What you will learn in this episode:
- The most common communication challenges men experience in their marriages.
- The impact that communication challenges have on your relationship with your partner and how your partner is feeling.
- Strategies for identifying the personal communication challenges you are struggling with.
- Choosing which communication habits resonated with you the most and how to implement them.
- Integrating these exercises into your daily life to improve your communication skills in your home and work life.
- Implementing active listening techniques in your relationship.
- How to best respond when your partner is not using active listening techniques.
- Communicating your needs and desires more effectively to your partner.
- Handling communication breakdowns in a more productive way.
- Strategies to prevent communication breakdowns from happening in the first place.
- How to incorporate & practice active listening
- How to build upon & strengthen your current communication skills to strengthen your relationship with your partner.
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#Communication #Activelistening #Improvecommunication
What you will learn in this episode:
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#trust #physicaltrust #financialtrust
What you will learn in this episode as well as questions to ask yourself and your partner to gain clarity & traction quickly!
Ways to rebuild competence trust by improving decision-making and follow-through skills
What specific decision-making or follow-through skills do you need to work on to rebuild trust in your relationship?
What specific actions can you take to improve your decision-making and follow-through skills?
How can you hold yourself accountable to follow through on commitments and decisions?
How can you communicate your decisions and actions to your partner in a way that builds trust?
What barriers or challenges might you encounter in rebuilding competence trust, and how can you overcome them?
What support or resources do you need to successfully rebuild competence trust in your relationship?
What systems & structure can you put into place to ensure that you will be consistently rebuilding competency & reliability trust?
Tips for rebuilding communication trust by being honest and transparent with your partner:
What fears or concerns do you have about being honest and transparent with your partner?
How can you communicate your feelings and needs in a way that is honest and respectful?
How can you actively listen to your partner and validate their perspective?
What specific steps can you take to rebuild trust through honest and transparent communication?
How can you repair trust if you have been dishonest in the past?
What role does empathy play in rebuilding communication trust, and how can you cultivate it in your relationship?
Techniques for improving communication skills and building a deeper understanding of each other's needs and perspectives:
What communication patterns or habits do you need to change to build a deeper understanding in your relationship?
How can you actively listen to your partner and seek to understand their perspective?
How can you express your own needs and feelings in a way that is clear and respectful?
What techniques can you use to avoid defensiveness and conflict when discussing difficult topics?
How can you build empathy and understanding for your partner's perspective, even if you don't agree with them?
What role does self-reflection and self-awareness play in building a deeper understanding in your relationship?
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#communication #trust #marriage
What you will learn in this episode:
- The 6 Trust Types
- How they are broken
- How they can be repaired
- Why you are breaking trust and How to stop repeating the cycle
- Our story of how we broke and repaired each one of these
- An exercise you can use to start doing the work now!
- Much More!
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#trust #relationship #marriage
What you will learn in this episode:
The hidden ways trust is broken
What your wife is thinking and how she feels
How the little things add up to be a big deal
What causes trust issues in a relationship
What you can do to start to course correct
Examples from our marriage on how we rebuilt
Systems & Strategies you can use now.
Your value outside of provider and protector
The Replaceable Man Avatars
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#trust #relationship #theirreplaceableman
Episode 306 dives deep into the journey of personal growth and development in both individuals and as a couple. We discuss how being a work in progress and how taking ownership of your own growth can benefit not only yourself but also your partner.
One common theme that we explore is the idea of men feeling like they have no other value in the world besides money. We challenge this notion and talk about how bad behavior can become a reflection of fear, and how showing up as the man your partner needs you to be is an important part of creating a strong, healthy relationship.
We also address the unfair expectation that wives need to do all the work in marriage and the assumption that women do not need us just because they are strong. We discuss how mother's instincts and trauma triggers can impact relationships and marriages and the importance of addressing these issues head-on.
Throughout the episode, we stress the importance of communication and building a strong bond of trust between partners. We talk about how changing doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner will automatically trust those changes.If you want to improve your relationship with your partner or even just yourself, check out our website and apply to join our community https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/.
Quick Timestamps 00:01:53 What Meredith’s Thought Process Was When She Was About to Leave 00:04:33 When Ian’s Replaceability Began 00:05:01 Being in a Delusional State 00:06:56 Husbands Expecting Wives to Do All the Work 00:09:48 Attaching Your Value On Money 00:11:00 The Misconception Behind Being a Mediocre Husband 00:13:37 Building the Life You Want vs. Facing the Regret in the Future 00:15:16 The Assumption That Our Wives Do Not Need Us Because They Are “Strong” 00:16:40 The 12 Patterns Guide 00:22:04 Natural Motherly Instinct 00:27:24 Being Constantly Busy Is An Excuse 00:28:57 Trauma Triggers 00:30:11 Changing Doesn’t Mean Your Wife Would Automatically Trust Those Changes 00:37:10 The Karma Gross 00:42:31 Putting Down the Fear of Being Judged 00:44:21 Trusting Yourself Through Evidence-Based Action 00:50:37 The Toxicity of Not Addressing Problems 00:56:01 Membership Announcement
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#PersonalGrowthAndDevelopment
#HealthyRelationships
#CommunicationIsKey
Episode 305 examines the choice between victimhood and taking ownership of your life, and how it impacts your success.
In this episode, Raylen Davis from the Elevated Coaches Academy joins us to discuss the power of leaning into discomfort to achieve success. We explore the importance of focusing on the emotional and inner self, and how mentorship can be a powerful tool for growth.
We also discuss the detrimental effects of creating meaning around things and the steps to take in turning your life around. Raylen shares insights on choosing between victimhood and letting go of it, and decoding the formula for success. Taking full ownership and responsibility of your life and marriage is essential to finding fulfillment, as is being present and understanding your authentic desires. We delve into how to access the power that is already within you, the benefits of slowing down to speed up, and how a serving mindset and language can transform your life.
As Raylen says, "purpose comes from pain." Join us as we explore this concept and gain valuable insights on how to live a more purposeful life. Listen to the episode and learn more from https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/.
Quick Timestamps
00:04:47 Raylen Story About Programming
00:06:47 Leaning Into Two Things for Success
00:07:46 Focusing on the Emotional Side (the inner self)
8:27-9:56 IAN GOLD
00:09:58 Power of Mentorship
00:12:06 Creating Meaning Around Things
00:12:59 Raylen’s Defining Moment
00:16:10 Creating Meaning Around Things
00:16:34 Decoding the Victim and Success Formula
16:59-18:15 IAN GOLD
00:18:55 Taking Full Ownership and Responsibility
19:41-20:52 IAN GOLD
21:34-23:46 IAN GOLD: Ball Off the Foot
00:23:57 Taking Responsibility
00:25:55 Being Present
00:31:04 Understanding What You Want
31:56-36:50 IAN GOLD: Defining Success
00:37:14 Self-Mastery by Robert Green
00:38:00 Power vs. Force
00:38:39 How to Access the Power That Is Already in You
42:57-44:19 IAN GOLD: Slowing Down
45:22 - 47:36 Should & Could Mindset
00:47:38 Power of Cold Plunge
00:49:07 Serving or Not Serving
01:00:00 Purpose Comes From Pain
Books or Articles mentioned: Self-Mastery by Robert Green & Power vs. Force by David Hawking
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#victimhood #takingresponsibility #purposefrompain
In this episode, we explore the transformative power of affirmations and how they can help us create the life we desire.
Our guest, Garrain Jones — shares his personal journey of overcoming adversity and how he used affirmations to change his mindset and manifest his dreams. He emphasizes the importance of creating a personal formula and blueprint for our lives, and how this can help us become irreplaceable individuals as a whole. We delve into the role of energy transmutation in turning negative experiences into positive ones and how it can help us cultivate inner peace.
Through personal stories and insights, Garrain and I discuss the importance of surrendering to the universe, being true to ourselves, and using affirmations to align our thoughts and actions with our deepest desires.
QUICK TIMESTAMPS
6:57 Garrain’s Story
08:22 -09:12 When a Giant Mountain Is on You
09:28 - 10:38 Mom Taught Me to Be Calm
12:40 No One Is Coming to Save You
13:54 Voluntary Discomfort
17:33 Training Your Life Force for Calm Inner Energy
23:02 - 23:32 Whats Easy to Do Is Easy Not to Do
23:33 Moving to LA and Becoming a Model
26:12:00 Not Letting Other People’s Good Opinions Get To You
35:06:00 Channeling Inner Peace Through Surrender
43:24:00 You Cannot See the Picture From in the Frame
48:37:00 Cranking up the Obsession of Perseverance
49:42:00 Losing Authenticity
52:32:00 Hitting Rock Bottom and Casting the Vision
54:46:00 Energy Can’t Be Destroyed, It Can Only Be Transmuted
56:45:00 Don’t Let Your Life Be Stolen
1:01:03 Being an Irreplaceable Husband
1:01:18 Creating Your Formula and Blueprint for Your Life
1:06:45 Creating Powerful Affirmations for Yourself
1:11:42 The Universe Becomes Plastic When You Become Who You Are Designed to Be
1:12:02 - 1:14:58 IAN GOLD
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❤️ Website: garrainjones.com
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📚 Book: Mental Makeover
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#irreplaceableman #affirmations #transformation
As men, we have a natural desire to provide for our families and achieve success in our careers. Frankly, this is how most men avoid dealing with their problems. And the problem with that is it hurts the people we say we are working hard for. I remember Meredith saying to me, “You say you're running the race for us, however every time you get a chance to celebrate with your family, you run right by us.” That hurt and hit deep. She was right. I was saying one thing and doing another. I was acting as a business man that happened to have a family. My life changed when I met Jon Vroman who introduced me to the concept of being a family man with a business and the mindset shift that came with it. The pursuit of professional goals can sometimes come at the expense of our family life.
Jon and I discuss the challenges of balancing family and business, and share insights on how to prioritize both aspects of our lives family first. We explore strategies for setting boundaries, managing our time, and communicating effectively with our loved ones.
Our guest, Jon Vroman — shares his personal experiences and the lessons he has learned as he navigated through the competing demands of work and family. He offers practical advice on his website https://frontrowdads.com/ on how to maintain a healthy balance making him an irreplaceable family man with a business.
Quick Timestamps
09:19-11:13 IAN GOLD: Finding the Most Serving Mentor
00:11:20 Jon’s Story
00:14:09 Family Men With Businesses
15:39-18:48 IAN GOLD: Misalignment Kills
00:19:07 Checking In on Your Ego
23:23-27:01 IAN GOLD: Living a Regret-Free Life
00:27:11 Buying Back Your Time
29:07-31:29 IAN GOLD: Feeling Insecure
00:31:31 Leadership Imposter Syndrome
00:30:55 Relationship With Significance
00:35:46 Wisdom Should Be Crowdsourced Responsibly
35:36-36:00 IAN GOLD: Balancing the All or Nothing Mentality
00:36:08 Being Present
00:36:22 Designing Your Life for Success in All Areas
00:39:11 Paying Attention to What’s Working and Not
00:40:08 Sticking With the Challenges in Business
00:42:00 Formula for Constraints That Serve Your Strengths
00:45:09
Conquering Fears Around Growing a Team
00:48:44 Systems That Help Us Be Conscious
00:51:43 Recognizing Patterns for Course Correction
00:54:09 The FRD Story and the Magic of How It Works
00:56:25 Creating Psychological Safety
01:09:08 Expectations Management: Intentions vs. Expectations
Connect with Guest
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📩 Email: jon@frontrowdads.com
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#irreplaceableman #businessman #familyman
Marriage is not just about two people living together. When you’re married, you don’t have a housemate, you have a partner that you have made a commitment to. Not just to provide for or take care of, your commitment also has to do with who you are and who you become. Constant personal evolution and growth is a must.
For the first couple years of our marriage, I wasnt following those rules. In my mind, because I was providing financially at a high level and we were living a great life, thats all the contribution that was necessary.
Yeah, I was a fucking failure as a husband and then the day came when Mere had enough. She gave me an ultimatum that hit me square between the eyes. It broke me and knocked me onto a course of deep level personal growth and development. The fact that not only was I replaceable in my marriage, I also realized that like most men, I was also replaceable as a leader in my business, as a professional and sadly, as a father.
Everything changed when the fear of her being with someone else kicked in and I would have let her go knowing that I could have done something however I remained selfish and in my ego. It was beyone fear, I felt and sensed the immense regret I would feel later on in life knowing that I had the chance to make it better and didnt.
So the first commitment was to me, to put me first in a serving way and focus on my growth while I learned about what she needed and who she needed me to be.
In this special episode, my wife (Meredith) and I put everything on the table and talk about our relationship from the beginning. We are vulnerable and honest about the ins and outs of our marriage in hopes of helping every man out there to transform into their best selves and finally become The Irreplaceable Man & Husband that they need to be, the one their wives want to be with and the one their wives will never leave.. Yes, brother, its all on you!
Now that we have switched over to The Irreplaceable Man podcast, you can expect 2x episodes a month with Meredith and I digging into a new topic that stop marriages from being amazing and stop men from being irreplaceable.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:03:07 Ian’s Fear: His wife never getting over the resentment from who he used to be
00:04:30 Great Partnership = Great Marriage
00:06:22 Moving Past Resentment to Instill Good Communication
00:07:57 Meredith & Ian’s Story
00:10:07 Wanting to Be the Provider
00:11:12 Making Money Your Identity Could Destroy You
00:11:55 Angles of Avoidance
00:14:29 Creating A Curriculum for Yourself
00:16:29 What It Means to Be Replaced
00:19:05 Take It All On You
00:21:24 The Feeling of Stability
00:23:29 Rushing into Relationships and Feeling Obligated
00:28:04 Creating Time for Just You and Your Spouse
00:29:05 Seeking Approval Externally
00:33:51 Change Before She Pulls the Switch
00:35:55 Postpartum Depression & Anxiety
00:38:02 Men Having the Fear to be Vulnerable
00:38:13 Feminine Flow Energy
00:41:38 The Fear of Loving Too Much
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#marriage #irreplaceablehusband #commitment
Episode 301 is about putting yourself first and making sure you are working on your fullest potential, because what you have financially and materially is not always the truest form of happiness.
The truth is, all the money and material possessions in the world may not make you happy. In fact, if you don't feel complete you will probably never let yourself enjoy what you have. Put yourself first and work on your self-depreciation issues, so that you can get out of your own way and achieve real happiness and success.
Today, Sam Kabert, a successful Serial Entrepreneur turned Spiritual Seeker, joins us in searching for our own life mission. He is known for his ability to put together virtual teams to execute the vision as efficiently as possible so that all involved can spend more time adventuring and experiencing the beauty the world has to offer outside of traditional work.
Do not get caught up in achieving what society has taught you was valuable instead of knowing within yourself what is most important for your life. Let’s find your new passion and purpose in life together. Let’s make each other proud of our own self-discovery journey. Follow us at https://menonpurpose.net/apply/.
QUICK TIMESTAMPS:
00:06:31 Sam’s Story
00:10:10 Numbing Depression
00:13:35 Set Site on the Money
00:13:44 Money Was My Identity
15:30-17:14 IAN GOLD: Legacy
00:17:39 Slowing Down and Comparison
00:19:55 Outsourcing Happiness to Materialism
00:21:02 Getting to a Place to Slow Down
00:21:18 Avoidance Tactics
00:23:25 Tapping Into the Feminine
00:24:37 Working on vs Working in the Business
26:26-27:43 IAN GOLD: Slowing Down
00:27:46 Ways to Slow Down
00:29:26 Taking in the World Around You
28:42-29:58 IAN GOLD: Eliminating People From Your Life
00:32:17 Soul Contracts
32:39-36:09 IAN GOLD: Purpose
00:35:02 Doing the Inner Work
00:47:10 Waking up and Adjusting to the World
00:49:41 Quantum Physics
00:50:18 Self-Love
50:40-52:33 IAN GOLD: Finding True Purpose
00:55:31 Integration
00:56:54 Creating Space
00:59:38 Closing
Connect with Guest
❤️ Website: http://samkabert.com/
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samkabert/
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📩 Email: mailto:sam@samkabert.com
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#happiness #purpose #money
Episode 300 is about why even great marriages could still be at the brink of divorce, and how going through self-transformation could remedy such a situation.
There is a common misconception that if you are married, your marriage is guaranteed. This is not the case, and anyone who says otherwise is either unaware of or in denial of the issues concerning the reality of marriage. According to The National Center for Health Statistics in the United States, at least 50% of marriages will end in divorce (Jones & Schulz, 2000).
Today, Keith Yackey, founder and CEO of The Married Game & The Ascend Brotherhood, has been committed to helping married men learn how to get their wives to “want” to have sex with them again. He will be discussing communication, attraction, integrity, supporting yourself and other winning formulas that could help you and your spouse rekindle your connection, as every great marriage could be on the doorstep of divorce. It's not a question of “if,” it's a question of “when.”
The ability to overcome challenges helps us heal from pain, transform disappointment into victory, and rebuild trust. You don't have to go through the crisis alone. Get advice and guidance from our episodes. Follow us at https://menonpurpose.net/apply/.
It's time to stop letting your marriage fall apart!
QUICK TIMESTAMPS:
00:07:02 Keith’s Story
00:10:03 Every Great Marriage Is on the Doorstep of Divorce
00:11:30 Wife Lost Attraction for Me
00:13:22 Who Were You?
00:15:21 Am I Willing to Go All in on Me?
00:15:53 Do I Even Like Me?
00:16:40 Learning the Skill of Discipline
00:19:20 Become a 10 at Everything in Your Life
19:58-21:43 IAN GOLD - Doing Whatever It Takes
00:22:11 Keeping the Bitch Voice at Bay
00:23:14 Empowering Yourself
24:54-26:36 IAN GOLD - Inevitable vs. Probable
00:27:24 Making Decisions Out of Desperation
00:29:15 De-emasculating Behavior
00:31:21 The P Formula
00:33:30 Attractive and Unattractive Things
00:36:07 The Vicious Cycle of Pleasing Your Wife
00:38:35 Self-Love and Self-Care
00:39:11 Put Time Into Yourself
00:42:43 When Are You Going to Get Tired of Not Being You
45:46-47:16 IAN GOLD - Self-Celebration
00:50:01 Resentment and Regret
Connect with Guest
❤️ Website: www.keithyackey.com
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keithyackey/
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keith-yackey-13289915/
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#divorce #marriage #transformation
Episode 299 is about generational traumas and experiences, and how we cope with it differently in our varying paces as individuals.
As we grow older, we may not even realize that we are living with the effects of generational traumas. Our coping skills are programmed into us by our parents, siblings and other environmental factors — even if it doesn’t seem like we’re hearing it directly from them. Each generation has nuances, but the bottom line is that we must break these patterns if we want to move forward.
Generational trauma is defined as the psychological consequences of traumatic events that are experienced by a second or subsequent generation through inherited family systems. This form of intergenerational trauma can lead to physical, emotional and mental health problems.
Today, Paul Cope, a highly accomplished consultant, coach, business owner and corporate lawyer possessing a powerful transformative presence with the ability to provide insights that are invaluable to any organization — reminds us of the impact of generational trauma and how we must cope with it. He shares that as humans, we are hardwired to deal with crises and trauma by connecting socially with other people in our community. As a result of our experiences with trauma and loss, it may be difficult for us to trust others or reach out when we need help, hence why he wrote the book How to Solve Any Problem in Life.
Just like Paul, we want to help guide men in whatever it is that they might be going through.
QUICK TIMESTAMPS:
9:28-11:00 Programming From Parents
00:11:13 Programming Experiences
11:58-14:17 IAN GOLD - Programming
00:14:35 Don’t Cry
15:22-16:59 IAN GOLD
00:17:03 Compassion
00:18:04 Programming of Past Generations
00:20:54 Every Parent Says the Same Thing
22:16-26:05 IAN GOLD
00:29:54 That’s Just the Way It’s Done
31:05-37:16 IAN GOLD
00:37:46 How We Feel About Ourselves Inside
00:41:13 We Are All Flawed
00:41:42 Must Have Duality in Your Life
42:42-46:38 IAN GOLD
00:46:50 Depression and Anxiety
00:48:40 You Must Look After You First
53:37-56:54 IAN GOLD
00:57:16 All the Reasons You Can’t Make Time for You
00:58:17 Extrovert vs. Introvert
00:58:47 Change the Question You Put In Your Search Engine
00:59:18 IAN GOLD - Language and Environment
01:08:00 IAN GOLD - Rocket Boosters Peeling Off
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❤️ Website: www.paul7cope.com
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul7cope/
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-cope-transformation-coach-speaker-a28b8119/
📚 Book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Solve-Any-Problem-Life/dp/152729305X
Books or Articles mentioned:
How to Solve Any Problem in Life by Paul Cope
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#generational #trauma #behavioralpatterns
Episode 298 is about acknowledging and accepting your core, including loving who you are with the help of discovering new realms.
At some point in our lives, we all go through the deep and dark hole of self-discovery. We fear that what we are or who we are could be deemed as unacceptable by society — that we think we need to achieve so many things and become so powerful just to be praised by others. We often fail to realize that this acceptance, respect and praise that we crave are highly rooted within ourselves.
Today, Matt Zemon, the author of Psychedelics for Everyone and the Co-Founder of HAPPŸŸ — a mental wellness company that specializes in psychedelic-assisted oral ketamine therapy along with digital therapeutics that promote life-transforming outcomes, challenges us to keep an open-mind to welcome the proper usage and benefits of psychedelics as powerful medicines. He will be with us to speak about his transformation and how psychedelics were able to help other people overcome anxiety, depression, addiction, PTSD and many more.
As Matt said, “You are enough right now. You are loved right now. Just go. Just be.” So, join us as we face life with gratitude. May we start counting what we have, rather than complain about what we do not have. Allow us to guide you as we provide support for men through their self-discovery journey. Follow us at menonpurpose.net
TIMESTAMPS:
00:07:44 Matt’s Story
10:13-13:19 IAN GOLD
00:14:57 The Big Surprise
00:16:54 Love, Acceptance and Safety
00:19:21 Finding What’s Missing
00:20:06 Wrapping Your Head Around You Mattering
21:31-24:00 IAN GOLD
00:24:31 Living With Purpose
00:24:49 IAN GOLD
00:26:05 Programming From Birth - Winning & Producing
00:28:19 Removing Shame, Blame and Guilt
00:28:53 Programming Through Generations
00:29:22 Relationships With Parents
00:30:05 How Were You Promoted in Life to Solve Problems
00:31:12 What Are the Roles I Created for My Life
00:31:47 IAN GOLD
00:33:30 Making Excuses
00:35:44 IAN GOLD
00:36:55 Driven By Different Motivators
00:37:04 Sitting Still
00:39:02 Being Productive and Changing Habits
00:40:02 IAN GOLD
00:41:59 Shifting Old Habits
00:43:58 What Really Is Security
00:44:12 Where to Find Psychedelics
00:45:49 Compassion and Connectivity to Others
01:11:00 Unlock Something in You
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❤️ Website: https://www.mattzemon.com/
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/?hl=en
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattzemon/
📚 Book: Psychedelics for Everyone by Matt Zemon
📩 Email: matt@happyy.me
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#psychedelics #self-discovery #acceptance
Episode 297 is about embracing the mystery of death, our spiritual connections with others and how it can transform us.
Most of us fear the idea of death, because we all fear what we do not know. We fear that we might no longer be able to do what we could have done when we still had the chance. Indeed, we regret more the things we did not do than those we did, and this is what makes today’s episode very special — as it teaches us how we could possibly handle the concept of dying and how it involves a lot of acceptance.
Today, former founder and CEO of a successful multimillion-dollar consumer products company, John David Latta, opens our minds and challenges our emotions when it comes to the inevitable. He is a mystic, teacher, and author who shares intimate and personal stories and teaches workshops on leadership, healing, transformation, awakening, love, synchronicity, and wisdom that unite and expand human experience.
As John shares, “We are constructed at a soul level. A cat doesn't die, but the body dies. A human being doesn't die, but the body dies.” Death is a mystery, but death is also part of life and a natural, spiritual experience. To understand what happens when we die, we need to see ourselves in the context of relationships that connect us with others and with something beyond our individual selves.
Just like John, we value relationships and connections the most, that is why we provide support for men in all works of life — an extraordinary opportunity to live life more fully and connect with those they love.
QUICK TIMESTAMPS:
00:05:31 John’s Story Before Hitting Rock Bottom
00:06:46 Confronting Death and Losing All in a Blink of an Eye
00:07:38 Unbelievable Fear of Death
00:10:14 Synchronicity and Spiritual Connection
00:17:05 Plunging Into Your Feminine Side
00:18:47 Factors That Define Your Life
00:20:44 Actual Direct Experiences and Stories
00:21:40 Looking Back at Failed Relationships
23:06-25:22 IAN GOLD - The Difference Between the Human and the Authentic
00:25:33 The Difficulty in Getting Out of Bad Habits
00:26:57 The Truths Behind Transformation
00:30:02 It’s Time to Be a Different Story
32:37-36:26 IAN GOLD - Changing Old Habits
00:39:32 Blaming Other People
00:44:09 The Parking Garage of Life
00:46:29 Parents as Children’s Safe Space / Guiding Children How to Handle Death
00:51:35 The Grief in Ending a Life Season
00:55:14 Embracing the Mystery of Death
00:59:46 The Fear of Death That People Are Facing
Connect with Guest
❤️ Website:https://linktr.ee/johndavidlatta
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johndavidlatta/?hl=en
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-latta-006431232/
📩 Email: john@johndavidlatta.com
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#acceptance #mysteryofdeath #spirituality
Episode 296 is about personal development and being purposeful in your life journey.
When opportunities arise in your life, do you realize how often you discredit yourself? Because our episode for today tells us straight up that discrediting yourself is not only negative for you; it also insults those who believe in the value that you bring. Discrediting yourself is a dangerous thing to do. When you start believing that you are not good enough, that belief can spread to other areas of your life, and it will cause you to make bad decisions.
Today, CEO Randall Crowder of Phunware — a technology company in Austin, TX developing mobile and data solutions for major brands and launching a unique cryptocurrency called PhunCoin, encourages us to be critical in our life choices. Our life choices include a lot of self-actualization and self-reflection, and this episode is about owning up to your choices, because whatever you have, wherever you are, and whoever you are now, is all on YOU.
As Randall shares, “We are not human beings. We are human BECOMINGS,” and that speaks volumes about who we choose to be in life. That is why we provide support for men in all works of life, to help you become the person you ought to be. Follow us at https://menonpurpose.net
Quick Timestamp:
00:06:29 Randall’s Story
00:11:32 Immediately Going to the Negative
00:15:34 Measuring Success and Making Time for You
00:16:02 Spending More Time With Spouse
00:18:03 Biggest Fallacies; Busy Isn’t Productive, Productive Isn’t Effective
18:22-20:38 IAN GOLD - Getting Ahead of the Competition
00:21:32 Being Purposeful About What Matters
00:23:12 Self-Love and Imposter Syndrome
00:28:06 Series of Moments Build Self Confidence
00:30:32 Pushing Through the Fear in All Areas of Life
00:34:57 Gaslighting
00:35:55 Open Communication in Relationships
00:37:08 IAN GOLD - Betting on Yourself
00:39:09 Self-Sabotage and Disclaiming Yourself
00:43:13 IAN GOLD - Authentic Self vs. Natural Self
00:47:10 Controlling Your Anger and Not Comparing Yourself to Others
00:49:01 Stop Giving You Power Over to Others
00:50:36 IAN GOLD - Opening Up Space
00:53:23 IAN GOLD - Scarcity Mindset and Breaking Integrity
00:54:38 How You Perceive Your Wife in Public
00:57:19 Imposter Syndrome Leads to Insecurity
00:59:46 IAN GOLD - It’s All on You
01:02:20 Self-Actualization and Over Correction
01:02:55 Intention Matters and Is Crucial
Connect with Guest
❤️ Website:http://www.phunware.com
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/randallcrowder/
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/randallcrowder/
📩 Email: rcrowder@phunware.com
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#authenticself #purposeful #notonegativity
Episode 295 is about surviving the dark hole in pursuit of our true purpose and happiness.
Sometimes when things are going so perfectly in our life, that’s the exact moment we feel lost. We get consumed by fame, power and money, thinking all of it should be enough, that it is all that we need — that we forget what it truly feels to LIVE. We start asking ourselves, is this all life has to offer?
Today, a former MLB baseball player and MLB all star, Shea Hillenbrand gets to share with us his journey towards the pursuit of his true purpose and happiness. He hid all of his childhood dreams and then realized that none of them were his actual dreams, that all he was doing was chasing the money, fame and the identity of his popularity to appease his ego. So in this episode, we are going to dig deep into our childhood traumas, face our fears, and surpass all the hurdles we thought only the grand things could solve, and we are going to do this together.
As Shea says, “Don’t miss the meat of the method: POWER and PERSPECTIVE,” so rediscover yourself with us. We provide support for men in all walks of life. Follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/.
Quick Timestamps
00:04:43 IAN GOLD Shedding the Identity
00:06:25 Shea’s Back Story
00:07:26 Finding Your Safe Space
00:08:43 Creating My Story from What Happened
00:13:34 The Pain That Stays After the Achievement
00:16:05 Is This All Life Has to Offer?
00:16:42 Having Everything Except Fulfillment
00:17:57 Leaving All Behind
00:20:44 When You Are Empty Inside
00:21:11 Ego Can’t Bring Sustainable Success
00:23:03 Using Drugs and Alcohol to Numb and Run
00:23:29 The Aha Moment
00:24:18 You Must Rescue Yourself
00:25:09 3 Most Powerful Decisions in Life
00:25:48 Getting Started
00:27:00 The Need to Go Back to Level 1
00:28:26 Who Will Stand Guard for Your Mind
00:30:45 The Anger Resentment Story
00:32:21 Only Reaching a Fraction of Your Potential
00:32:44 The Emotions of Our Stories
00:34:54 Pain Not Transformed Is Transmitted
36:48-37:31 IAN GOLD I
00:38:03 Why Parents Must Communicate With Their Kids
00:42:38 Vulnerability & Sharing Powerfully
00:46:24 Fear of Past Self
00:46:53 3 Pillars of Life: Personal, Private & Professional
00:48:41 Not Present So We Buy Presents
00:49:41 How Do You Act On the Results You Have
55:19-55:57 IAN GOLD II
00:58:09 Serve From Your Heart Not Your Ego
Connect with Guest
❤️ Website:https://linktr.ee/riplpm
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riplpropertymanagement/
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheahillenbrand/
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#findingyourself #purposefulways #fame
Episode 294 is about diving deep into the human experience.
When we deal with our emotions, especially when it comes to love, it’s helpful to identify our patterns. This could resolve a lot of issues when it comes to intimacy, traumas, and even grief. After all, the opposite of love is grief. You love somebody you can lose. That’s an unforgettable line we got from Dr. Thomas Jordan — whose clinical specialty is treating adults who are depressed and anxious about past or present unhealthy relationship experiences, people who are struggling with low self-esteem, feelings of loss, or an unhealthy love life.
Today, Dr. Thomas will be with us to talk about the psychology around love, and how you can change your love life by changing your psychology.
Overcome any emotional dive with us. We provide support for men from all walks of life. Follow us at menonpurpose.net
Quick Timestamps:
00:01:09 Guest Intro & Background: Dr. Thomas Jordan
00:05:46 How Thomas Got Started
00:07:39 What You Need to Work On to Have a Great Relationship
00:09:08 What Love Is
00:10:00 Examples of Sabotage
00:14:25 Variation in Attraction
00:15:35 Consciousness Is the Key
00:16:48 Will Is a Decision That You Have to Act On
00:18:42 The Differences in Women: Independence, Control, Intimacy
00:21:19 How the Psychology of a Person Affects Their Experience
00:22:51 Change Your Love Life by Changing Your Psychology
00:23:39 Healthy and Unhealthy Attachment to Thoughts
00:26:28 The Idea You Could Be in Love and Not Get Hurt
00:31:21 Parentified Child
00:32:02 Sharing Your Emotions With Your Child
00:34:12 Starting the Journey of Self-Healing
00:34:42 The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Kids
00:38:54 What Wakes People up From Old Patterns
00:39:59 Dealing With Loneliness
00:43:34 Stop Wasting Your Time
00:44:05 The Importance of Intimacy
00:46:49 Getting Trust Back in a Relationship
00:50:45 The Psychology of Caution and Paranoia
00:53:19 Letting Go of the Past
00:55:39 The Opposite of Love
00:58:03 Schools Should Teach Love and Grief
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❤️ Website:https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/
📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovelifelearningcenter/
📩 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drthomasjordan/
📚 Book: https://www.amazon.com/Learn-Love-Guide-Healing-Disappointing/dp/1543987877/ref=sr_1_1
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#psychologyoflove #breakingpatterns #healingjourney
Episode 293 is about the diamond in the rough.
When we work, we don't just make more. We become more. That's advice from the Pope himself. I got to hang out with Andreas Widmer, who used to work for the Pope and now works for you. For years and years, through his stories and experience, Andrew has helped men declare value for themselves. He's shared how the answers are within you and that change is never done.
He offers a ton of wisdom for entrepreneurs and is interested in getting the word out of self-love especially for men. We cover a lot of ground including: choosing yourself, what it's like to work directly with the Pope, dealing with your inner conflict, how to deal with feeling used, the need for validation and overcoming it. Today we'll dig into Andreas's insights of authenticity, facing conflict, and doing conscious work towards finding your purpose.
To help you break through and see the diamond inside, we provide support for men in all walks of life, follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/
TIMESTAMPS:
00:07:26 Andrea’s story
00:12:01 Working for the Pope
00:14:20 When we work we just don't make more, we become more
00:16:55 Feeling used
00:21:15 Feeling validated
00:24:35 Becoming the best version of yourself
00:26:00 Ian Gold
00:28:06 The miserable state
00:29:00 The birthing process
00:30:03 Making a career change
00:31:10 The answers are with you
00:32:45 No one else can want for you what you must want for you
00:34:40 The change is never done
00:35:30 Francis Michelin Story
00:35:45 You must break the stone to reveal the diamond
00:40:15 Story of the inventor of box wine
00:40:39 2 kinds of people; creators and harvesters
00:49:00 Setting goals and managing yourself
00:49:38 Making decisions now
00:49:45 Declaring value to yourself
00:54:00 Recalibrating schooling
00:59:45 Self-love & self-advocation
Connect with Guest
❤️ Website:https://andreas-widmer.com/
📚 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreaswidmer/?hl=en
📷 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andreaswidmer/
📷 Email: widmer@cua.edu
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#change #self-development #purpose