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Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Rob Bialostocki
27 episodes
3 months ago
Most people confuse change with transition, but they're completely different processes. Change is external—you move cities, lose a job, get divorced. It's the obvious shift from point A to point B. Transition is the inner psychological journey of letting go of your old identity, spending time in uncertainty, then eventually embracing who you're becoming. Without proper transition, change becomes just "rearranging the furniture"—nothing really transforms inside you. That's why people can go th...
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Most people confuse change with transition, but they're completely different processes. Change is external—you move cities, lose a job, get divorced. It's the obvious shift from point A to point B. Transition is the inner psychological journey of letting go of your old identity, spending time in uncertainty, then eventually embracing who you're becoming. Without proper transition, change becomes just "rearranging the furniture"—nothing really transforms inside you. That's why people can go th...
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Self-Improvement
Education,
Society & Culture,
Philosophy,
Health & Fitness,
Mental Health
Episodes (20/27)
Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 26 - Change Happens to You, Transition Happens Within You
Most people confuse change with transition, but they're completely different processes. Change is external—you move cities, lose a job, get divorced. It's the obvious shift from point A to point B. Transition is the inner psychological journey of letting go of your old identity, spending time in uncertainty, then eventually embracing who you're becoming. Without proper transition, change becomes just "rearranging the furniture"—nothing really transforms inside you. That's why people can go th...
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3 months ago
24 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 25 - What Nature teaches, we should learn
Why Nature Always Wins: Life Lessons from a Fallen Tree That Will Change How You See Control, Humility & Your Place in the World During a routine morning dog walk, I noticed something I had walked past many times before. But this time, I stopped and contemplated a new perspective. There, in the middle of a beautifully managed bush reserve, a massive gum tree had crashed down, flattening everything in its path despite all the careful human planning and maintenance by Council staff. It remi...
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4 months ago
16 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 24 - Why 'Follow Your Passion' is Poor Advice (And What Actually Works)
Are you interested in finding your passion? Well, the problem is popular advice to "find your passion" doesn't work; it's fundamentally flawed and can be very frustrating. Research shows that over 80% of adults don't know what their passion is, yet we're told we should. The truth is passion isn't something you find - it's something you develop through experiment and experience. You can't have passion for something you've never done. In this episode, Rob shares from personal ...
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4 months ago
13 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 23 - The Oyster-catcher: What happens when we turn down the noise
In this episode, I talk about my trip to Great Barrier Island, about 95km from Auckland, visiting friends who ditched their corporate lives in their late 50s for a simpler existence. No TV, no news, no social media, and definitely no traffic noise – just the natural world around us. Walking along the coast on day two, I found myself sitting on rocks, watching the tide move seaweed around beneath the surface. It got me thinking about how rare these quiet moments are in our everyday lives. Let'...
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5 months ago
12 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 22 - Dogma Detox: How Fixed Mindsets Limit Your Personal Evolution
Personal growth advice often presents a single "right way" to approach life's challenges, but there are actually multiple valid paths for everything from relationships to career development to self-improvement. Key Points • The difference between "the way" versus "ways" of approaching life situations. • When people claim to have found "the way" it may be due to immaturity, limited experience, or having an agenda. • With age and wisdom comes broader understanding of multiple valid approaches...
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5 months ago
18 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 21 - You go first
If you’re a human being - and I’m guessing you are - then you have lots of relationships. And while many might be healthy, enjoyable and good chances are there are one or two that have some kind of stress, or are not as good as you’d like. Maybe, there is one that has just broken and you’d still like to see it mended. In this episode, I talk about how important relationships with my birth mother and my Dad went through a cold or even non-existent phase, but both are now wonderfully warm, enga...
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6 months ago
11 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 20 - The Values Problem: Why Your Happiness Depends on Alignment
Do you feel discontent in your relationships, career, or daily life at times, despite outwardly having what you want? The answer often lies in a values problem - a misalignment between what we truly value deep down, and how we actually live. When our behaviours don't match our core values, we can experience tension, which can look like unhappiness, stress, or even physical symptoms. In this episode, we discuss why this happens, give some examples to illustrate, and suggest how you can c...
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6 months ago
19 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 19 - Life is like a pile of blankets
As we go about life we inevitably move to a script, a narrative, an identity. You would think that this identity is consciously decided. But after many years on the road, the reality is that we’re shaped by the influences and expectations we have accumulated from who we’ve been with, what we’ve experienced, and messages we’ve seen/read/heard. In this episode, we explore what this feels like and look at examples like the feeling that you are there to serve others’ needs, that no one will find ...
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7 months ago
21 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 18 - Your best years are the ones ahead.
Have you ever wished you were younger again? Many people do. However, in my case, that would NOT be a good idea. Because where I’ve gotten to now has been hard-won by time, experience, and masses of learning and change. I do not want to have to go through it again!! And I really like where I am now; who I am now. Going back would only feel like reversing time without any associated benefits. No, the experiences, memories, lessons, insights and wisdom gained are worth too much. Like finding tr...
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7 months ago
6 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 17 - Life is neither straight nor narrow
We discuss the reality that life can be rugged, rough, surprising and wonderful. It's not straight and narrow and we shouldn't expect it to be. Instead, learning to navigate whatever comes with clarity, courage and determination is a much better toolkit for the journey. Rob also talks about the time he almost got hypothermia up on a mountain track. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser and you’ll get new episodes dire...
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7 months ago
6 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 16 - Wanting the best for everyone
We humans automatically categorise people as safe or not, friendly or not, ‘us’ or ‘them.’ While this helps us feel more secure and like we belong, it also puts up barriers where there may not need to be any. Rob calls us to consciously try to see people as similar rather than different. To want the best for everyone. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the od...
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8 months ago
14 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 15 - Being mindful in midlife and beyond
Every day is precious, filled with possibilities like a blank whiteboard ready for the pen. Like an empty stage ready for the dance, or a lump of clay ready to be molded. For whatever art you want to create. Because your life is your art. But, do you make room for that in your busy life? Let’s talk about mindfulness in midlife and beyond. Because the more we appreciate and enjoy the moment, the more we enjoy life. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! S...
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8 months ago
19 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 14 - Good news! You can’t do that anymore.
Life has phases as we grow. If we don’t adapt to the requirements and capabilities of a new phase, we can get pretty frustrated. To flourish in our second half, we need to accept there are things we can’t do anymore. But that’s actually really good news! In this episode, find out why. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd article and recommendation...
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8 months ago
13 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 12 - What’s your note to Self?
While I don’t advocate planning everything in your life out to the nth degree, I do think it’s wise to reflect on the past and distil a few key lessons and guidelines for the future. I mean, who wants to repeat the same mistakes or poor choices? Rob uses the idea of calling yourself 10 years ago for one minute. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd ar...
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9 months ago
7 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 13 - Are we growing up or just growing older?
There is a world of difference between someone who continues to grow as a person throughout their life and someone who gets stuck psychologically or emotionally and just grows older. Rob discusses the difference and suggests three ways to consciously progress as an adult towards greater maturity. Key points The story of a child growing up in two potentially different ways. Society expects certain cultural norms and these influence how we grow, especially in modern life. By your 50s you can ex...
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10 months ago
17 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 11 - Life lessons from my grandfather’s very tough life
Rob shares a more personal episode, talking about the experiences of his grandparents who were forced out of their Polish estate, sent to the Gulags, and then relocated to New Zealand. But the key insight is that while externals can be stripped from you, what’s on the inside cannot be taken away. That, and the reality that none of us have the control in life we think we do. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser ...
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10 months ago
11 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 10 - Deliberately walk slowly
Life is extremely busy, and it will periodically overrun us if we don't actively find ways to deal with it. Rob explains what happens in your brain and body when you rush, and discusses how we can practically manage these feelings of overwhelm. Rob describes a simple technique he teaches to calm your nervous system, improve your sense of control, and generate better relationships by being more present. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. ...
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10 months ago
6 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 9 - How to radically improve your listening skills
Developing your communication skills is one of the best ways to gain more influence, develop better relationships, and create presence and impact. However, most people think they’re pretty good at communicating. But in my experience of 10 years in radio and 25 years of corporate coaching, I think there’s one skill most of us need to improve on: listening. KEY POINTS Listening effectively is not as easy as we think because of our automatic habits.The goal of good communication is NOT to speak ...
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11 months ago
9 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 8 - Neuroscience, engineering, and intentional growth
Today, let's dive into a powerful concept from the world of engineers, programmers, and data experts — forward modelling — and explore how it can boost your personal development. While many are familiar with the idea of priming (the technique of setting the stage with context before sharing more details — often used in sales and negotiations - to influence the direction of people's thinking), forward modelling might be a new term for some. As the saying goes, "Outcomes reveal pathways."...
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11 months ago
11 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 7 - Don’t let other’s opinions shape your life
Everyone has an opinion. That's because it's the way we are made. But not all opinions are useful, or even downright correct. So, we can deal with that by: Setting our compass - deciding what's important to usSetting up filters - to help us say no and free up our time and attentionTurning off autopilot - and doing the work needed to find out what is best for us in our situation.Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser an...
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11 months ago
14 minutes

Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Most people confuse change with transition, but they're completely different processes. Change is external—you move cities, lose a job, get divorced. It's the obvious shift from point A to point B. Transition is the inner psychological journey of letting go of your old identity, spending time in uncertainty, then eventually embracing who you're becoming. Without proper transition, change becomes just "rearranging the furniture"—nothing really transforms inside you. That's why people can go th...