Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode we discuss a question from a listener in our mailbox series. We love getting your emails and questions! The Mailbox: My Partner Had An Affair, What Now? When you find out your partner (who you thought was wonderful) has been unfaithful, this is pretty devastating news to say the least. It's confusing and shocking news, especially if it was completely 100% unexpected. In this episode we address a listener's question and try ...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode we discuss 3 signs that you may want to firm up your psychological boundaries. The first one is Resentment. Having high levels of long standing resentment is a sign that you have been suppressing your true thoughts and feelings for way too long, perhaps you have been "yes" when you really wanted to say "no". Resentment can be the result of surrendering to your subjugation schema- feeling that you can't speak your mi...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In schema therapy, 'Modes' are a key part of the model. Schema Modes have been defined as moment-to-moment emotional states and coping responses that we all experience. But also, Modes can be understood as 'parts' of self. So modes can be observable to others and/or also a way to conceptualise the idea of multi-selves (ie, that we all have parts of self). Schema modes are activated by triggers (eg, life situations, me...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode we discuss core emotional needs and why they are so important for humans throughout our life. We are born into the world with needs and our emotional, social, physical and psychological well-being depends upon them. Our early care-givers are responsible for meeting our needs and as we grow and develop both ourselves and other people play a role in meeting emotional needs. The needs discussed are: safety, stab...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project Don't you hate this! You've had a first great date with someone and then it's all down hill from there. What went wrong? In this episode Justine and Gemma put this issue under the microscope and dissect the anatomy of this all too common and disappointing scenario. CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships. Instagram Facebook Click the link below to find...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project Very often, if you were raised by a narcissist, in adulthood you will more or less fall into the trap of seeking the approval of people who are narcissistic. A narcissists acceptance of you is often conditional – as long as you are the version of you they want to see, then they treat you well, or at least in an acceptable way. In this episode Gemma discusses 6 relational or communications pitfalls to avoid when communicating with the difficult narcissist ...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this episode, Gemma and Justine answer a question from one of their Schema Circle members. The question asks how can we know if our reaction to a break-up is fuelled by an abandonment schema or not? Before getting into this question, Gemma provides a review of the abandonment schema, it's origin and how it tends to play out in romantic relationships. The 3 ways this schema plays out in romantic relationships are (1) - an avoidance pattern; (2) -...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the concept of disorganized attachment style and challenge the inclination to worry excessively about labels. Join us as we delve into the complexities of disorganized attachment and shed light on why understanding it shouldn't be a source of distress. We'll discuss the limitations of categorization and emphasize the importance of focusing on the underlying experiences and emotions that shape our attachment p...

Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In today's episode we play an excerpt from a deep dive discussion on the abandonment schema from our monthly membership program, The Schema Circle. We discuss the abandonment schema and fine tune it's origins, what it actually feels like and the many triggers for this schema. CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships. Instagram Facebook Click the link below to fi...

Interested in finding out more about our new coaching program for women - Her Secure Path. Email us your expression of interest at justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au Welcome back to the Red Flag Project In today's episode Gemma discusses the invisible reasons why so many women find it hard to leave an unhealthy relationship EARLY. Based on her experience and knowledge gained from hearing the stories of hundred's of women, Gemma outlines her top 3 schema-related reasons why wom...

Interested in finding out more about our new coaching program for women - Her Secure Path. Email us your expression of interest at justineandgemma@goodmood.com.au Welcome back to the Red Flag Project We talk about this so much with our clients. Sometimes spotting red flags isn't the problem, its acting on them for your own best interests. In today's episode we discuss the main reasons why you might ignore red flags when dating. We look at the role of core schemas such as '...

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Welcome to our new podcast - you might know us from The Good Mod Clinic Podcast, but now we also have a show dedicated to relationships and red flags! Join us, Gemma Gladstone and Justine Corry for this first episode of our new podcast. Welcome to our first episode of The Red Flag Project! CONNECT WITH US The Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships. Instagram Facebook Click the link below to find out more about our...