Thirteen years ago, I woke up at rock bottom. I thought sobriety meant losing my fun, my freedom, my edge—but what it really gave me was everything I’d been craving: authenticity, alignment, and freedom. In this episode, I share the story of that turning point, the lessons sobriety has taught me, and how they apply to every single one of us—whether your vice is alcohol, people-pleasing, work, or relationships. These 13 truths will sharpen your edge and give you the clarity, courage, and integrity to live fully alive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The real story of my sober date and why it wasn’t my first attempt.
• How codependency is the sneakiest, most polished addiction of all.
• 13 powerful lessons sobriety has taught me about leadership, love, and life.
• Why freedom—not control—is the sharpest edge you’ll ever carry.
• How these truths apply far beyond sobriety to anything that’s keeping you stuck.

Key Takeaways (13 Lessons):

1. Radical, compassionate honesty heals faster than any numbing ever will.
2. Discomfort is a compass, not a curse. Growth happens in resistance.
3. You don’t need numbing when you’re living in alignment.
4. Discipline creates freedom, not restriction.
5. Shame dies when it’s dragged into the light. Secrets keep you sick.
6. Your edge comes from your scars, not your image.
7. Self-leadership is the highest form of leadership.
8. Numbing never fixes the pattern—it only swaps it out.
9. Real connection requires real presence.
10. Boundaries build bridges, not walls.
11. The body keeps the score and the wisdom—learn to listen.
12. Legacy isn’t what you build, it’s who you become.
13. Freedom is the sharpest edge you’ll ever carry.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “The thing I was most afraid to lose turned out to be the thing I gained the most: freedom.”
• “Shame dies the second it’s spoken into the light.”
• “Self-leadership is the highest form of leadership—if you can’t lead yourself, you can’t lead anyone else.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):
Take one place in your life where you’re hiding, numbing, or half-living—and drag it into the light. Get radically honest with yourself about what it’s costing you. Then choose one small, disciplined action today that builds your freedom muscle.

You’ve been circling a decision—you can feel it in your body. One moment you see yourself freer and bigger on the other side. The next, fear pulls the brake and whispers what if you blow up your life? You stall, wait for clarity, and call it timing, but deep down you’re not stuck because you don’t know the answer—you’re stuck because you don’t trust yourself to choose it. In this episode, Tracy breaks down how to tell the difference between fear in disguise and a true fuck yes—and gives you the five-step practice to move forward with clarity, courage, and compassion.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The difference between contracting fear and an expansive fuck yes.
• How each Enneagram center (instinct, heart, head) processes decisions.
• The one question each type must ask before leaping.
• Why fear can have a voice but not a vote.
• A five-step practice to check your motives and move forward aligned.

Key Takeaways (by Center):

Instinct Types (8, 9, 1)

• Hangup: Mistake reaction for clarity; resist discomfort.
• Edge: Ask if you’re grounded—or just avoiding vulnerability, peace disruption, or being wrong.

Heart Types (2, 3, 4)

• Hangup: Say yes for applause or no to avoid rejection.
• Edge: Ask—if no one clapped, would I still want this?

Head Types (5, 6, 7)

• Hangup: Overanalyze, overprepare, or chase shiny things for certainty.
• Edge: Ask—am I chasing safety/options, or trusting my true yes?

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Fear can have a voice, but it does not get a vote.”
• “A fuck yes will feel alive—even in the presence of fear.”
• “Your fear doesn’t get the final word. Your clarity does. Your calling does.”
  
  

Pause. Take inventory with compassion. Cross-check your yes or no through another center of intelligence. Then ask—if fear wasn’t driving, what would I choose? And finally—move. Action builds confidence. Decide with grace and conviction, and then take the leap.

Resources & Links

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint: https://tracyomalley.com/work-with-me
• Book a 90-Minute Deep Dive Session: https://tracyomalley.com/work-with-me
• Connect with Tracy on Instagram: https://instagram.com/tracy_omalley

You believe in your work with every cell in your body—until it’s time to market it. Then you freeze, overthink, stall, water it down, or avoid it altogether…and beat yourself up later. You’re not broken, bad at business, or missing the magic strategy. Marketing feels so personal because it is personal—it brushes up against identity, worth, and your deepest fear of being misunderstood or dismissed. In this episode, I call out the specific hangup for each Enneagram type and give you the exact edge to move through it—so you can finally show up in a way that lands. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why marketing doesn’t “break” you—it exposes you (and your wiring).
2. The core marketing hangup for each of the nine Enneagram types.
3. The velvet-hammer truth that cuts through perfectionism, second-guessing, and hiding.
4. Your personalized EDGE move—the contrary action that builds confidence and consistency.
5. How to market with clarity, courage, and precision without sanding down your magic.

Key Takeaways (by Type):

• Type 1 – The Reformer
  Hangup: Won’t release until it’s flawless; polish past the moment.
  Edge: Progress beats perfection—ship it messy. Your “subpar” is most people’s excellent.
• Type 2 – The Helper
  Hangup: Hides offers behind serving; fears marketing is selfish.
  Edge: Marketing is service. If they don’t know, you can’t help.
• Type 3 – The Achiever
  Hangup: So polished you feel untouchable; performing > connecting.
  Edge: Humanity builds trust. Share the story behind the success—real, not manipulative.
• Type 4 – The Individualist
  Hangup: Resists structure; waits for the muse; inconsistent output.
  Edge: Structure is the container that lets your creativity breathe. Put a system around your art.
• Type 5 – The Investigator
  Hangup: Over-research, hoard, “not ready yet”—the work never leaves your head.
  Edge: Share before you’re ready. Clarity comes through action, not more data.
• Type 6 – The Loyalist
  Hangup: Second-guesses every word; over-proofing dilutes the message.
  Edge: Anchor in your why, not guarantees. Hit publish while you still feel the tremble.
• Type 7 – The Enthusiast
  Hangup: Starts 100 ideas; doesn’t stick; trust erodes in the chaos.
  Edge: Discipline creates freedom. Choose one lane and finish the arc.
• Type 8 – The Challenger
  Hangup: Holding back power so you’re not “too much”; or refusing to promote at all.
  Edge: Lead boldly with intention and integrity. Don’t pull your punches—direct lands.
• Type 9 – The Peacemaker
  Hangup: Softens edges to avoid standing out; tries to please everyone and reaches no one.
  Edge: Your voice matters. Take up space; be specific and a little polarizing on purpose.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Marketing doesn’t break you—it exposes you.”
• “Perfect content that never gets shared changes zero lives.”
• “What protects you can also paralyze you if it runs the show.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):
Notice your hangup the moment it shows up—and take the opposite action in real time. Hit publish at 80%. Make one clear ask. Choose one offer and promote it for seven days straight. Your courage—not another template—is what converts. Call to Action:

• Don’t guess your wiring. Get your Enneagram Blueprint
• Want hands-on help applying this to your message and marketing? Book a 90-minute intensive with me. Let’s get your voice clear, consistent, and unapologetic—on purpose.

You can be surrounded by people—friends, colleagues, even family—and still feel completely alone. If you’ve ever worn the “lone wolf” badge like a crown, only to realize one day it’s really a cage, this episode is for you. I know this story because I’ve lived it. For years, I prided myself on being self-sufficient, strong, unstoppable—and I was. But I was also starving for connection. In this episode, I break down the true cost of living as the lone wolf, how each Enneagram type isolates in their own way, and how you can finally trade that cage for the belonging you’ve been craving all along. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. The myth of the lone wolf: why what looks like strength on the outside is often suffering on the inside.
2. The hidden cost of self-reliance: how independence can slide into isolation that robs you of joy, connection, and purpose.
3. How each Enneagram type “lone wolfs”—and the motives behind the walls we build.
4. Practical steps to open the door to connection without swinging to extremes or losing yourself.
5. Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness, and how practicing it builds the “soul fam” you were made for.

Key Takeaways:

• The lone wolf isn’t strong—it’s scared.
• We all isolate in different ways: Eights build walls of steel, Fives retreat, Fours spiral in uniqueness, Threes power through goals, Ones micromanage, Sixes mistrust, Sevens avoid depth, Twos give without receiving, Nines withdraw to keep peace.
• Protection feels safe in the moment, but it eventually costs you the very thing you need most—connection and belonging.
• Practicing vulnerability—one text, one voice note, one brave share—is how you flex the muscle that brings the right people closer.
• Your Enneagram type is a roadmap to show you where you block belonging—and how to compassionately open the door again.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Strength without connection isn’t strength at all—it’s suffering.”
• “The lone wolf badge of honor is really a cage.”
• “You don’t find your soul family by accident—you find them by choosing to show up without the armor.”

Call to Action:

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint → tracyomalley.com
• Join me inside The Enneagram Edge Foundations Program—four weeks live with me where we’ll walk the roadmap of all nine types so you can stop lone wolfing, start belonging, and finally lead, love, and live with your full edge. https://tracyomalley.com/certification

You’ve chased the hacks, the funnels, the scripts, the formulas—and maybe they gave you a little traction. But not the kind of impact or income you know you’re capable of. Here’s the truth: strategy will only take you so far. Success doesn’t come from saying more, it comes from being heard. And people don’t hear you because you’re louder or smarter. They hear you when they feel seen, understood, and safe enough to trust you. That’s the real million-dollar edge—and it’s not in another hack, it’s in how you connect. In this episode, I’m showing you how the Enneagram unlocks the language of trust, influence, and impact—and how I used it to build a multi-million-dollar business from the ground up.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why people aren’t buying your passion—they’re buying trust. How the Enneagram reveals the nine motivational currencies that drive decisions.
2. How I went from rehab to my first million in 26 months—with no social network, no sales experience, and a tool I once rejected.
3. The difference between attraction vs. promotion—and how the Enneagram helps you move from transactional sales to transformative conversations.
4. The role of leverage, duplication, and retention in building not just income, but legacy.
5. Four areas where the Enneagram makes you money: sales, leadership, conflict resolution, and scaling beyond yourself.

Key Takeaways:

• Success isn’t about saying more, it’s about being heard. The Enneagram gives you the roadmap to speak in a way people can receive.
• People will buy, join, and commit when they feel seen, understood, and valued—not when you push.
• I built my first million-dollar business not by enrolling hundreds of people but by going deep with 82 people and leading them with integrity.
• In today’s “trust recession,” the ability to speak someone’s language is more valuable than any hack or formula.
• The Enneagram can transform your leadership by customizing motivation, resolving conflict, and creating duplication that scales.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “You’re having one-night stands with your people. It’s time to date them.”
• “When people feel seen, they’re more willing to buy, join, or commit.”
• “Million-dollar businesses aren’t built on one big sale. They’re built on keeping people engaged.”

Call to Action:

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint → tracyomalley.com
• Join me inside The Enneagram Edge Foundations Program starting September 3. Four weeks of live coaching where I’ll teach you the exact language, strategies, and integration tools I used to build a multi-million-dollar business. Link in show notes.

We’ve all been there—you’ve built a life that looks good on paper. The job works, the bills are paid, the people around you love you. If someone asked, you’d say you’re fine. But deep down, you know better. Fine is the counterfeit. It mimics peace, but it steals your fire. It’s just comfortable enough to keep you from risking what’s actually waiting for you. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on my own 18-month spiritual sabbatical and the moment I finally declared “I can’t do this anymore.” We’ll talk about the real cost of settling for “good enough,” the way the Enneagram reveals where you get trapped in it, and how to make room for the miracle that’s already on its way. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why “fine” is the counterfeit. Good enough mimics peace, but it steals your fire, your joy, and your clarity.
2. The hidden cost of settling for fine: the mental, emotional, and physical toll of living in “I’m fine” mode.
3. The power of declaration. How saying out loud “I can’t do this anymore” makes room for alignment and miracles.
4. How the Enneagram reveals your personal trap with “good enough”—and how to use it as a roadmap out of settling.
5. Why alignment doesn’t come from hustling harder—it comes from refusing to settle for counterfeit and making space for the real thing.

Key Takeaways by Enneagram Type:

• Types 8, 3, and 1 (motion-driven): Your “good enough” looks like achievement—climbing ladders that don’t even matter anymore just to distract yourself from emptiness.
• Types 4, 6, and 9 (comfort-driven): Your “good enough” looks like safety—choosing predictable pain over uncertain possibility. It feels responsible, but it’s really fear dressed as loyalty.
• Types 2, 5, and 7 (distraction-driven): Your “good enough” looks like over-giving, over-researching, or over-indulging—filling the space so you never have to stop and face what’s gutting you.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Fine is not harmless. It’s a slow bleed.”
• “Gratitude is sacred. Settling isn’t.”
• “Your miracle is already waiting for you, but as long as you’re settling for fine, there’s no room for it to land.”

Call to Action:

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint → tracyomalley.com
• Join me inside The Enneagram Edge Foundations Program (starts Sept 3). Four weeks of live coaching where you’ll learn how to spot your “fine,” declare what you’re actually here for, and build the muscle to act as if it’s already happening. 

Ever had someone hurt you so deeply it made you want to slam the door, burn the bridge, and never look back? I’ve been there — more than once. And for a long time, I thought strength meant holding the wall high and making damn sure they’d never get another shot. But a few years ago, a betrayal tested every ounce of “walk your talk” I claimed to live by.

This episode isn’t about fluffy, kumbaya forgiveness. It’s about the kind that keeps you from bleeding out emotionally, professionally, and spiritually. It’s about forgiving yourself for the role you played, knowing the cost of holding onto anger, and choosing to protect without hardening your heart.

We’re going deep into:

• Why forgiveness is a growth hack for leaders, high-achievers, and anyone who wants to live unshackled.
• The three sneaky traps high-level people fall into when they won’t forgive — and how they leak into your leadership, relationships, and influence.
• How each Enneagram type’s root fear blocks forgiveness (and the exact unlock for all 9 types).
• My personal stories — from a gut-punch betrayal three years ago to a recent moment with my partner — and how I moved from hurt to healing without bypassing the process.
• The 4-step framework: Feel. Heal. Grow. Move Through.

Key Takeaways by Enneagram Type:

• Type 1 – The Reformer: Your forgiveness block is seeing hurt as a moral failure—either in yourself or others. The unlock? Embrace imperfection as human, not a character flaw.
• Type 2 – The Helper: Hurt triggers feelings of being unwanted or unworthy of love. The unlock? Recognize your worth isn’t tied to being needed, appreciated, or loved by someone else.
• Type 3 – The Achiever: Pain threatens your identity and public image. The unlock? Detach your worth from performance and perception.
• Type 4 – The Individualist: Pain can become part of your identity, making it hard to let go. The unlock? See that releasing hurt doesn’t erase your depth or magic.
• Type 5 – The Investigator: Betrayal shakes your trust in your ability to see things coming. The unlock? Accept that vulnerability is strength—not a liability.
• Type 6 – The Loyalist: Broken trust feels like your whole foundation is gone. The unlock? Anchor yourself in self-trust and resilience instead of chasing external certainty.
• Type 7 – The Enthusiast: You avoid hurt to dodge feeling trapped, which delays real release. The unlock? Face the pain now—true freedom comes from moving through it.
• Type 8 – The Challenger: Hurt feels like a threat to your autonomy and control. The unlock? Know that forgiveness is reclaiming your power, not surrendering it.
• Type 9 – The Peacemaker: You minimize hurt to keep the peace, but resentment simmers underneath. The unlock? True peace comes from addressing the hurt, not sweeping it under the rug.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Forgiveness doesn’t erase the past. It unhooks you from it.”
• “Forgiveness is not weakness. It’s one of the greatest growth-hacks you can flex.”
• “It doesn’t mean they get to stay in your life. But it does mean you get to be free.”

Call to Action:

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint—you need the correct map to navigate forgiveness with precision: tracyomalley.com
• Join the Enneagram Edge Foundations Program, launching live Sept 3—four weeks of group coaching where we turn forgiveness and wiring into practice, not theory. #WalkYourTalk

In this powerful episode, Tracy O'Malley dives into a hot topic: the intersection of AI and the Enneagram. With the rise of AI tools like ChatGPT, many are turning to these platforms for quick answers about their Enneagram type and personal growth. But Tracy is here to set the record straight—your transformation isn’t programmable, it’s personal.She unpacks why AI often gets the Enneagram wrong, how it mirrors the masks we wear instead of revealing our truth, and why the Enneagram is a sacred map meant to be lived, not downloaded. Tracy shares her own journey with the Enneagram, the pitfalls of seeking fast answers, and how true growth requires devotion, disruption, and integration.If you’ve ever felt mistyped, misled, or misunderstood by AI or other Enneagram tools, this episode will help you reclaim your edge with real truth, not templated data.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why AI can’t accurately type you and often mirrors your coping mechanisms instead of your core motives.
• The difference between surface-level insights and the deep, transformative work the Enneagram requires.
• How to use AI as a reflection tool without letting it lead your journey.
• Why the Enneagram is not a quick fix but a sacred map for sustainable growth.
• The importance of integration over information in your transformation process.

Key Takeaways:

1. AI Isn’t Your Guide: AI can mimic awareness, but it can’t mentor your transformation. It reflects the masks you wear, not the truth underneath.
2. The Enneagram Is a Sacred Map: It’s not just a personality label or a quick fix—it’s a tool for deep, ongoing evolution.
3. Transformation Takes Time: True growth doesn’t happen on your timeline, it happens on truth’s timeline.
4. Use AI Wisely: AI can generate reflection prompts and highlight patterns, but it’s not a replacement for human connection and mentorship.
5. Integration Is Key: Knowing your type is just the beginning. Real transformation happens when you integrate the Enneagram into your daily life.

Next Steps with Tracy:

• Ready to go deeper? Join Tracy’s Enneagram Edge Foundations Program starting September 3rd. This live, four-week program is designed to teach you the full, accurate framework of the Enneagram with Tracy as your guide.
• Explore your own Enneagram Blueprint or book a private session with Tracy to uncover your truth and accelerate your growth.

Connect with Tracy:

• Instagram: @Tracy_O'Malley
• Website: TracyOMalley.com

If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to leave a review and share your thoughts. Your feedback helps more people discover the transformative power of the Enneagram taught the right way.

Your transformation isn’t about faster answers or prettier language—it’s about remembering who you are and walking through the fire with integrity. The Enneagram is your sacred map, and Tracy is here to guide you every step of the way.Tune in now and take the first step toward reclaiming your edge!

In this episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley takes you behind the scenes of her journey from building a multi-eight-figure sales organization to becoming a master Enneagram strategist. If you’ve been feeling stuck in your business—working harder but seeing fewer results, struggling to connect with your team or audience, or frustrated by sales that just won’t convert—this episode is your wake-up call. Tracy reveals how the Enneagram isn’t just a personality tool but a game-changing framework for understanding the people you lead, sell to, and serve. Learn how to move beyond surface-level strategies and scripts to create soul-driven sales, authentic leadership, and a legacy that lasts.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why Your Business Feels Stuck:
   • The disconnect between your vision and your results isn’t about doing more—it’s about understanding deeper.
   • People don’t buy because of perfect pitches, they buy because they feel seen, understood, and valued.
2. The Secret to Sustainable Sales and Leadership:
   • Tracy shares how she quietly used the Enneagram for over a decade to scale her business, build trust, and create a ripple effect of impact.
   • Sales isn’t about scripts—it’s about relationships. When you understand what motivates people at their core, you unlock their potential and your own.
3. How the Enneagram Transforms Sales and Leadership:
   • The Enneagram gives you a lens into someone’s internal operating system: their fears, desires, and decision-making patterns.
   • It’s not about labeling people—it’s about leveraging their unique drivers to build trust, connection, and results.
4. The EDGE Formula for Enneagram Mastery:
   • E - Examine Operating Systems: Understand the internal drivers of yourself, your team, and your audience.
   • D - Discern and Direct Energy: Balance soul and strategy to lead with alignment and purpose.
   • G - Ground Yourself: Stay rooted in your “why” and lead from authenticity, not fear or ego.
   • E - Express and Enforce Boundaries: Lead with clarity, integrity, and intention.
5. Why the Enneagram is the Ultimate Sales Tool:
   • It helps you move beyond behaviors to understand the motives underneath.
   • It bridges the gap between soul and strategy, creating resonance instead of repetition.
   • It’s not just about making money—it’s about multiplying impact, trust, and legacy.

Key Quotes:

• “People don’t buy because of your perfect pitch—they buy because they feel seen, understood, and valued.”
• “Sales isn’t about scripts—it’s about relationships. And relationships are built on trust.”
• “The Enneagram isn’t about labels—it’s about leverage. It’s the key to unlocking the soul behind the sale.”
• “When soul and strategy work together, you don’t just grow—you rise.”

Call to Action:

• Ready to transform your sales, leadership, and legacy? Join Tracy’s Enneagram Foundations Course, starting September 3rd. This live, four-week program will teach you how to use the Enneagram to unlock your edge and lead with precision and purpose. [Link in show notes]
• Want personalized guidance? Apply for Tracy’s VIP coaching to accelerate your growth and impact. [Link in show notes]
• Share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop spinning their wheels and start leading with soul and strategy.

If you’re tired of surface-level strategies and ready to lead with depth, alignment, and authenticity, the Enneagram is your map. It’s time to stop guessing and start understanding. When you lead from this place, there’s no ceiling to your impact or income. Let’s honor your edge and create a legacy that lasts. Stay sharp, stay true, and keep rising.

In this powerful episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley dives deep into the concept of integrity—not the polished, Instagram-worthy version, but the raw, unshakable alignment between your values, voice, and actions. If you’ve ever felt the quiet chaos of betraying your own truth for approval, comfort, or control, this episode is your wake-up call. Tracy shares how the Enneagram serves as a compass to help you recognize where you’ve drifted out of alignment and how to come back home to yourself. This isn’t about perfection or performance—it’s about living in integrity every single day and transforming your life, relationships, and legacy in the process.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. The Real Meaning of Integrity:
   • Integrity isn’t about being perfect or untouchable—it’s about being unshakably honest with yourself and others.
   • Alignment happens when your values, voice, and actions match—both on stage and backstage.
2. How the Enneagram Guides You Back to Integrity:
   • The Enneagram isn’t just a personality framework—it’s a map that shows you where you lose yourself and how to return to your truth.
   • Your core Enneagram type reveals your default patterns, fears, and motives, helping you recalibrate when you drift out of alignment.
3. Warning Signs and Course Corrections for Each Enneagram Type:
   • Type 1 (The Perfectionist): Out of integrity when you weaponize your inner critic. Realign by letting go of being right and focusing on being real.
   • Type 2 (The Helper): Out of integrity when you give to get and call it love. Realign by setting boundaries and honoring your own needs.
   • Type 3 (The Achiever): Out of integrity when your image leads and your soul follows. Realign by dropping the mask and speaking from your mess.
   • Type 4 (The Individualist): Out of integrity when emotional intensity overrides grounding presence. Realign by anchoring in the now and remembering you’re not your mood.
   • Type 5 (The Investigator): Out of integrity when you withhold truth to feel safe. Realign by sharing your insights and showing up fully.
   • Type 6 (The Loyalist): Out of integrity when fear hijacks your intuition. Realign by making decisions from inner calm, not outer chaos.
   • Type 7 (The Enthusiast): Out of integrity when positivity becomes a bypass. Realign by facing the hard stuff and feeling what’s real.
   • Type 8 (The Challenger): Out of integrity when control overtakes connection. Realign by letting softness lead and embracing vulnerability.
   • Type 9 (The Peacemaker): Out of integrity when you disappear to keep the peace. Realign by speaking up, even if your voice shakes.
4. The Power of Integrity in Leadership, Relationships, and Legacy:
   • Integrity isn’t a one-time decision—it’s a thousand tiny recalibrations every day.
   • When you live in integrity, you stop performing and start living. Your relationships deepen, your leadership becomes magnetic, and your legacy transforms.

Key Quotes:

• “Integrity doesn’t crumble all at once—it leaks in the moments you abandon your truth to stay comfortable.”
• “The Enneagram isn’t here to label you—it’s here to liberate you.”
• “When you walk in integrity, you don’t just change your life—you change your legacy.”
• “The thing you think defines you is actually the thing refining you.”

Call to Action:

• Ready to rebuild self-trust and live with unshakable integrity? Join Tracy’s Enneagram Foundations Course, starting September 3rd. This live, four-week program will teach you how to use the Enneagram as a compass for alignment and transformation. [Link in show notes]
• Want personalized guidance? Apply for Tracy’s VIP coaching to accelerate your growth and build your integrity muscle. [Link in show notes]
• Share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop performing and start...

Conflict isn’t the breakdown—it’s the access point to transformation. In this episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley dismantles the myths around conflict and shows you how to leverage it as a tool for growth, leadership, and connection. Whether you bulldoze, avoid, or manipulate your way through conflict, this episode will help you uncover the patterns beneath your reactions and teach you how to navigate conflict with clarity, compassion, and power. Tracy shares five master-level strategies using the Enneagram to help you stop surviving conflict and start leading through it.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why Conflict is the Greatest Opportunity for Growth:
   • Conflict reveals where you disconnect from yourself, armor up, or prioritize being right over being real.
   • It’s not about fixing the problem—it’s about leveraging the moment to lead with authenticity and depth.
2. The 5 Master-Level Ways the Enneagram Helps You Navigate Conflict:
   • Know the Pattern Beneath the Problem:
     • Your Enneagram type writes the script for how you react in conflict. Learn to recognize the root of your reactions and respond with intention.
   • Stop Making It Personal and Start Making It Useful:
     • Understand that most reactions aren’t about you—they’re about the other person’s wiring. Use this awareness to lead with compassion instead of defensiveness.
   • Listen to the Fear Beneath the Fight:
     • People don’t fight about facts—they fight about feelings and safety. Learn to hear the fear driving the conflict and respond to what’s unsaid.
   • Take Responsibility Without Losing Yourself:
     • Own your impact without collapsing into shame or abandoning your truth. The power of “and” allows you to hold duality in conflict.
   • Let Conflict Shape You, Not Shame You:
     • Conflict isn’t a character flaw—it’s the fire that forges your edge. Use it to refine yourself and transform your relationships, leadership, and culture.
3. How the Centers of Intelligence React in Conflict:
   • Instinctual Types (8, 9, 1): React with power, withdrawal, or control when feeling disrespected or out of control.
   • Heart Types (2, 3, 4): Seek validation, perform, or withdraw when feeling unloved or unseen.
   • Head Types (5, 6, 7): Overthink, detach, or distract when feeling unprepared or unsupported.
4. The Role of the Enneagram in Conflict Resolution:
   • The Enneagram helps you translate behavior instead of absorbing it, giving you the tools to navigate conflict with clarity and compassion.
   • It’s not just about managing people—it’s about transforming cultures, relationships, and yourself.

Key Quotes:

• “Conflict isn’t the breakdown—it’s the wake-up call.”
• “You’re not reacting to the moment—you’re reacting to the meaning your body assigned to it decades ago.”
• “The Enneagram teaches you to translate, not absorb. That’s where the magic happens.”
• “The thing you think defines you is actually the thing refining you.”

Call to Action:

• Ready to master conflict and transform your relationships, leadership, and life? Join Tracy’s Enneagram Master Certification Level 1, starting September 3rd. This live, four-week program will teach you how to integrate the Enneagram into your life and leadership. [Link in show notes]
• Want personalized guidance? Apply for Tracy’s VIP coaching—only two spots available. [Link in show notes]
• Share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop playing small and start leading with precision and purpose.

Conflict is the fire that forges your edge. When you stop fearing it and start leveraging it, you become the leader, partner, and parent you were always meant to be. If this episode cracked something open in you, share it, subscribe, and leave a review....

We’re halfway through the year, and it’s time to get real. Procrastination isn’t just a harmless habit—it’s a thief that robs you of your potential, peace, and progress. In this episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley dives deep into the unique ways procrastination shows up for each Enneagram type and how to break free from its grip. Whether you’re stuck in perfectionism, people-pleasing, overthinking, or chasing shiny objects, this episode will give you the clarity, compassion, and tools to cross your finish line with confidence.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. The Truth About Procrastination:
   • Procrastination isn’t laziness—it’s your nervous system protecting you from perceived danger like failure, rejection, or vulnerability.
   • It’s a beautifully decorated prison for your potential, and it’s time to break out.
2. The Cost of Procrastination:
   • Procrastination costs U.S. businesses over $10,000 per employee annually in lost productivity.
   • It’s linked to higher rates of depression, anxiety, and even physical health issues.
   • It’s not just a quirk—it’s a serious barrier to your success and well-being.
3. How Procrastination Shows Up for Each Enneagram Type:
   • Type 1 (The Perfectionist): Stuck in perfecting details and avoiding mistakes. Solution: Let “good enough” be good enough and lean on your wings.
   • Type 2 (The Helper): Focused on others’ needs to avoid their own. Solution: Prioritize your own finish line—your dreams matter.
   • Type 3 (The Achiever): Avoids tasks that might reveal imperfection or failure. Solution: Redefine success as courageous completion, not speed.
   • Type 4 (The Individualist): Waits for inspiration or certainty before starting. Solution: Take action even when it feels ordinary.
   • Type 5 (The Investigator): Gathers endless information before acting. Solution: Commit to action before feeling fully prepared.
   • Type 6 (The Loyal Skeptic): Paralyzed by worst-case scenarios. Solution: Take one small, controlled step at a time.
   • Type 7 (The Enthusiast): Abandons projects for newer, shinier ideas. Solution: Celebrate each moment of completion to stay anchored.
   • Type 8 (The Challenger): Avoids tasks that expose vulnerability or feel like losing control. Solution: Embrace vulnerability as power and set up accountability.
   • Type 9 (The Peacemaker): Drifts into distractions and avoids conflict. Solution: Reignite your vision and take small, consistent steps.
4. The Power of Tritype Awareness:
   • Your tritype reveals how your thinking, feeling, and doing centers work together to keep you stuck—or help you break free.
   • Understanding your tritype gives you compassion, clarity, and the courage to move forward.
5. Tracy’s Personal Story:
   • Tracy shares her own battle with procrastination while building her Enneagram certification program, including how her Enneagram 8 core fears of vulnerability and betrayal showed up.
   • By leaning into accountability and compassion, she broke through her hesitation and reclaimed her power.

Call to Action:

• Ready to understand your procrastination patterns and break free? Get your Enneagram Blueprint and add a 30-minute live reading to dive deeper into your tritype: https://tracy-o-malley-3e8a.mykajabi.com/offers/ompAoGjd/checkout
• Want to master the Enneagram for yourself, your family, or your business? Join Tracy’s Enneagram Master Certification Level 1, starting September 3rd: https://tracyomalley.com/certification-purchase
• Share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop playing small and start showing up for their life.

Key Quotes:

• “Procrastination isn’t laziness—it’s a quiet contract you make with your fears.”
• “Every day you let procrastination win, you teach yourself you can’t trust yourself to...

In this episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley cuts through the fluff and dives into what it really takes to move beyond basic Enneagram knowledge. If you’re tired of surface-level insights and ready to wield the Enneagram as a tool for real transformation, this episode is your wake-up call. Tracy shares how to break free from old patterns, integrate the Enneagram into your daily life, and claim your edge in leadership, relationships, and personal growth.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why Knowing Your Type Isn’t Enough:
   • Insight without integration is useless. Mastery means transforming your patterns, not just recognizing them.
2. Signs You’ve Outgrown Enneagram 101:
   • You’re bored with shallow “what’s your type” conversations.
   • Your patterns feel suffocating, and you’re craving tools to break free.
   • You want to understand the why behind your behaviors, not just the what.
   • You’re ready to stop sabotaging the things that matter most—relationships, leadership, and peace.
3. What Enneagram Mastery Really Means:
   • Moving from “Who am I?” to “How am I showing up?”
   • Understanding your full Enneagram architecture: subtype, wings, tritype, and instinctual stack.
   • Using the Enneagram in real time—when you’re triggered, scared, or facing big decisions.
   • Prioritizing integration over information to create lasting change.
4. Why Tracy’s Approach Changes Everything:
   • Tracy doesn’t stop at your core type. She maps your full Enneagram framework and teaches you how to use it with precision.
   • Her coaching combines radical honesty with compassion, giving you actionable tools to apply immediately.
   • With over 25 years of entrepreneurial and leadership experience, Tracy brings unmatched wisdom and perspective.
5. The Cost of Staying in Enneagram 101:
   • You’ll keep looping in old patterns, mistaking insight for growth, and feeling stuck in frustration.
   • Knowledge without integration isn’t wisdom—it’s time to break free and claim your edge.

Call to Action:

• Ready to step into mastery? Apply for Tracy’s Enneagram Master Certification Level 1, starting this September. This live, four-week program will teach you how to integrate the Enneagram into your life and leadership. [Link in show notes]
• Want personalized guidance? Apply for Tracy’s VIP coaching—only two spots available. [Link in show notes]
• Share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop playing small and start leading with precision and purpose.

Key Quotes:

• “Insight is useless without integration. Staying in Enneagram 101 is like learning the alphabet but never writing your own story.”
• “Mastery isn’t about perfection. It’s about catching yourself faster, repairing sooner, and aligning with your true self longer.”
• “When you master the Enneagram, you don’t just feel seen—you become effective.”

Transformation isn’t a checkbox—it’s a decision. The Enneagram is your ultimate power tool when you know how to use it. If this episode lit a fire under you, share it, subscribe, and leave a review. Your edge isn’t something to be polished down—it’s meant to lead. Stay sharp, stay true, and keep walking your edge.

In this episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley dives into five bold, no-BS truths about the Enneagram that challenge the watered-down, trendy takes you’ve probably seen online. If you’ve ever felt stuck, misunderstood, or like you’re just scratching the surface of what the Enneagram can do, this episode is your wake-up call. Tracy breaks down how to move beyond labels, embrace the full power of the Enneagram, and use it as the ultimate tool for transformation in your life, leadership, and relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. The Real Purpose of the Enneagram:
   • The Enneagram isn’t about slapping a label on yourself or others. It’s about uncovering the parts of you shaped by pain, pressure, and survival—and reclaiming the version of you that existed before the world told you who to be.
2. Unpopular Opinion #1: You Are Not Your Number
   • Your Enneagram type is your home base, not your identity. Many people cling to their type as armor, but true growth comes from integrating the framework and moving beyond survival strategies.
3. Unpopular Opinion #2: Your Wings Aren’t Accessories—They’re Lifelines
   • Both wings of your Enneagram type are essential for balance and growth. Using only one wing is like trying to fly with one wing—you’ll crash, burn, or just keep circling.
4. Unpopular Opinion #3: If You Don’t Know Your Subtype, You Don’t Know Your Type
   • Subtypes (self-preservation, social, one-on-one) are critical to understanding yourself and others. Without this layer, you’re only seeing half the picture.
5. Unpopular Opinion #4: Knowing Your Type Won’t Change Your Life—Living It Will
   • Transformation happens when you integrate the Enneagram into your life from the neck down, not just the neck up. It’s about embodiment, not just information.
6. Unpopular Opinion #5: Online Assessments Type Your Mask, Not Your Motive
   • Most assessments measure behaviors, not the core motives driving them. This is why many people mistype themselves and miss out on the real power of the Enneagram.

Tracy shares how these truths have shaped her own journey and the lives of her clients. From corporate teams to personal relationships, understanding the deeper layers of the Enneagram can transform how you lead, love, and live.

Key Quotes:

• “The Enneagram wasn’t created to slap a label on your personality. It’s here to help you reclaim who you were before the world told you who to be.”
• “Your wings aren’t just cute add-ons—they’re the lifelines that keep you balanced and moving forward.”
• “If you don’t know your subtype, you’re working with incomplete information. It’s like trying to navigate with the wrong GPS coordinates.”
• “Transformation isn’t about learning more—it’s about living it from the neck down.”

Call to Action:

• Ready to go deeper? Join the waitlist for Tracy’s upcoming Enneagram Certification program, designed for leaders, coaches, and anyone ready to use the Enneagram as a transformative tool. https://tracyomalley.com/certification-purchase
• Share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop playing small and start showing up with clarity, confidence, and compassion.
• Follow Tracy on Instagram (@tracy_omalley) for more Enneagram insights and updates.

Transformation isn’t a checkbox—it’s a decision. The Enneagram is your ultimate power tool when you know how to use it. Stay sharp, stay true, and keep walking your edge.

We all have those little rituals, habits, or quick fixes we reach for when life feels overwhelming—a glass of wine, a hit of sugar, a scroll through social media. They seem harmless, even helpful, right? But here’s the truth: what helps you take the edge off can also take you off your edge. In this episode, I’m getting real about the sneaky ways we dull our instincts, intuition, and power—and how to reclaim the sharpness that makes you, YOU.This isn’t about shame or cutting everything out of your life. It’s about radical self-honesty, compassionate inventory, and asking yourself the hard questions: Is this grounding me, or is it numbing me?What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How the things you use to “take the edge off” might actually be dulling your edge.
• Why even the most intentional rituals can become traps when you start depending on them.
• The difference between soothing yourself and silencing yourself.
• How to identify what you’re really reaching for when you feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, or underappreciated.
• How the Enneagram can help you uncover the root motivations behind your habits and patterns.

Key Takeaways:

1. Edge Erosion is Sneaky: You don’t lose your edge all at once—it leaks away, one sip, one scroll, one snack at a time. Tiny moments of permission can quietly say, “I can’t handle this on my own.”
2. Radical Self-Honesty is Key: This isn’t about judgment—it’s about asking yourself, “What am I really reaching for? What am I trying not to feel?”
3. Your Edge is a Signal, Not a Problem: The discomfort you’re trying to soften might actually be a sign that you’re out of alignment—not broken, just misdirected.
4. The Enneagram as a Compass: Your Enneagram type doesn’t just reveal your behaviors—it shows you the motivations behind them. It’s a tool to help you take inventory without shame and get to the root of your patterns.

Practical Tools from This Episode:

• Pause and Reflect: Ask yourself, “What do I reach for when I feel overstimulated, overwhelmed, or uncertain? Is this soothing me, or silencing me?”
• Take an Inventory: Look at your habits and rituals with compassion. Are they helping you for the long game, or are they quietly robbing you of your clarity and power?
• Use the Enneagram as a Mirror: Your type can help you trace the “why” behind every reach, every spiral, and every escape hatch. It’s not about labeling yourself—it’s about understanding yourself.

You were built with edge on purpose. It’s not something to dull down or manage—it’s something to honor, sharpen, and trust. When you stop outsourcing your calm and start leading from your truth, you reclaim your clarity, your power, and your legacy.Call to Action:

• Get Your Enneagram Blueprint: Go to TracyOmalley.com and grab your customized Enneagram Blueprint to uncover the motivations behind your patterns.
• Work with Me: Whether it’s a 30-minute reading, a VIP day, or a deep-dive coaching container, I’m here to help you honor your edge and step into your highest expression. Check out the Work With Me section on my website.

Final Thoughts:
You don’t need another fix—you need to come back home to yourself. Your edge isn’t something to be polished down—it’s part of you that was always meant to lead. Let’s sharpen it with truth, love, and compassion.Connect with Me:

• Instagram: @tracy_omalley
• Website: tracyomalley.com

“Stop managing your edge and start trusting it. You’ve got an edge—let’s use it.”Let’s fucking go!

In this fiery and no-nonsense episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley calls out the sneaky ways resistance shows up in our lives, shapeshifting into something we trust—intuition, strategy, even our Enneagram type. But here’s the truth: resistance hijacks your survival patterns, flatters your strengths, and keeps you stuck in a loop of productivity, perfection, and fear. This episode is about naming resistance, cutting through the bullshit, and reclaiming your edge by using the Enneagram as a weapon for transformation, not an excuse for stagnation.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How resistance cloaks itself in your Enneagram type’s survival patterns and sabotages your growth.
• Why resistance isn’t always fear or procrastination—it can look like over-functioning, perfectionism, or even kindness.
• The difference between resistance that grows you and resistance that keeps you stuck.
• A breakdown of how resistance shows up for each Enneagram type—and actionable steps to overcome it.
• Why compassion, curiosity, and consistency are the keys to breaking free from resistance.

Key Takeaways:

1. Resistance Wears Many Masks: It flatters your strengths, feeds off your virtues, and keeps you busy, admired, and stuck. Recognizing it is the first step to reclaiming your power.
2. The Enneagram is Not an Excuse: It’s a weapon for transformation. Stop using your type to justify your patterns and start using it to break free.
3. Compassion is Non-Negotiable: Beating yourself up won’t help. Meet resistance with curiosity and kindness to turn it into a tool for growth.

How Resistance Shows Up for Each Enneagram Type:

• Type 1 (The Virtuous Overachiever): Resistance looks like endless tweaking and polishing. Action step: Move anyway. Let it be imperfect.
• Type 2 (The Helpful Hustler): Resistance shows up as putting everyone else first. Action step: Prioritize yourself unapologetically—now, not later.
• Type 3 (The Strategic Chameleon): Resistance hides in optimization and performance. Action step: Choose what’s true, even if it doesn’t impress.
• Type 4 (The Depth Dweller): Resistance convinces you to wait for inspiration. Action step: Create anyway. Your truth is bigger than your pain.
• Type 5 (The Knowledge Collector): Resistance keeps you hoarding information. Action step: Speak, share, and trust your voice.
• Type 6 (The Devoted Doubter): Resistance demands guarantees. Action step: Leap without certainty. Leadership is courage, not preparation.
• Type 7 (The Optimistic Escapist): Resistance pivots you away from discomfort. Action step: Stay. Freedom is found in follow-through.
• Type 8 (The Armored Commander): Resistance tells you to push harder and armor up. Action step: Soften, surrender, and let support in.
• Type 9 (The Peaceful Producer): Resistance numbs your edge with comfort and distraction. Action step: Speak up, show up, and lead.

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

• Where are you calling resistance wisdom?
• Where are you confusing sabotage with service?
• What are you afraid will happen if you actually move?

Resources Mentioned:

• Do the Work by Steven Pressfield (a must-read for understanding resistance)
• Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint: Get your accurate type and fast-track your transformation at TracyO'Malley.com.

Connect with Tracy:

• Instagram: @tracy_omalley
• Website: TracyO'Malley.com

Final Thoughts: Resistance is loudest right before your breakthrough. It’s not here to break you—it’s here to build you. But you have to lean in, meet yourself with compassion, and...

In this raw and vulnerable episode of The Enneagram Edge, Tracy O’Malley dives deep into a topic that many high achievers avoid—our relationship with our bodies. As leaders, parents, and visionaries, we often push through fatigue, ignore the red flags, and treat our bodies like afterthoughts. But here’s the truth: your body is not separate from your calling—it’s the vessel that carries it. And if you’re out of alignment with your body, you’re out of alignment with your mission. This episode is a wake-up call to reclaim your strength, honor your softness, and redefine what it means to lead with integrity.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why disconnection from your body is a survival mechanism for many high achievers—and how it’s holding you back.
• The difference between endurance and embodiment—and why the latter is the key to sustainable power.
• How the Enneagram can help you understand your unique patterns of pushing through or avoiding your body’s signals.
• Tracy’s personal journey of navigating extremes—strength as protection, softness as vulnerability—and finding the sweet spot between the two.
• Practical steps to honor your vessel and lead from a place of integrity, including daily practices that reconnect you to your body.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your Body is the Blueprint, Not a Billboard: It’s not about aesthetics or performance—it’s about alignment. Your body holds the truth before your mind catches up.
2. Strength and Softness Can Coexist: For Tracy, reclaiming her feminine softness didn’t mean losing her edge—it became her edge. You can be both powerful and vulnerable.
3. The Body Keeps the Score: Ignoring your body’s signals will eventually lead to breakdowns. Real leadership starts with embodiment, not just mindset.
4. Practical Practices for Honoring Your Vessel:
   • Walk daily—not to burn calories, but to drop in and connect with yourself.
   • Lift with intention to support your hormones, joints, and longevity.
   • Eat for energy and strength, not validation.
   • Rest when your body says enough—this is wisdom, not weakness.

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

• Are you treating your body like a project or a partner?
• Where have you used strength to avoid your softness?
• What would integrity look like if it started in your nervous system, not your to-do list?
• Is your body whispering—or screaming—for your attention?

Resources Mentioned:

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk (a must-read for understanding the connection between trauma and the body)
• Tracy’s 1:1 Coaching and VIP Days: Dive deep into your Enneagram type and uncover how to align your body, mind, and mission. Learn more at TracyO'Malley.com.

Connect with Tracy:

• Instagram: @tracy_omalley
• Website: TracyO'Malley.com

Final Thoughts: This episode is a call to action for anyone who’s been ignoring their body’s signals in the name of productivity or survival. As Tracy says, “You don’t lose your edge by softening—you reclaim it when you stop abandoning yourself.” It’s time to honor the vessel that carries your calling and lead with integrity from the inside out.Call to Action: If this episode hit you in the gut or lit a fire under your ass, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Leave a review, subscribe, and let Tracy know what cracked open for you. Remember, your edge isn’t something to be polished down—it’s part of you that was always meant to lead. Stay sharp, stay true, and keep walking your edge.

You’re making high-level decisions every day—hiring, scaling, leading, launching. From the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all under control. But here’s the truth: if you haven’t examined who’s running the show inside of you, you’re not leading—you’re reacting. In this episode, we’re diving into what it means to truly be the CEO of your life, your business, and your legacy by understanding the internal boardroom that’s quietly influencing every move you make. This isn’t about managing people better—it’s about managing your own power better.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why most leaders are still being run by the version of themselves that had to survive, not the one born to lead.
• How your Enneagram type, Tri-Type, and Instinctual Drive are influencing your decisions—and how to stop defaulting to fear-based patterns.
• The key players in your internal boardroom: your core Enneagram type (the CEO), your wings (the advisors), your Tri-Type (the strategist, connector, and executor), and your instinctual subtype (the CFO of your energy).
• How to identify which part of you is speaking when you’re triggered—and whether it’s coming from strategy or protection.
• Why integrated leadership isn’t soft—it’s surgical.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your Core Enneagram Type is the CEO: This is where your core motives and fears live. It’s your home base, but it shouldn’t be running the show solo.
2. Your Wings are Your Advisors: Both wings bring unique strengths to the table. Leaning on just one will have you circling or crashing—use both for balance and range.
3. Your Tri-Type is Your Strategy Team: This is next-level Enneagram work. Your Tri-Type reveals how you think, feel, and act under pressure, giving you a nuanced strategy for leadership and decision-making.
4. Your Instinctual Subtype is the CFO of Your Energy: Whether you’re self-preservation, one-on-one (sexual), or social, your instinct determines what gets prioritized under pressure. Understanding this is key to managing your energy effectively.
5. Integration Over Reaction: When you’re triggered, your default patterns grab the mic. Integrated leadership means consulting all parts of yourself—your core type, wings, Tri-Type, and instincts—before making decisions.

Practical Tools from This Episode:

• Ask Yourself: What part of me is speaking right now? Is this voice strategic or protective?
• Consult All Three Centers of Intelligence: Your Tri-Type reveals how you dominate in the gut (instinctual), heart (feeling), and head (thinking) centers. Use this to balance your approach.
• Watch for Instinctual Hijacks: Your dominant instinct (self-preservation, one-on-one, or social) can either be your superpower or your blind spot. Learn to recognize when it’s running the show.
• Know Your Growth Path: Your Enneagram type’s growth number shows you what integration looks like. Use it as a guide to lead yourself with clarity and confidence.

You can have the best business model, the most talented team, and all the external success in the world, but if your internal boardroom is run by chaos, ego, and reactivity, eventually the whole thing cracks. True leadership starts with leading yourself—and the Enneagram is the ultimate power tool for doing just that.

Call to Action:

• Get Your Enneagram Blueprint: Go to TracyOmalley.com and grab your customized Enneagram Blueprint. It’s over 95% accurate and will give you the roadmap to understanding your internal boardroom.
• Upgrade to a Reading: Add a 30-minute session with me to dive deeper into your Tri-Type, instincts, and growth path.
• Book a VIP Day: Spend a full day with me to map out your leadership strategy for your life, business, and relationships. Use code VIPDAY for $1,000 off through May...

You didn’t wake up one day and decide to play small, but somewhere along the way, you started shrinking—shrinking your truth, your voice, your edge. In this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to reclaim your edge, why you feel stuck, and how the Enneagram is the ultimate roadmap to break free from the patterns that are quietly keeping you stuck. This isn’t about surface-level fixes or cute personality labels. This is about integration, transformation, and calling your power back home.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why you’re not stuck because you’re weak—you’re stuck because you’re over-identifying with the protective patterns that once kept you safe.
• How the Enneagram reveals your default wiring, blind spots, and potential so you can stop looping in survival mode.
• The difference between exertion (stress) and expansion—and how to shift into the version of you that doesn’t need protection to feel powerful.
• Why your edge isn’t gone—it’s just buried under layers of protection, fear, and fatigue.
• How to use the Enneagram as a compass to reclaim your edge and lead yourself with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your Edge Isn’t Lost, It’s Buried: The habits, stories, and protective mechanisms you built to survive are now keeping you stuck. The Enneagram helps you identify these patterns and dismantle the cages you’ve built around yourself.
2. Superpower vs. Kryptonite: Every Enneagram type has a superpower, but it only works when it comes from love, compassion, and grace—not fear, insecurity, or ego. Understanding this is the key to stepping into your true power.
3. Exertion vs. Expansion: Exertion is the path your type takes under pressure—it’s not bad, but it’s a warning light. Expansion, on the other hand, is the version of you that doesn’t need protection to feel powerful. The Enneagram shows you how to shift from exertion to expansion.
4. Radical and Compassionate Honesty: To reclaim your edge, you have to be brutally honest with yourself about where you’re stuck—but without beating yourself up. Shame and judgment will only keep you looping in the same patterns.
5. Integration Over Information: Knowing your Enneagram type is cute, but embodying your highest expression is where the transformation happens. This is about using the Enneagram as a tool for integration, not just information.

Call to Action:

• Get Your Blueprint: Go to TracyOmalley.com and grab your customized Enneagram Blueprint. It’s the first step to understanding your wiring and reclaiming your edge.
• Subscribe: Don’t miss an episode of The Enneagram Edge.
• Leave a Review: Your feedback helps this mission reach more people who need it.
• Share: Send this episode to someone who’s ready to stop playing small and start living with their edge intact.

Reclaiming your edge isn’t about manifesting or vision boarding your way out of a rut. It’s about walking into the hard, quiet places inside of you and calling your power back home. The Enneagram is the map, and I’m here to guide you through it.Connect with Me:

• Instagram: @tracy_omalley
• Website: tracyomalley.com

“Your edge isn’t something you lost—it’s the part of you that was always meant to lead. Let’s get it back.”

Let’s fucking go!

Parenting is one of the most humbling, triggering, and rewarding experiences we’ll ever face—and it’s also where our own wiring, patterns, and blind spots show up the most. In this episode, I dive deep into how the Enneagram can transform not just your parenting, but your entire family dynamic. Whether you’re a parent, want to be one, or influence young lives in any way, this conversation will hit home. It’s not about being a perfect parent—it’s about being an honest, integrated one who empowers their children to be exactly who they were designed to be.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why parenting from your own wiring (instead of theirs) can feel like love to you but land as pressure, control, or disconnection to your kids.
• How the Enneagram provides a map to move from good intentions to impact that actually lands.
• My personal journey of breaking generational patterns, learning my kids’ Enneagram types, and transforming our family dynamic.
• The importance of understanding how your kids receive you—and how to take radical responsibility for your “come from.”
• Why it’s never too late to repair, redeem, and rewrite your parenting story.

Key Takeaways:

1. Parenting Through Their Lens: Your kids don’t need you to mold them into mini versions of you—they need you to meet them where they are. The Enneagram helps you understand their unique wiring, motivations, and fears so you can lead, guide, and nurture them in a way that truly resonates.
2. Your Superpower vs. Your Kryptonite: Every Enneagram type has a superpower, but it only works when it comes from love, compassion, and grace—not fear, insecurity, or ego. For me, my intensity as an Enneagram 8 is both my greatest strength and my biggest challenge.
3. The Power of Humility: The most powerful shift in my parenting came when I stopped pretending I had it all figured out and started showing my kids my humanity. Vulnerability builds trust, credibility, and connection.
4. It’s Never Too Late: Whether your kids are toddlers, teens, or adults, repair and redemption are always possible. The Enneagram gives you the tools to start those conversations and rebuild trust.
5. Parenting is a Mirror: Your kids are here to teach you as much as you’re here to guide them. The ones who trigger you the most often hold the biggest lessons.

I share how I first encountered the Enneagram in rehab 13 years ago and how it became the tool that saved my family. I was parenting from my own lens—strong, tactical, and focused—but my kids, an Enneagram 2 empath and an Enneagram 7 dreamer, needed something completely different. Learning their wiring and adjusting my approach changed the culture in our home overnight. Today, my relationship with my kids is my greatest achievement, and it’s built on the foundation of seeing, hearing, and valuing them for who they truly are.What to Expect Moving Forward:

• How to use the Enneagram to understand your kids’ operating systems and speak their language.
• Why understanding your own wiring is the first step to becoming a more present, empowered parent.
• Practical tools for integrating the Enneagram into your parenting to create a legacy of connection, trust, and growth.

Call to Action:

• Subscribe: Don’t miss an episode of The Enneagram Edge.
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