oh, and yes—Sarah shares how a series of confusing, chaste dates led to a marriage. So miracles still happen, apparently.
⏱ Episode Breakdown
01:42 – Ghosted, then told to unmatch him? The audacity.
05:30 – Why men lash out instead of owning their feelings
08:00 – Dating apps as emotional landmines
13:00 – Filters, delusions, and why men think they’re hotter than they are
18:50 – The tradwife fantasy: is it real or just viral cosplay?
23:30 – Six weeks, no sex: respectful or red flag?
28:00 – When men treat women like free therapy
35:00 – Sarah’s handshake date… that led to marriage
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
In this week’s episode, Sarah provides two book recommendations.
Pixel Flesh
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Writers & Lovers
If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you were supposed to become and who you actually are, Writers & Lovers will hit you right in the gut.
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This week on Worth the Weight, we're recapping the latest episode of And Just Like That…, but fair warning — we veer into the real star of the show: Carrie’s shoes. We kick things off with a nod to one of the most iconic Sex and the City episodes, A Woman’s Right to Shoes, and the chaos that followed one woman daring to wear $500 stilettos to a kid-friendly party. (Justice for the stilettos, honestly.)
From there, we dive into Carrie’s new downstairs neighbor, a pipe-smoking author who wants quiet but moves to Manhattan. The episode had me asking hard-hitting questions like: who the hell wears heels in their own home? Why is Carrie shocked that she has a neighbor when she bought the whole building? And why do both she and her new neighbor absolutely suck?
We also talk about Miranda’s baffling transformation into a bumbling roommate, Charlotte keeping a heartbreaking secret, and why destination weddings might just be a quiet cry for fewer guests.
If you’ve ever been shoe-shamed, roommate-shamed, or just need a place to scream “WHAT IS HAPPENING?” at your screen — this one’s for you.
00:00 – 04:00 – Why this episode calls back to A Woman’s Right to Shoes
We break down the original SATC storyline and how it still hits in 2025.
04:01 – 14:00 – Carrie vs. Duncan: The Noisy Neighbor Heels Showdown
Carrie refuses to take off her heels, Duncan wants library silence in NYC, and somehow both of them are insufferable. Also, can we talk about that Tom Hardy–esque gardener?
14:01 – 21:00 – Miranda’s Naked Era (???)
We unpack Miranda’s personality transplant, her naked hallway moment, and why physical comedy isn’t landing the way the writers think it is. Also, what happened to the Miranda who labeled her yogurt?
21:01 – 26:00 – Charlotte’s Secret Struggle
Harry’s prostate cancer diagnosis, Charlotte’s loyalty, and a personal story I share about grief, caregiving, and why we need to stop shielding loved ones from reality.
26:01 – 31:00 – Shoe Shame, Self-Marriage, and Milestone Rage
We go back to Carrie’s iconic self-marriage moment, and why women celebrating their own milestones still makes people clutch their pearls. We also talk about the societal double standards that continue to undervalue women’s achievements unless a man’s involved.
This one’s part nostalgia, part rant, and a whole lot of feminist commentary — exactly how we like it.
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Why abrupt silence can reopen old wounds.
This week, Sarah and I are digging into one of the most relatable—and frustrating—dating experiences: when you’re not sure if someone’s being avoidant… or just not that into you. We start with what might be And Just Like That’s best episode yet (no, seriously), which we fully unpack in a bonus episode here on Patreon. If you’re not subscribed, go now—this one hits hard, especially if you come from a divorced family.
Then we dive into two listener letters. The first comes from someone navigating a situationship that’s starting to feel like emotional breadcrumbing. She says she’s looking for something casual, but her response to slow replies tells a different story—and we talk about why “casual” might be the most misused word in modern dating.
The second letter is all about dating whiplash: a great date, instant connection, and then... poof. We break down what’s really happening when people ghost after intimacy, how your nervous system gets hijacked, and why the shame spiral is the real enemy.
Oh—and someone on TikTok asked if paying off your partner’s $70k student loan should count as a proposal. I had thoughts.
If you’ve ever questioned your intuition after a letdown, or felt like you were asking for too much just by wanting a text back, this one’s for you.
💌 Got a letter? Email us at hello@dateologycoach.com
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00:00–00:37 – I talk about this week’s And Just Like That recap and why it’s a must-watch (especially if you’ve got divorced parents)
00:38–03:21 – Sarah reads a letter from a queer listener navigating early mixed signals
03:22–08:00 – We unpack mismatched expectations, texting delays, and the illusion of “casual”
08:01–14:44 – I go in on why communication styles are part of compatibility, and why shrinking yourself won’t get you clarity
14:45–23:45 – The TikTok debate: is paying off $70k in debt romantic or manipulative? (Spoiler: I vote manipulation)
23:46–25:22 – We read a letter from someone who got blindsided after a great date—and felt like she imagined the whole thing
25:23–33:23 – We break down dating whiplash, trauma responses, and why men don’t see emotional intimacy the way we do
33:24–38:45 – How to reframe rejection, rebuild trust in your instincts, and stop the shame spiral before it starts
38:46–40:09 – Final takeaways, bonus content reminders, and a little Pride Month love 🏳️🌈
⏱️ Segment Breakdown:
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This week, I made a bold declaration: Season 3, Episode 4 of And Just Like That might be one of the best of the entire series—not Sex and the City, but definitely AJLT. In this recap, Sarah and I break down all the reasons why—from the long overdue focus on the core three characters to the emotional wreckage that is Aiden’s family dynamic.
We dive deep into the chaos that is Wyatt—his VR assault on Carrie, the shattered glass moment (literally and metaphorically), and Aiden’s infuriating denial of reality. We talk about what this episode says about parenting, denial, neurodivergence, and how Carrie, for once, actually seems turned off by drama. Was this a soft breakup or just a soft launch into the inevitable end?
We also touch on Miranda’s “wild cunt” moment, Lisa’s barely-there storyline, Seema’s independence era, and Harry’s midlife crisis (with a horny twist). Oh, and let’s not forget Charlotte navigating polyamory and porn downloads.
Honestly? This episode gave us everything: heart, cringe, chaos, and finally—finally—some emotional depth. And I have a theory about who Carrie’s next love interest might be (spoiler: it’s not Aiden).
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In this episode, Sarah and I unpack everything—starting with why we changed the name of the podcast. Worth The Weight isn’t just about pounds lost (though we talk about that, too)—it’s about the emotional, psychological, and societal weight women carry every damn day. We talk about what led to the rebrand, why I almost broke up with ChatGPT (spoiler: Mira and I had our first fight), and how Sarah saved the day with the new podcast artwork.
Then we dive into TikTok’s Man of the Year trend, featuring unhinged text messages from men who have clearly never heard of shame—or spell check. We read a few aloud (with dramatic flair) and talk about what they reveal about modern dating, gender roles, and why so many women are “quiet quitting” relationships altogether.
We also touch on our GLP-1 journeys, the emotional side of weight loss, and the infuriating reality of being more visible—but not necessarily more valued—as we shrink. And finally, we dig into the cost of simply existing in a female body after 40: the hormones, the doctor’s appointments, the fucking patriarchy.
So pull up a chair, pour yourself a glass of overpriced electrolyte water, and come feel seen.
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It’s time, once again, to ask: what exactly are we watching here? In this bonus episode, Sarah and I recap And Just Like That, Season 3, Episode 3—and let’s just say, it’s giving “Carrie is shrinking herself for a man again” and we are not here for it. From Adderall handoffs to hiding in guest houses, this episode was a cringe buffet. We break down the callbacks to “Suffern,” shirt repeats, Charlotte’s club adventures, Seema’s “don’t back up” moment, and the many ways this show seems determined to forget its own history.
We’re frustrated, confused, occasionally entertained—but mostly just committed to seeing it through so you don’t have to. Tune in for snark, side-eyes, and our running theory that Carrie’s writing career is as fake as her chill girlfriend persona.
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It’s National Donut Day, but men are still the holes in our hearts. In this episode, Kristen and Sarah break down one woman’s very relatable anxiety over being asked for just one more selfie by the dudes on dating apps — spoiler: it’s not just about catfishing, it’s entitlement cosplay. We talk body doubling for ADHD journaling (Kristen’s becoming that girl — planners, stickers, and all), the grief journaling project she's launching, and why these extra photo requests are basically softcore boundary tests.
Then we dive into another letter: a man who ghosted a year ago suddenly resurfaces (because of course he does), drops a weak apology, and now wants to "talk"… whenever he's not too busy having lunch. We explain why you should stop interpreting crumbs as full-course meals, and why "if he wanted to, he would" remains undefeated.
As always: value your time, decenter men, and whatever you do — don’t be delulu.
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