Ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Did I do something wrong?” even though you were just being honest?
That’s the hidden weapon of projection—and it’s how toxic people transfer their unhealed wounds onto you.
In this episode, we unpack:
- What projection really is (and why it’s so dangerous)
- The psychological trick it plays on high-achieving women with big hearts
- Why some people NEED you to be the villain
- How to stop internalizing their shame and take your power back
If you’re done carrying blame that isn’t yours, this conversation will be a reset.
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This message will hit different if you’ve ever been called “too much” or felt afraid to be seen.
In this episode, we go deep into why healing doesn't always mean you're growing—and how your inner child might be the one calling the shots.
Were you celebrated for who you truly were as a little girl… or quietly taught to tone it down?
In this episode, we’re going straight to the root—the moments in childhood when you learned it wasn’t safe to be fully you.
Not to stay stuck in the past, but to uncover the exact point you internalized:
- “I’m too much.”
- “I need to shrink to be loved.”
- “It’s safer to hold back.”
We’ll unpack:
Because once you recognize the blueprint… you can rewrite it.
🎧 Listen now and start reclaiming the parts of you the world told you to hide.
You journaled.
You prayed.
You did the work.
So why does your body still feel heavy?
This episode is the truth most coaches won’t tell you:
You can do all the “healing work” and still feel broken if your nervous system hasn’t caught up.
You can apply every strategy, and still feel stuck—because you skipped the most important step: acceptance.
In this final episode of The Aftermath series, I’ll walk you through what actually works when you’re emotionally exhausted, questioning your growth, and feeling like nothing has changed.
Because real healing isn’t loud.
It’s gentle.
It’s regulated.
And it’s rooted in compassion—especially when life breaks you open.
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You thought you were past the worst of it…
But then, when the chaos quieted down—everything crashed.
In this episode, I break down what actually happens when your nervous system is no longer in survival mode—and why it might feel like you’re falling apart even though you’ve “done the work.”
Here’s what you’ll hear:
Why emotional crashes happen after the divorce, breakup, job loss, or identity shift
How unprocessed grief creates numbness, sadness, or shutdown
Why validating your emotions is not being a victim—it’s your way out
If you’re feeling stuck, unmotivated, or ashamed for how “off” you still feel… this episode will change your entire perspective.
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You’re meditating. You’re journaling. You’re doing everything “right”…
So why does it still feel like you’re falling apart?
In this episode, I share the truth about what happens when high-functioning women finally slow down after survival mode—and why the healing tools stop working unless your nervous system is regulated.
This is the part no one warned you about:
Why you feel “blah” when the crisis ends
The hidden crash that follows long-term survival
And what to do when the emotional numbness kicks in
You are not broken.
Your nervous system is trying to find safety again.
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You held it all together... until your body started falling apart.
This is the part of healing no one warned you about: when the chaos ends, the crash begins.
In this episode, I reveal the emotional aftermath of high-functioning survival mode—how it disguises itself as discipline, delays grief, and keeps even self-aware women feeling stuck, numb, or unmotivated after a divorce, identity collapse, or major loss.
If you’ve been doing “all the right things” and still don’t feel like yourself… this is why.
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You can manifest something… and still let it go.You can live the dream… and later outgrow it.
This episode unpacks the real reason your manifestation didn’t fail—your soul simply evolved.
Let’s talk about shame, self-reclamation, and what it means to be brave enough to pivot.
I’m sharing a deeply personal chapter that reminds us all:
“Just because it ended doesn’t mean it was fake. It means you’re finally aligned with the woman you’re meant to become.”
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Are you healing—or still waiting to be saved? In this episode, we unpack the trauma response keeping high-value women stuck in survival mode.
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This isn’t just a Riverdale scene—it’s a masterclass in trauma bonds, emotional caregiving, and why powerful women stay in toxic love.
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When a woman disconnects from her worth, she tends to go one of two ways:
➡️ She becomes performative and approval-hungry—living for his texts, his validation, his breadcrumbs...
OR
➡️ She pretends she doesn’t care at all—masking her pain with arrogance, shutdown energy, and “whatever” vibes.
Neither is power.
Both are rooted in insecurity.
True self-worth is quiet, grounded, and magnetic. It’s the version of you who doesn’t chase or shut down—she chooses.
She’s not reacting to the world… she’s anchored in herself.
In this episode, I break down how disconnection from self-worth leads to toxic patterns—and how taking your power back doesn’t mean becoming emotionless.
It means becoming centered.
In this episode, we dive into the first essential trait of the healing woman—her ability to seek understanding rather than rush to judgment. True healing starts from within, and that begins when we open ourselves to deeper awareness, empathy, and compassion.
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In this episode, we dive deep into the 'Wife' Archetype, a powerful blend of the Wise Woman and Wonder Woman.
Whether you're single or in a relationship, understanding and embodying this archetype can transform how you navigate dating and relationships.
Learn how to balance feminine wisdom with masculine strength, and discover how this dynamic energy can help you attract and maintain healthy, fulfilling connections.
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The first step to transforming your dating experiences and relationships with my DESIRE method is to dissect your past. In this episode, we'll explore how understanding your past can unlock the door to the love life you truly desire.
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In this episode we dive into the Wise Woman archetype (feminine energy), and why it's crucial to embody "HER."
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In this episode, we discuss the importance of addressing and breaking patterns in your life to unlock your full potential. Whether it's repetitive behaviors, negative thoughts, or limiting beliefs, toxic patterns can keep you stuck in cycles that hinder healing, personal growth, healthy relationships, and fulfillment.
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In this episode, you'll hear about Yadira's journey; where she was when we first started working together; how her experience was coaching with me; her breakthroughs; where she is today, and so much more!
Yadira went from:
....and so much more.
This woman is a force of nature and I've been, and continue to be, blessed to have an incredible coaching relationship with her.
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This podcast episode delves into why you may be drawn to possessive people in dating. We highlight factors like familiarity with controlling dynamics, seeking security, struggles with self-esteem, fear of abandonment, and the reinforcement of roles in relationships.
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There are three important 'female archetypes' to embody when you're desiring to manifest a partner. One of them is the Wonder Woman. However, if your inner Wonder Woman is too dominate, you will attract men you continually are dissatisfied with.
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In this episode we dive into how LIB participants' attachment styles and underlying subconscious patterns is the driving force of the choices they make regardless of what they say they want.
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