Damien Bohler and Saora explore the super rich territory of attachment styles, how it's our map for bonding, how they effect arousal, how we can become more secure and the effect this has on our sexuality.
9:11 Rewiring the attachment styles.
12:45 The attachment theory in a nutshell. How our attachment style is our map for bonding.
20:02 What is secure attachment.
24:40 Bonding from a secure attachment and how that effects arousal in a different way.
25:53 The importance of taking time to bond with someone and how we can rush into bonding unconsciously and it bypasses the necessary safety checks.
30:33 Saora’s experience of secure, parasympathetic arousal in her life.
32:00 Fears around not being hard or wet enough without “enough” intensity and friction.
33:40 Damian’s porn experiment and how he’s no longer turned on by it.
34:00 men's fear of loosing his hard on and how it relates to attachment styles.
36:50 “Positive dissonance”… How abuse or neglect can be re-calibrated
39:15 How a man with a conscious, loving and gentle cock can be so profoundly healing for a woman cervix.
40:00 How wounds that were created relationally are best heal relationally.
41:50 Co-dependence to independence to interdependence.
55:10 What is feminine devotion.
58:40 What is masculine devotion.
Saora's links
IG: https://www.instagram.com/saoralove/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/saoralove82/
Damien's links
FB: https://www.facebook.com/Damien.Bohler1
IG: https://www.instagram.com/evorelating/
www.evolutionaryrelating.org