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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners. Please use your discretion.
In this episode, Tim spoke with Jayneen Sanders about body safety education. Jayneen Sanders (aka Jay Dale) is an experienced author, publisher, elementary school teacher, mother of three and an active advocate for Body Safety, Gender Equality and Respectful Relationship Education being taught both in homes and in schools. She is also lead author of Engage Literacy published by Capstone Classroom, and has had published over 130 stories for children. Jayneen feels passionately that we can do so much more to keep our children safe by teaching them age-appropriate and empowering prevention education.
Jayneen is a strong public advocate for children’s safety, education and empowerment. You can follow her on social media channels to access important news, development and resources.
In this episode, we cover:
Check out Jayneen’s books here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk
Download her free body safety posters here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk/collections/posters/Body-Safety+Consent
Find Jayneen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==
Timestamps:
00:00 – Trigger warning
00:19 – Trailer
00:47 – Who is Jayneen Sanders and how did she get involved in this work?
08:08 – The role of parents in teaching kids body safety education
10:29 – How have attitudes towards this topic changed over time?
14:27 – What is a groomer, and how can you spot one?
19:30 – How body safety education prevents abuse
24:22 – Why parents need to stop using the word “secret” - and what to use instead
27:38 – How does pornography and tech impact children?
30:15 – Which children are most at risk of sexual abuse?
34:21 – How conversations can help prevent abuse
36:43 – Top tips for having the body safety talks with kids
40:39 – What kind of topics do Jayneen’s other books cover?
45:25 – Where can you find Jayneen’s books and free resources?
46:54 – Jayneen’s final message to parents
48:15 – Outro
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This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners, including mention of suicide, sexual assault, child sexual abuse material and torture. Please use your discretion. If you are in any need of help or support, please contact one of your country’s sexual abuse support organisations – they are there for you.
We are dedicating our 100th episode to the work of the phenomenal Michael Sheath. We had a really important conversation with Michael that – amongst other things – covered the need to call out the relationship of online pornography with sexual offending.
Since 1987, Michael has been dedicated to working with child sexual abuse offenders, beginning his journey as a probation officer and later becoming the Principal Practitioner at The Lucy Faithfull Foundation – a charity devoted to preventing child sexual abuse. His critically acclaimed work with male survivors of sexual abuse at HMP Blakenhurst earned him the prestigious Butler Trust Award in 1997.
Michael’s passion for understanding people's stories has resulted in a powerful and significant book, a collection of five theatrical monologues that delves into the human impacts of child sexual abuse, trauma, and the often-overlooked effects on secondary victims like the families of offenders. All these narratives are told from the perspective of those directly affected. Michael's own story is pretty compelling. In this episode, you'll hear from him about his very impactful work in a profound conversation that shines a light on this ever-critical issue.
In this episode, we cover:
Buy Michael's book from Amazon UK, or get it direct from the publisher here.
All proceeds will go towards Children Heard and Seen, a charity which supports children with a parent in prison.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Trigger warning and intro
01:37 – How Michael Sheath got involved in this work
07:55 – What's the difference between a ‘contact offender’ and a ‘downloader/online offender’?
16:54 – The influence of pornography on young people’s sexual behaviours
20:01 – How legal porn sites suggest problematic content, and why that’s an issue
25:39 – The role of porn in child sexual abuse
31:16 – Why people use porn and how these sites keep you hooked
34:12 – How do some sex offenders feel about their behaviour?
37:32 – Navigating the consequences of being a child sexual offender
39:17 – How do sex offenders feel towards the victims?
45:24 – How Michael manages his mental health working in this industry
50:00 – About Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’
54:20 – We need sex education that’s not pornography
55:20 – What’s next for Michael Sheath?
57:07 – Conclusion
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For this episode, Toshi spoke with sociologist Dr. Amy Blackstone about the childfree choice. Amy is a childfree woman who wrote the book, ‘Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family & Creating a New Age of Independence,’ which explores the history and growing movement of adults choosing to forgo parenthood. Amy has shared her research on the childfree choice in The Atlantic, Washington Post, Huffington Post, on the Katie show, and other venues.
Amy’s teaching and research interests include the sociology of gender, work, food, families, and healthcare. She has served as a consultant on workplace sexual harassment cases, and her research on this topic has been cited in the New York Times, USA Today, BuzzFeed, TIME, NBC News, and other outlets. She is passionate about food and has taught the Sociology of Food at UMaine and in Italy.
In this episode, we cover:
Find Dr. Amy Blackstone at her website: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/
Grab a copy of ‘Childfree by Choice’: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/childfreebychoice
Listen to her podcast, ‘Nevertheless, Persisting’: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/neverthelesspersisting
Timestamps:
00:00 – Trailer
00:34 – Intro
00:58 – Did Dr Blackstone always know she wanted to be childfree?
06:28 – Does science support the idea of ‘maternal instinct’?
08:54 – What's the difference between being ‘childfree’ and ‘childless’?
13:44 – How do men and women experience being childfree differently?
17:13 – Why do people decide to be childfree?
20:01 – How childfree people shape future generations
26:28 – How have people’s attitudes towards being childfree changed over time?
29:05 – Pros and cons of being childfree
34:55 – Do childfree people regret their choices?
40:35 – What should young people know about being childfree?
44:33 – Dr Blackstone’s final message for listeners
45:42 – Where to find Dr Blackstone and her work
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This week, Tim had a conversation with social scientist Dr Julie Carpenter, where they explored emotional attachments to AI and the future of human-AI relationships.
Dr. Julie Carpenter is an award-winning researcher in the field of human-technology interaction whose work investigates the dynamic interplay between technology and human identity, social relationships, and connection.
Her recent book, The Naked Android: Synthetic Socialness and the Human Gaze, explores the narratives people construct about AI and robots, their expectations of robotic behaviour, and how these cultural beliefs influence the design and use of real-world robots.
She is a Research Fellow in the Ethics + Emerging Sciences Group, a non-partisan organization dedicated to examining the ethical, social, and risk implications of emerging technologies.
In this episode, we cover:
Find Dr Julie Carpenter here:
Website: jgcarpenter.com
Bluesky: @jgcarpenter
Mastodon: https://fediscience.org/@jgcarpenter
Timestamps:
00:00 – Trailer
00:55 – Who is Dr Julie Carpenter?
08:13 – How we form emotional attachments with pets, and how this relates to AI
11:36 – What is the difference between AI and robotics?
15:58 – Stories of emotional attachment to military robots
25:14 – A short message from Sex in Space
25:27 – Dr Carpenter’s thoughts on human-AI relationships
29:49 – How brand association changes the way we use AI
31:39 – What are the risks when it comes to using AI?
35:21 – Ethical considerations of AI relationships
45:41 – What are people looking for with intimate AI relationships?
49:27 – Exploring consent when it comes to AI
55:01 – Is Dr Carpenter optimistic about the future of AI?
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On this week’s episode of the podcast, Dr. Jane Cherrington spoke with Cindy Gallop about MakeLoveNotPorn Academy. Cindy has 35 years of experience in brand building, marketing and advertising, and in 2009 at TED, launched MakeLoveNotPorn.tv – ‘Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.’ Since then, she’s turned MLNP into the world’s first human-curated, user-generated social sex video sharing platform, socialising sex to promote consent, good sexual values and behaviour.
MakeLoveNotPorn Academy, the subject of today's episode, is an aggregator hub for the best of the world's sex education content all in one place, searchable by age appropriateness, cultural sensibility, and personal comfort level.
The Academy's goal is to be a platform and directory for all the brilliant sex educators currently blocked, censored and de-platformed everywhere, to make their work more accessible to parents, teachers, children, young people, everyone.
The Academy will be 100% human-curated: human eyes will vet every piece of content pre-publishing to ensure it's safe, educational, non-judgemental and fact-based.
In this episode, we cover:
Find Cindy Gallop here: https://cindygallop.com/
Check out MLNP Academy: https://www.mlnp.academy/
Find the email template for Masterclass here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hSJQb8LXtZvKYQ29kk-Jv5IrHt5merfqn6RQvCNbTsE/edit?usp=sharing
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:43 – What is MakeLoveNotPorn Academy?
09:22 – What are the criteria for educators on MLNP Academy?
12:44 – How sex educators will be able to use the platform
16:30 – Who is sponsoring this project?
19:38 – Why MakeLoveNotPorn is such a great name
23:59 – It’s about the people who get it
26:36 – How much money does MLNP Academy need to raise?
29:51 – How will MLNP Academy make money?
32:58 – Cocomelon for sex ed
34:05 – Agents of Ishq
35:20 – What can you do to help?
36:49 – Help us get Cindy Gallop on Masterclass
38:18 – MLNP operates in the market of human happiness
40:33 – An quick note from Sex in Space
40:49 – Outro
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In this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr Brian Willoughby, a Professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University and a research fellow at The Wheatley Institute. Dr. Willoughby is considered an international expert in the field of couple and marital relationships, sexuality, and emerging adult development. Together, Tim and Dr. Willoughby discussed the facts around porn exposure in kids and teens, and shared practical tips for parents to help them navigate having these conversations with young people.
Find out more about Dr Willoughby here: https://fhssfaculty.byu.edu/directory/brian-willoughby
Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
02:09 – How Dr Willoughby got started studying pornography
05:32 – What are some of the reasons young people are being exposed to pornography?
10:35 – Porn chats with kids should be about ‘when,’ not ‘if’
13:36 – Two key pieces of advice for parents
17:44 – What are the messages young people are getting from watching porn?
22:32 – The difference between porn consumption for young people today compared to older generations
24:03 – The importance of monitoring and open communication
25:47 – When to have these conversations, and what to say
27:51 – Using teachable moments
29:19 – What resources we’re still missing
33:25 – Is there a place for pornography use in a relationship?
35:56 – Viewing pornography use as a risk in the same way we view alcohol consumption
40:33 – The benefits of talking with kids about pornography
43:44 – Dr Willoughby’s #1 piece of advice for parents
44:56 – Recommended resources + filling the education gap
48:08 – Where to find more of Dr Willoughby
49:03 – Conclusion
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In this episode, Toshi had a conversation with Victoria, a former escort who is the president of UTSOPI in Belgium, which is the Belgian Union of Sex Workers. Together, they had a conversation about the way that Victoria views sex work as a social service, something that’s not just about physical intimacy but is very connected to human emotions and is effective at combating loneliness. Toshi and Victoria also discussed the stigma that is still associated with sex work, why you should be hugging the people in your life, and the difference between loneliness and being alone.
Related links: https://www.utsopi.be/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
02:35 – Only 10% of sex work is about sex
07:27 – How clients responded when Victoria quit sex work
09:08 – The difference between loneliness and being alone
10:09 - The benefits of sex work on emotional health
12:26 – How Victoria came to see sex work as a social service
17:25 – Human connection is important in every job
18:33 – What Victoria learned from sex work
20:26 – The stigma still associated with sex work
22:23 – How sex helps Victoria stay young
24:10 – Why you should be hugging the people in your life
25:17 – Victoria's own experience as a client of sex work
30:09 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode, Toshi had a conversation with David Jay, who is the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education network, which is the world’s largest online asexual community. Together, they had a conversation about the experience of being asexual and the expectations that society has around sexuality, as well as how David has redefined relationships and intimacy as an asexual person. They also discussed three-parent families and the importance of building a community of care, and finished the conversation talking about why conflict is actually a really good thing.
Find AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) here:
https://www.asexuality.org/en/
Find David's book, Relationality: How Moving from Transactional to Transformational Relationships Can Reshape Our Lonely World, here:
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:26 – What does it mean to be asexual, or ‘ace’?
03:26 – What is compulsory sexuality?
04:39 – David’s experience as a young ace person
06:32 – How society has different sexual expectations for different bodies
08:15 – The impact of asexuality on how David sees relationships and intimacy
11:12 – The benefits of having intentional friendships
13:33 – Why you should be thinking about creating a community of care
16:35 – What it’s like to be in a three-parent family
19:44 – Two things you can learn from this podcast
23:01 – Advice if you want to be more intentional in your friendships
24:24 – Why being asexual is so liberating
26:39 – What David would have wanted his younger self to know
28:20 – How the ace community has changed over time
33:04 – Why relationships with others are so important
37:19 – Why conflict is a really good thing
39:34 – David’s message to ace listeners
40:43 – Conclusion
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This week, we’re re-releasing one of our most popular podcast episodes – a conversation with 72-year-old OnlyFans sex worker, Michelle Hardenbrook. Jane chatted with Michelle about how she got started in the industry at the age of 55, how she educated herself about sex and intimacy, as well as Michelle’s thoughts on penis size, shape, and confidence, how to experience orgasm after prostate cancer, and advice for any listeners who are wanting to understand sex work better.
Find Michelle here: https://www.instagram.com/terrytowngal1951/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:39 – How Michelle got started in sex work at the age of 55
04:43 – Practical tips for managing finances as a sex worker
07:31 – Michelle’s transition to working online and building an audience
13:02 – Michelle’s role as a mentor and the value she brings to other sex workers
14:23 – Michelle’s thoughts on pimps in the industry
16:35 – Michelle’s life lesson: don’t panic
18:15 – How Michelle educated herself about sex and intimacy
20:31 – Michelle’s experience with vibrators
23:30 – Michelle’s response to unsolicited images
25:29 – Michelle’s thoughts on pen*s size, shape and confidence
28:20 – The impact of aging on libido and sexual experiences
30:42 – How Michelle helps clients who have had prostate cancer
34:18 – Advice to listeners who don’t understand sex work
35:52 – Michelle's advice for new sex workers
38:31 – Conclusion
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This week we’re re-releasing another of our podcast episodes. This time, we’re revisiting a conversation that Jane had with Vanessa Hamilton, a sexuality educator and founder of the education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’.
Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, she is a parent of 3 teens and is an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Vanessa has immersed herself in helping parents, teachers and health professionals understand human sexuality and, specifically, how it relates to children.
Together, she and Jane spoke about the key topics parents should address with their kids about sexuality education, including consent, pleasure, and pornography. Vanessa provides strategies for tackling uncomfortable situations and gives examples of how to use teachable moments with young people, as well as providing a script for responding when a child asks how babies are made.
You can find more of Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:49 – How Vanessa ended up in the sexuality education space
03:26 – The scale of the sex ed gap within adults
04:48 – The impact of confidence on having sex ed chats
05:47 – How to talk with young people about sending nudes
07:18 – Vanessa’s take-home message to parents
08:50 – When should you start thinking about having conversations with your kids about sexuality?
09:42 – Why your tone is more important than what you say to a child
10:13 – What topics you should be covering with your kids (and why saying something is better than saying nothing)
12:47 – The majority of parents support this education
13:38 – Why Vanessa doesn’t like the term ‘sex ed’ (and what she uses instead)
15:20 – Reframing how we think about pleasure
17:01 – How consent is part of our everyday experiences
19:59 – How to explain how babies are made
23:35 – What are the contributing factors towards teen pregnancies?
24:46 – What kids are learning about sex from pornography
26:36 – Why Vanessa wrote her book ‘Talking Sex’
29:11 – How to respond when you encounter an uncomfortable situation with your child
31:10 – How to practice having conversations about sexuality
32:22 – The barriers for male parents having these kinds of conversations
34:14 – Examples of how to use teachable moments with your kids
38:15 – Make yourself the adult that your kids can come to
39:56 – Why it’s important to give young people a framework to think about pornography
42:10 – How to respond if you think your child has seen inappropriate content online
43:21 – How to get a copy of Vanessa’s book ‘Talking Sex’
44:23 – Vanessa’s book on consent for parents and teachers
45:05 – Just get started: it’s easier than you think
45:39 - Conclusion
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This week here at Sex in Space we’re re-releasing one of our episodes from 2023. In this podcast, Jane had the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Laurie Mintz, an author, therapist, speaker and emeritus professor, to talk tips for a better sex life.
Dr Laurie is more than qualified to speak on this topic, as the author of two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship. These books were written with the aim of empowering women sexually and they both have published studies demonstrating that readers enhance their sexual functioning.
Dr Laurie aims to provide scientifically accurate, sex-positive information to enhance female pleasure. She gives presentations and workshops to professionals and lay audiences, and has a TEDx talk that’s received more than 2.5 million views.
Together, she and Jane spoke about what causes women to have low libidos, the two types of desire (and why you should know them), what the orgasm gap is and why it exists, the truth about sex positions, the issue with penis-size jokes and practical takeaways for a better sex life.
Find Dr. Laurie’s website here: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/
Watch Dr. Laurie’s TEDx talk here: https://youtu.be/oD2ja2BT-0E?si=e_qwyGySYx7GXRWg
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
03:15 – Why Laurie wrote her first book
04:53 – What causes women to have low libidos?
07:31 – The two types of desire (and why you should know them)
09:10 – Why we need to rethink the way we talk about sex
14:59 – How reading Dr. Laurie’s book can improve your sex life
17:04 – Shame and sex are enemies
18:44 – What inspired Dr. Laurie to start educating about the clitoris
20:37 – What is the orgasm gap and why does it exist?
23:03 – The need for porn literacy
25:19 – Why sex ed in the Netherlands is so effective
26:42 – The truth about sex positions
29:53 – Why women have pain with penetration (and what you can do about it)
32:50 – Why do women fake orgasm?
34:42 – The issue with slut-shaming and penis size jokes
36:07 – What does it mean to be sexually active?
37:37 – Dr Laurie’s communication tips
41:34 – Why it’s important to learn how to pleasure yourself
43:53 – 12 commandments for a better sex life
46:05 – Conclusion
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On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – thirteen of our top tips from experts on how to have a better sex life. We’ll cover things like how you can use responsive desire to feel aroused – and why taking time to build arousal is so important, how to bring variety into your sex life, advice on how to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner, and more.
Our experts include:
Dr Laurie Mintz: author, speaker, therapist and emeritus professor, whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives.
Melody Thomas: creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them.
Dr Ian Kerner: licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress.
Susan Bratton: intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long.
Damian Weatherald: disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, sex educator, and sex toy guru.
Dr Jenn Gunsaullus: keynote speaker, sociologist, sex coach, and author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women.
Suzanne Werder: nurse practitioner from the New Zealand Sexual Health Society.
Hollie McNish: award-winning poet, writer and performer.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:36 – How to use responsive desire to feel aroused
01:25 – How to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner
02:06 – Why it’s important to take time to build arousal
03:15 – How to practice self-advocacy in non-sexual situations
03:57 – Why you should embrace laughter in sexual experiences
04:40 – How trying something new in bed can help build intimacy
05:14 – How we can reframe the way we think about condoms
05:48 – Use a hand massage to practice communication
07:02 – Why it’s important to treat others how they want to be treated
07:42 – Why you should be asking questions in bed
09:03 – Why it’s important not to rush into sex
10:54 – How to bring variety into your sex life
13:33 – How to prioritise your own pleasure
14:17 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had a conversation with Ella D’Aloia. Ella is a certified holistic sex coach and therapeutic yoni massage practitioner who specialises in female sexuality. Together, Ella and Toshi spoke all about yoni massage - what it is, what the benefits are, what to expect from a session and how to find the right practitioner. They also had a conversation about how through her intimate and supportive approach, Ella helps women to reclaim their bodies, pleasure and sexuality so they can live a life filled with joy, pleasure and aliveness.
Find Ella here: https://www.ella-daloia.com/
Or check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ella_daloia_/
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Intro
00:46 – How Ella got started in this space
02:46 – What is a yoni massage?
05:39 – What are the benefits of a yoni massage?
11:57 – How many sessions does a person need?
14:50 – Is yoni massage sexual?
17:18 – Why you need to do your research into yoni massage practitioners
18:20 – How does Ella create a safe space for clients to feel comfortable?
19:34 – What can you expect from a yoni massage session with Ella?
23:05 – Standout client experiences for Ella
25:44 – What Ella has learned from her work as a yoni massage practitioner
28:57 – Ella's message if you’re feeling hesitant about getting a yoni massage
30:27 – Can you have a yoni massage if you’re on your period?
31:44 – Why it’s so important to be connected to our bodies
33:22 – Where listeners can find Ella and her work
33:55 – Is there a version of yoni massage for men?
35:06 – How you can check if a practitioner is certified
37:12 – Conclusion
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In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Niobe Way about the social and emotional lives of young boys and men.
Dr. Niobe Way is an internationally recognised NYU developmental psychologist who has spent nearly 40 years researching social and emotional development and has found that boys and young men desperately want and need the same thing as everyone else: close friendships. Yet they and we grow up in a stereotyped “boy” culture, one that devalues and mocks those relationships, rather than recognising that they’re necessary for human survival. Her social science research has made her an expert on friendships, loneliness, teenagers, gender stereotypes, masculinity and the roots of violence.
In this conversation, Dr. Way shares insights from her latest book, ‘Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves and Our Culture’. She explains how these “rebels,” as she calls the boys and young men in her research and in her classrooms, teach us about their and our crisis of connection, evidence of which is visible in our soaring rates of depression, anxiety, loneliness, suicide, and mass violence. They also teach us about the solutions to the crisis, which is to care, to listen with curiosity, and to take individual and collective responsibility for the damage we have done to them, to ourselves, and to the world around us.
Find Dr. Way here: https://www.niobe-way.com/
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 – Intro
01:26 – How Dr. Way got started researching boys and their friendships
03:57 – The four themes she learned from young men
10:56 – Close: the movie about boy friendships
12:08 – Which men are most at risk of suffering from this crisis of connection?
16:38 – What Dr. Way means when she refers to ‘boy’ culture
17:20 – Why curiosity is key to connecting with others
21:29 – Dr. Way’s advice for parents
24:06 – The impact of technology and how we use it on ‘boy’ culture
26:07 – How we could change technology to connect better with others
28:15 – Having feelings is normal for everyone
33:41 – Why ‘boy’ culture is not just about masculinity
38:40 – Society tolerates our ‘soft sides’ more when we’re younger
39:37 – What we can learn from listening to children and teenagers
43:02 – Why this book is not Dr. Way’s opinion
45:25 – Dr. Way’s hopes moving forward
49:11 – Why Dr. Way focused her work on boys and young men
50:32 – Where to find more of Dr. Niobe Way
52:54 – Outro
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On this week’s episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk again with Kate Muir, a women’s health expert, investigative journalist, documentary maker, and author of books on the menopause and the pill. Together they had a conversation all about the menopause and Kate’s book, Everything you needed to know about the menopause but were too afraid to ask.
Kate and Toshi discussed the difference between perimenopause and menopause, the impact of the menopause on mental and physical health, the role of hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and what young people should know about the menopause.
Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/
Check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menoscandal/?hl=en
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
00:35 – Kate's story with the menopause
03:29 – The difference between perimenopause and menopause
06:56 – The impact of the menopause on physical and mental health
10:10 – How does hormone replacement therapy work for the menopause?
13:24 – Is there a relationship between hormone replacement therapy and breast cancer?
15:39 – Societal attitudes towards HRT
21:34 – The accessibility of health knowledge
23:18 – How women's relationship to menopause has changed over time
25:22 – Why so many women suddenly put on weight in midlife
27:37 – Osteoporosis, bone density and HRT
32:30 – The impact of hormones on Alzheimer's and dementia
36:34 – Why we need to be getting hormones to all those who need it
38:35 – What young people should know about the menopause
40:15 – The rewiring of the brain during the menopause
42:45 – The impact of AI on accessibility of science
45:36 – Kate’s new book, How to have a magnificent midlife crisis
48:07 – Advice to people wanting to support someone going through the menopause
50:30 – Where to find more of Kate’s work
51:28 - Conclusion
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On today’s episode, we were joined by Dr David Perl, a qualified expert on limerence. Growing up with a father who survived Auschwitz and a mother facing frustration and anger as a stay-at-home mum, David’s path to success was anything but ordinary. Seeking the approval of his parents, he pursued a career in medicine, graduating from the prestigious University of London in 1984. Exploring various disciplines within medicine, including psychiatry and aviation medicine, he eventually founded docleaf, a renowned Crisis Management and Trauma Psychology Consultancy. Along the way, he acquired expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, counselling, and even earned an advanced postgraduate diploma in Leadership Coaching. However, it was his own personal experience of developing limerence in 2010 that ignited a new purpose for David. Determined to help others impacted by limerence, he founded limerence.net, a platform that includes a supportive forum to aid individuals on their healing journey. Together, Toshi and David had a conversation all about limerence – what it is, who is impacted by it, and ways to deal with it.
Check out Dr David’s site here: https://limerence.net/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
02:32 – David's experience with limerence
05:29 – What is limerence?
07:10 – Why do people get limerence?
10:14 – Advice for someone dealing with limerence
11:26 – How can we get over limerence?
13:37 – Limerence and affairs
15:13 – Can limerence turn into love?
16:43 – David’s key tips for getting over limerence
19:47 – Should you tell your limerent object about your feelings?
22:46 – Why self-compassion is so important if you’re struggling with limerence
26:44 – Understanding male and female friendships
32:01 – Limerence is a symptom
33:45 – Where you can find more of David
35:21 – Conclusion
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On this episode of the podcast, we were lucky enough to be joined by Amal Awad. Amal is a writer, director and performer, and as a journalist has contributed to publications including The Guardian, The Sydney Morning Herald, ELLE and Frankie. She’s produced and presented for ABC Radio National, and is the author of eight books, both fiction and non-fiction.
Together, Amal and Jane had a conversation about the complexity of the experience of wearing a veil, and the personal and societal pressures that play into this. They spoke about modesty and the policing women’s bodies in society, as well as the contrasts between wearing the veil in the Western world compared to in the Arab world. Amal and Jane also had a discussion about female sexuality and education around sex and bodies.
Find Amal here: https://amalawad.com/
Read 'Beyond Veiled Clichés': https://amzn.asia/d/bOs4xPc
Watch ABC Australia’s video, Why Muslim women wear a hijab, burka or niqab & the importance of modesty in Islam: https://youtu.be/hkLjExxCQdY?si=piVVLOL-uLBCT5me
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 – Intro
00:41 – How does Amal’s work connect with Sex in Space?
02:23 – The need for nuanced conversations about the veil
06:51 – Amal’s experience wearing a headscarf
11:22 – The policing of women and their bodies
15:08 – The veil and symbolism
19:16 – The difference between belief and faith
22:57 – Wearing the veil in the Arab world vs the Western world
26:23 – Female sexuality and religion
32:24 – Understanding the lack of education around sex and bodies
35:07 – Different expressions of modesty
38:54 – Why Amal chose to stop wearing the headscarf
43:25 – About Amal’s book: Bitter and Sweet
49:16 – Conclusion
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On today’s episode of the podcast, we were joined by Arielle Zadok. Arielle is an intimacy coordinator, sexologist and founder of The Sexy Directory, an upcoming sex education platform launching in 2025. When she’s not facilitating intimacy on film and television sets, you can find her leading transformative intimacy workshops and speaking about sensuality, sexuality and intimacy at events. Arielle also hosts and produces Birds & Bees Don’t Fck, a show that normalizes how sex education of the past failed us, and how we all managed to get through that. Each week she brings on a comedian or sexpert for these fun, free flowing, educational conversations.
Together, Arielle and Tim had a conversation about the role of intimacy coordinators in film and television, the responsibility of media creators to portray sex and intimacy in an authentic way, what makes a great sex scene, and the impact that misinformation from places like pornography has on real sexual interactions.
Find Arielle here: https://www.ariellezadok.com/
Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariellezadok
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:39 – The state of sex ed
03:53 – Arielle’s early interest in sex and sexuality
08:20 – How Arielle got started as an intimacy coordinator
13:59 – The need to portray intimacy in an accurate way
17:53 – What does a good sex scene look like?
20:12 – Intimacy coordination and kink
23:10 – What Fifty Shades of Grey got wrong about kink
30:18 – Does intimacy coordination exist in pornography?
34:35 – The problem with using porn as a form of sex ed
37:00 – Where we should be learning about sex from
39:05 – How messages about shame and masturbation impact our sex lives
44:13 – Education and The Sexy Directory
49:49 – Where to find Arielle
50:27 – Conclusion
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On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – ten of our top parenting sex ed tips from experts. We’ve spoken with a lot of parenting experts on our podcast over the years and we wanted to put together some of our favourite tips from these conversations. We’ll cover things like how to talk with your kids about consent, masturbation and porn, advice for how you can be the kind of parent your kids feel safe to come to – and why that’s so important – as well as how you can respond, rather than react, when they ask you a tricky question.
00:00 – Intro
00:34 – Make it normal for your kids to talk to you about what they see online
02:07 – Why you don’t want to shame kids for their bodily reactions to sexual content
03:10 – Be the go to place for your kids to learn facts and values, rather than the media/porn
04:06 – Think about helpful sex conversations you've had in your own life
05:27 – Why your tone matters even more than what you say when having sex talks with your kids
06:20 – How to talk with kids about masturbation
06:59 – How to explain to kids how babies are made
09:28 – How to talk with your kids about porn
10:50 – How to teach kids about consent
12:12 – How to respond rather than react when your child asks you a tricky sex question
14:26 – Conclusion
Our experts include:
Cath Hakanson, qualified sexual health nurse, author, speaker and the founder of Sex Ed Rescue.
Vanessa Hamilton, sexuality educator and the founder of education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’, with over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse.
https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/
Dr Jane Cherrington, PhD in discursive psychology, with some post-doctoral work around the themes in porn, founder of the Sex in Space Project.
Justin Hancock, writer/editor of BISH, a trained sexual health trainer, qualified youth worker, and a sex and relationships educator since 1999.
Nikki Denholm, director at The Light Project, which aims to equip youth, their whānau and communities to build porn literacy and positively navigate the new porn landscape.
https://thelightproject.co.nz/
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On this episode of the podcast, we were joined by Danielle Broster from the Australian Federal Police. Danielle is a Senior Prevention Officer for their Online Child Safety Team, which she has been a part of for five years. The Australian Federal Police lead an education program called Think U Know, which aims to prevent online child sexual exploitation. Together, Danielle and Tim had a conversation all about sextortion – what it is, who it affects and the warning signs that someone might be a victim, as well as advice for parents on what they can do to help protect their kids against sextortion.
TRIGGER WARNING: this episode discusses topics related to sextortion, online exploitation, and the manipulation of young people. These are sensitive and potentially distressing subjects, so listener discretion is advised. If you find any part of this conversation overwhelming, please reach out to support services if needed.
Find Think U Know here: https://www.thinkuknow.org.au/
ACCCE (Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation): https://www.accce.gov.au/
Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
02:33 – How Think U Know started and what they do
04:08 – What is sextortion and who does it target?
11:07 – Do perpetrators follow through with threats?
12:45 – How big is the issue?
15:42 – Advice to help prevent sextortion
20:30 – What conversations to have at what age
22:00 – What are the red flags that suggest someone might be at risk?
23:46 – What empowers young people to report sextortion?
25:46 – Signs someone might be the victim of sextortion
27:58 – Balancing privacy and trust with your child
31:05 – What to do if you find out your child is a victim of sextortion
34:15 – How the AFP is helping prevent sextortion
36:32 – Top tips for both parents and teens
38:05 – Where to find more information
40:57 – How the tech landscape has changed over time
43:57 – Conclusion
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