Solo episode :)
If you do not start building yourself to be a someone today, whether its social media, entrepreneurship, social justice etc. you'll never have the established platform to in the future. This means that in the longevity game you loose.
In an equation...
Wasting time = zero compounding = you loose
Allow me to make it make sense to you...
This week I welcome on my best friend, Arlo Wilson!
On this episode we are talking Arlo's coming out story, the homophobia rhetoric in Africa, and a bit of 4 worlds: Zambia, South Africa, Kenya, and the United Kingdom.
Thank you for coming bestie <3
For more of Arlo, check out their Instagram: @arlo.wilson161
Episode Breakdown
01:04 Introduction
02:30 Arlo's Coming Out Story
04:03 The History of Anti-Gay Rhetoric in Africa
05:29 Homophobia in Zambia
08:20 Racial and Cultural Divides Post-Colonialism
13:00 Do You Miss Zambia?
14:50 Homophobia and Religion?
17:36 Changing An African Narrative
19:08 What Should People Know About The LGBTQ+ Community?
21:09 How Should Africa Support The LGBTQ+ Community?
22:56 The Message People Miss Behind Homophobia
25:53 Would You Recommend Moving To The UK?
30:20 PAUSE - Let's Speak Tattoos...
33:21 20 And No Longer Kids
34:27 Outro
36:03 Episode Extra's
Nureyn Mwang'ombe joins me to speak about his time in Kenya, the United Kingdom, and the Islam faith.
After 9 years of knowing Nureyn, we dive into a few memories from Prep, share a few laughs and investigate further what it's like growing up in the UK, taking a 3 year expedition to Kenya, and being Muslim in a non-Muslim country.
For more of Nureyn, check out his Instagram: @nureyn.m
Episode Breakdown
00:43 Introduction
02:40 The Ghost Of Nairobi
05:06 Nureyn's Exhibition To Nairobi; Uncovered
07:00 How Impactful Was Kenya To Your Life?
11:08 How Different Is The UK To Kenya?
16:21 The Code-Switching Phenomena
18:39 Which International Prep School Was The Best At Rugby?
24:19 Boarding School - Good Or Bad Choice?
26:05 How Is It To Be Muslim As A Minority In The UK?
30:31 Would You Live In A Country That Doesn't Have Faith?
33:06 What's One Thing You Wish People Knew About Islam?
36:40 What's All This Talk About Having Multiple Wives: An Explanation Of Polygamy In The Muslim Faith
40:47 How Did You End Up Not Picking A Mainstream Degree?
43:55 Last Words
Join me this week to explore the story of a Kenyan musician taking on Rwanda!
This week I am joined by Kevin Kuria.
We will unravel his journey growing up in Kenya and taking on his music career, as well as get a sneak peak into the life of a Kenyan living in Rwanda.
From funny to empowering, debunking Rwanda, and a layered conversation underpinning life beyond education...tune in!
For more of Kevin Kuria (and his guitar) check out his Instagram page:
@K.u.r.i.a
For a sneak peak to his music watch this video:
https://youtu.be/Tf1_H155zUg?si=N7_PYjA6RTyaCUZI
Thank you for sharing your story with us Kevin!
Episode Breakdown
1:09 Introduction
02:25 Debunking Kevin's Catchphrases
05:00 Short Fire Questions About Rwanda
14:57 The Future Of Kevin: Rwanda or Kenya?
16:21 Let's Talk Music: Kevin's Musical Journey
19:25 Religion Meets Music Which Meets Kevin; "Strumming For The Lord"
24:49 Pack Your Bags... Kevin Moves To Rwanda
30:26 Will Artifical Intelligence Replace Music?
32:09 A Short Segment on Kinyarwanda
32:48 Has Music Changed Your Life?
35:17 Boarding School?
36:58 Religion Talks: Why Do So Many International Students Suddenly Become So Religious?
40:52 Why Rwanda, Kevin?
42:51 I Want To Move To Rwanda...What Advice Would You Give Me?
44:37 Last Words From Kevin
45:47 Outro
Yes, I decided to host a mid-week intervention... It's mixture of fiction, self-help, and novels.
Here are my 5 book recommendations for everyone. Books I hated, then loved, then hated, then adored!
Why these books? You'll find out!
I hope I could bring you slight joy during the week!
The 5 books are:
I hope you have a lovely 2 days... till we speak again!
An accent; the way you sound when you speak.
Sometimes the way you speak sounds like everyone around you and sometimes it is the only one of it's kind in a bed of rosses. Even though, an accent can determine your quality of life in some places and in others, it brings you closer to the people just like you.
From accent kinks to prejudices, this episode is all about accents!
On this weeks episode I welcome my dearest sister: Paula Kioko on a conversation that breaks down the holistic story of our sisterhood, hosted by the sister duo you never knew you needed.
For more of Paula Kioko,
Check out her Instagram handles:
@paulareadss @paulakioko
Thanks for coming big sis <3
Episode Breakdown
1:05 Introduction
1:30 Childhood Memories
4:40 Wise Words From Paula; Unpacking The Lessons My Sister Has Taught Me Along The Way
11:55 How Paula Kioko Got To Living And Working In The UK
16:10 Debunking What It Is Like To Live In The UK; Is It Worth It?
28:25 How Moving Away Impacted Our Faith
38:10 My Sister On How South Africa Changed Me
40:15 The Miserable-Plenty Paradox Of Living Internationally
47:10 If I Was To Move To The UK, What Would You Tell Me?
52:20 Last Words
54:10 Bloopers
What's more important to you - dreams or your bank account digits?
Let's speak about it on this episode covering logic, emotions, and even age.
Here is a copy of the review of a book that summarises the 5 biggest regrets of the dead->The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3377309/#:~:text=1)%20%E2%80%9CI%20wish%20I',myself%20be%20happier%E2%80%9D%20(p.
More of Australian author Broonie Ware: https://bronnieware.com/
The life of an African goes beyond comapare...
Everyone goes through it....
Let's talk about it on this weeks episode!
Let me guess, you have more older friends? You prefer spending time with older friends? Your circle is 2 years older than you?
This week i'm speaking about older friends and younger friends unpacking dynamics, differences, how it is to be in either, and more.
Tune in!
In this episode this is the definition of the following terms:
So which is better? Let's unpack it on this weeks episode!
I wan't to fall in love with my life again in 2024. To do so, let's look back at the lessons I learned in 2023 that changed my entire being.
What did you leave behind last year? Who did you live behind last year? What did this all teach you? Maybe your being changed completely as well... Hey! sit down with me and maybe I can hear you hear me :)
Tune in to the first episode of the year!
Pod Website: https://kiokoelsie.wixsite.com/lifeofakenyan
Pod Instagram: https://instagram.com/thelifeofakenyanwnik?igshid=NGVhN2U2NjQ0Yg==
Happy New Year to the Life of a Kenyan Who's Never in Kenya family <3 HOW I'VE MISSED YOU!!
Welcome to a new series of the podcast investigating a Kenyan life abroad. This year will be full of discovery, building more of a relationship between you and , and adventuring into a holistic view of a Kenyan life abroad.
For the video accompanying the introduction check out the podcast Instagram @thelifeofakenyanmwnik
Speak to you soon!
This week i'm discussing the dualistic compass between staying true to your roots vs assimilating yourself into the culture you're new to.
This is the last episode of the year. I hope you have a lovely December holiday and you have an amazing start to your 24' - Have fun and i'll speak to you soon <3
Website:https://kiokoelsie.wixsite.com/lifeofakenyan
Instagram page: https://instagram.com/thelifeofakenyanwnik?igshid=NGVhN2U2NjQ0Yg==
An argument of silence is defined as the drawing of a conclusion based on the silence of another person when the other person is refusing to give evidence for any reason as to their unstated evidence [https://www.logicallyfallacious.com/logicalfallacies/Argument-from-Silence]
I.e. a silent argument is when a person refuses to state their problem and the other person - based on their human receptiveness - must decide to draw a conclusion on the other persons actions and emotions EVEN THOUGH the other person never stated the problem????
Am I the only one confused?? Yes....but have I used this tactic before? Y E S, You know I have!
Today i'll speak about my opinions and outlook on silent arguments (also known as "the silent treatment").
We all know that one friend who never let's you get better. Like these type of people DON'T rest; there's always something you've done wrong, said wrong, worn wrong, and at this point your whole existence has been wrong in their eyes.
Laughing, right? it's funny but for real... always handing you that 8th glass of alcohol even though you said you were giving up drinking OR should we speak about the sly person who REGARDLESS of the situation makes backhanded and offside comments and you only realise when you get home they were talking about you?!?!
Oh yes, that's the exact person we are speaking about today - the person who brings the so-called "spice" and "flavour" into your life until you realise that they are just really insecure (how times change...sigh)
Tune in!
This weeks playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6V8U3HAqu3Q9q1h1dm1qBd?si=0cebc4ffe5c64d84
Website:https://kiokoelsie.wixsite.com/lifeofakenyan
Instagram page: https://instagram.com/thelifeofakenyanwnik?igshid=NGVhN2U2NjQ0Yg==
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Discussing the environment around self-discovery; tips and the effects of friends.
Tune in!
This weeks playlist:https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6V8U3HAqu3Q9q1h1dm1qBd?si=488fa04e8f83416e
Instagram page: https://instagram.com/thelifeofakenyanwnik?igshid=NGVhN2U2NjQ0Yg==
Tell me you haven't pulled out this line before...
"They should've known better than to do that to me" "They should've known better than to say such a thing"
"They should've known better than to break my trust"
Sounds familiar?
We have this tendency to believe that people have this ordained way of acting that aligns in exact replication of everything we want, and is SUPPOSEDLY utter perfection in a world we know is imperfect.
Look, I get it. Everyone wishes that they could have their flawless Cinderella story where Prince Charming for some heavenly reason knows everything you want when you want it... Truth is life isn't a fairytale and to what extent can we "know better" when we are creatures of habit and learn through mistakes... Guess that's the stuff they never taught you in Life Orientation.
On this weeks episode, I will speak about the phrase "they should have known better" and it's applicability in our modern world.
I hope you enjoy!
This weeks playlist:https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6V8U3HAqu3Q9q1h1dm1qBd?si=488fa04e8f83416e
Instagram page: https://instagram.com/thelifeofakenyanwnik?igshid=NGVhN2U2NjQ0Yg==
Website:https://kiokoelsie.wixsite.com/lifeofakenyan
Let me guess, you've also had that era in your life where you thought being extremely nice was the solution to social situations... I've been there and this episode discusses my reflections after forfeiting that era.
Tune in!
This weeks playlist:https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6V8U3HAqu3Q9q1h1dm1qBd?si=cca445fb2bd44add
What's the honest truth about having loads of friends? it's not as glamours as it sets itself out to be. Now don't get me wrong, each person you get to interact with is unique and authentic, but have you ever asked yourself how it is when every single person is unique and authentic, when you have to cater to over 1000 unique and authentic people? Pretty intense if you ask me...
I mean ask yourself this: quality over quantity Okay...quantity is fun to go out with, spices up your life.... but quality is irreplaceable, authentic, loving and always there for you. Quantity is like the distanced cousin whereas quality is your immediate family. You get what i'm saying?
This week I am going to discuss the realities about being blessed enough to have a wide scale of friends. The downsides, factual truths and more.
I hope you enjoy!
This weeks playlist (for dancing around with your favorite friends - the quality ones): https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6V8U3HAqu3Q9q1h1dm1qBd?si=a6b890a636e84b0e
Go check out the new podcast instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/thelifeofakenyanwnik/?igshid=NGVhN2U2NjQ0Yg%3D%3D