In this insightful episode of Mod Club, Keaton and Lucah delve into the nuanced experiences of transguys in relationships. They share their personal stories and insights on how transitioning has impacted their romantic and social connections. The hosts discuss the often overlooked challenges trans men face in the dating world, from navigating past relationships to the complexities of forming new ones with a diverse spectrum of partners. They also offer thoughtful advice on maintaining authenticity and fostering meaningful connections amidst the unique pressures of transman identity. Tune in for an in-depth exploration of love, identity, and resilience in the trans community.
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In this episode of Mod Club, Keaton is joined by Evan, who shares his recent experience of getting a phalloplasty tattoo—a unique procedure enhancing the aesthetic of transgender surgical outcomes. Evan recounts his visit to Shane Wallen in San Diego, chosen for his proximity to family and positive reputation within the transguy community for respectful and knowledgeable service in phalloplasty tattooing. The discussion opens up about the procedure details, the emotional significance of the tattoo in connecting with one’s surgical results, and practical aspects like pain management, cost, and healing process. Evan’s story is not just about getting inked; it’s about the journey towards bodily autonomy and self-recognition, shedding light on a rarely discussed but deeply personal aspect of transgender healthcare and recovery. Join us to explore how medical tattoos can transform more than just skin, they can redefine a person's connection to their body.
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In this episode of Mod Club, Lucah and Keaton delve into the intricate feelings surrounding past and future relationships through the lens of transguy experiences. They discuss the emotional complexities transguys face when contemplating the gender and orientation of their partner's past and future relationships.
With a blend of personal anecdotes and broader insights, the conversation explores themes of feeling like a stepping stone, the fear of being an experiment, and the struggle with not feeling chosen. The hosts also touch on the dynamics within the trans community, addressing the mixed feelings about exes dating other trans men, which can sometimes feel too close to home.
This episode provides a candid look at the unique challenges and perspectives that shape trans relationships, offering both solace and understanding to anyone navigating similar paths.
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In this compelling episode, Keaton and Lucah navigate the nuanced terrain of grace in relationships and its surprising scarcity in today's society. They ponder the role of grace against the backdrop of their transitions, revealing how it unearthed unexpected social anxieties and questioning whether the tendency to see potential in others stems from trauma. As the conversation meanders through the impacts of social media gaslighting to the challenges of mismatched partnership dynamics, they explore when grace is sufficient to bridge differences and when it's simply not enough. This episode is a rich tapestry of personal insights, touching on empathy, forgiveness, and the complex dance between independence and interdependence, all through the lens of their experiences as trans men.
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Keaton and Lucah engage in a frank and wide-ranging discussion on porn, its complexities, and personal experiences with it, especially from a trans perspective. They explore how pornography's accessibility has influenced perceptions and behaviors, touching upon the nuances of porn consumption pre- and post-transition. Delving into the NoFap movement, they critically assess its resurgence and the one-size-fits-all message propagated by influencers, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of sexuality and masturbation. Highlighting the importance of exploring one's desires and boundaries, they share insights into how porn can serve as a tool for self-discovery and understanding one's sexual identity. The conversation also covers topics like the impact of family attitudes towards sex, the exploration of kink, and the balance between personal pleasure and partner intimacy. Ending with an invitation to continue the conversation on ModClub, this episode offers a thoughtful examination of the role of porn in our lives, emphasizing the need for individualized approaches to sexuality and pleasure.
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Keaton and Lucah tackle the tough terrain of dating red flags in this episode of Mod Club, zeroing in on relationship challenges unique to trans men. From navigating self-worth issues to dissecting the impact of complicated family dynamics on partnerships, they delve into personal experiences and broader insights. The duo debates the significance of compatibility versus love, underscoring the journey towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in for a candid exploration of building connections that truly enrich, rather than deplete, your life.
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A quickie episode to re-introduce ourselves, the pod, what you can expect from the show and how we've changed up the Mod Club at ClubFTM.com!
I'm going to post a follow-up to this soon because this ended up being quite the journey! But here I am all chipper and young, only 2 days after this 'easy' little surgery. Don't get me wrong, compared to other lower surgeries, this probably is the easiest of them all and probably by a long shot, but at the same time, it wasn't quite the cakewalk I expected.
**Note: I say in here that the graft was a split-thickness and I WAS told that, but I was subsequently told it was full-thickness and I believe it actually is full-thickness.
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In this episode, Lucah talks about how much he doesn't want phallo and I talk about why I'm getting phalloplasty! It's pretty casual as neither of us is trying to convince the other and I didn't go as deep as I could have into my reasons. Perhaps I will in another episode. We also move in and out of marketing shop talk, as we are sometimes prone to do -- don't hate us for that, we're just having a good time 😬
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I was very stealth before launching Mod Club... doing all of this was one thing, but I really never thought I'd be giving hospital BM techniques on YouTube... 😬 Questioning my life choices right now, haha... Overall, just tossing out my surgery healing dramas and points of interest for anyone it can help!
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I LOVE YOU ALL ENOUGH TO POST A VID OF ME LOOKING ROUGH AS HELL just so you can get the authentic 3-day post-op review! I'm a little vain... I like to look good... this is not easssssy for me to do, but here yas go -- xoxo. Also, I know the audio on this isn't great, so apologies for that -- just using my Mac Book Air.
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If you're having trouble deciding whether or not phalloplasty is for you, watch this video, it might help give critical context to your thoughts and doubts. Throwing it out there that it's okay to feel a lot of anxiety and stress leading up to your bottom surgery. It's okay if that stress blocks you from feeling the excitement that made you book it in the first place. Many post-op guys have confirmed these experiences leading up to phallo and that despite hard recoveries, the excitement and connection they have with their cocks return.
Comment below and tell me how your pre-op anxiety is going or how it did go if you're post-op! The life coach who helped me with this critical question is named Kara Barr. She specializes in LGBTQ life coaching, especially for those who have evangelical parents and want to work on those relationships. You can find her here: https://www.karabarrcoaching.com/
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Read below for the exact, sticky question sent in:
"I have come across a lot of queer women and nonbinary people whose sexual orientation is "everyone but cis men" who really want to date/fuck trans guys. On principle, I think there's nothing wrong with excluding cis men from your dating pool...... but I'm starting to see this "no cis men" thing as a potential red flag. (Some of these people also identify as lesbians, but are attracted to trans men anyway, which is... questionable.)
It seems like these people want everyone to know that they're dating a trans guy, to the point of disclosing that you're trans whenever they talk about you. Maybe it's to validate their queer identity by making it clear to others that they're not with a cis man?
I dated a woman who told her whole family that I was trans in the same conversation that she told them she had a boyfriend (she had previously been out to her family as a lesbian). We hadn't properly sussed out boundaries of how and when I was comfortable with her outing me, but the aftermath of that situation left me uncomfortable. So now I'm explicit from the first date with anyone that I'd like them to ask me before telling other people that I'm trans.
I prefer being with bi women than straight women, and I do say on my dating profiles that I'm a trans, so maybe I'm in the wrong for feeling so touchy about this. I also go on apps where there are more queer women (Feeld, Lex, Tinder with my settings as w4w), so I guess I sort of walk into these situations willingly..."
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If you're having trouble deciding whether or not phalloplasty is for you, listen to this podcast, it might help give critical context to your thoughts and doubts. Throwing it out there that it's okay to feel a lot of anxiety and stress leading up to your bottom surgery. It's okay if that stress blocks you from feeling the excitement that made you book it in the first place. Many post-op guys have confirmed these experiences leading up to phallo and that despite hard recoveries, the excitement and connection they have with their cocks returns, post-op.
The life coach who helped me in this critical question is named Kara Barr. She specializes in LGBTQ life coaching, especially for those who have evangelical parents and want to work on those relationships. You can find her here: https://www.karabarrcoaching.com/
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Who's more stoned at the start of this video, me or Lucah? 😂 Seriously tho... we all have limiting beliefs just as humans and then we have more based on layers of our identities that have built up over time. For us, many of these might be trans-specific. In this episode Lucah and I run down several common limiting beliefs to do with being trans and weigh in.
We have to notice our thoughts and constantly question and challenge those thoughts. Our thoughts are not true just because they are our thoughts! We get to choose what we think! And, our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings create our actions and our actions create our results! So if you don't like the results you have in areas of your life, start with checking your thoughts and your limiting beliefs and change those thoughts!
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We had a great time hanging with Ashton on this episode and learning about his dating experiences and how he's approaching being single, working on his career and timing phalloplasty. We get into limiting beliefs of being trans, disclosure, stealthiness and confidence.
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Dr. Chen RETURNS to discuss donor scar healing and REMOVAL, all things sensation, burial and orgasm, scrotoplasty, erection devices, deciding between RFF and ALT, glansplasty and recovery stages! Dr. Chen is so fantastic at describing these issues and concerns clearly and succinctly, he's a joy to talk with and learn from. I've learned so much in all of my conversations with him and I know you will too.
The purpose of these videos is to help your future consults with Dr. Chen focus on the specifics of YOU as a potential patient, rather than spending valuable consultation time learning the fundamentals of the procedures.
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Dr. Mang Chen sits down with Keaton Kash to discuss all too commonly asked questions around his FTM bottom surgery approach and techniques. While some of what we cover is fairly foundational, I DEFINITELY learned a few things in this interview, so I have no doubts that you will as well, even if you're quite seasoned on the topic!
The purpose of these interviews is to help your future consults with Dr. Chen focus on the specifics of YOU as a potential patient, rather than spending valuable consultation time learning the fundamentals of the procedures. Plus, we all know that information can get misconstrued as it travels through word-of-mouth online. Therefore, I'm super stoked that Dr. Chen was kind enough to spend some time with me so I can bring you super correct info, straight from the source.
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In this episode Lucah and I rant about going bald after transition... the emotional and psychological toll it takes and how to resurface from that. We also discuss my experience with micropigmentation and our shaving methods.
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