Are you tired of swiping without real connection? Life Coach Stephanie Nicoletti joins The Lonely Chapter to share how to date with purpose, build meaningful connections, and finally find “the one” in a year.
In this conversation, we explore what it means to date intentionally, understand your attachment style, and recognise the red and green flags that can make or break a relationship.
Stephanie also shares why self-awareness, communication, and emotional honesty are the foundations of real love in the modern world.
→ Book: Dating With Purpose
→ Stephanie on Instagram: @lifecoach_stephanie
→ Sam on Instagram: @lonelychapterpodcast
Sebastien Page joins Sam to unpack The Psychology of Leadership: why listening beats talking, how sports psychology helps leaders use stress as fuel, and why “quitting” can be a top leadership move.
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What if changing one word could change your life?
In this episode, Clarity Consultant Kyle Smith joins Sam to explore how language, self-talk, and storytelling shape our identity and mindset.
From conflict vs. architect language to the stories we tell ourselves, this is a masterclass in how to rewire your mind through the words you choose.
We talk about:
• Reframing trauma and perception
• Why soft talk limits progress
• How to feed your “inner role model”
• Taking ownership through language
• Identity vs. identifying — who are you really?
🔗 Connect with Kyle Smith:
• The Clarity Collective (free 7-day Soft Talk Essentials): https://www.skool.com/clarity-collective-1002
• Instagram: @dapperdudekyle
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Instagram: @lonelychapterpodcast
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In this episode of The Lonely Chapter, I dive into 5 life-changing ideas I’ve been thinking about recently.
From psychology to philosophy, these concepts have made me pause, reflect, and shift how I see things.
I’ll explore:
The region beta paradox and why “not that bad” can be the most dangerous place to stay
The power of validating emotions in conversations
Identity vs. identify — and why letting go matters
The Buddhist parable of the second arrow
The hedonic treadmill and why success never feels like enough
Take a moment to reflect on these alongside me — and let me know which one resonates most with you.
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In this episode of The Lonely Chapter, I sit down with Shaun Dillon — a contemporary dancer and choreographer known for his bold, uncompromising style and his ability to turn raw human instinct into powerful movement.
Shaun opens up about how dance became an outlet for his anger as a teenager, why embracing vulnerability and chaos has shaped his creative voice, and the lessons he’s learned about burnout, balance, and the danger of tying your identity entirely to work.
We also explore his passion for education, the importance of giving young people purpose, and how dance can transform lives far beyond the stage.
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dillon_dance
Website: https://dillondance.co.uk
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In this episode of The Lonely Chapter, I’m joined by author and strategist Nathan Smolensky to explore how we can rethink politics as a force for connection instead of division.
Nathan shares insights from his new book Common Ground from the Ground Up and reveals why persuasion has become a lost art — and how we can bring it back into our conversations with friends, family, and communities.
Topics we cover include:
➤ How to discuss politics without damaging relationships
➤ Why outrage and conflict often dominate today’s media
➤ The hidden effects of social media bubbles on political division
➤ Understanding political violence as part of a deeper societal issue
➤ How focusing on policy over ideology helps find common ground
➤ Practical strategies to have better conversations and bridge divides
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If you’re interested in improving political conversations and building understanding in your community, this episode is for you.
—Sam 🧡
Philosophy isn’t just abstract theory — it’s a toolkit for living. In this episode, we talk with Jamie Ryder, author of the Wisdom Traditions of the World series, about how timeless wisdom can be applied to mental health, leadership, and everyday resilience.
Jamie’s books — including Japanese Philosophy, Viking Wisdom, and his latest, History’s Greatest Philosophers — explore how figures like Michel de Montaigne, Niccolò Machiavelli, and Albert Camus can help us live fuller, richer lives.
We also dive into his concept of “stealth help” — a unique blend of self-development, history, and pop culture that makes philosophy accessible and practical.
If you’ve ever wondered how philosophy can help with stress, parenting, or building better habits, this episode offers grounded insights and stories that connect the past with the present.
What do triathlons teach you about resilience, and how can endurance sports prepare you for life’s hardest battles?In this episode of The Lonely Chapter, I sit down with Dr Jeffrey Reynolds — public service leader, triathlete, and author of Every Mile Matters. With over 30 triathlons completed (including Ironman 70.3 and a full 140.6), Jeffrey never expected his training to prepare him for something far greater: a dual cancer diagnosis.Expect to learn:- How triathlon training built the discipline, mindset, and resilience he needed during cancer treatment- Why early detection is critical for prostate and colorectal cancer- The role of fitness, community, and mental health in recovery- Practical lessons on handling grief, leadership, and life’s unchosen challenges- Why endurance sports are about far more than finish linesDr Reynolds has spent over three decades leading health and human service organisations, advocating for addiction recovery, mental health, and social justice — and now shares how both chosen and unchosen difficulties can shape us for the better.🎧 Listen now for an inspiring conversation on resilience, fitness, and the unexpected ways our challenges prepare us for what lies ahead.🔗 Connect with Dr Jeffrey Reynolds🌐 Website: https://www.everymilematters.com📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjeffreyreynolds💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjeffreyreynolds/🎙️ Connect with The Lonely Chapter Podcast📲 Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lonelychapterpodcast/
Serena Williams recently spoke about GLP-1 weight loss drugs like Ozempic, Wegovy, and semaglutide — saying we should lift the stigma around their use.
In this solo reflection, I explore:
Are GLP-1s a shortcut or a solution?
The hidden risks of relying on injections — muscle loss, nutrient deficiencies, and eating like you’re starving.
Why lasting results depend on mindset and habits more than medication.
Why I see GLP-1s as a potential last resort — but never the whole plan.
This episode isn’t just about weight loss injections. It’s about how we approach health, how easily we reach for quick fixes, and what it really takes to create sustainable change.
💬 Connect with me on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lonelychapterpodcast/
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Most leaders focus on skills and strategies — but Ryan Gottfredson, Ph.D., bestselling author of Success Mindsets and The Elevated Leader, explains why real leadership growth comes from your mindset. In this episode, you’ll learn how to shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, the difference between doing vs. being in leadership, and why vertical development is the missing piece for transformation.
We dive into:
The difference between doing vs. being in leadership
The four key mindset shifts (fixed→growth, closed→open, prevention→promotion, inward→outward)
Vertical development: why it matters and how to achieve it
Practical tools like journaling, coaching, and reframing failure
Wherever you are in your leadership journey, this episode will give you a framework to become someone others truly want to follow.
🔗 Resources & Links
Take Ryan’s free Mindset Assessment → https://ryangottfredson.com
Connect with Ryan on social → https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryangottfredson
Find Ryan’s books → Success Mindsets, The Elevated Leader, Becoming Better
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What if binge eating and overeating weren’t signs you’re broken — but simply habits you can change?
In this episode of The Lonely Chapter, I’m joined by Amber Abila, founder of The Confident Eater, who shares her journey from years of binge eating and food guilt to finding freedom, confidence, and trust in herself.
We explore:
Why binge eating is often a brain habit — not a personal failure
The “shame bubble” and how to escape it
Practical tools to stop overeating without diets or restriction
How to rewire your brain and rebuild self-trust with food
Why curiosity and kindness matter more than willpower
Amber’s story is packed with tools, mindset shifts, and hope for anyone struggling with food or self-confidence.
👉 Find Amber here:
Website & resources: theconfidenteater.org
Podcast: Become a Confident Eater
Instagram: @theconfidenteater
Free Facebook Group: Become a Confident Eater
Wherever this finds you, thanks for listening. If you enjoyed this episode, follow the show and share it with someone who needs to hear it.
James Rossano-Bull has spent over 25 years in the UK Fire Service — but nothing could prepare him for the day he responded to his own mother’s emergency. In this episode, James shares his journey through PTSD, grief, and recovery, and the lessons he’s learned about mental health in frontline services.
We talk about:
The hidden cost of trauma in the fire service
Leadership vs management in high-pressure roles
Using fitness and endurance challenges to protect your mental health
Speaking out, breaking stigma, and finding personal coping strategies
Links from James:
Black Dog Run Club YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@blackdogrunclub
PTSD 999: https://www.ptsd999.org.uk
The Fire Fighters Charity: https://www.firefighterscharity.org.uk
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What do a session musician, a former professional footballer, a grief expert, a nutritionist, and a hormone specialist have in common?
They each shared a lesson that’s stayed with me — and in this episode, I break down the 5 insights that genuinely changed how I think.
We cover:
The link between low testosterone and mental health
Why creatine might be just as useful for your brain as your body
How to let go of control and focus on what you can change
Why some songs instantly transport us to another time
And how grief requires stillness, not rushing forward
These lessons come from some of the most memorable recent episodes of The Lonely Chapter — and if you're new here, this is the perfect starting point.
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What happens when everything you’ve worked for disappears overnight?
In this deeply honest conversation, former professional footballer Mark O’Brien shares his journey from debuting in the Championship at 16, to undergoing open-heart surgery… and eventually being forced to retire at just 27 years old.
We explore:
His early career at Derby County
The physical and emotional toll of injury
Mental health and identity after retirement
That unforgettable goal at Newport County
What it really takes to rebuild your life
Recorded live at Rodney Parade, this is a story of resilience, vulnerability, and what comes after the dream ends.
👉 If this episode resonates, follow the podcast — it helps more people find conversations like this.
Join us as we explore human performance and leadership with Lee Eldridge, the founder of Cognitive Athlete.
Lee helps business leaders optimize their output in high-pressure environments and build healthy routines.
He shares insights on managing stress, defining success, and becoming better leaders and individuals.
Key Takeaways:
- Defining Success: Learn how to create a clear and exciting vision for success.
- Understanding Your Values: Discover how your values impact your actions and leadership style.
- Stress Management: Gain practical strategies for managing stress and preventing burnout.
- Holistic Performance: Lee's approach emphasises overall well-being, including relationships and health.
Topics Discussed:
- Lee’s journey into human performance coaching and his work with business leaders.
- The Cognitive Athlete's mission to help leaders regain control and thrive.
- The importance of self-leadership and accessing internal resources for long-term change.
- How executive coaching can improve a leader's performance and accelerate their development.
- The challenges of leadership and the value of having an unbiased sounding board.
- Specific advice for business dads on improving relationships, health, and performance.
Relevant Links:
Cognitive Athlete: https://cognitiveathlete.co.uk
Lee Eldridge on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/lee-eldridge
The Lonely Chapter Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/lonelychapterpodcast/
What if you don’t need to have it all figured out?
In this solo episode, I talk about the pressure to have a perfect plan, how following your interests has shaped my path, and why being “off track” might be the best thing for you.
From leaving personal training to becoming a firefighter and starting this podcast — this is a reflection on letting go of timelines, chasing curiosity, and finding peace in uncertainty.
If you’re feeling behind, overwhelmed, or unsure of your direction — this might be the reminder you need.
🔗 Let’s keep the conversation going on Instagram: @LonelyChapterPodcast
In this episode of The Lonely Chapter, I’m joined by solo traveller and content creator Tsvety Roo, who shares how traveling alone helped her heal from a deep sense of loneliness and disconnection.
Born in Bulgaria and raised in the USA, Tsvety opens up about her unique upbringing, the emotional challenges she faced, and the bold decision to start traveling the world solo. Through honest storytelling and practical insight, she reveals how solo travel became a path to self-discovery, empowerment, and connection.
We talk about:
What led Tsvety to begin solo traveling after a period of loneliness
The lessons she’s learned from being alone in unfamiliar countries
Her best safety tips for solo female travellers
How she stays grounded and connected while on the road
Advice for anyone feeling stuck or afraid to take that first solo step
If you’ve ever felt lost, lonely, or unsure of what comes next, this episode is for you.
👉 Listen now and ask yourself: Would you do this alone?
In this episode of The Lonely Chapter podcast, author and podcast host Teri M. Brown joins us to explore why people are drawn to books and storytelling.We dive into her personal journey as a writer, how writing helps her navigate complex and difficult topics, and her inspiring tandem bike journey across the USA with her husband. Whether you’re a book lover, aspiring writer, or adventure enthusiast, this conversation offers unique insights into the power of reading and writing.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:- Why books captivate us and the joy of reading- Teri M. Brown’s path from reader to author- How writing can be a tool for exploring challenging life experiences- The story behind Teri’s cross-country tandem bike trip- Tips and inspiration for writers and readers alikeTeri's Website: https://www.terimbrown.com/Enjoyed this episode? Subscribe to The Lonely Chapter on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite platform. Don’t forget to leave a review and share with others!
In this powerful episode, Lisa Sugarman, co-host of The Survivors Podcast and founder of The Help Hub, shares her deeply personal journey of losing her father and having to grieve twice after uncovering the truth 35 years later.
We explore Lisa’s mental health advocacy, why she started The Help Hub, practical advice on how to have compassionate, effective conversations with someone who may be struggling with their mental health, and much more.
Lisa also discusses the importance of breaking stigma, especially among men, and how we can create safer spaces for open dialogue.
What You’ll Learn:
- Lisa’s story of grief, healing, and resilience
- How to approach difficult mental health conversations with empathy and care
- Tips for supporting someone who is struggling or feeling isolated
- Why mental health advocacy matters and how The Help Hub is making a difference
- Strategies to encourage more men to talk openly about their mental health
- The impact of long-term grief and the power of uncovering hidden truths
Why Listen:
If you want to better understand how to support loved ones facing mental health challenges or are interested in mental health advocacy, this episode offers heartfelt insights and actionable advice from someone who has turned personal pain into a mission to help others.
Resources & Links:
Lisa Sugarman’s The Help Hub: thehelphub.co
In this compelling episode, I sit down with renowned couples therapist Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore the deeper truths behind lasting relationships.
Discover the 7-word secret to couples therapy and why communication isn't usually the real problem couples face.
Dr. Chalmer shares his expert insights on balancing intimacy vs stability, the critical role of trust in relationships, and whether full trust can ever be rebuilt after betrayal.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
- Why traditional communication advice often misses the mark in couples therapy
- How couples can recognise and escape the “death spiral” between stability and intimacy
- The surprising ways betrayal can either break or strengthen a relationship
- Practical steps to rebuild trust after infidelity or other breaches
- The importance of emotional safety and vulnerability in long-term partnerships
About Dr. Bruce Chalmer:
Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a leading couples therapist and author known for his fresh perspectives on intimacy, trust, and healing in relationships. His work challenges common assumptions and offers practical, compassionate guidance for couples seeking deeper connection.
Connect & Support the Show:
Bruce's website: https://brucechalmer.com
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