In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the emotional challenges faced by those experiencing estrangement during the holiday season. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, she explores themes of grief, exclusion, and the loss of traditional roles within families. The episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging pain, finding new ways to celebrate, and practicing self-care during difficult times. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their feelings and create new traditions that honor their experiences.
Takeaways
It's important to acknowledge and sit with one's pain.
Survival during the holidays can take many forms.
Self-care is essential during difficult emotional times.
Honesty about feelings can be more healing than pretending.
You are worthy of gentleness and grace, even in grief.
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To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this reflective episode, Kreed honors four years of the Estranged Heart podcast, exploring themes of healing, personal growth, and the evolution of estrangement. She shares her journey from victimhood to healing, the challenges of navigating fractures in relationships, and the importance of humility and reverence in the process. The conversation emphasizes the beauty of embracing the messy middle of life and the ongoing conversation with change.
Takeaways
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the painful reality of estrangement from a parent's perspective. She emphasizes that estrangement is often not about the child's character but rather about the emotional experiences within the family. Kreed discusses the complexity of love, the importance of understanding emotional safety, and the need for curiosity in navigating these difficult relationships. She encourages parents to reflect on their own experiences and the emotional realities of their children, highlighting that love and hurt can coexist and both are valid.
Takeaways
- Estrangement often reflects emotional experiences rather than parental failure.
- Understanding estrangement requires acknowledging both love and hurt.
- Questions about estrangement should focus on family dynamics, not blame.
- Every act of love and care in parenting matters.
- Growth comes from exploring the complexities of love and estrangement.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, Kreed explores the concept of 'hardened hearts'—the emotional armor we build to protect ourselves from pain and the impact it has on our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she discusses how this protective mechanism can lead to estrangement and disconnection, while also emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and the courage it takes to open our hearts again. The episode encourages listeners to recognize their own protective instincts and to approach healing with compassion and understanding.
Takeaways
- A hardened heart forms as a protective mechanism.
- Softness and vulnerability are signs of courage, not weakness.
- Recognizing protector parts can help in understanding estranged loved ones.
- Love and pain share the same doorway; closing one closes both.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this conversation of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complexities of apologizing, particularly in the context of parent-adult child relationships. She emphasizes the importance of sincerity, understanding the impact of one's actions, and the need for time in the healing process. A true apology is characterized by humility, accountability, and a recognition of the other person's experience. Kreed also highlights the difference between sincere and transactional apologies, urging listeners to reflect on their motivations when seeking forgiveness.
Takeaways
= Sincerity in apologies is often misunderstood by parents.
- A true apology acknowledges the impact of one's actions.
- Rebuilding trust is essential for rebuilding relationships after hurt.
- Repairing relationships takes time and patience.
- Transactional apologies lack true sincerity and are conditional.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective Community: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, Kreed explores the complex role of labels in estranged relationships, discussing how they can both help and hinder personal growth and understanding. The conversation emphasizes the importance of using labels responsibly, recognizing their potential to trap individuals in fixed identities, and encouraging listeners to reflect on their own use of labels in relationships. Kreed provides insightful questions for self-reflection and highlights the need for awareness in fostering healing and change.
Takeaways
- Labels can provide language for pain but can also trap us. They can create barriers to protect us but also imprison us.
- Labels can help us understand our experiences but should not define us. People can and do change, despite labels.
- Using labels as fixed identities can hinder growth and change.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this conversation of The Estranged Heart, Kreed Revere addresses the complexities of parental estrangement, focusing on the emotional turmoil that parents experience when they feel distanced from their children. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and understanding one's feelings of anger and grief, exploring the underlying beliefs that contribute to these emotions. Kreed encourages parents to reflect on their own childhood experiences and the impact of hierarchical beliefs on their relationships with their adult children. Ultimately, she advocates for awareness and compassion in navigating these challenging dynamics.
Takeaways
- The fury felt in estrangement is a valid emotional response.
- Parental beliefs about entitlement can hinder healthy relationships.
- Anger can serve as a protective mechanism for deeper vulnerabilities.
- Transactional relationships are unhealthy and should be avoided.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode of the Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores the concept of echo chambers through the lens of personal experiences, particularly during a Thanksgiving gathering. He discusses how fear and familiarity can trap individuals in unproductive patterns, preventing growth and change. The conversation emphasizes the importance of curiosity as a means to break free from these echo chambers and encourages listeners to challenge their perspectives and embrace new experiences for healing and personal development.
Takeaways
- Echo chambers limit curiosity and growth.
- Fear prevents individuals from trying new things. Curiosity can help break the cycle of fear.
- It's important to question familiar narratives.
- Healing requires stepping out of comfort zones.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this conversation, Kreed explores the complex emotional landscape of estrangement between parents and adult children. She emphasizes that estrangement is often not the result of a single event but rather a culmination of unmet emotional needs and communication patterns. She encourages parents to shift their perspective from self-blame to compassionate curiosity, fostering understanding and healing in their relationships. She also highlights the importance of recognizing personal patterns and seeking guidance to navigate the complexities of estrangement.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
Summary
In this conversation, Kreed explores the concepts of radical acceptance and radical responsibility, particularly in the context of estrangement and healing. She critiques the notion of radical acceptance as potentially dismissive and emphasizes the importance of taking radical responsibility for one's healing and personal growth. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, she guides listeners on how to embrace their healing journey and take control of their emotional well-being.
Takeaways
- Radical acceptance can feel dismissive and may lead to resignation.
- Radical responsibility empowers individuals to take charge of their healing.
- Acknowledging reality is the first step, but action is necessary for transformation.
- You are not responsible for the harm done to you, but for your healing.
- Practical steps include identifying wounds and claiming your healing.
- Radical responsibility can lead to healthier relationships and personal peace.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this conversation, Kreed shares the journey of starting her podcast, 'The Estranged Heart,' which aims to support families experiencing estrangement. She discusses her motivations, the importance of authenticity in her storytelling, and how her personal growth reflects in the evolution of the podcast. Kreed emphasizes the significance of creating a genuine connection with her audience and the heartfelt intention behind her work.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, Kreed discusses the complexities of estrangement between mothers and their adult children. She emphasizes the importance of naming the issues at hand to reclaim personal power and foster healing. Through a pathway of curiosity, awareness, and acceptance, mothers can confront uncomfortable truths about their parenting and relationships. The conversation highlights that acknowledging one's role in estrangement does not equate to blame but opens the door to growth and potential reconnection.
TAKEAWAYS
Naming issues moves us out of victimhood.
Fear of vulnerability can hinder reconnection efforts.
Naming truths is the first step towards healing.
Compassion is essential in navigating estrangement.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this conversation, Kreed reflects on the evolution of her podcast and community, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and healing in the context of estrangement. She discusses her journey from a place of pain to a more empathetic understanding of both estranged parents and adult children. Kreed highlights the ongoing nature of healing, the significance of community support, and the need for compassion and curiosity in navigating difficult emotions.
Takeaways
The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and transformative.
Personal healing can shift perspectives on estrangement.
Healing is not a destination but a continuous process.
Change in perspective does not diminish past experiences.
The podcast will continue to evolve alongside Kreed's journey.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, Kreed delves into the generational shifts in curiosity and parenting, exploring how past conditioning impacts present relationships. Kreed shares insights on how older generations, often taught to suppress curiosity, can embrace it to heal and connect with their children. Through personal stories and professional experiences, we uncover the power of curiosity in breaking cycles of estrangement and fostering deeper connections. Join us as we navigate the complexities of parenting across generations and learn how curiosity can transform relationships.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this conversation, Kreed Revere addresses the emotional turmoil experienced by estranged parents, emphasizing the distinction between punishment and protection in parent-child relationships. He explores the complexities of healing, boundaries, and the importance of mutual consent in relationships. Revere encourages parents to reframe their understanding of their children's behaviors and to recognize their own emotional pain while validating their children's need for space and healing.
Takeaways
A belief of being punished by the adult child can keep parents stuck in pain.
Adult children are often protecting themselves, not punishing their parents.
Understanding the difference between punishment and protection can shift perspectives.
Boundaries set by children are not acts of cruelty but necessary for their healing.
Both parents' grief and children's need for protection can coexist.
Self-compassion is essential for growth during estrangement.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, Kreed Revere discusses the illusion of control in relationships, particularly between estranged parents and their adult children. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding the difference between control and care, and how surrendering to the unpredictability of relationships can lead to personal growth and healing. Kreed offers practical advice for listeners on how to navigate their emotions and foster healthier connections with their loved ones.
Takeaways
Releasing control can be the most loving action for both parents and children.
Control often stems from fear and a desire to avoid pain.
Surrendering is not about giving up, but about choosing presence over pressure.
Letting them be does not mean you stop caring; it means you respect autonomy.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
THE HEART COLLECTIVE
Estranged Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-moms
Reconciled Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-members
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, host Kreed Revere discusses the phenomenon of 'othering' in relationships, particularly within parent-adult child relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying emotions and wounds that drive behaviors, rather than making others the villain. The conversation explores how public criticism can damage connections and highlights the ripple effects of our actions on relationships. Kreed encourages listeners to practice curiosity and compassion, leading with love to foster healing and connection.
Takeaways
Othering strips away humanity and creates division.
The urge to correct often comes from unhealed wounds.
Understanding the pain behind behaviors is crucial.
The path to connection starts with curiosity.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
THE HEART COLLECTIVE
Estranged Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-moms
Reconciled Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-members
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode, Kreed Revere discusses the complexities of estrangement, focusing on the collision between generational conditioning and the emotional needs of children. The conversation explores how different generations perceive emotional safety and vulnerability, the impact of parenting styles on relationships, and the importance of understanding and compassion in navigating these dynamics. Kreed emphasizes the need for both parents and adult children to recognize their conditioning and the effects it has on their relationships, advocating for a more empathetic approach to healing and reconciliation.
Takeaways
- Generational conditioning affects how parents and children communicate.
- Emotional expression was a luxury for previous generations.
- Understanding patterns can help bridge generational gaps.
- Compassion is essential in navigating family dynamics.
- Curiosity about different experiences fosters healing.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
THE HEART COLLECTIVE
Estranged Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-moms
Reconciled Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-members
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, host, Kreed delves into the impact of unhealed wounds on relationships, particularly the mirror effect where parents may react negatively to traits in their children that trigger their own insecurities. Kreed emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding in breaking these patterns, encouraging listeners to celebrate their children's strengths rather than viewing them as threats.
Takeaways
The mirror effect shows how we project our insecurities onto our children.
Triggers can stem from past experiences with our own parents.
Awareness is the first step towards healing emotional wounds.
Healing patterns improves not just relationships with children but also with oneself.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
THE HEART COLLECTIVE
Estranged Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-moms
Reconciled Moms ONLY - https://theheartcollective.app.clientclub.net/communities/groups/estranged-heart-members
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the complexities of estrangement between parents and adult children. She emphasizes the pain that often underlies anger and resentment, and the importance of leading with love to break the cycle of estrangement. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Kreed encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and consider how they can respond to estrangement with compassion and understanding.
Takeaways
Anger can be a mask for underlying pain.
Externalizing pain can prevent personal growth and healing.
Curiosity and compassion can lead to empowerment.
Email: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.com
Work with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services
(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)
The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membership
Facebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup
To support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere