Welcome to The Date with Confidence Podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that'll fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could've been.
With practical episodes that'll provide you with easy to implement tips to help you feel confident af on your next date, alongside light hearted catch ups where your host Rebecca shares her own experience dating after 4 years of the single life, you're guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles, empowered to never settle again and confident that the best is yet to come.
And if it all falls to shit, there's a special first season dedicated to breakups. You're welcome, my friend.
Subscribe, review and share with your single friends ❤️
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome to The Date with Confidence Podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that'll fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could've been.
With practical episodes that'll provide you with easy to implement tips to help you feel confident af on your next date, alongside light hearted catch ups where your host Rebecca shares her own experience dating after 4 years of the single life, you're guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles, empowered to never settle again and confident that the best is yet to come.
And if it all falls to shit, there's a special first season dedicated to breakups. You're welcome, my friend.
Subscribe, review and share with your single friends ❤️
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
If you’ve ever left a first date feeling deflated, disappointed, or questioning if you’ll ever meet someone, this is for you.
I dive into the exact things I tell myself after a disastrous first date: the reminders, re-frames, and confidence resets that stop me from spiralling into “I’m unlovable” territory. Dating is full of highs and lows, and one bad date doesn’t define your worth.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share how I shift my mindset, process the frustration, and move forward with confidence (or take a break when I need to). Plus, I give some practical steps to help you reset and get back into a healthy dating headspace.
Whether your last date left you feeling flat, frustrated, or ready to delete the apps altogether, this episode will help you bounce back stronger.
Tune in now to hear:
1. How I feel after a bad first date
2. What actually counts as a “bad” first date
3. Don't take a bad first date personally (you're not unlovable)
4. How to stop a bad date from making you spiral
5. Can this bad date teach me anything?
6. A bad date is just a bad date
7. Practical confidence resets after a disappointing date
8. Why it’s okay to take a break from dating
9. Happy Hour: I know I said I wouldn't try this but...
10. My dating update: Am I finally back on the apps?!
11. Your dating dilemma: “I went on a bad first date and now he’s asked me for a second - I feel guilty saying no, what should I do?”
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Mentioned:
Important Things I Tell Myself Before A First Date
The ‘Near-Perfect’ Date That Became An Hilarious Nightmare
He Asked Me To Send Photos And Lied About His Age
This Is The Energy You Need To Take With You On A First Date
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Be honest—have you ever planned your wedding with someone you haven’t even met yet?
And then felt totally let down when they rocked up in a tracksuit and picked their nose through dinner?
(Yeah… I’ve been there too.)
After a 4-year dating break, I made a huge mistake: I over-romanticised first dates before they even happened. I’d build a whole fantasy based on a few messages, imagining instant chemistry and fairy-tale moments… only to feel disappointed when reality didn’t match the story in my head.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share why this mindset is unfair to both you and your date, and how shifting your energy, expectations, and self-talk can make first dates more fun, pressure-free, and genuinely enjoyable.
I also answer a listener’s dating dilemma on how to look and feel confident for a first date (even when you’re not feeling it inside). From go-to outfits to pre-date mindset hacks, you’ll walk away with simple, practical tips you can use straight away.
Tune in now to hear:
1. The biggest dating mistake I made after a 4-year break
2. Why over-romanticising first dates sets you up for disappointment
3. How to bring “open energy” instead of pressure to your dates
4. Simple mindset shifts to leave past bad dates behind
5. Dating dilemma: “I’m a single mum who’s just started dating, how can I look and feel confident even when I don’t feel it inside?”
6. The “first date outfit” test that works every time
7. Quick pre-date hacks: playlists, self-talk, and confidence boosts
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Be honest, are you holding yourself to the same dating standards you expect from others?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share a big shift I’ve made in my dating mindset—one that’s honestly changed everything. We always talk about what we want from someone else: effort, communication, chemistry, connection. But are you showing up in the same way you want them to? I’m diving deep into the dating standards you hold for yourself.
Because you can't control how someone else shows up, but you can choose the energy, effort, and self-respect you bring to the table.
Plus: I share examples of the standards I hold myself to, habits I’ve worked on, and why holding yourself to high standards makes it so much easier to walk away from people who aren’t a match.
I also share some Happy Hour excitement (spoiler: it involves a spicy margarita) and talk about the difference between compromise and self-abandonment in dating.
If you’ve ever ghosted yourself, ignored your boundaries, or let chemistry override red flags—this one’s for you.
Tune in now to hear:
1. What dating standards for yourself actually look like
2. How to tell when you’re not holding your own standards
3. Why "the vibe" might be clouding your judgment
4. Journal prompts to set realistic, self-respecting dating rules
5. Why holding standards for you makes it easier to walk away
6. Why I end things quickly when there’s no connection
7. How I show up physically, emotionally, and energetically for dating
8. The unattractiveness of self-abandonment disguised as “being nice”
9. Dating dilemma: “How do I hold standards without giving in to fear of missing out?”
Mentioned:
The Truth: You’re Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not Him
How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New
Your Dating Profile: How To Write One, When To Update It, What Not To Include
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here (leave me a voice note!!)
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ever wondered what ChatGPT really thinks about your love life?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I asked ChatGPT to be brutally honest with me about my romantic blind spots… and she did not hold back. Using a juicy prompt inspired by Gala Darling, I got an AI-powered reality check on what might still be holding me back from the fairytale romance I know I deserve – and whew, it was a mix of eye-opening, confronting, and actually kind of empowering.
From over-functioning to falling for potential, I reflect on each truth, share how they show up in my real dating life, and explore what I’m doing to shift those patterns. I also spill the beans on what I’m updating in my dating profile, why I’ve taken a mini break from the apps, and whether or not I’d ever date a man’s brother. Yep, we go there.
Tune in for all the goss on:
1. The 4 dating blind spots holding me back (and probably you too)
2. Why I still fall for potential, not consistency
3. How my independence can actually block emotional intimacy
4. What “letting a man earn your vulnerability” actually means
5. The “cool girl” trap and second-guessing my own standards
6. Romanticising mystery and mistaking it for real connection
7. Happy Hour: Hinge cringe, my dating life update and a summer mocktail
8. Why I’m rethinking my dating profile prompts (again)
9. Should you ever date your ex’s brother?
The ChatGPT prompt from Gala Darling’s email: “Based on what I've told you about my dating life, tell me what my blind spots are in romance. If I want XYZ, what could I do differently to get that result? Be brutally honest!”
And I edited it to say:
“Based on what I've told you about my dating life (and what you've learned from The Date with Confidence Podcast transcripts), tell me what my blind spots are in romance. If I want the man that meets my standards and a fairytale romance, what could I do differently to get that result? Be brutally honest!”
Mentioned:
How to Use ChatGPT to NEVER Settle in a Relationship
Using ChatGPT to write my future story
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ever felt like you’ve moved on from a past relationship… but something still lingers?
Maybe it’s the memory of an ex, the grip of a rebound that’s not quite right, or the way your body tenses when someone new gets too close.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m being honest about what it actually takes to clear the emotional baggage of past relationships so you can finally feel free and I open up about my own healing journey - working with my energy healer, facing uncomfortable truths, and using tools like EFT, breathwork, and unsent letters to truly let go.
If you’ve ever wondered why someone lives rent-free in your head—or why intimacy feels off even when it “should” feel right, this episode is for you.
Here’s what we cover:
1. Signs you’re still holding onto your ex’s energy
2. How past relationships affect your present dating reactions
3. Why letting go frees you from toxic loops and comparison
4. 6 powerful methods for releasing old relationship energy
5. Working with a professional energy healer for trauma and energy clearing
6. Breathwork’s powerful role in emotional release
7. Understanding toxic relationship dynamics and their energetic impact
8. You’re either gonna get it, or think I’m bat shit crazy…
9. Listener dating dilemma: mixed signals and limited time
10. Setting your standards and knowing when to walk away
Mentioned:
Marie Houlden: Mindset Coach & Energy Healer
The Breath Channel* (affiliate link)
How to Break Up with Someone in the Kindest Way
How to Quit Dating Someone You’re Just Not Into
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
FYI: If you’re listening to this anywhere that isn’t YouTube, you may wanna skip between 19.45-24.30 as I’m updating my dating profile and if you can’t see it, it’s not that interesting…
In this juicy, slightly chaotic (but super helpful, I think) episode of The Date with Confidence podcast, I walk you through exactly how to write — or rewrite — your dating profile with confidence and clarity. We're talking prompts to avoid, what to actually include, and how to get into the best headspace before you even open the app.
I even screen-record myself updating my Hinge profile so you can see it in action (gulp). Vulnerable? Yes. Empowering? Also yes. If your profile needs a glow-up or you're just getting back into dating, this is for you.
During Happy Hour we also get into the Hinge Cringe of the week, Swipe Right Spotlight (am i even gonna keep this segment?!) and a Dating Dilemma that had me shouting: WASH YOUR FUCKING HANDS, PLEASE.
Tune in now to hear:
1. Why mindset is key before updating your profile
2. The two lists you have to have before writing your profile (and dating in general)
3. Prompts that give manipulators a script to use against you
4. When to update your profile (and what not to include)
5. Why passive-aggressive profiles won’t be getting you a decent date anytime soon
6. Changes I’m making to my own dating profile (watch as I tweak on YouTube)
7. A Dating Dilemma that reminded me of dating a guy I’d rather forget existed
Mentioned:
Women on Dating Apps: Do NOT Use These Prompts
The Reason I Stopped Looking at Their Social Media
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
He didn’t make the bed so I ended it (but there’s more to this story….).
What started as a promising connection took a turn on date seven, when the effort (or lack of it) just didn’t match up. It took around 3 seconds for me to be fully checked out and this time I ended things immediately. That’s growth for ya…
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how to stop dating someone when you know it’s just not it, even if they’re “nice.” I talk about the guilt that can creep in when someone seems great on paper, the fear of letting a good one go, and why it’s actually kinder to end it sooner rather than later.
Plus, I’m introducing a fresh new format to the podcast (exciting!) — with updates from my own dating life, your dilemmas, and juicy mindset shifts to help you date with confidence.
The vibe of this episode:
1. Why it's okay to walk away from someone even if nothing’s “wrong”
2. The shame we feel when we ignore our gut and stay too long
3. How to end things kindly without overexplaining or apologising
4. Why texting is totally acceptable in early dating breakups
5. The exact message I sent when I realised he wasn’t the one
6. The realisations that came flooding within minutes of me getting the ick
7. What I’m doing next as I start dating again
If you’ve ever wondered whether you're being “too picky” or you’ve struggled to end things without overexplaining, this is the pep talk you need.
Mentioned:
Blindsided By Red Flags After Healing? How to Remove the Shame
Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It
🎥 Watch the episode on YouTube
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
If you’ve ever thought:
“I used to feel hopeful about dating, but now all I hear is horror stories.”
“Everyone around me says men are trash, and part of me is starting to believe it.”
“There’s no such thing as a fairytale anymore, online dating is just full of ghosters, love bombers and men who only want sex”
…this is for you.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m calling out the negative dating narratives that aren’t yours to buy into. If you’ve ever found yourself absorbing horror stories from friends, group chats, or reels and wondering if love is even worth it anymore, this episode is your pep talk to believe in better.
I dive into how our mindset, beliefs, and standards shape our dating experiences—and how you don’t have to settle just because others did. I also share a personal dating story that reminded me firsthand that good men do exist, and explain why holding your standards is a powerful act of self-respect, not pickiness.
Here's the general vibe of the episode:
1. Letting Go of Fear-Based Dating Narratives: Why other people’s bad experiences don’t define your future
2. Reclaiming Hope in Dating: Shifting back into trust and belief that love is possible
3. The Power of Standards: Why you don’t need to lower the bar to find connection
4. Dating From an Empowered Place: Honouring your intuition and knowing when to walk away, even from someone who’s “good”
5. Loving Your Single Life: Why being single doesn’t mean you're behind—and how it actually supports high-standard dating
Mentioned:
Blindsided By Red Flags After Healing? How to Remove the Shame
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
If you’ve ever thought, “How did I miss that?” “I should’ve known better” “I can’t believe I didn’t recognise that sooner” or “After everything I’ve worked on… how the fuck did I fall for this?” this is the episode for you.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m diving into something I don’t think we talk about enough: the shame that creeps in when you get blindsided by red flags, even after your healing era. You’ve done the work. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve raised your standards. So how tf did you still fall for someone who wasn’t good for you?
I’ve been there, and I know how disheartening it feels when you realise you ignored signs you swore you’d never overlook again. Listen now for your permission slip to forgive yourself, stop spiralling, and shift back into your confident, take-no-shit energy.
Here’s a sneak peek into what we discuss:
1. The shame spiral after ignoring red flags, even post-healing
2. Why subtle red flags are often the most damaging
3. How to stop blaming yourself and rewrite your narrative
4. The simple 4-step “Switch Your Story” process to release shame
5. Why they don’t deserve access to you (including your social media)
6. How to affirm your way back into an empowered mindset
7. Revisiting your standards, even if you’re not looking for “The One”
Mentioned:
Am I Actually Delusional?! The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating
Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook Group
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I open up about the grief, healing, and realisations that shaped my decision to return to dating after a tough year.
After losing two grandparents within weeks of each other and navigating the fallout of a painful dating experience, I took a long, conscious break. Now, I'm back—dating with intention, clarity, and a renewed sense of what I truly want.
If you’re wondering whether it’s time to get back out there, I’m sharing the signs, mindset shifts, and standards that helped me know I was ready.
Here’s what we discuss:
1. Dating After Grief: How loss and healing shifted my priorities and energy around dating
2. Conscious Dating vs. Dating From Habit: The difference between dating with intention and dating out of boredom or distraction
3. Signs You’re Ready to Date Again: What to look for emotionally and mentally before putting yourself out there
4. Dating With Standards: Why I no longer believe in giving people “chances” or ignoring red flags
5. Using Dating App Discernment: The new approach I take to swiping and filtering matches
6. Burned Haystack Dating Method: How learning about rhetorical patterns helped me decode dating profiles more effectively
7. Navigating Anxious vs. Avoidant Patterns: Recognising old wounds and shifting into secure dating energy.
Improving your dating life with The Standard Is You
The Standard Is You is a 12-week coaching programme to help you stop feeling behind, raise your standards, and become the love of your life in your 30s. This group programme is for the 30-something who’s done with settling — in dating, in career, in friendships, in everything.
If you're done with dating Chads who ask for photos before you've met, ghost you after a week, put in zero effort to actually get to know you and think that inviting you to dinner at their place is an appropriate first date, this is for you.
Mentioned:
How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New
Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook Group
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express your gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow Rebecca on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The reason so many people (women especially) settle in average relationships with average men - and by average I mean not the type of person they actually want to be dating - is because they’re not crystal clear on their relationship vision.
But I’ve got just the solution for you…..a solution that means you’ll NEVER settle in a relationship with someone you’re not compatible with (or who doesn’t treat you how you deserve) again.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I explore how to use ChatGPT to improve your dating life by asking a question that’ll turn your standards list into a full blown dream relationship vision.
From building an intentional wishlist of standards to staying open-minded yet discerning in dating, I discuss how having a future story can inspire hope and prevent you settling for less than you deserve. I also share my personalised future story (cringe moments and all!) and the value of visualising everyday moments in a relationship that feel authentic and fulfilling.
Here’s what we cover:
1. Using AI for Personal Growth: How tools like ChatGPT can help craft a detailed vision for your dream life and relationship
2. Defining Relationship Standards: The importance of creating and regularly revisiting a list of non-negotiables in a partner
3. The Power of Visualisation: How visualising small, meaningful moments can make your dream relationship feel more tangible
4. Balancing Clarity and Openness: Avoiding rigid expectations while ensuring you don’t settle for less than you deserve
5. Dating with Intention: Leveraging your relationship vision to assess dating profiles and make aligned choices
6. Everyday Intimacy Matters: Why the little moments, like dancing in the kitchen or stargazing, are essential in building a lasting connection
7. Self-Worth in Dating: Staying true to yourself and your vision while navigating modern dating challenges
The prompt I used in ChatGPT:
“Can you intertwine a fairytale, healthy, "Nobody Wants This" style relationship with a tall, handsome, intelligent and caring man please? Please be specific about the type of man I'll be with based on this wish list: [and then I added my standards in a list of bullet points] ”
Mentioned:
Subscribe to my Your Confident 30s YouTube channel here
How to Manifest “The One”: Do This Before Dating
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Our monthly community episode is here!
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I answer the following questions:
From deciphering whether anxiety is clouding judgement to trusting your gut feelings, I share my personal philosophy and experiences to help you date with confidence. If you’ve ever questioned whether to “give someone a chance,” this episode is a must-listen!
***BLACK FRIDAY BUNDLES: Available until 1st December***
How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express you gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I’ve been reflecting on the kind of love I want to call into my life in a different way recently, a way that I’ve never considered before now. It’s causing me to reevaluate my relationship standards and helping me to go even deeper with what I desire from a relationship in the future.
Here’s a brief overview:
1. Evolving Relationship Standards: Shifting my focus from chemistry to enduring qualities like loyalty and support
2. Unconditional Care in Relationships:*Inspired by my grandparents, examining the beauty of caregiving within love
3. Desire for a Resilient Partnership: Seeking a partner who is committed through both joyous and challenging moments
4. Reflecting on Singlehood and Self-Knowledge: Embracing singlehood to gain clarity on relationship desires
5. Intentional Love: Moving from attraction-driven dating to a more values-centred approach
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express you gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, I reflect on a transformative realisation about dating: sometimes, our obsession with a partner isn’t about them at all—it’s about how incredible *we* are.
After watching a TikTok that highlighted this, I began to look differently at my dating experiences. I now notice that the excitement and fulfilment I feel often comes from my own energy and personality, not necessarily the person I’m dating. I explore how this perspective can empower us to enjoy dating more fully and choose partners who truly match our worth.
Here's an overview of what we discussed:
1. Self-Worth in Dating: Understanding how our excitement often stems from our own confidence, not the other person
2. Avoiding Obsessive Attachment: Recognising when attachment is based on personal feelings, not the partner’s qualities
3. Reflecting on Personal Value: Learning to appreciate how much we contribute to enjoyable dates and moments
4. Empowered Dating Choices: Using self-awareness to avoid settling for partners who don’t truly align with our needs
Join me in this episode for a fresh look at dating through the lens of self-worth, and feel free to share if this resonates with your own experiences!
Mentioned:
The TikTok video that inspired this episode
Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Support The Date with Confidence Podcast
If you'd like to show your support for the podcast, you can do so in these ways:
1) Share the podcast with your friends
2) Leave me a review on iTunes stating what you love most about the podcast so more people can find it
3) Buy me a coffee to express you gratitude for the episodes if you found them helpful, inspiring or entertaining
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Is your anxious attachment style affecting your dating experience?
Are your relationships often overshadowed by feelings of insecurity or fear of abandonment?
Do you find yourself overthinking every text or interaction, constantly worried that your partner may pull away?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I explore how to manage anxious attachment and build lasting confidence in relationships. I share my own experiences with anxiety, offering tools and strategies for recognising triggers, communicating needs and reframing your mindset.
From handling insecurities to asking for reassurance, this episode offers actionable steps for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety. Through mindset shifts, practical exercises and emotional regulation, I guide you toward self-confidence and deeper connections, both with your partner and yourself.
Here's a peek at what we discussed:
1. Understanding Anxious Attachment: Recognising the difference between intuitive red flags and past trauma resurfacing
2. Healing Through Self-Work: How personal growth can reduce anxiety in new relationships
3. Practical Steps to Manage Anxiety: A three-step process to shift away from obsessive thoughts and ground yourself
4. The Role of Self-Worth: How building confidence and addressing feelings of "not enough" can improve relationship dynamics
5. Lessons from Past Relationships: Sharing personal stories to offer relatable, real-world insights into overcoming anxious attachment
6. Understanding Personal Triggers: Identifying what situations or behaviours heighten anxiety in relationships
7. Healthy Communication: How to express feelings and needs in a grounded, clear manner with tips on expressing needs for reassurance without overwhelming your partner.
8. Building Confidence: Tools and techniques to increase self-assurance and reduce anxious attachment
9. Managing Anxiety Early in Relationships: Balancing communication and independence when dating someone new
10. Self-Regulation in Relationships: Strategies to manage emotions and avoid impulsive behaviours driven by anxiety
11. Creating Healthy Relationship Dynamics: Learning how to balance independence and togetherness
This episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast has been a long time coming but I certainly hope it was worth the wait.
Mentioned:
How to Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn’t Messaged
Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It’s our monthly community episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast!
We kick things off with a hilarious dating story about an awkward, accidental belly-button encounter that broke the ice when a new girlfriend met her partner’s sister for the first time, followed by the loveliest feedback from a regular listener.
You'll also hear my advice on how to manage insecurities when it comes to a partner’s past relationships and how to keep things easy breezy when you start dating someone new.
Questions I answer:
Mentioned:
Mindset Shifts You Need to Make Around Dating
Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I was swiping away on Hinge the other day when I was reminded of the thing that gives me the ick instantly....
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Have you ever been on a date with someone and something’s just felt….off?
You can’t put your finger on it because it’s not an “in your face” red flag, but your intuition is telling you something isn’t quite right.
As you reflect on the date(s), you realise there were subtle red flags that’d be easy to miss had you not been working so hard on yourself…..
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I dive deep into the seven easy-to-ignore red flags I’m no longer tolerating in relationships. These red flags are subtle but crucial to recognise if we want to raise our relationship standards and avoid settling for the wrong person.
I share my personal experiences over the last year, reflecting on how I’ve become more attuned to these signs now that I'm in my 30s.
From how someone speaks about their ex to the effort they put into a relationship, this episode will help you identify red flags you might be overlooking and encourage you to trust your instincts when dating.
Here’s a brief overview of what we discuss:
1. Spotting subtle bitterness and resentment towards past partners
2. The significance of how someone talks about strangers or makes spiteful, unnecessary judgements
3. Recognising when someone's words don’t match their actions (even if it’s a “little” thing)
4. Understanding the importance of mutual effort in the early stages of dating
5. How a partner’s response to your boundaries reveals their true character and why you should walk away when they don’t respect you
6. The importance of honesty about lifestyle choices early on and knowing your deal breakers before you start dating
7. Why their reaction to your feelings matters and what it says about respect in the relationship
This episode offers practical insight for anyone striving to date more consciously and confidently.
Mentioned:
Dating Advice: Is This Really a Red Flag?
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Back in the summer, I received a message on Instagram asking me “What would you suggest the best thing to do for someone who wants to find happiness in their own skin and not feel they need a girl's attention to feel confident and wanted?”.
This message came from someone who was going through a divorce and realised they had some work to do on themselves before they were ready to continue dating.
I had a lot to say in response to this so instead of typing out an essay, I recorded this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast. Tune in as I dive into the importance of self-validation, shifting perceptions of failure, and romanticising daily life to build inner happiness. The episode explores practical steps to rediscover joy, self-confidence and personal growth while navigating life post-divorce.
Here’s a peek at what we cover:
1. Acknowledging Attachment Issues: The importance of self-awareness in addressing attachment styles and emotional needs.
2. Shifting Perceptions of Failure: Redefining divorce and moving back home as part of life's journey, not a failure.
3. Romanticising Daily Life: Creating small moments of joy and practising gratitude to build daily happiness.
4. Building Self-Validation: Steps to shift from relying on external validation to becoming your own biggest cheerleader.
5. Self-Care and Confidence: How regular self-care activities contribute to mental and physical well-being.
6. Taking Action for Confidence: Challenging yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone to build self-assurance.
The episode offers a blend of empathy and practical tips to help you navigate post-divorce life and rediscover confidence in yourself.
Mentioned:
How to Be Confident in Yourself When Dating
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Resources
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
HAPPY ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!!
In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey through relationships, breakups and self-discovery. From overcoming codependency to setting healthy boundaries, I share some of the most transformative lessons I’ve learned while navigating love and loss over the past 5 years.
I open up about how fear of abandonment affected my past, the importance of respecting myself and why love alone isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship.
This episode is for anyone who’s ready to take ownership of their emotional well-being and create healthier relationship dynamics in their life.
Here’s a peek at what we discuss:
1. Codependency and Self-Worth: Recognising how my happiness depended on someone else and reclaiming my self-worth
2. Fear of Speaking Up: How fear of abandonment silenced me and the power I found in voicing my truth
3. Setting Boundaries: Learning to stick to my boundaries without fear of being left, and walking away when my boundaries aren’t respected
4. Why Love Isn't Always Enough: Understanding that love alone doesn’t guarantee a healthy relationship
5. Embracing Self-Respect: Prioritising my own well-being and learning to respect myself in love
6. Moving on with Peace: Letting go of resentment and looking back at my relationship with gratitude and acceptance
7. Trusting in My Own Timeline: Finding peace in my own journey and trusting that everything will unfold in the right time
Tune in to hear my raw reflections on love, healing, and creating a future rooted in self-love.
CELEBRATE ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!
From now until 1st October, save 50% on any of the resources here when you enter code DWCCELEBRATE
Mentioned:
Weird Comments I’ve Received on Hinge
This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence
Get Involved!
You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.
Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.
Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.