Bribes vs. Earning: Effective Toddler Parenting Strategies
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Listen to this episode that pairs with this one,
Get Your Toddler to Cooperate Without Bribes or Threats
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore the critical difference between bribing and helping toddlers work towards something.
The podcast covers why this distinction matters, real-life examples, and effective strategies to foster intrinsic motivation in children. We also discuss why bribes often backfire, the hierarchy of motivation, and provide practical tips from the host's background as a special education teacher and toddler parenting coach.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
01:13 Understanding Bribes vs. Earning Rewards
03:01 Examples and Real-Life Analogies
05:42 Proactive Strategies and Habit Building
16:31 Hierarchy of Motivation
19:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Why Your Toddler Isn’t Talking More & What You Can Do About It w/ Paige O'Dwyer
In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, Heather chats with Paige O'Dwyer, a speech language pathologist and the founder of Talk First Words.
Paige shares her journey into the field and how her platform helps parents empower their late talkers. With insights into how parents can turn daily routines into language-building opportunities, she explains the benefits of a parent coaching model over traditional speech therapy.
Paige also touches on the importance of early intervention and offers practical, easy-to-implement tips for nurturing communication skills in toddlers. Don't miss out on her valuable advice and resources!
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:02 Meet Paige O'Dwyer: Speech Language Pathologist and Founder of Talk First Words
00:39 Paige's Journey into Speech and Language Development
01:25 The Birth of Talk First Words
02:10 Challenges and Innovations in Speech Therapy
04:11 Inclusive Play School: Partners in Play
06:05 Motherhood and Its Impact on Paige's Work
07:53 Common Mistakes Parents Make in Speech Development
14:32 The Power of Parent Coaching
19:25 Balancing Speech Therapy with Everyday Life
24:09 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Parents
28:08 Where to Find More Resources and Connect with Paige
Connect with Page, send her the word "toolkit" on Instagram for her special toddler toolkit bundle for our listeners.
➤ Instagram: @talkfirstwords
➤ Website: www.talkfirstwords.com
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
How to Get Your Toddler to Cooperate Without Bribes or Threats!
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we explore how to get your toddler to cooperate without using bribes or threats.
Learn practical strategies for setting clear expectations and creating cooperation before conflict ever starts. I'll share my personal experiences with my own toddler twins, especially in challenging situations like grocery store visits. We'll discuss the common pitfalls of relying on consequences, threats, and bribes, and why being proactive is the game-changer. Don't forget to check out the link in the show notes for more tools and strategies!
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:37 The Power of Setting Clear Expectations
01:52 Reality Check: The Role of Consequences
03:00 Proactive Strategies in Action
04:17 Grocery Store Example: Setting Expectations
09:52 The Importance of Clarity and Roles
10:57 Contrasting Threats and Bribes
12:21 Real-Life Analogies: Why Bribes and Threats Fail
16:08 Building Habits and Skills Over Time
19:04 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Celebrating 10k Downloads on Toddler Toolkit: Top Episodes, Advice and Mic Drop Moments!
Welcome to a special celebration episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast! We've hit 10,000 downloads and we're diving into the most downloaded episodes of all time to help you navigate toddlerhood.
✨Join the Toddler Mom Community, and Share your Toddler Wins and Struggles!
✨Read the blog and get Notes from the Show!
We'll also share the top six mic drop moments from our guests, filled with humor and insights to make your parenting journey smoother. Shout outs to our top listener locations and heartfelt thanks to our amazing listeners. Join us for this special milestone and get ready for some great takeaways!
Top Episodes: 🎧 Top Toddler Toolkit Episodes (Most Downloaded of All Time)-Click the Links to Listen!
1. Handling the "No" Phase: How to Get Your Toddler to Listen Without a Battle
Do you feel like you're going to lose your cool if you hear your toddler shout, "NO!" one more time? Here's how to navigate the resistance phase without constant battles.
2. Navigating Meltdowns: When Toddlers Don’t Get What They Want
Why do toddlers melt down even after getting what they asked for—or flip-flop between yes and no? This episode breaks down their brain wiring and how to guide them through it.
3. Toddlerhood: Navigating 18 Months to 2 ½ Years
A big-picture look at what’s happening developmentally and emotionally during this stage—plus how to respond in ways that support growth and reduce chaos.
4. 5 Common Pitfalls of Toddler Boundaries and How to Avoid Them
Boundaries are helpful—but not magic. Learn the common ways they backfire and what to do instead to see real behavior change.
The Insightful and FUNNY Mic Drop Moments:
💬 “Your body deserves healing, not just surviving.”
– Clare Samol & Heather Thompson, Healing Your Body After Baby
💬 “You are not failing. You’re in the messy middle of figuring out what works for your family.”
– Taylor Greenberg, From Books to Breakthroughs: The Parenting Advice That Changed My Life
💬 “Feeding isn’t just about the bottle or breast—it’s about identity, overwhelm, and feeling seen as a mother.”
– Roxie Alsruhe, Breast Milk, Bottles & Burnout: Surviving Baby Feeding Overwhelm
The Most Memorable and Insightful Mic Drop Moments:
💬 “Sleep battles are rarely about sleep—they’re about trust and transitions.”
– Jensine Casey, My Toddler Isn’t Napping and Not Comfortable Being Alone to Fall Asleep
💬 “Play tells us everything. If a child is throwing, lining up, or crashing toys—there’s always a story behind it.”
– Ruth Vercoe, From Throwing to Lining Up: What Your Child’s Play Is Really Telling You
💬 “Rest isn’t the absence of noise—it’s the presence of safety.”
– Jonathan Martinez, End Bedtime Battles: One Shift to Reclaim Your Evenings
00:00 Welcome to the Celebration Episode!
00:48 Reflecting on the Podcast's Growth
01:49 Top Cities and Countries Tuning In
02:43 Most Downloaded Episodes Revealed
02:55 Handling the No Phase
03:46 Navigating Toddler Meltdowns
04:40 Toddlerhood: 18 Months to 2.5 Years
06:02 Avoiding Common Pitfalls in Toddler Boundaries
07:30 Top Mic Drop Moments: Humor and Insights
21:07 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
5 Strategies that are more Powerful than Time Out
The Toddler Toolkit Podcast, is so close to 10k downloads, please help support the podcast by downloading a helpful episode or sharing the podcast with a friend or family member in need- so these free resources can reach & support more families.
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Join us on the Toddler Toolkit Podcast as we explore five powerful strategies to manage toddler behavior more effectively than traditional timeout. Discover the reasons why timeout can backfire and learn actionable techniques to address your child's needs, build essential skills, and foster a positive parent-child connection. This episode offers reflective questions for parents and practical advice on teaching and reinforcing the right behaviors. Tune in and gain valuable insights to navigate your parenting journey with confidence!
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:25 Why Timeout Often Fails
03:09 Reflective Questions for Parents
09:27 Five Strategies Better Than Timeout
15:18 Closing Thoughts and Additional Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
What “No!”, “Go Away!”, and Other Toddler Phrases Actually Mean
You wont want to miss out on my 'tug-of-war' metaphor that changes how you show up for your toddler during tough moments!
The Toddler Toolkit Podcast, is so close to 10k downloads, please help support the podcast by downloading a helpful episode or sharing the podcast with a friend or family member in need- so these free resources can reach & support more families.
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In this episode, we discuss the deeper meaning behind your toddler saying 'No' or 'Go away.' I share a personal update and emphasize the importance of support and community, revealing my journey as a bestselling co-author.
We explore how to interpret your child's challenging moments as a cry for safety and connection rather than rejection. Learn practical strategies to respond effectively, ensuring you maintain strong, supportive bonds with your little ones. Plus, discover useful phrases and tools to help both you and your toddler navigate big emotions. Stay tuned for insights that can transform your parenting approach and strengthen your relationship with your child.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:02 Personal Updates
01:46 Supporting the Podcast and Special Ask from Listeners
02:46 Understanding Toddler Rejection
05:14 Reframing Toddler Behavior
06:12 Why Toddlers Say 'Go Away' or 'No'
07:30 Interpreting Toddler Language
14:03 Responding to Toddler Outbursts
14:24 The Tug of War Metaphor
23:20 Long-Term Impact of Emotional Support
24:03 Conclusion and Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
In this heartwarming episode of The Toddler Toolkit, Heather sits down with Jonathan Martinez—dad of two, former special education teacher, registered nurse, and creator of Yawnimals, a soothing bedtime audiobook series helping families find calm at the end of the day.
🎧Listen to Yawnimals on Spotify
Jonathan shares how his unique path—from caring for patients on their hardest days to leading classrooms with compassion—inspired him to create stories that are more than bedtime entertainment. They’re a way for parents to be the emotional anchor, the steady mountain children can lean on.
Together, they explore why rest is about more than sleep, how setting clear expectations creates security, and why helping kids wind down isn’t a battle—it’s a bridge to connection. You’ll hear Jonathan’s perspective on bringing entrepreneurship into parenting, thinking creatively to serve others, and modeling resilience and presence for your kids.
Whether you’re struggling with bedtime meltdowns or simply want to make evenings more peaceful, this conversation will inspire you to approach bedtime as a time to connect, restore, and show up as your child’s safe place—even on the toughest days.
Tune in to hear about his innovative bedtime strategies, his children's involvement in the project, and insights about maintaining compassion and regulation as both a parent and professional caregiver.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:03 Meet Jonathan Martinez: A Multifaceted Journey
02:35 Lessons from Special Education
06:51 From Teaching to Nursing
08:09 The Birth of Yawn Animals
12:07 Creative Entrepreneurship with Kids
16:46 Bedtime Challenges and Solutions
22:35 The Power of Imagination in Children's Bedtime
23:51 Transitioning Through Toddler Years
25:01 Engaging Bedtime Routines
26:21 Parental Strategies for Bedtime
30:30 The Importance of Rest for Parents
36:58 Emotional Regulation and Compassion
40:44 New Projects and Social Media
45:30 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Listen to Yawnimals:
Yawnimals on Spotify
Yawnimals on Hoopla
Yawnimals on Libby
Yawnimals on Audible
Yawnimals on Apple Books
Yawnimals on Amazon (Kindle Addition)
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Navigating the Toddler Years: Ages 3-4
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Hey parents! Welcome to Toddler Toolkit. Struggling with your three to four-year-old's listening skills? You're not alone. In this episode, we share real parent struggles and provide insights to help you navigate these challenging years. From cognitive development to handling big emotions, we cover the key skills your toddler is building. Plus, check out our 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast guide for practical tips. Join us as we break down what's normal at this stage and how you can support your child's growth. Don't miss out on essential advice for this unpredictable but important time in your child's life.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit
00:58 Common Toddler Struggles
03:04 Understanding Toddler Development
03:40 Cognitive Development in Toddlers
06:41 Physical Development Milestones
07:28 Social and Emotional Growth
09:02 Managing Big Emotions
13:47 Common Challenges and Solutions
20:05 Final Thoughts and Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
How to Stay Calm When Your Child Loses It - Practical Tips for Parents
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
When your child is screaming, throwing toys, or melting down in public, it can feel impossible to stay calm. But what if you didn’t have to be the “perfect” parent to handle big emotions with steadiness?
In this episode, we’ll unpack what really makes it possible to keep your cool—even when you’re tired, overwhelmed, or triggered yourself. You’ll hear stories, fresh perspectives, and the mindset shifts that change everything in those heated moments.
If you’ve ever wondered how to be the calm anchor your child needs, this is for you.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:14 The Importance of Staying Calm
00:22 Personal Anecdote from The Voice
01:33 Understanding Calmness and Patience
02:20 Managing External Pressures
06:36 Defining Calmness
09:28 Reflecting on Personal Experiences
11:03 Proactive Parenting Strategies
11:43 Daily Habits for Calmness
12:09 The Power of Self-Reflection
14:36 Emotional Buttons and Childhood Experiences
18:11 Building Calmness as a Skill
25:14 The Role of Self-Compassion
29:11 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Study Citations:
Citation: Kross, E., & Ayduk, O. (2011). Making meaning out of negative experiences by self-distancing. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 20(3), 187–191.
Citation: Gross, J. J., & John, O. P. (2003). Individual differences in two emotion regulation processes: implications for affect, relationships, and well-being. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 85(2), 348–362.
Citation: Slade, A. (2005). Parental reflective functioning: An introduction. Attachment & Human Development, 7(3), 269–281.
Citation: Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85–101.
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Toddler Car Battles: Why They Happen and What Helps
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we discuss common issues around car seat battles with toddlers, why they happen, and various strategies to manage them. Topics include potential causes like loss of control, transitions, sensory overload, and hunger, along with detailed solutions for different scenarios like route changes, difficulty getting in/out of the car, and sibling issues. We also talk about the importance of understanding the 'why' behind the behavior and provide tips for proactive measures and positive reinforcement. Join us for practical advice and support on managing these tough moments with your little ones, and don't forget to check out the Seven Toddler Struggles guide linked in the show notes for additional resources.
00:00 Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:56 Understanding Car Seat Battles
02:41 Handling Route Changes
04:05 Dealing with Refusal to Get Out of the Car
05:09 Managing Screaming During Car Rides
06:00 Addressing Refusal to Get in the Car
06:41 Meltdowns After School or Daycare
07:52 Refusal to Get Buckled in the Car Seat
09:34 Sibling Issues in the Car
13:24 Preventing and Easing Car Battles
14:17 Conclusion and Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Big Emotions as the Map: Guiding Your Child’s Lifelong Coping Skills Because....What You Do in Your Child's 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we dive into why your toddler's big emotions matter and how to respond effectively. The discussion covers why these emotions are developmentally appropriate, the impact of dismissing feelings, and practical strategies like co-regulation. Learn how to support your child's emotional growth and build healthy relationships by showing up with curiosity and connection. Don't forget to check out the guide to the seven toddler struggles and how to solve them quickly in the show notes.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:57 Why Big Emotions Matter
02:27 Understanding Toddler Development
05:14 Big Feelings Are Not Bad Behavior
10:45 Consequences of Shutting Down Emotions
14:50 Avoidant and Anxious Coping Strategies
22:09 Lifelong Impact of Dismissing Feelings
23:05 Co-Regulation Over Correction
25:31 Encouragement for Parents
29:10 Conclusion and Personal Reflections
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Kindergarten Readiness & Preschool Daycare Tips with Expert Amy Fieldman
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In today's episode, we share a clip from the Happy Toddler Confident Parenting Cohort featuring guest expert Amy Fieldman. Amy talks about kindergarten readiness, preschool daycare support, and tackles common toddler struggles. Learn practical tips on scaffolding for independence, managing transitions, enhancing storytime, and using classroom jobs to build confidence. For more in-depth advice, be sure to download the 'Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast' guide from the show notes.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:47 Guest Expert: Amy Fieldman on Kindergarten Readiness
02:30 Q&A Session with Amy Fieldman
03:02 Supporting Toddler Independence
04:22 Helping Toddlers with Transitions
05:41 Fine Motor Skills and Writing Prep
09:09 Engaging Toddlers in Story Time
10:55 Using Fidget Tools for Focus
12:29 Scaffolding for Art Projects
15:01 Helper Jobs for Toddlers
17:26 Conclusion and Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Handling Toddler Meltdowns: What Pancakes Taught Me About Emotions
Heather Schalk shares insights and strategies on managing toddler meltdowns using a relatable pancake breakfast scenario that was a true story! She discusses the importance of modeling calm behavior, recognizing frustration tolerance, and teaching toddlers self-regulation techniques. Heather invites listeners to a free guide and class recording: The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast
-Introduction and Overview
-Free Guide
-The Pancake Incident
-Modeling Frustration Management
-Conclusion and Free Guide
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
There may just be a method to the madness after all!
Our toddlers are constantly learning about the world around them. And the main way in which they learn is through play and play schemas.
From throwing things and ripping pages out of books to tossing all their toys out of the bin and lining their cars up in a certain way, our toddlers are naturally moving through phases that help them better understand how the world works.
Though it can be frustrating for us as parents, our children aren't just trying to annoy us but are, in fact, simply learning.
Join Heather and Ruth in this mind-blowing episode where the method behind the madness is finally revealed and play schemas are explained!
If your toddler has a knack for throwing, tearing, ripping, dropping, or climbing, then this is one episode you won't want to miss!
About Ruth: Ruth Vercoe is a teacher-turned-mum on a mission to demystify child’s play through understanding play schemas. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is my child doing that?”—whether it’s throwing soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up crayons—you’re certainly not alone.
It wasn’t until Ruth was in the thick of parenting that she realized she had entered this journey with an unfair advantage. Her unique edge was a deep understanding of play schemas—how they show up in young children and how to work with them, rather than against them. Now, she’s passionate about helping other parents gain that same insight.
Ruth comes to this first and foremost as a wife and mum to two amazing young boys.
She brings over 15 years of experience working with children, with the majority of her teaching career focused on junior-aged students. A lifelong learner, Ruth holds a Bachelor of Education, a postgraduate diploma in Special Education, a Certificate in Digital and Online Learning, and a Master’s in Education—not to mention a deep love of the outdoors.
Connect with Ruth on Instagram @Play_Schemas; on her website, playschemas.com; or on her podcast "Demystifying Child's Play"!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
Two Secrets to Enjoying the Toddler Years
In this episode, we reveal the two key factors that can help parents actually enjoy the toddler years:
1. addressing shame and
2. letting go of perfectionism.
We discuss how these issues often go unnoticed but heavily impact our parenting experience.
There's also an exciting announcement about the upcoming Free Class and Guide: 'Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Workshop' on May 8th, which offers practical solutions for 7 common toddler struggles. You can get it here.
Learn about the Happy Toddler Confident Parent cohort starting in mid-May and how it aims to provide a supportive community and expert advice across various parenting challenges. Join us to understand how to shift towards a growth mindset and find joy in the beautiful imperfections of parenting, here.
00:00 Introduction: Enjoying the Toddler Years
00:29 Upcoming Workshop Announcement
01:11 Common Toddler Struggles
02:16 Understanding Shame in Parenting
03:28 The Myth of Perfect Parenting
08:32 Perfectionism vs. Shame
09:41 Impact on Parenting Joy
21:43 Breaking Free from Shame and Perfectionism
23:31 Expert Support and Resources
27:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Understanding Toddler Tantrums: Real Life Stories + What Helped
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we delve deep into the world of toddler tantrums, exploring not just the outward emotional outbursts but the deeper unmet needs and expectations behind them.
Host Heather shares real-life tantrum stories from her own family to illustrate key parenting concepts such as the 'picture perfect mindset,'
and the importance of letting toddlers feel their emotions fully. From a pizza meltdown to a playground blowup, Heather offers valuable insights and strategies to help parents navigate these challenging moments and foster emotional regulation skills in their toddlers.
Plus, learn about the upcoming 'Happy Toddler, Confident Parent' cohort, designed to give parents the tools to better connect with and support their children.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Tantrums
01:00 The Pizza Tantrum: Picture Perfect Mindset
06:02 The Bubble Blower Incident: Frustration Unveiled
10:27 The Pre-K School Visit Tantrum: Transitions and Expectations
19:12 The Playground Meltdown: Overstimulation and Regulation
Heather announced her upcoming co-authored book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges,' which offers practical wisdom from experts on navigating challenging family situations: https://www.heatherschalkparenting.com/signup-list-for-book
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like separation anxiety, I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's Coming Soon! So STAY TUNED!
And be sure to grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Whether you're a brand new parent or a veteran, keeping track of a baby's feeding schedule is not easy!
Roxie Alsruhe discovered this first-hand while caring for her newborn son. When their baby started losing weight instead of gaining, Roxie and her wife did everything they could to help him get the nourishment he needed.
Through the many sleepless nights and tiring days, Roxie kept careful track of each and every feeding, bottle, and expiration date.
But when it started to feel overwhelming and downright impossible to do, Roxie began to wonder why something hadn't been created to help keep track of it all.
And with that, Roxie set out to create it herself!
Join Heather and her guest in this insightful interview as Roxie shares all about her parenting journey, how she got the idea to create the HoopDee app, and what this resource does to help all parents better care for their babies and beyond.
If you're into learning about new ways to make your parenting journey easier, smoother, and less chaotic, then this is an episode you'll definitely want to tune into!
About Roxie: Roxie Alsruhe (pronounced Als-roo) is the founder of HoopDee. HoopDee offers a free app that manages and tracks breast milk and baby formula so new parents never waste a drop. In the summer of 2025, HoopDee will launch a line of patent-pending products that automate the milk managing process even more and enhance your app experience. Roxie is a mom to a sweet 15 month old boy and two senior rescue pups. She is based out of Baltimore, Maryland. She and Heather met in 2nd grade at Cub Run Elementary in Centreville, VA.
Connect with Roxie on her website, getHoopDee.com, or @getHoopDee on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and Youtube!
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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
The One Thing That Shapes Toddler Behavior and Self-Esteem
In this episode, we explore the key factor that shapes your toddler's behavior and self-esteem - your language and reactions. We'll discuss the concept of the toddler reactivity loop, how to set the stage for better behaviors, and why the attention you give is the attention you get back. Learn practical tips on redirecting rather than reacting and how to use positive praise to improve your toddler's behavior. Find out how your words and tone can shape your child's self-image and behavior over time. Plus, get a sneak peek into my upcoming book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family,' launching on May 8th.
Heather announced her upcoming co-authored book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges,' which offers practical wisdom from experts on navigating challenging family situations: https://www.heatherschalkparenting.com/signup-list-for-book
00:00 Introduction: The Key to Shaping Toddler Behavior
00:55 Setting the Stage for a Positive Day
01:39 Understanding the Toddler Reactivity Loop
05:28 The Power of Positive Attention
10:45 The Impact of Language and Reactions
23:34 Conclusion and Upcoming Events
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like separation anxiety, I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's Coming Soon! So STAY TUNED!
And be sure to grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
The Toddler Discipline Script That Backfires & What to Do Instead
In this episode, we're diving into the shortcomings of widely shared toddler discipline advice, particularly the 'validation boundary method.'
Learn why popular scripts like 'It's okay to be mad, but we don't hit' can backfire, reinforcing unwanted behaviors and leading to parental burnout.
We'll explore eight key reasons why this approach is ineffective and offer alternative strategies that focus on proactive, compassionate, and effective discipline techniques that are just a small tweak to change that could make a huge impact. Discover the importance of clear modeling, co-regulation, and addressing sensory needs to help toddlers manage their emotions constructively. Also, get a sneak peek into our upcoming book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family,' and how it can be a valuable resource for mindful parenting.
Heather announced her upcoming co-authored book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges,' which offers practical wisdom from experts on navigating challenging family situations: https://www.heatherschalkparenting.com/signup-list-for-book
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Discipline Issues
00:46 The Validation Boundary Method Explained
02:06 Why the Script Fails: Eight Reasons
07:55 Upcoming Book Announcement
09:41 Empathy and Emotional Attunement
16:20 The Importance of Visual and Physical Cues
18:29 Parental Burnout and Final Thoughts
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like separation anxiety, I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's Coming Soon! So STAY TUNED!
And be sure to grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
How to Find the Perfect Babysitter for Your Toddler
In this episode, Heather shares valuable insights on finding a babysitter that suits your toddler's temperament and aligns with your parenting style. She discusses emotional fit, parenting style alignment, and offers tips on managing time duration and transitions. Heather shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of interview questions, setting expectations, and trusting your intuition.
She also introduces her upcoming co-authored book, 'The Perfectly Imperfect Family: Real Solutions for Mindful Parents Navigating Today’s Biggest Challenges,' which offers practical wisdom from experts on navigating challenging family situations: https://www.heatherschalkparenting.com/signup-list-for-book
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:59 Emotional Fit and Parenting Style Alignment
10:35 Time, Duration and Separation Tips
16:40 Logistical Fit and Final Thoughts
21:21 Conclusion and Encouragement
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like separation anxiety, I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's Coming Soon! So STAY TUNED!
And be sure to grab the 3 Steps to a Calm, Kind, and Caring Toddler Free Class and guide!
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Ready to get your toddler to listen in 2 seconds?
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children who listen in 2 seconds.
