When I was growing up, my dad always seemed to have the right tool for the job. Whether he was wallpapering, carving something out of wood, or building a concrete fireplace, I’d stand there watching — amazed — wondering how he just knew what to do.
One day, I asked him how he did it. His answer was simple:
“You just do it.”
At the time, I didn’t get it. I thought he was dodging the question.
But years later, I realised those four words held a lifetime of dad wisdom — the kind that quietly shapes who we become.
In this episode, I share the story of how my father’s simple words became one of the greatest pieces of life wisdom I’ve ever received — a reminder that sometimes, you don’t need another plan, another book, or another reason to wait. You just need to start.
Whether you’re facing change, indecision, or self-doubt, this episode is for you. It’s part motivational speech, part reflection, and a gentle nudge to move forward — whatever your “it” might be.
👉 If you’re ready to take that next step in your own life, and could use some support along the way, book a consultation with me at Right Your Own Story. Together, we’ll explore what’s been holding you back and help you move confidently toward what’s next.
Because sometimes, the simplest words of wisdom — like the ones passed down from a father to a son — can change your life forever.
Confidence changes everything — but most people are walking around with hidden "needles" of self-doubt, fear, and old wounds holding them back.
In this episode of Right Your Own Story, I’m revealing The Confidence Code LIVE — my brand-new 6-week small-group coaching programme designed to give you the tools, strategies, and mindset shifts to finally unlock unshakable self-belief.
We start 1st September 2025, with strictly limited spaces of 10–12 people per group, and for this first-ever round, you’ll get the full programme and a signed workbook for just £249 — a saving of over £600 compared to 1-to-1 coaching.
Inside this episode:
Why confidence really is the foundation for everything you want in life.
What you’ll experience in The Confidence Code LIVE.
How to secure your place before spaces sell out.
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In this empowering episode of the Right Your Own Story podcast, I share Five Mind Tricks to Instantly Boost Your Confidence—practical, psychology-backed techniques to help you build greater confidence starting today.
Whether you're struggling with self-esteem, want to show up more confidently at work or in relationships, or you’re on a journey of personal development and mindset growth, these five mind tricks will give you fast, accessible tools to shift your thinking and change how you feel.
🔑 In this episode, you'll discover:
How to break the negative thought-emotion-behaviour cycle with The Confidence Loop
A simple mindset shift using Future You to guide your actions
Why changing your body language changes your confidence instantly
How to borrow belief when yours feels low
The power of using better self-talk and language to shape your identity
These tools are rooted in therapeutic principles, coaching techniques, and real-life experience—delivered with warmth, honesty, and clarity.
🧠 If you’ve been wondering how to be more confident, how to take control of your life, or how to stop old thinking patterns from holding you back, this is the episode for you.
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Five Mind Tricks to Instantly Boost Your Confidence
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🎧 Right Your Own Story is a space for self-leadership, mindset mastery, and rewriting the beliefs that hold you back. Subscribe, share, and remember — no matter what’s happened before…
You can still right your own story.
Best wishes,
James
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Hiroo Onoda – The Japanese Soldier Who REFUSED to Surrender is one of the most extraordinary tales ever. In this episode from Right Your Own Story, we dive deep into Hiroo Onoda's story. His unwavering mindset, his 30-year personal war, and what it teaches us today about belief, purpose, and identity. This incredible WW2 account is not only powerful. It's one of the most bizarre and inspiring pieces of Weird History you'll ever hear.From the dense jungles of Lubang Island, Philippines, Onoda stayed hidden for three decades, believing World War II was still ongoing. This story shows how deeply a person's mindset can shape their entire reality, even against all logic, change, or evidence. You'll explore the psychology behind it, what kept him going, and why this tale has earned him comparisons to The Last Samurai.As we journey through this Hiroo Onoda story, we'll reflect on how our own belief systems can either trap or empower us, and how you can apply these insights to your own life. Whether you're feeling lost, stuck, or just curious about WW2 legends, Japanese history, or personal transformation, this episode will resonate deeply.
📌 If you're struggling with finding a way out of your jungle and need support, I offer 1:1 therapy sessions.
Click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation.
Subscribe to Right Your Own Story for more insights on personal growth, mental well-being, and self-empowerment.
🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too:
📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children.
You can purchase it on Amazon here:
👉 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Ok9cy4
👉 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/8Uij7fQ
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/Xv9oWdZ-P0s
📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children.
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/ChSNIbNh4KI
🔗 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Tt1zIN
🔗 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/cVPux64
📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love.
Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference.
👉 Here is a video link to check it out - https://youtu.be/FRW4HreyQYc
To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below:
👉 Here is the UK Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3QWVljr
👉 Here is the US Amazon link - https://a.co/d/bK6TUIA
To follow me on social media, click on the following links:
🔗 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RightYourOwnStory
🔗 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rightyourownstory/
🔗 My Website - https://rightyourownstory.co.uk/
Catch up on my podcasts on your favourite platforms:
👉 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0eS0k7TLPzE0dNCDwkQl2A
👉 iTunes podcast linkhttps://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/right-your-own-story/id1586701217
👉 Subscribe for more insights on personal development, success strategies, and practical tips for building the life you want.
#rightyourownstory #hirooonada #beliefsystems
The Emotional Mastery Secret of a 1,000-Year-Old King.
What does a Viking king from over a thousand years ago have to teach us about emotional mastery today?
In this episode of Right Your Own Story, and inspired by a recent beach walk I went on, I talk about the powerful and misunderstood story of King Canute (also known as King Cnut, the Viking King of England). You may have heard of the king who tried to stop the tide… but the truth behind that story holds a timeless lesson about control, perspective, and inner strength.
We dive into:
Regardless of your profession, age, background, or simply someone navigating the waves of modern life, this story offers a reflective pause and a fresh compass heading.
🎧 Tune in to discover how a Viking king might just help you keep control, set your emotional sails, and ride life’s tides with more clarity and calm.
📌 If you're struggling with finding a way out of the storm and need support, I offer 1:1 therapy sessions.
Click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation.
Subscribe to Right Your Own Story for more insights on personal growth, mental well-being, and self-empowerment.
🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too:
📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children.
You can purchase it on Amazon here:
👉 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Ok9cy4
👉 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/8Uij7fQ
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/Xv9oWdZ-P0s
📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children.
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/ChSNIbNh4KI
🔗 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Tt1zIN
🔗 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/cVPux64
📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love.
Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference.
👉 Here is a video link to check it out - https://youtu.be/FRW4HreyQYc
To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below:
👉 Here is the UK Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3QWVljr
👉 Here is the US Amazon link - https://a.co/d/bK6TUIA
To follow me on social media, click on the following links:
🔗 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RightYourOwnStory
🔗 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rightyourownstory/
🔗 My Website - https://rightyourownstory.co.uk/
Catch up on my podcasts on your favourite platforms:
👉 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0eS0k7TLPzE0dNCDwkQl2A
👉 iTunes podcast linkhttps://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/right-your-own-story/id1586701217
👉 Subscribe for more insights on personal development, success strategies, and practical tips for building the life you want.
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X5 UNUSUAL CONCEPTS For Boundary Setting That Work.
Think you know everything about setting boundaries? Think again!
In this episode, I share X5 UNUSUAL CONCEPTS For Boundary Setting That Work, helping you create healthy boundaries in relationships, at work, and in everyday life—without guilt or second-guessing.We often hear the usual advice about how to set boundaries, but what if some unexpected strategies actually work better?
In this episode of Right Your Own Story, I cover:✅ The ‘Limited Offer’ Strategy – Stop overcommitting by treating your time like a limited edition product.✅ The ‘Pause Before Yes’ Rule – Avoid impulsive agreements by taking a moment before responding.✅ Do Actions, Not Words – Not all limits need to be verbalised—your actions can set the tone.✅ Reversing the Script – Use boundary violators’ own words to reinforce your limits.✅ The ‘Energy Budget’ – Regularly check where your energy is going and adjust accordingly, plus✅ A Free Guided Meditation on Boundary Setting, just for you. Here is the link for it:https://youtu.be/cFK6Eohs92kWhether you’re setting boundaries at work, improving boundaries in relationships, or learning how to set boundaries with people, these fresh approaches will help you feel more in control of your time, energy, and mental well-being.✨ Which concept stood out to you the most? Let me know in the comments!📌 If you're struggling with boundary setting and need support, I offer 1:1 therapy sessions. Click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation - https://calendly.com/right-your-own-story/30minSubscribe to Right Your Own Story for more insights on personal growth, mental well-being, and self-empowerment.🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too:📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children. You can purchase it on Amazon here:👉 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Ok9cy4👉 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/8Uij7fQ I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/Xv9oWdZ-P0s📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children.I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/ChSNIbNh4KI🔗 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Tt1zIN🔗 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/cVPux64📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love. Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference. 👉 Here is a video link to check it out - https://youtu.be/FRW4HreyQYcTo purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below: 👉 Here is the UK Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3QWVljr👉 Here is the US Amazon link - https://a.co/d/bK6TUIATo follow me on social media, click on the following links: 🔗 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RightYourOwnStory🔗 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rightyourownstory/🔗 My Website - https://rightyourownstory.co.uk/Catch up on my podcasts on your favourite platforms:👉 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0eS0k7TLPzE0dNCDwkQl2A👉 Google podcasthttps://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82YzUwMjU3OC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw?sa=X&ved=0CAMQ4aUDahcKEwiQnvSg49j5AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQAQ&hl=en-GB👉 iTunes podcast linkhttps://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/right-your-own-story/id1586701217👉 Subscribe for more insights on personal development, success strategies, and practical tips for building the life you want.#rightyourownstory #boundarysetting #personalboundaries
Dreams and Nightmares - Why Do We Have Them?
Have you ever woken up from a nightmare, heart racing, and wondered, "Why do I keep having these dreams?" Or maybe you’ve experienced vivid dreams that feel so real, they linger long after you wake up.
In this episode of the Right Your Own Story Podcast, we explore the fascinating world of dreams and nightmares—why we have them, what they mean, and how they can reveal hidden messages from the unconscious mind.
I also dive into vicarious trauma, explaining how witnessing someone else’s suffering can lead to recurring PTSD dreams and nightmares.
🔹 What You’ll Learn in This Podcast:
✔️ Why do we dream? The role of the unconscious mind
✔️ Why do we have nightmares? How your brain processes fear and stress
✔️ Vicarious trauma – why witnessing others’ pain can lead to bad dreams and nightmares
✔️ How your brain waves (Alpha, Beta, Delta, Theta, Gamma) impact dreaming
✔️ The subconscious mind’s tactic to wake you up from a nightmare
✔️ Can therapy help? When nightmares might be a sign to seek support
If you’re struggling with recurring nightmares, PTSD dreams, or unresolved trauma, book a FREE consultation to explore how therapy can help.
📌 Book Your Free 30-Minute Consultation HERE.
Have you ever had a nightmare that felt real? Do you experience repeating dreams? I’d love to hear your thoughts—drop me a message or comment on the episode!
📢 Don’t forget to follow & subscribe for more deep dives into the mind, personal growth, and self-discovery!
🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too:
📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children.
You can purchase it on Amazon here:
👉 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Ok9cy4
👉 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/8Uij7fQ
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/Xv9oWdZ-P0s
📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children.
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/ChSNIbNh4KI
🔗 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Tt1zIN
🔗 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/cVPux64
📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love.
I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference.
👉 Here is a video link to check it out - https://youtu.be/FRW4HreyQYc
To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below:
👉 Here is the UK Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3QWVljr
👉 Here is the US Amazon link - https://a.co/d/bK6TUIA
To follow me on social media, click on the following links:
🔗 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RightYourOwnStory
🔗 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rightyourownstory/
🔗 My Website - https://rightyourownstory.co.uk/
👉 Subscribe for more insights on personal development, success strategies, and practical tips for building the life you want.
Best wishes,
James
#rightyourownstory #dreams #nightmares
I Tried Napoleon Hill's 13 Success Principles.
Ever wondered if Napoleon Hill’s best-selling book, Think and Grow Rich, truly holds the keys to success?
In this podcast episode, I explain how I have used Napoleon Hill's 13 Success Principles to see if they work in real life!
From Desire and Faith to the intriguing concept of Sex Transmutation, I break down each principle with practical insights and personal reflections.
🔹 What You’ll Learn in This Podcast:
✅ The Causes of Success Napoleon Hill uncovered through interviews with Andrew Carnegie and other great minds.
✅ How principles like Autosuggestion, Organised Planning, and the Master Mind shape our success.
✅ The role of the Subconscious Mind, The Brain, and The Sixth Sense in achieving your goals.
✅ Why Specialised Knowledge Think and Grow Rich teaches is a game-changer.
✅ The connection between Personal Development, the Law of Attraction, and real-world success.
📖 Buy Think and Grow RichHERE.
💬 Have you applied any of these principles in your life? Drop a comment below!
📩 Subscribe to Right Your Own Story for more personal growth & success content!
Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this LINKto arrange your free 30-minute consultation.
🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too:
📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children.
You can purchase it on Amazon here:
👉 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Ok9cy4
👉 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/8Uij7fQ
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/Xv9oWdZ-P0s
📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children.
I talk about it in this video - https://youtu.be/ChSNIbNh4KI
🔗 UK Amazon Link - https://amzn.to/3Tt1zIN
🔗 US Amazon Link - https://a.co/d/cVPux64
📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love.
I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference.
👉 Here is a video link to check it out - https://youtu.be/FRW4HreyQYc
To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below:
👉 Here is the UK Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3QWVljr
👉 Here is the US Amazon link - https://a.co/d/bK6TUIA
To follow me on social media, click on the following links:
🔗 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RightYourOwnStory
🔗 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rightyourownstory/
🔗 My Website - https://rightyourownstory.co.uk/
👉 Subscribe for more insights on personal development, success strategies, and practical tips for building the life you want.
Best wishes,
James
#napoleonhill #thinkandgrowrich #rightyourownstory
Burning Letters: The Therapy of Letter Writing and Letting Go
Have you ever struggled to let go of something that’s holding you back? In this video, I explore the powerful ritual of burning letters and how it can help you release the past, heal emotional wounds, and move forward with clarity.
Using a simple yet profound 5-step process, I guide you through the transformative act of writing a goodbye letter, performing a symbolic ceremony, and finally letting go—no strings attached.
This practice can help you with:
✨ Letting go of trauma and limiting beliefs
✨ Releasing toxic relationships or breakups
✨ Manifesting a fresh start using the law of attraction (LOA)
✨ Moving on and leaving the past where it belongs
I’ve included footage of my own ceremony to show you how impactful this can be. From scripting and intention-setting to the release itself, each step is designed to help you heal, grow, and feel lighter.
If you’ve ever wondered how to let go, how to perform a burn letter ritual, or even how to script your intentions for manifestation, this video is for you. Let’s leave behind the weight of the past and make room for the new.
👉 Have you tried this technique? Share your experience in the comments below!
🎥 Watch the full video to learn:
How to do a burning ritual step by step Tips for letting go of attachment and moving on How to manifest anything fast by releasing what no longer serves you
Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who needs to let go and move forward. Let’s 'right' a new story, together.
✨ Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation.
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#rightyourownstory #burningritual #lettinggotechnique
How To Save Money For Christmas Looking for smart ways to have a debt-free Christmas? In this week’s episode of Right Your Own Story, How To Save Money For Christmas, I share a simple, effective budgeting strategy using a metal biscuit tin!
Whether you’re dealing with financial stress, battling consumerism, or navigating the cost of living in 2024, this tip will help you create a Christmas budget for 2025 that works for you. Here’s the plan: deposit money into the tin weekly—start with £1 in week one, £2 in week two, and so on until week 52, and you’ll have £1,378 by next Christmas! I also explore two alternative methods: Add significant amounts when possible (e.g., £10 in week one, £5 in week two). Start high and work backwards (e.g., £52 in week one, £51 in week two).
This method is perfect for building financial literacy, planning a debt-free Christmas, and managing money-saving tips throughout the year.
Whether you’re saving for gifts, decorations, or just peace of mind, these strategies can help you enjoy the holidays without a financial hangover. 🎄 Ready to learn how to save money for Christmas all year? Hit play, and let’s make 2024 a stress-free, cash-positive Christmas! 🎁 ✅ Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe to Right Your Own Story for more money management and budgeting hacks. 👉 Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction 00:28 - £1378 00:58 - The How 01:25 - Starting Off 01:50 - Over £1000 02:07 - Strategy 2 03:07 - Strategy 3 03:40 - Why I Started Doing This 05:12 - Why You Should Subscribe ✨ Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation.
My best wishes,
James
#ChristmasBudget #MoneySavingTips #rightyourownstory
First Therapy Session: Expectations vs. Reality.
In this video, First Therapy Session: Expectations vs. Reality, I dive into therapy 101, helping you understand what to expect at your first therapy session and how to prepare.
Starting therapy can be an emotional experience; your first therapy meeting may bring up strong feelings, but it also provides a non-judgmental space where you can talk openly about anything on your mind. We'll explore common expectations and what actually happens in your first therapy appointment. Whether you're wondering about the process, the therapist's role, or how to handle difficult emotions, this guide covers all you need to know to feel prepared and confident as you begin your therapeutic journey. 👉 Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction 00:36 - Therapy Concerns 1:01 - What I Would Recommend 1:47 - The Beginning Of Your First Therapy Session 2:31 - A Blank Canvas 3:00 - Things You May Need 03:31 - No Judgement 5:39 - The Ripple Effect 6:28 - My Own Counselling Journey 7:48 - Some More Tips ✨ Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation. I also refer to my previous video (The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist). Click HERE to watch that episode.
My best wishes,
James
#rightyourownstory #therapy #startingtherapy
#128 - The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist In The Ultimate Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist, I discuss essential tips on how to find a therapist that truly fits your needs. From asking key questions during your consultation to understanding what to look for when picking the right therapist, this guide covers it all. If you're serious about finding the best therapist for your personal journey, this podcast episode will equip you with the tools to make an informed, confident decision. ✨ Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation. 🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too: 📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children. You can purchase it on Amazon here: 👉 UK Amazon Link 👉 US Amazon Link I talk about it in this video 📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children. I talk about it in this video. 🔗 UK Amazon Link 🔗 US Amazon Link 📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love. Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference. 👉 Here is a video link to check it out. To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below: 👉 Here is the UK Amazon link. 👉 Here is the US Amazon link. To follow me on social media, click on the following links: 🔗 Facebook. 🔗 Instagram. 🔗 My Website.
My Best Wishes,
James
Master The One Percent Rule for Success
In this episode, I dive into what is the one percent rule and how it can transform your path to success. By learning how to be one percent better each day, you’ll discover the slight edge that leads to big, long-term results.
Inspired by concepts from Atomic Habits by James Clear, I’ll discuss practical tips on how to be better and create lasting, positive changes. Whether you’re familiar with James Clear’s Atomic Habits or new to these ideas, this episode will help you harness the power of consistent, incremental improvement. We’ll explore why small, daily actions matter more than big, sporadic efforts, and how the one percent better approach can be applied to every aspect of your life—whether it's your career, health, or personal growth. Don’t miss out on actionable steps to start improving today! 👉 Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 00:34 - Not Achieving Your Goals? 01:10 - The Problem 01:51 - The Solution 02:56 - A Foolish King 05:48 - Compound Interest 07:12 - Ways To Get Your 1% 07:26 - An Accountability Buddy 08:13 - Plan Your 1% in Advance 09:40 - Track Your Results 11:23 - Link Old and New 12:37 - Watch And Learn 14:58 - Make It Enjoyable 16:31 - Add YOUR 1% In The Comments
How To Discover What You Really Want Do you often find yourself unsure of your life's direction? 😕 You're not alone! In this week's episode of 'Right Your Own Story,' I present a potent life coaching exercise that can help you unearth your true desires and establish clear goals. 👉 Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 00:45 - The Technique 01:33 - Some Examples 03:39 - Things To Avoid This exercise can bring a sense of clarity and purpose to your life. 🎯 You see, "I Don't Know What I Want" is a phrase I often hear as a therapist. And this 'not knowing' can cause stress, confusion, anxiety, resentment and a whole lot more. "If I only knew" is another phrase that often crops up. So, how do you discover what you really want? In this video, I will show you an exercise so you will know how. The phrase 'I don't know what I want' will become a thing of the past for you, replaced with a sense of clarity and direction. For this exercise, all you need is a pen and paper. Be aware of its simplicity - It's simplicity is really its genius. The Steps: 1. Make a list of all the things you already know about - The things you don't want. 2. Really empty the tank here, don't miss anything out. That part is crucial. 3. Then, go to your first 'Don't Want' and ask yourself, 'If I don't want this, that means I must want X", and fill out what X is. Some examples: I don't want to work shift - I do want a 9-5 job instead I don't want a long commute to work - I want to work closer to home (how close?) I don't want to feel X - I want to feel Z instead I don't want to weigh X - I want to weigh Y I don't want to live in a city - I want to live in the countryside (where EXACTLY) With your 'Do Wants', be really clear with your answer. For example, 'weighing less' is far too vague. What is the exact weight? By flipping these 'don't wants' into 'do wants,' you'll be able to identify what truly matters to you and create a roadmap for achieving your goals. Summary - In this video, you'll learn: Why it's so hard to know what you want and how this blocks your path to success. A step-by-step guide to identifying your goals using the "don't want" list exercise. And real-life examples of how this exercise can help clarify your desires and unlock your potential. Ready to take control of your life and start going after what you really want? Grab a pen and paper, and let's get started! ✍️ If you think this exercise is helpful, please remember to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss out on more life-coaching tips and exercises. ✨ Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this link to arrange your free 30-minute consultation. 🔗 Here are some other links that may be of interest too: 📚 The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut - A Therapy Book For Children. You can purchase it on Amazon here: 👉 UK Amazon Link 👉 US Amazon Link I talk about it in this video 📚 The 10 Monkeys - A Therapy Book For Children. I talk about it in this video. 🔗 UK Amazon Link 🔗 US Amazon Link 📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love. Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference. 👉 Here is a video link to check it out. To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below: 👉 Here is the UK Amazon link. 👉 Here is the US Amazon link. To follow me on social media, click on the following links: 🔗 Facebook. 🔗 Instagram. 🔗 My Website.
My Best Wishes,
James
Welcome back to another episode of Right Your Own Story!
Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for managing anxiety, stress, bad habits, fears, anger, relationships, insomnia and much more.
By accessing and reprogramming the subconscious mind, it helps alleviate mental health challenges and promotes healthier responses.
One of the most compelling aspects of hypnotherapy is also its effectiveness in treating phobias. In this episode, I delve into this topic with a fascinating case history of a client who had a debilitating phobia of worms.
With just one hypnotherapy session, this phobia was completely cured, even though it had been present for 50+ years!
This success story highlights the rapid and lasting impact hypnotherapy can have on overcoming phobias.
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My best wishes,
James
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Welcome back to another episode of Right Your Own Story!
In today's episode, I discuss a true, heartfelt journey with my latest therapy-style children's book, 'Dodger, The Amazing Greyhound', part of The Emotional Adventure Series.
Join me as I delve into the powerful story of Dodger, a greyhound who overcomes adversity and finds love and security with his new owner, Kirsty.
Episode Highlights:
1. Introduction to 'Dodger, The Amazing Greyhound'.
2. The Importance of Emotional Growth in Children
3. Exploring 'The Emotional Adventure Series'.
4. Special Features of the Book
5. Reflective Question for Our Listeners
6. Check Out The Book
7. Join the Conversation
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Thank you for tuning in! I hope this episode inspires you to help your children navigate their feelings and emotions with confidence and compassion.
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Transform Your Life With 'The Superhero Therapy Technique'.
🔍 Are you ready to unleash your inner hero? As a skilled Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, and Hypnotherapy Supervisor, I'm here to guide you towards empowerment and self-discovery. 💡 Discover how this revolutionary technique can transform your mindset and unlock hidden strengths. When you use this technique, you tap into power within yourself and will learn to navigate life's challenges with confidence and resilience. 🚀 Whether you're seeking clarity, motivation, or a fresh perspective, 'The Superhero Technique' offers a unique approach to self-improvement and personal growth. 🎯 Don't miss out on this opportunity to 'right' your own story and become the hero of your own journey! Hit that play button now and embark on a path towards empowerment and fulfilment. ✨ Do you need some help yourself? If so, click this LINK to arrange your free 30-minute consultation.
How To Say 'NO' Like Socrates
In today's fast-paced world, where societal pressures and expectations often dictate our actions, maintaining integrity and asserting ourselves with confidence can be challenging.
However, by drawing inspiration from the teachings of ancient philosophers like Socrates, we can learn valuable lessons on the art of saying "NO" authentically and reclaiming our power in challenging situations.
The Wisdom of Socrates.
Socrates, the renowned ancient Greek philosopher, is celebrated for his unwavering commitment to truth and integrity, even in the face of adversity.
His refusal to compromise his beliefs, as evidenced by his decision to drink hemlock rather than recant his teachings, serves as a timeless example of moral courage and ethical fortitude.
Asserting Yourself with Confidence.
Assertiveness is a key component of self-esteem and personal empowerment. By learning how to assert ourselves with confidence and clarity, we can effectively communicate our boundaries and preferences to others, thereby safeguarding our integrity and well-being.
Socrates' unyielding stance against societal pressures reminds us of the importance of standing firm in our convictions and refusing to acquiesce to unreasonable demands.
Practical Strategies for Saying "NO".
Saying "NO" authentically requires practice and self-awareness. Here are some practical strategies inspired by Socrates' teachings:
Know Your Values: Before saying "NO" to others, it's essential to clarify your values and priorities. Reflect on what matters most to you and use these principles as a guide when making decisions.
Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries in your personal and professional life to protect your time, energy, and well-being. Communicate these boundaries assertively and respectfully without apologising or making excuses.
Practice Self-Compassion: Saying "NO" may evoke feelings of guilt or anxiety, especially if you're accustomed to prioritising others' needs over your own. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it's okay to prioritise your own well-being.
Use "I" Statements: When expressing your boundaries or declining requests, use "I" statements to assert your perspective without assigning blame or judgment.
For example, "I appreciate your invitation, but I've already committed to other priorities."
Personal Reflection.
As a Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, and Life Coach, I've witnessed firsthand the transformative power of refusing to compromise one's integrity.
In my journey, I've encountered moments when I've been asked to betray my values or sacrifice my authenticity for the sake of conformity.
However, by drawing inspiration from Socrates' example and embracing the principles of assertiveness and self-respect, I've learned to navigate these challenges with grace and integrity.
Embrace Your Power to Say "NO"
In conclusion, embracing the wisdom of Socrates can empower you to assert yourself with integrity and authenticity in all areas of your life.
By practising assertiveness and honouring your values, you can reclaim your power to say "NO" authentically and live with purpose and integrity.
Remember, your voice matters, and you have the power to shape your own destiny.
So, channel your inner Socrates, stand firm in your convictions, and embrace the freedom that comes from living with integrity.
👉 To book the FREE 30-minute Consultation I mention, please click HERE.
My Best Wishes,
James
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How Counselling Helped Theseus Defeat The Minotaur
In the ancient city of Athens, there lived a young hero named Theseus, destined for greatness but unsure of his path.
As he prepared to embark on a perilous journey to defeat the monstrous Minotaur lurking within the labyrinth of Crete, Theseus sought guidance from a wise mentor, the renowned Athenian statesman and philosopher, Solon.
Solon, known for his wisdom and insight, welcomed Theseus into his home and listened intently as the young hero shared his doubts and fears about the daunting task ahead.
With compassion and clarity, Solon offered Theseus sage advice and timeless wisdom to help him navigate the challenges that lay ahead.
Inspired by Solon's words of encouragement, Theseus embarked on his journey with newfound confidence and determination.
For him, something had changed internally.
He now believed in himself!
Armed not only with his sword and shield but also with the wisdom of his mentor, he navigated the twists and turns of the labyrinth with purpose and resolve.
As he confronted the Minotaur in the heart of the maze, Theseus drew upon the lessons imparted to him by Solon, facing the fearsome creature with courage and cunning.
In the end, it was not just brute strength that ensured Theseus's victory but also the wisdom and guidance he received from his mentor.
Returning triumphant to Athens, Theseus honoured Solon as not only a mentor but also a friend and counsellor who had played a pivotal role in his journey to heroism.
And so, the legend of Theseus and the Minotaur became not just a tale of bravery and adventure but also a testament to the transformative power of receiving wise counsel and mentorship.
As we reflect on the story of Theseus and Solon, we are reminded of the importance of seeking guidance and wisdom from those who have walked the path before us.
Through counselling, life coaching, and mentorship, we can navigate the labyrinth of life with confidence and clarity, drawing upon the lessons of the past to forge a brighter future.
Join me as we delve into the timeless wisdom of Greek mythology and uncover the secrets to living a life of purpose, courage, and fulfilment.
My Best Wishes,
James
🔗 Some other links you may find helpful:
📚 'The 10 Monkeys' is my new therapy book for children - reading age 6-10.
Here is a video where I explain more about it.
🔗 UK Amazon Link 🔗 US Amazon Link
📚 'The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut' is another therapy book for children.
You can purchase it on Amazon here:
or watch this video where I talk about it.
To book the FREE 30-minute Consultation, click HERE
📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love. Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference.
👉 Here is a video link to check it out.
To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below: 👉 Here is the UK Amazon link
👉 Here is the US Amazon link
To follow me on social media, click on the following links: 🔗 Facebook
🔗 Instagram
🔗 My Website
The 10 Monkeys - A New Therapy Book For Children.
As an online Counsellor, Hypnotherapist and Life Coach in the UK, helping those with emotional or psychological problems is my day-to-day role.
My latest project, which is very close to my heart, is specifically aimed at helping children with their emotions too, in the form of therapeutic books that contain life lessons and coping strategies.
The series of books follows this theme - There is a character that either has an existing issue or a new issue, and it is impacting them emotionally or psychologically.
By sharing this issue with another, they discover help and support is never too far away, and also possible answers as well.
Within the books are 'therapy-style questions' for the parent/adult caregiver and child to pause and explore the emotions the character may be feeling in that moment. It also encourages the reader to consider possible solutions or answers that would assist the character.
Join me in this video as I introduce my latest therapy book for children, 'The 10 Monkeys'.
This heartwarming story follows Charlie, a young monkey who is afraid of heights. He discloses this to his mother who provides a suggestion - To enlist the help of the ten best climbers in the troop to share their skills with him and help him overcome his fear.
These ten monkeys become mentors for young Charlie on his journey of exploration.
Through engaging storytelling and interactive therapy-style questions, children are encouraged to explore their own emotions and find solutions to their challenges.
I'll also share insights into the therapeutic techniques used in the book and how it can benefit young readers aged 6-10.
The 10 Monkeys is also educational as it contains ten fascinating facts about monkeys at the end of the book.
'The 10 Monkeys' is now available on Amazon, providing a valuable resource for children and families navigating fears and anxieties.
Here are the Amazon links:
🔗 UK Amazon Link
🔗 US Amazon Link
I also provide instructions on how to 'follow' me on Amazon, so you get automatically notified when I release new books within this series.
👉 Time Stamps:
00:00 - Introduction
00:36 - The Idea
01:10 - The Plot
03:07 - Therapy Style Questions
04:16 - How To 'Follow' Me On Amazon
04:46 - Why I Am Doing This
My Best Wishes,
James
🔗 Some other links you may find helpful:
To book the FREE 30-minute Consultation, click HERE
📚 A Therapy Book For Children - The Squirrel That Lost Its Nut.
You can purchase it on Amazon here:
👉 UK Amazon Link
👉 US Amazon Link
or watch this video where I talk about it.
📚 Want to journal your way to success? If so, I have something that you will love.
Brand new, I have created 'The 1-Minute, 365-Day Appreciation Journal', but it is a journal with a difference.
👉 Here is a video link to check it out.
To purchase the journal, click on the relevant link below:
👉 Here is the UK Amazon link
👉 Here is the US Amazon link
To follow me on social media, click on the following links:
🔗 Facebook
🔗 Instagram
🔗 My Website