In this episode Saora and Jeremie Lotemo intimately explore the path of men's healing.
- Exploring the deep pain and wounds experienced by men
- Womens challenges in:
*Finding the balance between expressing boundaries and showing understanding/compassion
*Reclaiming voice without swinging to extremes.
*Recognizing the impact of choices on relationships and respect.
- Importance of respect in relationships and its role in preventing resentment.
- Navigating conflicts, controls patterns.
- Men's deep desire to provide and serve.
- The fear and programming of men being disrespected if they express vulnerability.
- Respect is CRUCIAL!!!!!!
- Understanding the impulse to control and change one's partner.
- Embracing and allowing change by acknowledging and presencing it.
- The impact of the mother wound/abandonment wound.
- Core beliefs arising from wounds: self-worth and approval seeking.
- Masculine presence tied to safety and structure.
- The significance of men's circles for healing and connection.
- Healing through emotional expression and brotherly support.
- Reparenting oneself and nurturing the inner child.
- Connecting with nature to heal the mother wound.
- Spiritual healing through connecting with the feminine aspect.
- Identifying the origin of wounds and symptom detection.
- Empowering men with love and respect while promoting growth.
Saora Love: WEBSITE- www.saora.love
Jeremie Lotemo is a poet, writer & transformation coach. Since 2020, Jeremie has made it his life’s work to help as many people as possible create lives and relationships that reflect their heart’s deepest desire for love and wholeness. Jeremie is also known for his body of work around healing the masculine shadow, challenging strict gender roles, and creating new paradigms of masculinity.
LINKS: Website - www.byermeas.com
Instagram & Twitter - @byermeas
Saora Love gets really vulnerable and shares about her life in a whole new way. If you want to get to know her more... Listen to this.
Unraveling the common challenges that come up in relationships. The ways that men and women misunderstand each other and powerful ways to create more union, happiness and polarity.
7:30 The differences between men's and women's needs.
11:05 The purity and good intention of men's desire to provide.
12:00 The two reasons why men stop providing.
13:12 More productive ways that men/women can get their needs/desires met.
16:40 The main challenges men have around supporting women in ways that they desire.
22:49 A helpful format for communication.
25:22 Understanding the beauty of sameness and difference and how to work with both.
27:50 Women yearning for men's leadership and how everyone would be greatly served by men learning to understand how a woman really functions.
29:42 The difference between women's resentment and a women's need/desire to be independent.
32:00 A process for healing judgement.
35:46 How women perceive men in a certain way and it compromises their openness.
37:10 “Where are all the good men”… How this is very telling and damaging.
38:54 The trap as women to bring any kind of superiority into a relationship.
41:00 The ways women can be more understanding of men and the things they have to move through.
44:00 How unhealthy it is for a couple to process everything together.
46:00 The edges Justine has had to face within herself.
54:00 The biggest projection that Saora has had to face.
56:20 How we want people to be things that they simply are not.
58:45 the difference between worth and compatibility.
Justine's links:
Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/justine-baruch-32b47b18a/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/justinebaruch/
https://justinebaruch.com/how-men-women-handle-stress-differently
Her programs:
http://justinebaruch.com/adored-group-program
https://justinebaruch.com/lead-your-love
This is a deep dive into many of the common sexual challenges and distortions, and some really potent remedies to these.
6:00 What is sexual sovereignty for men?
7:30 Mens relationship with their cock. Using your cock as a means to an end and how that effects your entire reality.
10:50 How to expand pleasure to the whole body.
11:20 Mens relationship to porn nd the ways that women can be more understanding.
16:30 Ways we use each other to feel better. How to balance within ourselves first.
18:00 How and why men objectify their own cock, and therefore everything.
24:14 Tysons experience with porn and the effects it had on him.
30:50 Saora’s experience of what it feels like to be with men who have a developed their sexuality around porn.
31:24 The quantum entanglement that happens from porn.
33:10 Step for men who want to reduce porn usage.
35:48 Tysons pornography experiments
39:56 Mens sexual attention on women. How to hold your center and what it can feel like as a woman to receive this in an unwanted way. 49:20 What Saora thinks men want in the bedroom.
51:00 Respect… Number 1 need for the masculine.
58:43 Masturbation as a death practice.
1:03:35 Nourishing erotic connection with nature… Aka, eco-eroticism.
1:05:00 Connecting your erotic self into your internal system .
1:10:10 How Saora cracks open to her longing in a way thats generative.
Saora's links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Tysons links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/tysonadams__/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/adams.tyson
You're in for a treat with this episode. Eri and Jaymin are two total bad asses. They share SO much gold that they've learnt from their long term, incredibly functional and beautiful relationship. How to continuously allow a relationship to die and be reborn in the best ways possible. How to fight well. How to be flexible with polarity. The ways we don’t realize we’re abusing or enabling.
Eri Kardos is an internationally acclaimed speaker, best-selling author, and accomplished love and relationships coach.
Her work with singles and couples is deeply transformational, and for her clients who have chosen to step up and do this work, beautiful & nourishing unconditional love has become the norm, creating profound ripple effects in the lives of their families, communities, and businesses.
Coming from a successful corporate background, Eri is a former leadership development professional at Amazon.com. She received her MBA in Global Leadership from the #1 international business school in the world.
Rather than regurgitating coping strategies for dealing with a broken model of love, Eri offers an entirely different approach: Relearn Love.
She is a loving wife to an incredible husband, and mother of two amazing boys, with part of her own personal love story featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Miracle of Love.
Author of the best-selling book, Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship, Eri is highly acclaimed for helping people to authentically elevate their relationships to experience deeper, more intimate and more fulfilling connections.
Eri is here to light the way and hold your hand along the journey to unconditional love.
Jaymin J. Patel is a Growth Coach & Soul Mentor for High-Achievers.
Business Owners, Founders, Spiritual Leaders, and celebrated Artists come to Jaymin after they've explored coaching (or have become a coach) and now want to explore their EDGE and see what more is possible.
Jaymin's mission is to help soul-aligned leaders unlock their Greatest Achievement Potential, experience the highest levels of freedom & truth, and easefully expand into even more abundance in health, wealth, & love...
In addition to being a TEDx speaker who has delivered 500+ paid talks and being an author of 8 books, Jaymin is a highly sought-after, heart-driven, no-fluff, intuitive coach who has been hired by powerful leaders in the spiritual & transformational communities as well as top leaders of corporations around the world.
Most importantly, Jaymin is a dad of two incredible kids and shares a beautiful conscious relationship with his wife, Eri. He and his family are currently living on the tropical island of Bali, where he hosts private retreats for his clients.
Links:
Saora
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Jaymin:
Facebook Profile - https://www.facebook.com/pateljayminj
Private FB Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/everythingispossiblegroup
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamjayminjpatel/
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/iamjayminjpatel/
Eri:
Website: www.relearnlove.com
Facebook group page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relearnlovegroup/
Instagram: @CoachEriKardos
Damien Bohler and Saora explore the super rich territory of attachment styles, how it's our map for bonding, how they effect arousal, how we can become more secure and the effect this has on our sexuality.
9:11 Rewiring the attachment styles.
12:45 The attachment theory in a nutshell. How our attachment style is our map for bonding.
20:02 What is secure attachment.
24:40 Bonding from a secure attachment and how that effects arousal in a different way.
25:53 The importance of taking time to bond with someone and how we can rush into bonding unconsciously and it bypasses the necessary safety checks.
30:33 Saora’s experience of secure, parasympathetic arousal in her life.
32:00 Fears around not being hard or wet enough without “enough” intensity and friction.
33:40 Damian’s porn experiment and how he’s no longer turned on by it.
34:00 men's fear of loosing his hard on and how it relates to attachment styles.
36:50 “Positive dissonance”… How abuse or neglect can be re-calibrated
39:15 How a man with a conscious, loving and gentle cock can be so profoundly healing for a woman cervix.
40:00 How wounds that were created relationally are best heal relationally.
41:50 Co-dependence to independence to interdependence.
55:10 What is feminine devotion.
58:40 What is masculine devotion.
Saora's links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Damien's links
FB: https://www.facebook.com/Damien.Bohler1
IG: https://www.instagram.com/evorelating/
www.evolutionaryrelating.org
This is a deep, beautiful and lively conversation between Joshua Michael Wenner and Saora Love. The explore a broad array of topics all under the umbrella of understanding the opposite sex more, how to love each other well, common problems and helpful solutions.
3:36 Who is Joshua
5:30 Differences between how men and women desire to be loved and the main problems that can arise in the translation.
13:09 The three primary ways to love men.
14:07 The difference between nurturing and fixing/mothering .
15:38 The level of power women have to elevate men through appreciation.
20:27 The ways women can use radiance and sexual flirtation to nurture men.
23:06 The perfection of the design that women can see a mans heart more than he can.
25:11 Tips for women around how to ask requests from men in a way that will be received better.
27:22 Discussion about women sexual breadth and how men desire variety.
31:15 The deep responsibility for women to choose men who they actually trust and respect.
34:00 what does it mean for a woman to feel safe. How does it work and feel in her body.
36:00 leaky/seeky/sneaky energy.
44:50 The ways men can take a woman’s expression personally and how to navigate this.
46:20 The ways women spew their emotions on men, how to take more responsibility and better ways to express without blame/shame.
50:45 How men can solve challenges without being a nice guy/savior and shutting down their needs.
52:14 the ways men tend to compartmentalize parts of them hidden to avoid conflict.
54:11 Women’s intuition and capacity to read a man more than he can, and how man can learn to trust the perfection in this.
57:00 Direct honest communication that creates trust… Why and how it creates trust and safety
1:06:20 Is it more important that men have money or honesty.
1:07 :50 How do we nurture and nourish ourselves first.
Saora's links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Joshua's links:
IG: https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/joshuamichaelwenner
https://www.joshuamichaelwenner.com/
https://www.valorresiliency.com/
https://go.k4men.com/joinGood morning ! Wonderful! This looks so good. Excited to listen & share!
Joshua is an entrepreneur, veteran, filmmaker and emotional resilience expert. He has spent the last 24 years growing companies, maximizing human potential and is the founder of Emotional Resilience Training (ERT) & co-founder of K4 School of Men’s Work & Valor Warrior Resiliency Programs. His coaching, curriculum and frameworks are being used to help high achievers, successful entrepreneurs, men, first responders, veterans & those who deal with high stress and trauma to learn emotional resilience tools to navigate complex emotionally challenging situations to achieve meaningful results. Prior to his current work, Joshua had a successful exit as part of the founding Business Rockstars team, has been an advisor & coach to achievers in multiple entrepreneurial ventures & was on an elite team of 5 of the top trainers & speakers to train fortune 100 companies while working for Tony Robbins
Joshua is currently in post production of his film the Gift of Grief, a personal story of how he turned the pain of his brother’s loss into meaning & purpose including interviews of the top experts in the fields of grief & trauma. The film is expected to be released Jan 2023.
In this episode Saora Love is talking with Bas and Priska Waijers Baumann.
This is a beautiful deep dive into an authentic relationship that is working after years of being together.
They share about their journey as a couple and the things they've learnt both through their own experience and through their experience in coaching couples together.
0:50 Who are Bas and Priska and what do they do?
5:40 What have Bas and Priska had to move through in their relationship.
17:20 How can men meet a womans emotions and emotional needs. How he can really BE there for her. (Using posture and not feel personally attacked) not being afraid of feelings. Wanting her just to stop.
25:50 WHY would a man want to learn to meet a woman emotions without feeling personally attacked. Seeing your partner beyond your own pain.
30:33 being real, and humbling to learn we’ve done something that needs to be changed.
33:55 Being humble… Receiving reflections with grace and how beautiful it can be.
38:20 Polarity. The rigidity of some modern polarity teachings that are around today.
40:00 Bas and Priska’s version of the polarity dance.
45:50 Saora’s tools and practices for being her most juiciest self.
40:50 Priska’s practices for the same.
52:20 What does Saora need from a man to be able to feel in her full feminine flow.
55:27 Saora’s acknowledgement to how much men have to go through to achieve embodiment, and what is required of a woman to attract such a man.
Saora's links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Bas & Priska's links:
instagram.com/the_love_alchemists
FB group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/manifestlovethatlasts/
Email:
Bas & Priska:
Dedicated Coaches, Powerful Healers, Passionate Lovers
Their love-story alone is movie-material: starting with meeting for the very first time in another realm during meditation and continuing with bravely overcoming 1001 obstacles in order to finally be together.
In short: Their love was meant to be and Life pushed them beyond all limits to leave their comfort zones and live united as partners.
Bas and Priska are both licensed coaches and teachers, have a background of various healing techniques and are one-of-a-kind in their field.
They elegantly combine the very down-to-earth tools with spirituality and the power of other realms.
Since 2017 they are supporting singles and couples all around the world in attracting and thriving in magical relationships, exploring the dance of the masculine and the feminine, and experiencing soul-stirring love with much success.
When Human Design and the Gene Keys entered their lives, there was no looking away or turning back. They dedicated themselves to integrate this ancient wisdom into their work.
Life has brought them together not only for their own happiness but also for a bigger mission.
They feel it as their divine duty to do their part in rising the vibration on this planet by supporting singles and couples in attracting, keeping, and sustaining romantic relationships."
In this fun episode Saora Love and Abby Kneipp dive deep into a wide array of topics. But there's a definite thread about responsibility. How can women be more responsible in relationship, how can they inspire more masculinity from their partners, how can they be more responsible with their sexual energy. They also dive into healing through sex and entering from a space of not knowing.
3:18 Abby's introduction.
6:30 Abby’s experiences with her clients lately (how women have a lot of fear and resistance understanding how and why to surrender to the masculine)
11:28 Choosing a partner who you respect enough.
13:35 Being more responsible instead of unconsciously attempting to fill a void
16:17 Start small
19:44 How to let the man win/feel more masculine.
23:36 Moving into intimacy from a space of not knowing.
25:34 Healing through intimacy.
29:26 Responsibility and integrity around sexual energy and how to express it.
56:24 Cycles/menstruation.
01:00:59 Where to find Abby online.
Abby Kneipp
Abby Kneipp is a mystic guide who works with women to awaken their womb magic, embody their pleasure and return home to their power.
Her work is deep and mystical, it’s to be felt and experienced, not just understood on a logical level.
She has spent the last 9 years walking with plant medicine and learning off many indigenous tribes.
She is an author, a romantic and is an advocate for children - to bring an end to child trafficking.
She bridges the ancient into the modern, works with many healing modalities and above all believes that love is the only power there is.
Abby's Links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbykneipp/?hl=en
FB: https://www.facebook.com/abby.kneipp
Saora's links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
3:32 Dominick introduction
4:55 Dominicks unique view into masculine and feminine
10:07 What polarizes and depolarizes in relationships
18:34 When a woman wants a man to be more polarized in his masculine
34:16 Advice for men around being more in their masculine and supporting women being more feminine
40:52 Building trust by reassuring it’s welcome when asking the partner to open up
42:43 Men’s main struggles
45:29 “ask me anything”: how to create safety in the bedroom
04:25 Tobin introduction
08:23 Experimentation and learning in relationships
13:46 Tobin’s previous blindspot
20:29 most common thing to see again and again in couples practice
24:17 Antidote/answer to that
31:29 Punishment as an unconscious defensive barrier in women
40:29 Productive ways that women can communicate with their male partner
50:50 what women desire from men
57:51 being more responsible for choices in partnership
01:03:15 “ask me anything”... What is happening in Saora's life currently.
01:09:05 Where to find Tobin online
Saora Love
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Tobin Zivon has been wholeheartedly dedicated to spiritual awakening and to serving others in the flowering of their highest potential for over 30 years.
Author of books “The Art of Mindful Living” and the forthcoming “Allies in Awakening: Living the Truth of Unconditional Love in Intimate Relationships,” he has been described as “The Ultimate Guide… A rare, exquisite blend of Therapist, Coach, Spiritual Teacher and Tantra Master all wrapped into one.”
He has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them break through stuck patterns and painful dynamics, helping them to find their way into a more fulfilling and connected life of authentic liberation, love and relationship satisfaction.
TobinZivon.com
https://www.facebook.com/tobin.giblin
IG: @tobinzivon
Saora love has a beautiful discussion with Traver Bohem
03:01 Traver introduction
07:04 Tough time for relationships
08:53 Working with women vs working with men
10:32 Saora’s life experiences (“street cred”)
13:28 Main challenges Traver had to move through
21:32 The nice guy syndrome
29:04 What men can do / how to address the nice guy syndrome
37:09 What women can do
45:10 The feminine needing trust and safety. What does this mean.
“Ask me anything”:
01:00:58 Small blindspots in men with a big impact
01:04:25 If you could give men one superpower, what would it be?
01:05:25 If there’s a book you would have every man read, what would it be?
01:05:43 Most impactful book
01:06:40 What do you wish, men knew, what it’s like being in a woman’s body?
01:08:35 Where to find Traver online
Saora Love
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
About Traver Boehm
Traver is the the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the fastest growing men’s movement in the world. He is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized as well as a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster.
Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguard and Mixed Martial Arts to a Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how to better understand men’s mental health and relationship difficulties.
With a passion for people and a unique lens through which to view the human experience, Traver is a highly sought after teacher in the fields of consciousness, relationship, and personal development.
https://www.manuncivilized.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/traverboehmwrites
https://linktr.ee/traverboehm
This episode is jam packed with helpful information. Saora Love is chatting with Cam Fraser about all the things to do with men, their cocks and sex.
They explore how men and women can navigate things that men can struggle with sexually. There's a lot of advice for women around how to navigate challenging terrain with men and how to communicate more effectively.
02:50 Cam introducing himself
10:38 What are the main problems men go through?
16:01 Correlation between trouble with ejaculating (not being able to) and pornography
19:18 Advice for men regarding masturbation practice
26:12 Genital focused sex
28:45 Advice for women around men and sex. Helping men be more vulnerable.
31:00 How women can communicate with men in more conducive ways.
40:35 how to approach a flaccid penis.
43:49 Fundamental keys to a sustainable relationship
52:38 Approach on being non-judgmental
55:33 What women can do to support men
56:46 Going into frustration
58:33 Language used when giving feedback to male partners
01:04 Judging men for expressing emotions
Saora Love:
IG
https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB
https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Cam Fraser:
website
https://www.cam-fraser.com/
IG
https://www.instagram.com/thecamfraser/
FB
https://www.facebook.com/cam.fraser9
Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.