People pleasing -  we’ve all seen it before (whether we recognized it or not) - constantly being agreeable, always saying yes, never setting any boundaries - all to the point of self-destruction.  If you haven’t experienced it yourself, it’s likely you’ve witnessed someone else demonstrate these behaviors. And although it may have short-term benefits, we know that these self-destructive tendencies are not sustainable, and can lead to mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion and burnout. If this is something you think you might struggle with, or if you know someone who does, today’s episode provides a wide variety of perspectives on what “people pleasing” can look like in the day to day world, a number of root causes, and a handful of different solutions you can use to help you manage these behaviors. More specifically, I dive into: Quotes that hit - some of the most impactful sound bites I’ve heard on the topic What drives you?  How our drives can lead us into unhealthy people pleasing behaviors The downside to many of the mainstream self-help resources that address the topic The necessary self-reflection that has to take place before we can make long-lasting behavioral changes Referenced Resources: E210: Assertiveness: How To Ask For What You Want & Get What You Need E207: How Perception Impacts Communication & Relationships E208: Robert Greene: Mastering Human Nature and Facing Your Flaws E200: What To Do When Trying To Help Makes Stuff Worse E176: When Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work E22: The Value of Self-Doubt E130: How Understanding Drives Helps Build Buy-In Quiz: What Drives You? Online Course: Valued - mentioned in today’s episode regarding opportunity cost, this life-time access course help you to identify your values and take control of your career Other AoC Resources: 1:1 Virtual or Group Mentoring/ Staff Development Group Mentoring (The Coalition) Online Courses Live Events Request Us As a Speaker   If you found this helpful, check out:   •The Apprenticeship – our live workshop on communication and influence.   •Speaker School – for anyone who wants to present and persuade more effectively.   •Join our community at ArtofCoaching.com/community for bonus materials and episode breakdowns.   🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coa

We all get busy. Work piles up, routines take over, and before you know it, years have gone by since you last checked in with people who actually mattered to you. This episode is a reminder — and a bit of a kick in the ass — that it doesn’t take much to change that. You don’t need a reason, a holiday, or the “right time.” Just reach out. Call someone you haven’t talked to in five or ten years. Shoot a text. Reconnect. The longer you wait, the harder it gets, and the truth is, life’s too unpredictable to assume you’ll always get another chance. This one’s short, direct, and human. No fluff. Just a practical reminder to stop overthinking it and make the damn call. The returns—personally and professionally—are worth it.   If you found this helpful, check out:   •The Apprenticeship – our live workshop on communication and influence.   •Speaker School – for anyone who wants to present and persuade more effectively.   •Join our community at ArtofCoaching.com/community for bonus materials and episode breakdowns.   🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Logic rarely wins people over — emotion does.   In this episode, Brett breaks down the timeless principles of persuasion through the lens of a real NIL recruiting scenario, showing why even great offers fall flat when they don’t connect to what truly drives human decision-making.   You’ll learn how to see through the surface — beyond talking points, incentives, or facts — and understand the emotional and psychological levers that make people say “yes.”    Whether you’re trying to recruit an athlete, land a client, lead a team, or communicate more effectively in everyday life, this episode helps you navigate the human side of influence ethically and with purpose.   ⸻   What You’ll Learn   •Why people make emotional decisions first and use logic only to justify them.   •The psychological laws that govern real-world persuasion.   •How to identify the intangibles — what people actually care about beneath the surface (certainty, familiarity, belonging, recognition, identity).   •Why people choose what feels safe over what’s superior.   •How to reduce uncertainty and create emotional clarity in any decision-making environment.   •The difference between ethical influence and manipulation — and how to guide choices responsibly.   •How to find “the missing variable” in your pitch, presentation, or recruiting approach.   If you found this helpful, check out:   •The Apprenticeship – our live workshop on communication and influence.   •Speaker School – for anyone who wants to present and persuade more effectively.   •Join our community at ArtofCoaching.com/community for bonus materials and episode breakdowns.   🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Everyone talks about “stepping out of your comfort zone,” but few actually do it.   In this episode, Brett breaks down one of the biggest lies in modern leadership and personal development — the illusion that we’re pushing ourselves when in reality, we’re just circling around what we already know.   We love to say we’re doing “hard things” — grinding through workouts, taking on new projects, logging long hours — but most of that still sits inside our comfort zone. It’s controlled, predictable, and familiar. It doesn’t expose us to the kind of uncertainty, ego threat, or vulnerability that actually creates growth.   This episode forces you to get brutally honest about what you’re running from.   You’ll learn how to:   •Spot the difference between real growth and performative discomfort   •Recognize the fears you keep disguising as “preferences” or “boundaries”   •Understand the psychology of avoidance and how it limits your adaptability   •Reframe discomfort so it becomes a tool for progress, not a stunt for your ego   The world doesn’t hand out points for pretending to grow. Leadership will drag your weaknesses into the open whether you like it or not — better to confront them before someone else does.   If you want to actually evolve — not just look busy doing it — this episode will give you the tools and truth to start that process.

David Clancy is a world-class sports physio and author who’s taken more than a few sharp turns in his career. He’s had to face the same questions many of us wrestle with: Do I stay in the safe lane or risk starting over? How do I manage different passions without spreading myself too thin? What do I do with that voice in my head telling me I don’t belong?   In this episode, David and I dig into the practical side of career pivots and personal growth, including:   •The real reasons people avoid changing direction—even when they know they’re unhappy.   •How to make a career shift without blowing up everything you’ve built.   •Why imposter phenomenon can be a sign you’re on the right track, and how to keep it from paralyzing you.   •The challenge of chasing multiple passions and what filters help you decide what’s worth pursuing.   •How relationships—not networking, but genuine ones—end up making or breaking your next move.   •The skill of listening, and why it matters more than being the smartest person in the room.   This isn’t theory. It’s a conversation packed with examples you can relate to if you’ve ever thought about pivoting, felt stuck in a role you’ve outgrown, or struggled with the noise of self-doubt. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™)📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Most of what you see online right now isn’t designed to help you grow. It’s designed to keep you nodding, scrolling, and agreeing.    Viral soundbites, 30-second reels, celebrities chasing trends—it’s all part of a system that rewards superficiality over substance. And if you’re someone putting real effort into your work, it can feel like you’re shouting into the void while the BS racks up likes and followers.   In this episode, I’m breaking down: •Why the landscape feels so hollow right now (and no, it’s not just you imagining it). •What the human psyche actually craves in times of overload—and how platforms exploit it. •How to filter out the junk so you don’t waste energy on fast-food advice. •Concrete ways to adapt so you can stand out without selling out.   If you’ve ever thought, “Why bother? Real work doesn’t break through anymore,” this one’s for you. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™)📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

In this episode, I sit down with Keith Ferrazzi — author, speaker, and one of the most recognized voices on leadership and collaboration.   We dig into the future of “teamship,” the traps of popular leadership clichés, and why generosity isn’t just a feel-good concept but a competitive advantage.   We also talk about the new era of AI, how leaders can navigate it with strategy and authenticity, and what separates those who adapt from those who fall behind.   You’ll learn: •How to avoid the subtle pitfalls that quietly erode trust and damage relationships.   •Why leadership today requires a process-driven approach — not empty soundbites or recycled philosophies.   •What “teamship” looks like in practice, and how to foster it inside your own organization.   •How to pair thoughtfulness with boldness in a time where AI and rapid change are reshaping expectations.   •The simple but overlooked practices that will keep you ahead of your peers.   If you want a grounded, no-BS perspective on leading with authenticity while staying strategically sharp, you’ll want to hear this one. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™)📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Adam Wright and Dr. Nick Holton for a wide-ranging conversation on anti-fragility—the ability not just to endure difficulty, but to grow stronger because of it.   We go beyond the philosophical jargon and buzzwords and get into what anti-fragility actually looks like in real life, whether you’re leading athletes, running an organization, or just trying to manage your own day-to-day stress.   We talk about: •What anti-fragility really means (not just resilience or grit). •How exposure to unpleasantness is essential—not optional—for growth. •Ways to practically use setbacks, stressors, and challenges as catalysts. •Why chasing happiness is less effective than learning to thrive amidst discomfort.   If you’ve ever wondered how to turn adversity into an advantage without romanticizing it or oversimplifying it, this episode will cut through the fluff and give you something you can actually apply. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™)📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

We’ve all met somebody—and been there ourselves—where no matter how much success you’ve had, you still feel like you’re about to get found out. Like it’s not enough. Like eventually the mask slips.   This episode gets to the core of that feeling, builds off our previous episode on imposter phenomenon, and most importantly gives you tools to get out of your own head so you can quit playing small. The goal: to stop letting that internal echo drive you toward self-sabotage, avoidance, or holding back when you know you’ve got more to give.   Inside, you’ll learn: •What’s actually at the root of imposter syndrome (and why success doesn’t cure it). •Practical ways to interrupt the self-doubt loop before it derails you. •How to reframe your achievements so they fuel you instead of haunt you. •Simple strategies to build confidence through action, not overthinking.   If you’ve ever felt like you’re capable of more but stuck in your own head, this one’s for you. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops:📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™)📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

We’ve all been stuck in conversations that feel like hostage situations. This isn’t about passionate people with good stories — it’s about the chronic monologuers, the one-uppers, and the human foghorns who think “conversation” means “your turn to listen to me, and now your soul is mine.”  In this episode, you’ll get five tactical ways to keep your sanity, stay engaged enough to be polite, and maybe even turn things around. Whether you’re dealing with a talker at work, a relative who never comes up for air, or a stranger who traps you at a party, these strategies will help you handle it without burning bridges — or your patience. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops: 📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™) 📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™) 📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

There’s a lot of noise out there telling you that if you’re not jumping out of bed every morning with boundless energy, something’s wrong with you.  That’s false. Low-energy days aren’t proof you’re broken — they’re part of being human.  In this episode, we’ll talk about why those days happen, how to stop shaming yourself for them, and simple, low-effort ways to make the day suck less without pretending everything’s perfect.  You’ll learn how to give yourself grace without slipping into complacency, and how to keep moving forward even when you don’t have your best stuff. 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops: 📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™) 📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™) 📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

When most people think about persuasion, they go straight to education (“if they just understood, they’d agree”), inspiration (“let me tell you an inspiring story”), or force (“do this now”).  But there’s a big difference between persuasion, influence, power, and warmth — and understanding that difference can change how you get things done.  This episode, inspired by a fable I read to my son, breaks down why subtlety often beats force, how warmth can shift behavior faster than pressure, and what that means in real-world situations.  Whether you’re a manager trying to get buy-in, a coach pushing for compliance, or anyone who needs to move people from point A to point B, you’ll get practical takeaways you can use immediately. Don’t forget: You’re never going to get better at dealing with challenging personalities—or improving your own communication—unless you actually come practice it in a hands-on setting. Check out one of our live, immersive workshops at: www.artofcoaching.com/events Upcoming Workshops:📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™)📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™)📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) And to stay sharp, subscribe to our newsletter at: www.artofcoaching.com/begin Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

These days, it feels like everyone is calling someone a narcissist. Ex-partner? Narcissist. Difficult boss? Narcissist. Confident stranger on Instagram? Must be a narcissist. The term has been thrown around so loosely that it’s lost its meaning—and worse, it’s become a lazy way to avoid reflection or real understanding. In this episode, we cut through the noise and get to the core of what narcissism really is—and what it isn’t. You’ll learn: Why narcissism exists on a spectrum—and why we all have narcissistic traits The difference between clinical, subclinical, and just human behavior The 4 distinct types of narcissism you’ll likely encounter in life or work How narcissistic traits show up in covert, communal, and even “insecure” ways Tactical ways to respond to each type—without losing your mind Why spotting narcissism in yourself isn’t something to fear—but something to work with If you’ve ever struggled to deal with someone manipulative, overly self-focused, or exhausting to be around… Or if you’ve ever wondered “wait… am I the problem?”—this one’s for you. Don’t forget: You’re never going to get better at dealing with challenging personalities—or improving your own communication—unless you actually come practice it in a hands-on setting. Check out one of our live, immersive workshops at: www.artofcoaching.com/events And to stay sharp, subscribe to our newsletter at: www.artofcoaching.com/begin Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Have you ever gotten a negative review on something you've made or your business? Received a one-star rating? Dared to venture into the comment section—or worse—overheard someone trashing your work? It’s a law of the universe: haters are inevitable the moment you take a stance, make yourself visible, or grow in ways that challenge others' comfort or self image. In reality, most hate isn’t really about you. It’s what you represent. You’re the one who took the risk. You’re being seen.  You’re being recognized. And that shakes the stands they’re still sitting in—watching, critiquing, but never stepping foot in the arena themselves. This episode will help you separate noise from feedback, ugliness from something worth reflecting on, and how to tell when criticism should be used as locker room motivation—or ignored entirely. In today’s show, Brett will address this long overdue and fascinating case study in human nature, and cover: The deeper reasons people lash out—and what it has to do with power and control Why some criticism feels louder than it is—and how it spreads through social currency How to filter what deserves reflection vs what’s just emotional noise When to use negativity as fuel—and when to let it die in silence Why consistency outlasts every critic—and what happens when you fade with them If you’ve ever found yourself doubting what you’re doing because of someone’s throwaway comment... Or if you’ve ever wondered whether to clap back, make adjustments, or just put your head down and move forward—this one’s for you. Whether you love the episode or hate it (see what we did there), we love hearing from you. If you have any questions you’d like answered or want to hear more about a certain topic, shoot us an email at info@artofcoaching.com.    🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops: 📍 Melbourne, AU – Aug 23‑24  (The Apprenticeship™) 📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™) 📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™) 📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Related Episodes: E387 | How to Deal With Defensive People Who Project Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Wait... when did this become my fault? Why do I feel like I’m being indicted?  That’s not at all what I meant when I said that.  I have no idea how we got to the point where I’m the one feeling guilty. We’ve all been in this situation before. You thought you were having an honest conversation—but somehow, things flipped. Now it’s uncomfortable. You must have said something that offended them… right?  But did you?  How did what you said get twisted into that? And now, out of nowhere, you’re the bad guy. People can be simple, complex, complicated, and convoluted—all at the same time. Sometimes we send a clear input through someone, and because of ego, insecurity, or other unresolved stuff, it comes out the other side as something completely different, leaving them defensive. Now they’re projecting. And now you’re stuck dealing with the fallout. It’s more common than ever in the world we live in today—so let’s break it down. What kinds of tactics can we use to lower the temperature and get back on solid ground? How can we preemptively shield ourselves and make sure the signal doesn’t get lost in the noise? In this episode Brett covers: What projection is and why people resort to it How to frame your words for someone who internalizes everything Go-to scripts and phrases to use when things start heating up Strategically call out dramatic behavior and get to the root of the pattern Setting realistic expectations when someone isn’t ready to face themselves—and you have to choose between being right or being happy 🎤 Art of Coaching Live Events Let’s be honest—most workshops leave you with a notebook full of tips and no real plan for change. Ours are built different. At Art of Coaching, you won’t just sit and take notes. You’ll engage in real scenarios—role-plays, peer feedback, video breakdowns, and live evaluations—designed to help you sharpen your communication, think on your feet, and handle tough conversations with more clarity and control. Whether you’re dealing with a passive-aggressive coworker, trying to be more assertive without burning bridges, stuck in tension at home, or just tired of second-guessing yourself socially or professionally—we can help. This is potent personal and professional development that actually sticks. No fluff. No filler. We offer multiple pricing tiers and discounts—reach out at info@artofcoaching.com and we’ll help make it work for you. Upcoming Workshops: 📍 Melbourne, AU – Aug 23‑24  (The Apprenticeship™) 📍 Phoenix, AZ – Oct 11‑12  (Speaker School™) 📍 Murfreesboro, TN – Oct 25‑26  (The Apprenticeship™) 📍 Charlestown, MA – Nov 15‑16  (The Apprenticeship™) 🔗 artofcoaching.com/events Real Coaching for Real Life Let’s be honest—everyone says they want growth, but putting in the work? That’s where most people just stick to what’s comfortable.. That’s why we created a mentoring service built for the real world. Whether you’re stuck on a professional decision, starting a business, writing a book, dealing with pressure at home, or just trying to get out of your own way—we can help. This isn’t therapy. And it’s not a rah-rah, feel-good session either. It’s direct, tailored coaching from people who’ve been in the trenches—leaders, operators, educators, business owners. Our team of 15 comes from a wide range of backgrounds, so you’re matched with someone who understands your world and knows how to push you forward. Everyone needs a coach.We’re here when you’re ready. 🔗 artofcoaching.com/mentoring Related Episodes: E313 | How To Communicate With Someone Who Shuts Down or Stonewalls Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

It can be one of the most frustrating things in the world. That discontent and confusion about your professional life and where it’s headed. The feeling that keeps you up at night, scrolling job postings, revisiting all the “what if’s” from your past, and daydreaming about a complete 180 you’ve always thought about, but never acted on. Staying in this mental space doesn’t just drain your energy, it leaves you lost, confused about your future and what a step forward even looks like. Whether you’re burnt out, fed up with the bureaucracy, or simply craving a new challenge—you need definitive clarity about what you want, along with an honest map of the current landscape so you can make the next right move. This episode will cut through the worry and wishful thinking as Brett lays out: How to identify which passion is worth acting on, even when your head is spinning with options A framework to pressure-test a career move—so you can dip a toe or get your foot in the door without blowing up your life The role of bridge jobs and the realistic steps needed to work your way toward that bigger goal (even if it feels far off right now) Ways to break out of the psychological paralysis that keeps people stuck in neutral How to bucket your tradeoffs so you don’t let fear creep in, remembering nothing is final 🔥 SUMMER SALE IS ENDING SOON! 🔥 Don’t wait. The Art of Coaching Summer Sale is almost over! No matter your learning style, setting, or any other constraints—take the next step and join our AOC family. Visit artofcoaching.com/summersale to lock in: 💻 30% OFF all Online Courses Plus an extra 10% OFF when you bundle Bought In and VALUED 🤝 10% OFF all Live Events This includes The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, Brand Builder, and more. 📱 Art of Coaching Membership Get insider access to: ✅ 20% OFF all courses, live events, and mentoring ✅ FREE entry into our private online community (a $240 annual value) 🎯 Whether you’re a coach, leader, mentor, or someone in transition—there’s never been a better time to invest in your development. Stop waiting, take action! Related Episodes: E376 | Tips If You Feel Stuck at Your Job and Need a Way Forward E242 | Annie Duke: Quit! - The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away Related Resources: VAU(ED) and Blindspot - If you loved this episode and want to dive deeper, both of these courses were designed specifically for this topic.  And they’re still ON SALE (ACT FAST!) Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Nothing will haunt you like the things you leave unsaid. It’s a bold statement, and a chilling one—but unfortunately, most of us know exactly how true it is. You owe it to them and to yourself to speak the truth about what they mean to you. No matter the regrettable things you’ve said or done to each other... the failures, the absences, the apologies never given, or the love you didn’t express—it needs to get out. We’ve covered a wide range of topics since launching this podcast, but this one stands out as an evergreen. It’s a conversation that will withstand the test of time and deeply resonate with YOU. In this episode, Brett shoots straight from the heart and will explain: Why we often don’t say what needs to be said—how assumptions, pride, and fear keep olive branches from growing The danger of “safe” silence—and how it can quietly grow into full-blown regret How to make sure you’re not leaving yourself out of the conversation by silencing your own positive affirmations A practical strategy to turn that charged cluster of emotions and thoughts into something meaningful (SPOILER: Just say it messy!) Setting clear expectations and staying grounded in case the message isn’t received the way you hoped 🔥 SUMMER SALE EXTENDED 🔥 Don’t wait. The Art of Coaching Summer Sale is officially extended, but not for long. No matter your learning style, setting, or any other constraints—now is the time to take the next step and join our AOC family. Visit artofcoaching.com/summersale to lock in: 💻 30% OFF all Online Courses Plus an extra 10% OFF when you bundle Bought In and VALUED 🤝 10% OFF all Live Events This includes The Apprenticeship, Speaker School, Brand Builder, and more. 📱 Art of Coaching Membership Get insider access to: ✅ 20% OFF all courses, live events, and mentoring ✅ FREE entry into our private online community (a $240 annual value) 🎯 Whether you’re a coach, leader, mentor, or someone in transition—there’s never been a better time to invest in your development. Stop waiting, take action! Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

Think about the last time you dealt with someone you were trying really hard to be professional with. Despite multiple miscommunications on their part — and what was clearly laziness, apathy, and them mailing it in — you kept trying to be the adult. You kept overcompensating for their lack of effort. You kept telling yourself, “Hold yourself to a higher standard.”   But it’s still getting you nowhere.   You want to lose it. You want to let them have it. But you hesitate — because everything in leadership and communication says “keep your cool.”   So the question becomes: At what point does that restraint stop helping and start hurting? At what point are you completely justified in going old-school — 1950s dad style — and giving someone a full-on ass-chewing?   What You’ll Learn:   •How to recognize when it’s time to stop playing nice and start holding the line •A real-world filter to help you decide when to confront someone directly •Why giving someone the business doesn’t mean losing your professionalism •How to hit someone with hard truth — without losing your message or your control   Why It Matters:   If you lead, coach, manage, or parent — this will give you a concrete decision-making lens for high-friction moments. You’ll stop second-guessing yourself when someone needs to be checked, and you’ll know how to do it in a way that’s firm, clear, and productive.   Come see us in: 📍Oakland, CA – July 12-13📍Melbourne, AUS – August 23-24📍Murfreesboro, TN – October 25-26   Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb

“Is there anything I can do to help?” It’s interesting and unique how we’ve all been asked this question by a spouse, friend, co-worker, or boss—but it never feels like that question leads to you getting actual help. It often feels like answering that question will cause you even more issues.  But, people are asking it with good intentions, so how can we actually seize this moment and get some relief from the overload? We’re always told as leaders that we need to delegate, delegate, delegate—so how can we respond to this request without adding to our overwhelm? In today’s episode, Brett is going to give us all the answers—and much more—to this age-old question we all somewhat cringe when we hear. Lean in as he covers: The psychology and first principles behind why we often decline help—even when we need it Cognitive overwhelm—how to reduce it, cut through the fog, and get the help you need Practical strategies to truly show up for someone and show you care Default requests you can use to get quick results based on their competence and ability How to respond with honesty that eases the emotional friction you might feel Iron Sharpens Iron You say you want to be the best—then stop avoiding the conversations that actually test you.This isn’t another feel-good workshop or conference where you can sit back, take notes, and disappear into the crowd. The Apprenticeship is fully interactive. We throw you into live, role-play scenarios and teach you how to navigate real conflict, difficult personalities, and power dynamics with clarity and control. No fluff. No theory overload. Just gritty, practical reps that expose your blind spots and sharpen your communication under pressure. Everyone could use some help—and if you're part of the audience we focused on in last week's episode, you'll even earn 1.6 CEUs!  Come see us in: 📍Oakland, CA – July 12-13📍Melbourne, AUS – August 23-24📍Murfreesboro, TN – October 25-26 (Im)Perfect Relationship Course One of our most popular offerings, for the married, divorced, dating, or anyone who wants to show up better in the relationships that matter most. We cover real stuff: communication strategies, attraction styles, love languages, parenting, money—and yes, even the topics usually left behind closed doors. Nothing’s off-limits. 🗓️ November 3 – December 2 This is a 30-day, 100% online challenge with live Zoom sessions each week. *Bonus: It’s also our most affordable course—so if you’ve been looking for a low-pressure, high-value way to go deeper with our material (whether you’re partnered up or preparing for “the one”), this is your chance. Join the waitlist now! Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb