My guest, Sola Onalaja was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure several years ago and she admits that she did not take the diagnosis seriously which led to both her kidneys failing.
Sola's message is for people to try to live a healthy life style and to address health issues once they are identified to avoid them escalating.
Sola has now been on dialysis for 18 years and continues to hope and pray for the day she finally gets a kidney transplant.
Sola is an inspiration and she is giving back by volunteering to speak to others who are going through the same predicament as she is.
Listen to Sola's story as she raises awareness about kidney failure and the need for more Black and Minority Ethnic organ donors.
If you want to speak to Sola to learn more, please reach out to me in directly or let me know in the comments section.
'International day of the girl child' was on 10.10.2025 and what better way to celebrate it than sitting down with my own baby girl.
Today's episode is all about us - laughter, lessons, love, giggles, real talk and maybe a little reflection as we celebrate what it truly means to raise and be 'a girl child'.
We hope you enjoyed listening to two girls chat celebrate each other!
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Please read below from the NHS donor website as at 5.11.2025:
'A new report published today by NHS Blood and Transplant shows a five year high on the number of patients of Black, Asian and minority ethnic backgrounds receiving an organ transplant.
Latest figures from the Annual Report on Ethnicity Differences in Organ Donation and Transplantation show that in 2023/24, 1,232 patients from ethnic minority backgrounds received lifesaving organ transplants – that’s over 100 more than the year before.
However, almost 80% of organs transplanted into those patients came from white donors, as number of people from Black, Asian and minority ethnic communities donating organs after death dipped by 19% and there was also a decrease of 8% in living organ donors.
The majority of ethnic minority patients in need of a transplant are waiting for a kidney. Given that kidneys are matched by blood group and tissue type, there is a better chance of not only finding a suitable match from a donor of the same ethnicity, but better outcomes for the patient.'
Do you know enough about organ donation? If not, why have you not done the research; is it out of fear or because you do not think you need to?
Are you an organ donor? If not, why not? If so, what informed your decision?
Will you accept an organ from your child or donate your organ to your child or your parent?
These are issues that will affect us or our family or friends so let us normalise having these discussions with no judgement regardless of our respective choices.
Please let me know your thoughts!
I took a short time out, I missed you and I am back!! How is everyone doing, what has been going on in your lives? Comment and let me know!
Many of us have or know someone who has 'japad' from Nigeria to other countries in search of greener pastures.
Many of us may have heard about the the recent incident involving a Nigerian Health Care assistant who was caught on camera maltreating the elderly patient she was caring for.
My guest has worked with the National Health Service for 25 years so who better to discuss with.
I have decided create a segment titled 'Japa Chronicles' because I intend to continue to discuss the issues arising out of 'japaing'.
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Unmarried heterosexual females - You are in a relationship, you fall pregnant, he tells you he does not want the child, you ignore him and go and have the child; do you put his name on the child's birth certificate, give your child his surname and expect him to become actively involved in your child's life (which for some includes paying child maintenance)?
Men - In the above situation, do you think that the child should have the father's name, that the father should be named on the child's birth certificate? Do you think the father should pay child maintenance for the child?
Society - Should the man be expected to play an active role in the child's life?
I am waiting for your comments so that I can decide if I am alone in this whatsapp group!!!
'Therapy' (whether for adults and children) is still not yet fully embraced and valued by many in the Black/African community.
My guest; Omololu Majekodunmi is the founder of 'Triumph Therapeutics' based in Washington, USA which provides paediatric therapy.
Omololu shares his heart-warming story of how he first became interested in working with children and the importance of parents accessing relevant therapy for their children to give them the best chance of living a rich and fulfilled life.
If you are interested in knowing more about services provided by Triumph Therapeutics, check out the website:
https://www.triumphtherapeutics.com/
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Are single mothers viewed and treated differently from single fathers and if so, why?
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Many of us leave the shores of our respective native lands to further our education or in search of greener pastures in the diaspora. When we settle in the diaspora, many of us do not give back to help our brothers and sisters back home.
My guest Dr Aderonke Kujore shares her story from when she left Nigeria to the birth of her orphanage in Nairobi, Kenya and the great work her foundation (Aderonke Foundation) is doing in Nigeria.
We all want a better Nigeria and we can work towards achieving it by doing our little bit.
You can find out more about the amazing work Aderonke Foundation is doing in Nigeria and support by making a donation at - https://aderonkefoundation.org/
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I always believed that being Gen X born and raised in Nigeria before coming to the United Kingdom toughened and equipped me with wisdom and tools to navigate life.
However, my 'Gen X' daughter continues to give me food for thought and I am now unsure which of us is wrapped in cotton wool.
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My guest Adaeze Smolarek (popularly known as Mrs S) and I have known each other since we were 11/12 years old! Weight loss drugs are a controversial topic and Mrs S is brutally honest as she shares her weight loss journey from the beginning to present day. You can follow Mrs S on her You Tube channel 'Being Mrs S' to find out more about her weight loss journey. Adaeze and both enjoyed 'chopping it up' on this episode.
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As we celebrate life, we should also be plan for death which is promised us all!
What is it about cremation that evokes very extreme views? Some people (myself included) want to be cremated when we pass on and there is the other group who are repulsed and mortified at the thought of being cremated.
Have you thought about what how you want to be sent off when you pass on? If so, what are your views on cremation; are you for or against it and what is the reason for your decision?
Dr Nkechi Penberton-Mola (' senior Nkechi as I fondly call her) is a practising psychiatrist in the UK.
In this episode we discuss mental health as a whole, the stigma attached to mental health within the Nigerian community and what we can do to help friends and loved ones going through mental health issues.
I learned so much in this episode and I also enjoyed it very much because there is no dull moment with senior Nkechi.
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Sadly, there seems to a hike in Nigerian marriages in the diaspora breaking down. Jenny, Carol and I explore this issue and exchange our views about what could be the possible reasons.
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In my humble opinion, Lent should be observed 365 days a year. Listen and let me know your thoughts!
When women come together in love to support each other, we are a force to be reckoned with!
For International Women's Day, I decided to celebrate and appreciate a woman who is selfless and does amazing work for Nigerian Women in the United Kingdom.
Tobore Emorhokpor is the founder of Nigerian Women in UK CIC (NWIUK), a UK charity dedicated to bringing together and supporting Nigerian Women who live and work in the UK.
NWIUK is run by volunteers, I am proud member and also sit on the advisory board. If you are a woman living or/and working in the UK, you can join NWIUK's Facebook group and thank me later.
When children are removed from the care of their parents by social services, they are usually placed with foster carers while next steps are being considered.
It is a well-established fact that there is a big shortage of black foster carers in the United Kingdom and as a result black children are very often placed with foster carers not culturally matched with them.
What is stopping more black people from fostering? Do we have all the relevant information we need to consider fostering? What are we scared of? Is fostering rewarding emotionally and financially? The questions go on and on ......
My guest; Nkiruka Onyido has been fostering for several years and in this very informative episode, she shares the highs, lows, rewards and everything we should know about being a foster carer.
Nkiruka's book; 'Open homes, open hearts' is expected to be out in Summer 2025 so be on the look out for more information!!
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Duchess Iphie is a sex, intimacy and relationship coach who I love, love, love catching up with. Duchess always keeps it all the way real and in this Q&A episode, she stays true to form!
I can guarantee you that one or more questions in this episode has affected you or someone you know so join in the fun; listen in, comment, share!
Children are gifts from above placed in our hands to nurture and care.
Parenting is no joke and raising a child with special/ additional needs requires supernatural powers and such parents are 'super heroes' in my opinion.
In this episode, Tunde candidly shares her beautiful story as mother to Ayotunde who has special needs and his brother OJ.
Happiness is indeed a choice!
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The black woman shares an intimate relationship with her hair; it is her crown, a symbol of her femininity and one of the things used to judge her beauty.
So what happens when a black woman loses her hair through no choice of hers but due to a medical condition she has no control over? Does she no longer stop being a black woman or does she stop being beautiful? Absolutely not, she is not her hair!
My brave and beautiful guest Chinazo Anyacho has 'Alopecia' (hair loss) and in this episode we talk about her journey as a black woman now rocking her bald look having lost her hair.
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