This week on Worth The Weight, we’re talking about a man who ghosted a woman for three weeks—only to crawl back into her inbox to declare he was “0% interested” and demand she unmatch him. (Because clearly, unmatching is a task best outsourced to the woman you just emotionally sucker-punched.)
We break down how this kind of passive-aggressive tantrum is less about closure and more about control, and why so many men would rather hurt a woman than admit they’re hurt by a woman. We talk emotional dysregulation, scorekeeping in dating, and how apps are turning everyone into exhausted, defensive messes waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I also open up about how dating apps used to send my rejection sensitivity dysphoria into overdrive—and why so many of us with ADHD find these platforms especially brutal.
Later in the episode, Sarah and I unpack a viral post from a woman who's been dating a guy for six weeks… and still doesn’t know if he’s attracted to her. No flirting, no physical affection, but sure, he did call her gorgeous once and laughed at her jokes. Is he just being respectful… or is he emotionally squatting for free therapy and attention?
We also discuss why emotional labor shouldn’t be the price of admission just to date a man in 2025, how filtered social media has warped our sense of reality (especially his), and what it means when a man can't tell you what he wants—but definitely expects you to read his mind.
Oh, and yes—Sarah shares how a series of confusing, chaste dates led to a marriage. So miracles still happen, apparently.
⏱ Episode Breakdown
01:42 – Ghosted, then told to unmatch him? The audacity.
05:30 – Why men lash out instead of owning their feelings
08:00 – Dating apps as emotional landmines
13:00 – Filters, delusions, and why men think they’re hotter than they are
18:50 – The tradwife fantasy: is it real or just viral cosplay?
23:30 – Six weeks, no sex: respectful or red flag?
28:00 – When men treat women like free therapy
35:00 – Sarah’s handshake date… that led to marriage
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
In this week’s episode, Sarah provides two book recommendations.
Pixel Flesh
Pixel Flesh is a bold, brilliant exposé on toxic beauty culture and the pressure to perform femininity online.
✨ If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and wondered who you're really trying to impress, this book is for you.
🔗Buy it here https://amzn.to/4eDjFRh
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Writers & Lovers
If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you were supposed to become and who you actually are, Writers & Lovers will hit you right in the gut.
📚Buy it here https://amzn.to/3G1BlcE
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