Marié Janse van Rensburg het gedink sy verwag één baba – ’n kleinboet of -sus vir haar dogtertjie by die huis. Toe kom die nuus: dis ’n vierling! (En dit, glo dit of nie, sonder enige vrugbaarheidsbehandeling.) Marié sê vandag sy wéét sy is uitgekies om ’n meerling-ma te wees. In hierdie eerlike en inspirerende gesprek deel sy hoe sy deur die jare van min slaap, baie chaos en duisende doeke gekom het – én hoe dit voel om nou, met vyf tieners, terug te kyk op daardie seisoen van pyjamadril, roetines en skedules. Dis ’n gesprek wat meerling-ouers beslis gaan help, maar eintlik vir enige ma wat al op dieselfde tyd geseënd én oorweldig gevoel het. Marié Janse van Rensburg thought she was expecting one baby - a little brother or sister for her daughter at home. Then came the news: it was quadruplets! (And yes — this happened without any fertility treatment.)Marié says she now knows she was chosen to be a mom of multiples. In this honest and inspiring conversation, she shares how she survived the years of little sleep, big chaos, and endless diapers — and what it feels like to look back now, with five teenagers, on those seasons of routines, pyjamas, and pure exhaustion. This episode is a must-listen for parents of multiples, but also for any mom who has ever felt blessed and overwhelmed at the same time. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

In baie gesinne is oupas en oumas ankers. Maar wat maak ons wanneer daardie anker wegval? Hoe verduidelik ’n mens aan jou kind dat iemand wat hulle liefhet nie meer hier is nie? En hóé ondersteun jy jou kind terwyl jy self rou? In hierdie gesprek gesels Daniëlla met kliniese sielkundige Maryna Ferreira oor verlies: spesifiek wanneer ’n oupa of ouma sterf. Ons praat oor rou, kinders se verskillende maniere om dit te verwerk, hoe om eerlik en met deernis te kommunikeer, en hoe om hul herinneringe te koester sonder om oorweldig te voel. In many families, grandparents are anchors. But what do we do when that anchor is gone? How do you explain to your child that someone they love is no longer here? And how do you support your child while you are grieving yourself? In this conversation, Daniëlla speaks with clinical psychologist Maryna Ferreira about loss: specifically when a grandparent passes away. We discuss grief, the different ways children process it, how to communicate honestly and with compassion, and how to honor their memories without feeling overwhelmed. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z -- One attachment • Scanned by Gmail

Sydney Grové was Suid-Afrika se heel eerste vroedmeester – ja, ’n manlike vroedvrou! Hy het ook die land se eerste watergeboortes behartig en was betrokke by meer as 25 000 geboortes. In dié besondere episode deel Sydney sy dekades se kennis met Daniëlla en ons luisteraars. Hy vertel hoe hy as kind reeds geweet het dis sy roeping om by geboorteversorging betrokke te wees – en hoe hy deur die jare gesien het hoe geboortepraktyke, emosionele ondersteuning en die rol van vroedvroue verander het. Maar Sydney is ook bekommerd oor waar Suid-Afrika nou staan. Hy glo dat ons besig is om die hart van geboorte te verloor: dat ma's nie altyd die sorg, ondersteuning en menslikheid ontvang wat hulle verdien nie. Sydney se webblad: www.grovemediconsulting.com Sydney Grové was South Africa’s very first male midwife – yes, a man in midwifery! He also assisted with the country’s first water births and has been involved in more than 25000 deliveries. In this special episode, Sydney shares his decades of experience with Daniëlla and our listeners. He talks about how he knew from a young age that this was his calling, and how he’s seen childbirth practices, emotional support, and the role of midwives evolve over the years. But Sydney is also concerned about where South Africa stands today. He believes we’re losing the heart of childbirth – that mothers aren’t always receiving the care, compassion, and support they truly deserve. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

As jy nie mal is oor kinderpartyjies of om langs jou kind op die mat te sit en speel nie… is jy nie ’n slegte ouer nie! Dit pas dalk net nie by jou sensoriese styl nie. In dié episode gesels Daniëlla met arbeidsterapeut Elrika Beukes oor hoe ons brein inligting verwerk en sy deel praktiese strategieë om jouself (en sodoende jou kind) beter te verstaan. Is jy die boom se blare, die bas of die wortels? Kom vind uit! If you don’t love kids’ birthday parties or sitting on the floor playing with your child… you’re not a bad parent! It might just not fit your sensory style. In this episode, Daniëlla chats with occupational therapist Elrika Beukes about how our brains process information, and she shares practical strategies to help you understand yourself — and, in turn, your child — better. Are you the tree’s leaves, bark, or roots? Come find out! - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Jou kind se peperduur verjaarsdaggeskenke waarmee hulle oor ’n maand nie meer gaan speel nie… kon hulle dalk eendag ’n miljoenêr maak as jy dit net reg belê het. In hierdie gesprek gesels Daniella met Carla Venter van Money with Carla oor wat dit regtig beteken om vir jou kinders se toekoms te belê, en hoekom beleggings nie net vir ryk mense of finansiële kenners is nie. Carla waarsku ook teen scams en verkeerde advies, en herinner ons dat kennis en aksie die sleutels tot finansiële vryheid is. Your child’s expensive birthday gifts that they’ll stop playing with in a month… could have made them a millionaire one day if you had invested that money wisely. In this episode, Daniëlla chats with Carla Venter from Money with Carla about what it really means to invest in your child’s future – and why investing isn’t just for the wealthy or financial experts. Carla also warns against scams and bad advice, reminding us that knowledge and action are the most powerful keys to financial freedom. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Hoe jy geboorte gee… of jy borsvoed of nie… en “sleep training”. Dit is drie van die mees omstrede onderwerpe wat elke nuwe ma moet leer navigeer. Opinies is volop, maar feite is skaars. In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met Melissa Bierman, ’n ervare slaapafrigter van Good Night Baby, oor die uitdagings en realiteite van slaapopleiding vir babas en ouers. Melissa deel praktiese wenke oor ’n gesonde slaapomgewing, roetines en konsekwentheid – en hoe dit kinders én ouers kan help. Ons skram nie weg van die taai temas nie: jy hoor meer oor bed sharing vs. co-sleeping, cry it out, en waarom hierdie onderwerp só ’n tameletjie is. Hierdie gesprek bied ’n gebalanseerde, holistiese blik op slaap en die rol wat dit in gesinswelstand speel. How you give birth… whether you breastfeed or not… and “sleep training.” These are three of the most hotly debated topics every new mom has to navigate. Opinions are everywhere, but facts are harder to find. In this episode, Daniëlla chats with Melissa Bierman, an experienced sleep coach from Good Night Baby, about the challenges and realities of sleep training for babies and parents. Melissa shares practical tips on creating a healthy sleep environment, the role of routines and consistency, and how better sleep supports the whole family. We don’t shy away from the tough conversations: you’ll hear more about bed sharing vs. co-sleeping, the cry-it-out method, and why sleep training stirs up so much debate. This episode offers a balanced, holistic look at sleep and the vital role it plays in family well-being. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Marciel Hopkins-Lourens se “vierde trimester” loop byna ten einde, saam met die viering van hulle seuntjie Halki se eerste drie maande as deel van die gesin. In hierdie episode gesels sy met Daniëlla oor die newborn bubble wat nou agter die rug is, en die nuwe mylpale wat voorlê: vir haar baba, vir haarself as ma, én vir haar loopbaan as TV-aanbieder, model, aktrise en lewensafrigter. Marciel deel hoe sy dit regkry om ’n positiewe benadering tot ouerskap te handhaaf, hoekom gesondheid en fiksheid vir haar so ’n groot rol speel, en hoekom selfrespek en balans tussen werk en gesin ononderhandelbaar is. Ons gesels ook oor die belangrike rol van pa’s, die druk van samelewingsverwagtinge, en hoekom elke ma haar eie pad moet stap – of soos Marciel dit self stel: “Mind your own motherhood.” Marciel Hopkins-Lourens’ “fourth trimester” is drawing to a close as she and her husband celebrate the first three months of baby Halki’s life. In this episode, Marciel chats with Daniëlla about moving out of the newborn bubble and stepping into new milestones — for her son, for herself as a mother, and in her career as a TV presenter, model, actress, and life coach. She shares how she manages to keep a positive approach to motherhood, why health and fitness are so important to her, and why self-respect and balance between work and family are non-negotiable. We also dive into the role of fathers, the pressure of societal expectations, and why every mom needs to follow her own path — or as Marciel puts it: “Mind your own motherhood.” - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Dissipline kan maklik voel soos een van die moeilikste dele van ouerskap. Met soveel ouerskap style daar buite ("gentle!" "permissive!", "authoritative!") is dit nie vreemd dat ouers onseker voel oor watter benadering die “regte” een is nie. In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met arbeidsterapeut Lizanne du Plessis van "Doelgerigte Ouerskap" oor wat dissipline eintlik beteken. Ons verken hoekom dit minder oor straf en meer oor leiding en leer gaan, en hoe ons eie emosionele regulering as ouers ’n reuse-verskil kan maak. Discipline can feel like one of the trickiest parts of parenting. With so many parenting styles out there – gentle, permissive, authoritative – it’s easy to feel unsure about which approach is “right.” In this episode, Daniëlla sits down with parenting expert Lizanne du Plessis to unpack what discipline really means. They explore why it’s less about punishment and more about guiding and teaching our kids, and how our own emotional regulation as parents can make all the difference. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Jou sekslewe verander ná kinders – en dit is heeltemal normaal! September is die bewustheidsmaand van Seksuele Gesondheid en in hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met kenner Karen Bester van Lamelle oor hoe ouerskap en selfs peri-menopouse jou intimiteit en libido kan beïnvloed. Ons praat eerlik oor die dinge wat niemand jou dalk al vertel het oor hormone nie, gee praktiese wenke en deel hoe jy gesonde gesprekke met jou eggenoot en kinders kan hê. ’n Eerlike, opvoedkundige en ondersteunende gesprek wat elke ma (en pa!) moet hoor!

Hoekom is ons land so sleg as dit kom by spaar – en wat beteken dit vir ons gesinne? In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met finansiële raadgewer én pa van drie, Leon-Ben Lamprecht, oor die groot geldgewoontes wat Suid-Afrikaners terughou. Ons praat oor skuld, die druk om “ryk te lyk,” en hoekom dit só belangrik is om vroeg al met ons kinders oor geld te gesels. Leon-Ben deel praktiese wenke vir ouers: hoe om spaar ’n spanpoging in die gesin te maak en hoe jy 'n finansiële rolmodel kan wees. Hoekom is ons land so sleg as dit kom by spaar – en wat beteken dit vir ons gesinne? In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met finansiële raadgewer én pa van drie, Leon-Ben Lamprecht, oor die groot geldgewoontes wat Suid-Afrikaners terughou. Ons praat oor skuld, die druk om “ryk te lyk,” en hoekom dit só belangrik is om vroeg al met ons kinders oor geld te gesels. Leon-Ben deel praktiese wenke vir ouers: hoe om spaar ’n spanpoging in die gesin te maak en hoe jy 'n finansiële rolmodel kan wees.

In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met Wanya Du Preez, wat saam met haar gesin al byna ’n dekade in die VSA woon. Sy deel die uitdagings van aanpassing aan ’n nuwe kultuur, die belang van familie en vriendskappe, en hoe gemeenskap en geloof hulle deur moeilike tye gedra het. Ons praat oor die verskille tussen Suid-Afrika en Amerika – van veiligheid en geleenthede, tot die kos en tradisies wat sy nog altyd mis. Wanya vertel ook hoe haar kinders floreer in hul nuwe omgewing. Hierdie gesprek bou voort op verlede week se episode met Lenique Hutton, wat ná ’n paar jaar oorsee teruggekeer het Suid-Afrika toe. Twee stories, twee perspektiewe... sodat jy kan luister, leer, en dalk jou eie pad beter verstaan. In this episode, Daniëlla speaks with Wanya Du Preez, who has lived in the United States with her family for almost a decade. She shares the challenges of adapting to a new culture, the importance of family and friendships, and how community and faith carried them through difficult times. We talk about the differences between South Africa and America – from safety and opportunities, to the food and traditions she still misses. Wanya also explains how her children are thriving in their new environment, and how the journey has helped their family grow stronger. This conversation follows last week’s episode with Lenique Hutton, who returned to South Africa after living abroad. Two stories, two perspectives... so you can listen, learn, and perhaps see your own path more clearly. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Dink jy daaraan om jou tasse te pak en oorsee te gaan? In hierdie gesprek gesels Daniëlla met Lenique Hutten, wat saam met haar gesin ’n paar jaar in Nederland gewoon het – en toe besluit het om terug te keer na Suid-Afrika. Ons praat oor die uitdagings van emigrasie, die aanpassing aan ’n nuwe kultuur, die impak op kinders se skool- en sosiale lewe, en hoe verlange na familie en ’n gevoel van "behoort" uiteindelik hul besluit beïnvloed het. Lenique deel ook watter lesse hulle as gesin geleer het, en hoe die ervaring hulle sterker gemaak het. * Hierdie episode is deel van ’n tweeluik oor emigrasie – volgende week hoor ons van ’n gesin wat nege jaar gelede na die VSA verhuis het… en stééds daar is. Thinking about packing your bags and moving overseas? In this episode, Daniëlla speaks to Lenique Hutten, who lived in the Netherlands with her family for a few years – and then decided to move back to South Africa. We talk about the challenges of emigrating, adjusting to a new culture, the impact on children’s school and social lives, and how longing for family and a sense of belonging ultimately influenced their decision. Lenique also shares the lessons they learned as a family, and how the experience made them stronger. This episode is part of a two-part series on emigration – next week, we’ll hear from a family who moved to the USA nine years ago… and are still there. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Die Grootste Leuens oor Borsvoeding (Wat ’n Vroedvrou Wil Hê Jy moet Weet) Dit is borsvoedingsweek – en hierdie week se episode lê my besonders na aan die hart. Nie net omdat borsvoeding vir soveel ma’s belangrik én uitdagend is nie, maar ook omdat ons heel eerste gas ooit, Katinka Lategan, weer saamgesels. In haar terugkeer na die mikrofoon deel Katinka, ’n ervare vroedvrou, haar diepgaande kennis oor borsvoeding. Ons gesels oor die fisiologie daarvan, hoe kolostrum werk, en die hormonale en emosionele skommelinge wat ma’s ná geboorte beleef. Maar veral fokus ons op die waninligting wat steeds versprei word: die leuens wat ma’s laat voel hulle doen iets verkeerd, of nie goed genoeg is nie. As jy tans borsvoed, oorweeg om te begin, of dalk steeds wonder hoekom dit nie vir jou uitgewerk het nie... hierdie gesprek is vir jóú. Want wanneer jy iets beter verstaan, kan jy met meer selfvertroue besluite neem vir jou, jou baba en julle unieke situasie. It’s World Breastfeeding Week and this episode is one that’s especially close to my heart. Not just because breastfeeding is such a big and sometimes tough part of motherhood, but also because my very first podcast guest ever, Katinka Lategan, is back behind the mic. Katinka is an experienced midwife and in this episode she shares her deep knowledge of breastfeeding. We talk about how it actually works, what colostrum is and why it matters, and the emotional and hormonal rollercoaster many moms go through after birth. But we also zoom in on the myths that still get shared too often. The kind of misinformation that can make a mom doubt herself or feel like she’s doing it all wrong. If you’re currently breastfeeding, thinking about starting, or still wondering why it didn’t work out for you, this conversation is for you. Because once you really understand how it all works, you can make choices that feel right for you, your baby and your unique situation. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Op 35 is Jean-Marié Stander al deur talle storms: 'n Pad met infertiliteit, IVF, die verlies van haar suster, 'n diagnose van adenomiose en 'n histerektomie. In dié episode gesels Daniëlla met Jean-Marié daaroor, maar ook oor die vreugdes in haar lewe: Om die ma van een kind te wees en hoe draf haar terapie geword het. Dis ’n gesprek oor liggaam en gees, oor aanhou beweeg (letterlik én figuurlik) wanneer jou lewenspad anders verloop as wat jy gedink het. En oor hoekom ons as ma's meer moet praat oor dié dinge wat dikwels verswyg word. At 35, Jean-Marié Stander has already weathered many storms: a journey with infertility, IVF, the loss of her sister, a diagnosis of adenomyosis, and eventually, a hysterectomy. In this episode, Daniëlla talks to Jean-Marié about all of that — but also about the joys in her life: being a mom to one child and how running has become her therapy. It’s a conversation about body and mind, about keeping going (both literally and figuratively) when life doesn’t unfold the way you expected. And about why, as mothers, we need to speak more openly about the things that so often go unspoken.

Om leier van die land se opposisie te wees, was moeilik. Om 'n ma te word, was moeiliker. In dié episode gesels Daniëlla met Helen Zille, wat as ystervrou van Suid-Afrikaanse politiek beskou word. Sy vra Zille (74) egter nie uit oor die RNE, verkiesings of selfs die DA* nie - maar eerder oor haar haar reis as ma, ouma, skoonma, en dogter. Helen Zille vertel ons van haar ervaring met nageboorte-depressie, haar eie ma se depressie, die uitdagings van ouerskap, en hoe sy vandag haar verhouding met haar skoondogter benader. *NS. Zille verklap wél bietjie meer oor haar planne om haarself as burgemeester van Johannesburg verkiesbaar te stel, en die invloed wat haar kleinkinders op daardie besluit het. Being the Leader of the Opposition was difficult. Being a mom was even harder. In this episode, Daniëlla speaks to Helen Zille — often described as the iron lady of South African politics. But this time, Zille (74) doesn’t talk about the GNU, elections, or even the DA* — instead, she reflects on her journey as a mother, grandmother, mother-in-law, and daughter. She opens up about her experience with postnatal depression, her own mother’s mental health struggles, the challenges of parenthood, and how she approaches her relationship with her daughter-in-law today. *P.S. Zille does however let us in on one hot political topic — her plans to possibly run for mayor of Johannesburg, and the surprising influence her grandchildren have had on that decision.

’n Egskeiding beteken nie noodwendig ’n gebroke kind nie. Maar dit kan seermaak – en daarom moet ouers weet hóé om kinders deur hierdie moeilike tyd te help. In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met gaste Mariaan Prins (opvoedkundige sielkundige) en Marli Lerm ( prokureur) oor hoe egskeiding kinders beïnvloed, watter foute ouers dikwels maak, en waarom ’n ouerskapsplan (parenting plan) en professionele ondersteuning noodsaaklik is. A divorce doesn’t necessarily mean a broken child. But it can hurt – and that’s why parents need to know how to support their children through this difficult time. In this episode, Daniëlla speaks with guests Mariaan Prins (educational psychologist) and Marli Lerm (attorney) about how divorce affects children, the common mistakes parents make, and why a parenting plan and professional support are essential. - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Dis die drie siektes wat jou kind nou blykbaar om elke hoek en draai kan aansteek: hand-voet-en-mondsiekte, RSV en varkgriep. In hierdie episode gesels Daniëlla met kinderdokter dr. Marlé van der Merwe oor hoe ouers dié virusse vinnig kan herken, hoe dit versprei, en wanneer jy regtig moet bekommerd wees. Wat jy in dié episode gaan hoor: *Wanneer is griep net griep – en wanneer is dit varkgriep? *Waarom RSV só gevaarlik vir babas kan wees *Is die nuwe RSV-inenting veilig? *Wat jy regtig moet weet oor hand-, voet- en mondsiekte *Waarom antibiotika nie die antwoord op alles is nie *Waarom medisyne nie altyd die eerste opsie moet wees nie These are the three illnesses your child seems to be picking up around every corner lately: hand, foot and mouth disease, RSV, and swine flu. In this episode, Daniëlla chats with GP Dr. Marlé van der Merwe about how parents can quickly recognise these viruses, how they spread, and when it’s time to really worry. What you’ll hear in this episode: *When is the flu just the flu – and when is it swine flu? *Why RSV can be so dangerous for babies *Is the new RSV vaccine safe? *What you really need to know about hand, foot and mouth disease *Why antibiotics aren’t the answer *Why medication isn't always the first solution - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z

Die jare tussen 18 maande en 18 jaar oud vlieg vinniger verby as wat enige ma sou kon droom. Lindie Strydom – geliefde spreker, aktrise en ma van drie– praat in dié episode met Daniëlla oor die lesse wat sy geleer het as ma van een volwassenes en twee skoolverlaters. Lindie deel openhartig wat sy geleer het uit haar eie foute en vreugdes – van teleurstellings in die tienerjare, tot die noodsaaklikheid selfversorging en sorg vir jou huwelik. Sy vertel hoe sy moes leer om haar kinders se unieke persoonlikhede te leer ken, hoekom ‘n gesonde verhouding die grondslag van alles is, en hoe haar geloof haar deur moeilike tye gedra het. * Hierdie episode is deel van die #MoedVirMammas-reeks saam met Afrikaans.com The years between 18 months and 18 years fly by faster than any mom could ever imagine. Lindie Strydom – beloved speaker, actress, and mom of three – talks in this episode with Daniëlla about the lessons she’s learned as a mother of one adult and two school leavers. Lindie shares openly what she’s learned through both her mistakes and joys – from disappointments during the teenage years, to the importance of self-care and nurturing your marriage. She explains how she had to learn to truly get to know her children’s unique personalities, why a healthy relationship is the foundation of everything, and how her faith carried her through tough times. This episode is part of the #MoedVirMammas series in partnership with Afrikaans.com - Intro Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/abbynoise/burst-of-light License code: I430IW70W4DQLJ9Z