We are wrapping up part 3 of Paola’s incredible story! Jess and Trafenia sit with Paola as she talks about the rainbow at the end of the storm, the ultimate love story, and that though we grieve, we grieve with hope.
Key Takeaways:
Know that you are not alone if you have experienced miscarriage
A rainbow baby is the baby that you have after the “storm”
Motherhood is the greatest gift, the greatest privilege of bringing life into this world
Resources:
Paola's Instagram: @paolajoannblog
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Trafenia and Jess continue to chat with Paola who has experienced the taboo subject of miscarriages. Her story is about the hardships, the emotions, and the redemption offered to us. This is part 2 of a 3 part series.
Key Takeaways:
Our husbands are here to support us, even if they have a different perspective of pregnancy
Sometimes the only thing there is to say is “I’m sorry for your loss”
Community is important. If you don’t have it, build it.
Resources:
Paola’s Instagram: @paolajoannblog
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Grab your tissues and join Trafenia and Jess as they chat with Paola who has experienced the taboo subject of miscarriage. Her story is about the hardships, the emotions, and the redemption offered to us.
This is part 1 of a 3 part series.
Key Takeaways:
Miscarriages are more common than we think
Family conversations surrounded death but also the hope of life after death
Grieving never stops
Resources:
- Heaven Baby book: Shop Here
- Paola’s Instagram: @paolajoannblog
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Join us as we wrap up our talk with Esther Spence, PT about the importance of pelvic floor care and how to do it. We can prevent a lot of the things that “come with the territory” of becoming a mom. Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s normal.
Key Takeaways:
You can fix the mom belly, the pee sneezes, and other things with pelvic floor care
It’s important to ask to be referred to a pelvic floor PT if you think you need that care
It has been disproven that we should not add activity to our routine during pregnancy
Resources:
The Connected Core
website: Theconnectedcore.com
Instagram: @theconnectedcore
The YMCA offers prenatal yoga
Peloton has prenatal and postpartum plans
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Join us as we talk with Esther Spence, PT about the importance of pelvic floor care and how to do it. We can prevent a lot of the things that “come with the territory” of becoming a mom. Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s normal.
Key Takeaways:
We need to start looking at the body as a unit instead of separate parts
As your core muscles stretch during pregnancy, they become less productive
The brain with only recruit the strong muscles
Resources:
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Are bedtime routines really that important? Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk through what works and what doesn’t.
Key Takeaways:
Make a conscious decision to not fret about it
The point of bedtime is to wind down
Find one thing that is non-negotiable that you can do for your child at bedtime
Resources:
Taking Cara Babies
https://takingcarababies.com/babys-bedtime-routine#content
https://takingcarababies.com/babys-bedtime-routine#why-is-a-bedtime-routine-important-for-babies
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Join Jess and Trafenia as they chat about consistency. As mothers it is easy to be hard on ourselves for lack of consistency but the reality is life ebbs and flows.
Key Takeaways:
We are raising kids not a house.
Women reset every 28 days and men reset every 24 hours
Give yourself grace
Resources:
- In the FLO
https://www.amazon.com/FLO-Unlock-Hormonal-Advantage-Revolutionize/dp/0062870483
- How to Hack your Body
https://nourishednaturalhealth.com/blogs/nutrition-guides/menstrual-cycle-syncing-exercise
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Last week, we started the baby sleep conversation by focusing on night sleep. This week, we address naps!
Key Takeaways:
Find a routine/schedule that works for you
Be confident in your sleep choices as a parent
Make sure everyone who cares for your baby is aware of the sleep routines you've chosen so your baby can get consistent sleep
Resources:
- https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/safe-sleep-7#sing-the-song
- https://health.clevelandclinic.org/when-and-how-to-sleep-train-your-baby/
- https://takingcarababies.com/
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No one talks about the complications of sleep, and who would have thought that sleep is complicated! When you have a baby there are so many things to consider, including how to sleep. There seems to be so many different options such as co-sleeping, sleeping in a bassinet, or sleeping in a crib. Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk about what they did for their babies's sleep.
Key Takeaways:
Your opinion is the only one that matters.
You know your baby, and mama knows best.
Whatever you choose or don’t choose for sleep, just go for it.
Resources:
- https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/safe-sleep-7#sing-the-song
- https://health.clevelandclinic.org/when-and-how-to-sleep-train-your-baby/
- https://takingcarababies.com/
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Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk about pregnancy side effects. Apparently you can have any or all of them! Jess and Trafenia share their experiences as they go through a list of possible side effects.
Key Takeaways:
Resources:
https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/pregnancy-signs-and-symptoms
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As we wrap up season 2, Trafenia's friend shares the remainder of her birthing experience. She shares how, though she doubted her instincts in the moment, they stuck with her past her delivery and she eventually acts on these instincts.
Key Takeaways:
Trust yourself and go with your gut.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions, even about people of authority.
You being uncomfortable is enough.
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As we wrap up season 2, Jess and Trafenia speak with one of Trafenia’s dear friends about her birthing experience. She shares how it wasn’t what she thought it would be and how she doubted her instincts, despite it being her third labor.
Key Takeaways:
Trust yourself and trust your body.
Laboring on your side with the leg up could help prevent tearing.
Don’t let fear make a decision over what you are confident to do.
Resources:
https://americanpregnancy.org/healthy-pregnancy/labor-and-birth/prodromal-labor/
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Join Jess and Trafenia as they continue to talk about baby registries. What do you put on the baby registry and how do you know you will use it? Jess and Trafenia review a baby registry list and give their two cents on if you need it or not.
Key Takeaways:
Ask other moms what they thought was useful vs. unnecessary
Consider the functionality of items and how they pertain to your lifestyle to determine their usefulness
Ask for clothes of all sizes for at least the first year
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Join Jess and Trafenia as they talk about baby registries. What do you put on the baby registry and how do you know you will use it? Jess and Trafenia review a baby registry list and give their two cents on if you need it or not. Tune in next week for Part 2!
Key Takeaways:
First time moms typically put between 100-120 items on their registry
Get the stuff for when they get sick ahead of time
It’s okay if you don’t have everything ready before the baby comes
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In this episode, Jess and Trafenia ask why no one tells you how relationships change when you become a parent. They talk about how relationships change with your spouse, your friends, and your parents. Things will change, and it is about navigating those changes with intentionality.
Key Takeaways:
Boundaries are based on values, limits are based on safety
Partners go through a lot of changes as well and sometimes can feel isolated
Be intentional with conversations and dates with your spouse
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What does it take to start a baby on solids? Jess and Trafenia talk about their experience when introducing solids to their babies and how to navigate allergens. Jess also shares her experience with getting her son tested for allergies.
Key Takeaways:
Trust yourself and your instincts, but most of all trust your baby to know what to do
Know the difference between gagging and choking as well as what requirements your baby needs to meet so you know they’re ready for food
Above all, remain calm. Your baby mirrors your emotions.
Resources:
- Solid Starts app
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In this week's episode, we discuss our own difficulties with weaning our babies from breastfeeding, but we also reveal the beauties to be found in doing so.
Key Takeaways:
Expect changes in your mood when weaning
How you go about weaning is your choice
Ultimately, though it may be hard, weaning is beneficial for both you and the child
Resources:
- https://www.who.int/health-topics/breastfeeding#tab=tab_2
- Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
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This week, we talk about our own experiences acclimating our pets to our babies, and we also look into what trainers have said about how to go about the acclimating process.
Key Takeaways:
Have a plan
Be patient
Overall, your baby’s safety comes first
Resources:
- https://www.cesarsway.com/introduce-your-dog-to-your-baby/
- https://www.humanesociety.org/resources/introducing-your-cat-your-new-baby
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This week we talk about cradle cap and baby eczema, how to know if your baby has either, and how to care for both conditions.
- Cradle cap can appear on your baby's head at any point within the first year
- Baby eczema is generally related to gut issues, often caused by dairy
- Be sure to stay away from fragranced products for your baby before 6 months, and be cautious of them after 6 months.
Resources:
- Cradle cap: https://www.aad.org/public/everyday-care/hair-scalp-care/scalp/treat-cradle-cap
- Yuka app
- Think dirty app
- Click here to see our favorite products for baby eczema care
*Episode Disclaimer: We refer to a video found on social media regarding the FDA approval process. These mentions are not based on our own research, just what we've seen and heard that came up in conversation. As always recommended, if you have a concern about foods or products you give/use with your children, please consult your pediatrician and do your own research to confirm whether or not you should be concerned.
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