What starts as a hilarious midlife check-in about weight gain and vanity turns into one of Bassey & Mike's most grounded and thought-provoking conversations yet. They move from aging and metabolism to the chaos of modern politics, the fragmentation of the left, and how white frameworks of protest and resistance are shaping young Black thinkers.
This episode wrestles with what it means to think and act through a Black lens—not in theory, but in practice. From Afrocentrism to authenticity, from fixing instead of burning, Mike and Bassey unpack how culture, history, and honesty should guide our politics, not chaos or performance. It’s sharp, funny, layered, and deeply human.
00:00 – 02:30: Aging, vanity, and midlife weight struggles
02:30 – 06:00: The chaos of modern politics and media manipulation
06:00 – 10:00: MAGA unity vs. liberal fragmentation
10:00 – 18:00: Why moral purity isn’t a political strategy
18:00 – 26:00: Centering Blackness vs. adopting white frameworks of protest
26:00 – 33:00: The loss of Afrocentric thinking and the rise of white political mimicry
33:00 – 41:00: Resistance, church roots, and the disconnect of “new Blackness”
41:00 – 46:00: “Fixing, not burning” — reimagining how we build and repair
46:00 – 54:00: The exhaustion of politics and the need for cultural clarity
54:00 – End: Reflections, humor, and technical chaos
In this episode of The Idea Of..., Bassey holds it down while Mike’s away and welcomes the brilliant Kendra Linsdey — educator, author, and host of Midlife Flyness. Together, they dive deep into the intersections of hip hop, aging, womanhood, culture, and authenticity.
What starts as a headline about Drake and Kendrick Lamar turns into a rich, layered conversation about Black art, fame, and the responsibility that comes with cultural power. From the evolution of hip hop to the trap of “Black don’t crack,” Bassey and Kendra unpack what it really means to age gratefully — not gracefully — and to claim joy, beauty, and purpose as acts of resistance.
They talk Mad City and Madonna, midlife reinvention, Essence Fest, Aisha Curry, the myth of “having it all,” and the sacredness of community between Black women across generations. It’s equal parts cultural critique and auntie real talk — sharp, soulful, and funny as hell.
Guest Bio: Kendra Linsdey
Kendra Linsdey is an educator, author, speaker, and media voice expanding how we think and talk about aging. Through her acclaimed podcast Midlife Flyness, her social media presence, and her partnerships with top brands, she reimagines what it means to grow older — especially for Black women and others often left out of the narrative.
Her work bridges research and real life, reminding the world that aging is not decline, it’s depth — and that visibility and vitality don’t fade with age, they deepen. Whether she’s in front of a camera, behind a mic, or consulting in boardrooms, Kendra’s mission is simple: to center aging as a site of power, possibility, and truth.
Follow her:📸 IG: @kendralinsdey🎧 Podcast: Midlife Flyness (Season 6 returns in 2026)
This week, Bassey & Mike start in the most unexpected place — the weather. What begins as a playful debate over hoodies versus humidity unfolds into one of the most layered cultural conversations they’ve ever had.
From Tyler, the Creator’s evolution and the internet’s obsession with punishment, to Black Twitter’s moral high ground and the “recently Black,” they unpack what happens when outrage becomes currency and when “harm” becomes performance. Through humor and honesty, they question why so many of us are addicted to digital righteousness — and what it’s costing us in empathy, nuance, and grace.
Mike connects it back to critical thinking, mental health, and the psychology of online engagement — drawing lines between COINTELPRO, culture wars, and how algorithms weaponize Black emotion for profit. Bassey challenges the performative morality that masquerades as activism, calling out how “cancel culture” mirrors the same carceral logic it claims to oppose.
Yeah, it was one of those!
What happens when you start saying the quiet parts out loud — the doubts, the what-ifs, the things you might’ve done differently?
In this episode of The Idea Of..., Bassey & Mike explore the messy middle between confidence and confession — from awkward run-ins with artistic heroes to the public vulnerability of women like Ayesha Curry and Michelle Obama.
They talk about the cost of visibility, what it means to be misunderstood in public, and how aging in hip-hop (and in life) comes with its own quiet inventory of regrets.
There’s laughter, reflection, and the real-time processing that happens when two Black creatives decide not to hide behind perfection.
Whether it’s Mike realizing he’s the “old head” at his son’s soccer game, or Bassey unpacking the grace we owe each other while stumbling toward understanding — this one sits in the tension of love, legacy, and letting yourself be seen.
Bassey and Mike unpack a week of heavy headlines and internet rabbit holes: parenting athletes without projecting anxiety, the algorithm’s “frictionless” trap, and why some narratives feel engineered. They grapple with the spectacle surrounding public tragedies, the role of bots and psy-ops, the line between skepticism and cynicism, and the American tradition of myth-making—from Helen Keller lore to textbook propaganda. With humor and straight talk, they consider what solidarity and discernment look like now: how to stay human, hold critical thought, and refuse to be played by fear, clout, or culture war scripts.
00:00 – Cold open & vibe check. Camera/lighting banter; DIY podcast ethos.
02:30 – Parenting, pressure, and D1/D3 soccer. Second-hand performance anxiety; “trust your parenting.”
08:45 – Reframing as a fan. Joy vs. control; music, team culture, letting kids process.
13:10 – Listener Corner. “Frictionless society” and the cost of convenience.
19:10 – Isolation, parasocials, and over-diagnosing everything. Life happens vs. victim rhetoric.
22:40 – Spectacle & suspicion. Public tragedy narratives, algorithm pushes, and manufactured reverence.
31:00 – Media hygiene & who’s missing from the mic. Where are the families? What’s amplified—and why?
35:00 – Power optics. The hug, performance politics, and universal “that’s weird” moments.
41:10 – “I’m not suicidal” posts & ambient threat. Performative fear vs. real risk.
43:20 – Overlooked stories. NC river shooting; what trends, what doesn’t.
46:30 – Psychological warfare 101. Leaflets → bots; anti-intellectualism ascendant.
51:30 – Amelia/Helen confusion & mythology. How school taught us to believe.
1:00:00 – Words matter. “Revolutionary” misuse and clout economics.
1:07:00 – Are we cooked? Pessimism, systems, and what would have to change.
1:12:30 – Handmaid’s Tale pipeline. White Christian nationalism & control.
1:16:00 – Lies My Teacher Told Me. Swindled history, banned books, curated innocence.
1:23:30 – Protest asymmetry & risk calculus. Who’s safe to confront, and what that reveals.
1:28:40 – The One-Drop teaser & sign-off. Topic punt to next week; chaotic clarity.
Special shout-out to a dope t-shirt and merch site, www.murchdrop.com. FIRE hip hop influenced designs and shirts!
In this episode of The Idea Of…, Bassey and Mike,dive deep into the tension between community, isolation, and the way algorithms shape how we see each other. What begins with reflections on marriage, generational differences in relationships, and the conservatism of their 20s shifts into an unflinching conversation about CeeKay's memorial, white supremacy, and the eerie normalization of violence.
They unpack how technology is rewiring our sense of humanity, how isolation culture fuels extremism, and why Black people remain the conscience of America. Along the way, they talk nostalgia, hip-hop-inspired merch, and what it means to call white people—not just white supremacy—to the front lines.
00:00 Welcome to the Conversation
00:54 Reflections on Marriage and Relationships
03:35 Cultural Differences in Social Norms
08:42 The Impact of Urban Living on Identity
12:21 Introducing New Segments and Structure
12:21 Listener Engagement and Feedback
27:31 Reflections on CeeKay's Memorial
30:44 The Rise of White Supremacist Rhetoric
33:31 Doomscrolling and the Impact of News
35:26 The Disproportionate Focus on Violence Against Black People
38:23 The Role of Algorithms in Shaping Perceptions
41:09 The Need for White Allies
44:19 The Visibility of White People Post-Election
47:50 The Extremes of Political Discourse
50:49 The Call for Collective Action
55:06 The Responsibility of White People in Social Justice
01:04:03 The Call for Action Over Words
01:08:52 Understanding Ignorance and Awareness
01:13:27 The Role of Creatives in Education
01:18:44 Community and Connection in a Divided Society
01:22:58 The Fallout of Racial Tensions on Campus
01:27:54 The Impact of Isolation and Online Communities
01:33:24 Patterns of Violence and Racial Dynamics
01:37:49 Activism and the Fight Against Racism
01:39:36 The Impact of Isolation Culture
01:42:37 The Role of Technology in Human Connection
01:45:25 AI and Its Influence on Society
01:48:36 The Disconnect in Online Interactions
01:51:26 The Importance of Community and Communication
01:54:34 Reflections and Takeaways
This episode moves from the personal to the political, and back again. Bassey opens with a braid-shop humbling and a parking garage misadventure, a story about seeing the work only when the mirror turns. From there, the conversation shifts to the week’s events: fast media cycles, thought profiling, and why Black folks don’t celebrate death—we’ve mourned too many icons of our own.
As we unpack the murders of Biggie, Pac, Nipsey, and others, we land on a new phrase: Gangsta Racism. Just as “gangsta rap” was mass-marketed as an exaggerated version of life “in the hood,” this brand of white nationalism performs itself like wrestling—part caricature, part entertainment, all spectacle. It’s not politics, it’s theater.
The second half stretches into why “average” often gets celebrated while Black excellence gets doubted—whether in conversations about DEI hires, workplace dynamics, or who gets to hold certain spaces. We talk about the politics of “spot-taking,” the energy shifts that ripple through campuses and locker rooms, and the ways resentment shows up in everyday encounters. The episode closes with James Cone’s The Cross and the Lynching Tree and what it reveals about America’s unfinished history. Through it all, the refrain is the same: pause, discern, don’t take the bait.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Week's Events
11:58 Cultural Reflections on Current Events
16:21 The Impact of Historical Events on Present Day
22:08 Understanding Patterns in Society
27:51 Reactions to Recent Tragedies
31:51 The Setup: Sacrificial Lamb or Real Anger?
37:31 The Response from the Victim's Family and Community
43:27 The Speed of Government Action
46:27 Understanding the Victim's Background
49:14 The Reaction from the Black Community
52:11 Reflections on Violence and Racism
55:10 The Power of Words and Death Threats
57:51 The Impact of Violence on Black Culture
01:00:27 Understanding the Connection Between Art and Life
01:03:58 Cultural Icons and Their Influence on Identity
01:06:30 The Disparity in Mourning Public Figures
01:08:04 Comparing Cultural Icons: Black Excellence vs. Average
01:11:44 The Fear of Replacement in White Culture
01:15:56 The Psychological Impact of Racism
01:20:25 The Role of Average in White Identity
01:24:03 The Absence of Non-Entertainer Role Models in White Culture
01:27:26 The Gangster Racist Phenomenon
01:28:41 Incels and the Trans Pipeline
01:29:41 Cultural Shifts and Youth Dynamics
01:31:41 Navigating Campus Politics
01:33:38 The Trap of Sympathy and Empathy
01:35:31 Youth Sports and Racial Dynamics
01:37:25 The Role of Religion in Politics
01:39:20 Hypocrisy in Political Rhetoric
01:41:03 The Cross and the Lynching Tree
01:45:48 Understanding Historical Contexts
01:51:40 Closing Thoughts and Reflections
In this episode of The Idea Of…, hosts Bassey & Mike explore hip-hop’s cultural reset. They reflect on why first-week sales no longer matter, how elder statesmen like Jay-Z and Kendrick Lamar have carved space for mature artistry, and what it means when rap becomes a job versus a career. They spotlight JID and Clipse as album-of-the-year contenders, celebrate the renewed energy of Chance the Rapper, and highlight Ghostface Killah and Raekwon’s timeless craft. Along the way, they discuss Lizzo’s “serve your core” strategy, Drake’s post-beef choices, and revelations from Metro/Thug. This conversation situates hip-hop within a bigger truth: naming and centering Blackness in art is not optional—it’s essential.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates
03:04 Creative Projects and Cultural Consulting
05:48 College Soccer Experiences and Future Prospects
08:45 The State of the Music Industry
11:43 The Evolution of Rap and Artistic Integrity
14:42 The Impact of Streaming on Music Consumption
17:28 Emerging Artists and the Future of Rap
23:43 Kanye's Influence on Modern Sound
27:08 The Evolution of Hip-Hop and Aging Artists
29:25 Jay-Z's Cool Factor and Longevity
32:27 The Complexity of Artist Relationships
37:09 Drake's Identity and Cultural Impact
45:20 Drake's Disconnection from the Culture
47:00 Kendrick's Influence and Industry Politics
49:57 Drake's Controversial Actions and Industry Backlash
52:47 The Evolution of Hip-Hop and Emerging Artists
57:54 Cultural Identity and the Role of Black Artists
01:00:54 Drake's Current Standing and Future in Hip-Hop
This week, Mike and Bassey dive into what “settling in” actually looks like—for their kids and for themselves. They explore the contrasts between Division I and Division III confidence, culture shock on predominantly white campuses, and the new freedom Gen Z claims without relying on the old respectability playbook. The conversation moves from Atlanta rap eras to the internet’s role in flattening tastes, then flips into creativity: ego versus purpose, the role of “conductors” like Kanye, Quincy, and Khaled, and why low-stakes wins might be the key to saving your art.
They also name the quiet PTSD of parenting—how the body stays braced even after the crisis has passed—and how to rebuild routines, therapy included. Bassey floats a “trash on purpose” romance novel and a soccer-world story called Offsides, while Mike connects it to Kendrick’s GNX pivot: the permission to make what you need, not what others expect.
For anyone raising college athletes, navigating identity on campus, or trying to love their craft again, this episode resonates.
00:00 — Cold open & welcome back
00:29 — D1 vs. D3: confidence, coaches, care, and Black kids in white spaces
02:36 — Exposure & culture shock (athlete circles vs. wider campus)
04:45 — Respectability then vs. authenticity now: Gen X/’Xennial to Gen Z
05:29 — Hip-hop eras, Atlanta’s shift, and kids’ rejection of “street code”
08:08 — Internet homogeny, niche communities, and taste diversification
10:37 — Classes, “free time,” and pacing yourself in college
11:13 — Ellington’s DC vs. “very Catholic” campus life; city options vs. beach town
14:32 — Helicoptering later: wise course picks & seeing kids’ gifts
16:21 — “Boy mom” culture vs. healthy attachment (quick riff)
18:21 — Naming the fog: depression, routines, and analysis paralysis
20:06 — Parenting PTSD: coming down from a hard season
22:42 — Regulating the body after stress; redefining “what is life now?”
23:23 — Hair, tiny decisions, and when your brain won’t choose
26:11 — Low-stakes wins: “trash on purpose” novel & getting momentum back
30:30 — Kendrick’s pivot as template (Mr. Morale to GNX)
32:45 — Ego vs. purpose: creating for people, not applause
35:36 — When writing feels like a rap battle: execution and table-flip bars
38:31 — Offsides: the soccer story; TV vs. novel and character seeds
40:12 — Public accountability (with love but no nagging)
41:13 — HBCUs and soccer: the gap and the dream
54:56 — Q4 logistics, segments, and community comments
01:01:14 — Outro, CTAs, and what’s next
In this solo episode of The Idea Of…, Mike gets real about the heavy and beautiful struggle of fatherhood. Reflecting on his relationship with his own dad and the lessons he’s living while raising his 19-year-old son, he digs into the emotional labor fathers carry but rarely name out loud.
From the grace he gives his son, to the wounds he still feels from his own father, to the words that broke him open during his doctoral defense—this episode is about the cycles we inherit, the burdens we hold, and the intentionality required to father differently.
This episode is a wake-up and a spicy love letter for fathers to recognize that without us, the whole ship sinks.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Reflection and Fatherhood
02:41 The Role of a Father: Personal Reflections
05:25 The Emotional Weight of Fatherhood
08:07 Challenging Narratives Around Fatherhood
11:09 The Importance of Fathers in Child Development
13:48 Personal Stories and Academic Insights
16:34 The Impact of Black Fathers in Education
19:28 Validation and Emotional Accountability
22:45 The Collective Narrative of Parenthood
25:22 The Need for Serious Fatherhood Engagement
27:52 Concluding Thoughts on Fatherhood and Identity
32:22 The Silent Struggles of Fatherhood
42:31 Understanding the Role of Fathers
55:58 The Grace of Fatherhood
This week, Bassey and Mike unpack the emotional rollercoaster of sending their sons off to college as student-athletes. From soccer fields to dorm rooms, they reflect on the fears, lessons, and surprising parenting curveballs that come with watching your kids step into adulthood.
They wrestle with questions like:
How do you prepare your child for things you can’t possibly teach in advance?
What does it mean to “let go” when the world isn’t as forgiving to Black boys?
And what does urgency even look like for Gen Z?
Of course, it wouldn’t be The Idea Of… without tangents: the Ape Walk, Amanda Seales in battle mode, and why every (college) soccer team mysteriously only has three Black players.
Parenting, culture, and real talk—this episode is both heavy and hilarious.
We late... and we apologize. Also, the sound is like .3 seconds behind on one of the tracks. We new to this. LOL. We're a mess... and we apologize. We gon' get right... promise.
This week on The Idea Of…, Mike returns from a Clipse hometown show in Virginia Beach with stories about the music, the magic, and the meaning of seeing hip hop performed with no gimmicks—just bars and presence. Pharrell’s timeless production shines (even though he didn’t make an appearance), making it a full trip through sound and culture.
The conversation then pivots to the current state of hip hop journalism, with pointed takes on figures like Toure and Elliot Wilson. They break down the shift from byline prestige to performative bitterness, and why some media OGs seem to be missing the moment—while artists like Clipse show how to age with grace in the culture.
The episode closes with real talk about their sons beginning their college soccer journeys, exploring the different ways each parent sees the transition, and the uniquely Black parent worry of “life skills vs. letting them figure it out.” It’s culture, clarity, and the joy in the journey—this is The Idea Of….
In another revealing episode, Mike and Bassey unpack what it means to feel out of place—in your body, your home, your city, your friendships, and even your own story.
What starts as a reflection on jaw alignment and dental school consultations quickly turns into a vulnerable conversation about aging, displacement, cosmetic culture, class, identity, and the very real loneliness that creeps into our lives when the noise fades and the invitations stop.
Mike shares what it feels like to live in a big, beautiful house in North Carolina that feels too big, too empty—and too disconnected from who he once was. Bassey opens up about being in a city that doesn't quite "fit," navigating parenthood as a single mom, and struggling with the dissonance between the life she imagined and the one she’s living.
Yeah, it's one of THOSE episodes...
This episode is part of an ongoing series on Aging, where Bassey and Mike explore why getting older—especially for Black folks born between 1975 and 1985—feels so profoundly different than it did for generations before.
In this installment of The Idea Of..., they take listeners deep into the noise and nuance of aging in a time where there’s no real blueprint. As immigrant Xennials shaped by an old-world perspective, introduced to the internet through 90s-era chatrooms and ushered into adulthood by the algorithm, they unpack what it means to grow older without a model—to carry cultural memory and grief while living under the constant surveillance of a hyper-connected world.
From parenting regrets to Malcolm-Jamal Warner’s legacy, from Ralph Lauren's Oak Bluffs capsule to generational shame disguised as advocacy—this one covers it all. It’s honest, funny, intimate, and as wide-ranging as life itself.
Our tribute to Malcolm-Jamal Warner will take place next week. We need more time to process such a monumental loss.
In this episode, Bassey & Mike deep dive into the cultural statement sent by Tyler, The Creator’s new album, the Clipse’s triumphant return, and what it means to really dance again in a post-TikTok, post-beef hip-hop landscape. From Polaroid photography to missed Jill Scott moments, East Coast stubbornness to West Coast innovation, this one’s a soulful, nostalgic, and razor-sharp riff on authenticity, artistry, and aging with rhythm.
Whether you grew up memorizing rap lyrics off cassette inserts or you’re just finding your hip-hop legs, pull up—we're unpacking generational shifts in music, memory, and movement.
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This week, Mike and Bassey confront the emotional, cultural, and spiritual process of breaking up with Drake—and everything that led to it.
From a transformative (and joy-filled!) Carnival Cruise experience to the grown-man brilliance of the Clipse album rollout, they explore how hip-hop is evolving, how narratives are weaponized online, and why authenticity is finally making a comeback.
Mike opens up about his previous support for Drake and what finally pushed him over the edge. Bassey doesn’t hold back. Together, they unpack what happens when an artist you once rooted for starts performing as a parody of himself.
In this episode:
The actual truth about Carnival Cruises and Black joy at sea
Why the Clipse rollout is a masterclass in mature, intentional hip-hop
Drake’s descent into gimmickry and the toll of manufactured authenticity
Essence Fest backlash, diaspora wars, and who benefits from cultural confusion
A big-picture conversation about Black creativity, evolution, and emotional clarity
Funny, thoughtful, unfiltered, and overdue—this one’s for everyone who's ever had to outgrow a version of themselves… or their favorite rapper.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Cosmic Energy
02:47 Cruise Experience and Cultural Reflections
05:31 Listener Engagement and Apologies
08:21 Black Representation in Cruise Culture
10:57 Navigating Fun and Ruckus on Cruises
14:01 Essence Festival and Cultural Conversations
31:36 The Currency of Black Emotion
37:02 Representation in Hip Hop: The Clips and Black Wellness
42:42 The Evolution of Hip Hop: From Violence to Authenticity
48:38 Drake's Influence and the UK Rap Scene
59:38 The Impact of Celebrity on Hip Hop Narratives
01:04:09 The Complexity of Identity in Music
01:06:59 Navigating Fame and Authenticity
01:08:52 The Dynamics of Celebrity Relationships
01:14:44 Support Systems in the Spotlight
01:20:31 The Evolution of Hip-Hop and Its Icons
Summary
Part 2 of 2 of The Idea Of… Culture, Conspiracy, & Cancelled Icons continues discussing the evolution of hip hop, the cultural impact of music on memory, and the complex relationship between morality and music. Bassey and Mike discuss the dehumanization of iconic figures in the music industry and the implications of parenting within the context of cultural legacy. They explore how music serves as a soundtrack to personal and collective memories, and the challenges of reconciling the actions of artists with their contributions to culture.
Keywords
hip hop, music industry, cultural impact, morality, memory, icons, parenting, black culture, music history, social commentary
Summary
In this conversation (Part 1 of 2), Bassey and Mike explore the intersections of culture, creativity, and the evolving landscape of podcasting and hip hop. They discuss the rise of Deante Kyle, the impact of Taxstone on the podcasting scene, and the dynamics of male-female interactions in media. The conversation delves into Kendrick Lamar's legacy, the future of hip hop, and the controversial influence of Drake on the genre, highlighting the complexities of authenticity and commercial success in music.
Keywords
podcasting, culture, creativity, Kendrick Lamar, Drake, hip hop, Deante Kyle, Taxstone, Joe Budden, music industry
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Culture and Creativity
01:59 The Importance of Engagement in Podcasting
03:56 The Rise of Deontay Kyle and Podcasting Evolution
09:43 The Impact of Joe Budden's Podcasting Success
13:47 Conversations on Gender Dynamics in Podcasting
19:57 Kendrick Lamar's Legacy and Hip Hop's Future
29:48 The State of Hip Hop and Emerging Artists
39:06 The Evolution of Drake's Music
41:15 Authenticity and Image in Hip Hop
45:23 The Impact of Social Media on Music Careers
49:43 Cultural Significance of Music in Black Identity
53:38 The Role of Record Labels in Shaping Artists
This week on The Idea Of…, Bassey and Mike explore what they’re calling “parental puberty”—that strange, emotional, confusing phase when your kids are almost adults but still deeply need guidance... and groceries.
From kettlebell-induced back pain to why Black boys laughing triggers white authority figures, this episode dives into how we’re raising our kids, what age-appropriate really means, and why both Black girls and boys are being rushed into adulthood by culture, media, and misguided grown folks.
We also touch on:
How generational trauma shapes parenting styles
Why parents feel guilty for giving boundaries
The disappearing middle ground between childhood and adulthood
Shoutouts to Wu-Tang, Tyler the Creator, and the teenage logic behind crop tops
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Conversation
02:32 Physical Challenges and Personal Growth
05:16 Listener Engagement and Community Connection
08:00 Cultural Commentary on Podcasting
10:36 The Evolution of Tyler, the Creator
13:08 Black Boyhood and Black Girlhood
15:41 The Pressure on Young Girls
18:20 Perceptions of Age and Youth
20:29 The Impact of Media on Youth
23:07 Navigating Age-Appropriate Content
29:13 Evolving Parenting Styles
35:19 Navigating the Transition to Independence
40:18 Understanding Teen Behavior and Communication
43:32 The Challenges of Trust and Responsibility
47:20 The Evolution of Hip Hop and Aging Artists
This week, Bassey holds it down solo for an episode that’s raw, reflective, and relentlessly real. After battling nerves, tech fails, and perfectionism, she hits record—and lets it all out.
From the butterfly effect that took her from Baltimore to Brooklyn, to the quiet unraveling of confidence over the years, Bassey explores what it means to forget who you are—and what it takes to remember. She dives into self-worth, fear, visibility, the myth of “being past your prime,” and the silent damage of showing up for everyone but yourself.
It’s part memoir, part reckoning, and all heart. If you’ve ever felt like you left pieces of yourself behind… this one’s for you.
Also: TikTok reflections, surgery scars, Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic, and a metaphor about yogurt that almost lands.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Technical Struggles
06:02 Confidence as a Portal
10:52 The Journey of Self-Discovery
15:46 The Impact of Self-Talk
20:49 Promises to Oneself
27:01 Body Image and Acceptance
32:41 Facing the Past and Moving Forward