Ever caught yourself saying "I'm fine" when you're anything but? This habit might be sabotaging your relationship and your health more than you realize. From childhood, men learn that strength means silence. We're taught to "toughen up" and "shake it off," creating a pattern where emotional suppression becomes our default setting. Through my own journey and my work coaching men in relationships, I've witnessed the profound transformation that happens when we break the "I'm fine" ...

Ever found yourself choosing between watching the game and spending quality time with your partner? You're not alone. In this episode, I explore how sports obsession can impact relationships and show the delicate balance between the passion of sports and relationship. I tell the story of Keith and Nicole, and how Keith's obsession with sports strained their relationship to the breaking point. Keith's journey shows something many men experience but few discuss openly – how sports can se...

Ever wondered how your pets might be strengthening your relationship? In this episode, I share my personal journey with our cats Lily and Kiki. With what began as simply "getting pets" evolved into creating new opportunities for connection, shared joy, and deeper intimacy in my marriage. Through the story of empty nesters "George and Amal," I share how a dog brought renewed purpose and connection to their marriage after navigating a major transition in their lives. I explore the s...

The wounds we carry from our past don't just disappear when we enter relationships—they shape how we love, communicate, and show up for our partners. What makes a healed man different from a broken one isn't that he is without wounds, but how he responds to them. In this episode, I explore how unresolved trauma creates patterns that repeat themselves in our closest connections and what you can do to be a healed man in your relationship. Check out The Healed Man's Journey: How Healing Yo...

Have you ever thrown yourself into work, telling yourself you're being a good provider, while secretly avoiding the messy, vulnerable parts of your relationship? You're not alone. This Labor Day episode explores the uncomfortable truth many men face but rarely talk about: the affair with work. I share my own experience where I once used work to get what I wasn't finding at home. My ex-wife called it exactly what it was: an affair with my business. Through the story of Desi and Lucy, I share ...

The shadow of our past often follows us into new relationships. Whether your partner brings children from another relationship, financial struggles, or emotional wounds into your life, being willing to say "I know your story, and I choose you anyway" makes all the difference. In this episode, I talk about how accepting your partner's history isn't about erasing what happened, but about moving forward together without letting the past define your future. I share the story of James and Ba...

Family tensions can negatively impact even the strongest relationships. When your partner's family disapproves, judges, or disrespects you, the strain affects not just your interactions with them, but the foundation of your relationship itself. I this episode I share the story of Jerry and Ann, a couple whose relationship was threatened when his conservative, religious family discovered that she put herself through law school as a stripper. You'll hear the their transformational story and ho...

Have you ever found yourself angry and losing your temper with your partner, only to regret it a few minutes later? Or maybe you're the type who stuffs your anger until you can't take it anymore? You're not alone, and there's a better way. Anger is not the problem. It's how we respond to makes the difference. Anger is a powerful signal that tells us that something really matters to us—but how we handle that signal can make or break our relationship. In this episode, I share Howard's st...

What happens when a clinical psychologist with a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu black belt tackles the subject of childhood trauma? You get powerful, practical insights that bridge mind and body healing approaches. In this bonus episode, you'll hear my conversation with Dr. Ernest Ellender. He shares how he draws from both his professional expertise and personal journey to offer a refreshing perspective on breaking free from generational trauma patterns. His innovative approach of combining traum...

Throughout my coaching work with men in relationships, I've noticed a recurring pattern: the belief that being a good partner means always being available. I share Jason's story, where he abandoned his personal needs to be there for his wife only to see it backfire. The truth is healthy relationships thrive on a balance of togetherness and separateness. Research backs this up. Find out what you can do to claim your alone time for the benefit of your relationship. Check out the Your Spac...

Many men have been conditioned to believe that putting themselves last is what means to being a good partner. This type of conditioning could be sabotaging your connection and happiness. The truth is, (and research confirms this) that your personal well-being directly influences your relationship satisfaction. When you're exhausted, irritable, or disconnected from yourself, it's nearly impossible to show up fully for your partner. Self-care isn't selfish—it's the foundation that keeps love a...

Are you the guy who's always been called "nice" or "great" but somehow your relationships don't work out? Feeling frustrated from always giving, sacrificing, and keeping the peace only to see things fall apart. It isn't your fault - and you're definitely not alone. The nice guy syndrome isn't about being too kind. It's about being inauthentically nice because of fear, shame, and the belief that love must be earned through approval. Many men develop these tendencies in childhood as surv...

The secrets we keep in our relationships (especially with us men) seem like a way to keep peace but they can have the opposite effect. In reality, secrets usually protect our own egos, not our loved ones. The psychology behind why men keep secrets has a lot to do with our conditioning. In this episode, I draw on my own personal experience and years of coaching men through relationship challenges. I've witnessed how even well-intentioned secrets can create invisible barriers between part...

In this episode, you'll hear my conversation with Dr. Matthew Lederman. With over 20 years in medicine, Matthew shares his journey from traditional physician to connection-centered health innovator after discovering how addressing his own emotional disconnection resolved persistent health issues. He shares how our nervous systems influence every aspect of our health. Whether you're struggling with health issues, relationship challenges, or simply feeling disconnected, this episode offe...

"Love means never having to say you're sorry" might be one of the most damaging relationship BS ever existeded. Evidence shows that sincere apologies are fundamental to building trust, reducing resentment, and creating emotional safety in our closest relationships. In this episode, I explore the psychology behind effective apologies, breaking down the six key components researchers have identified. I share Nelson and Sheila's story—find out how their relationship transformed after one ...

Have you ever been blamed for not knowing what your partner wanted—before they even told you? That is "the expectation trap." In this episode, I share the story of Rita and Tom, and how the belief that "if he really loved me, he would just know" creates a disconnect between partners who genuinely care for each other. Neither was wrong—they were just caught in the trap of unspoken expectations. For men feeling constantly criticized despite your best efforts, this episode offers a path to love....

Have you ever tried manifestation techniques without seeing results? The missing piece might not be what you're adding, but what you need to remove first. In this BONUS episode, you'll hear my conversation with Drive Patel as he shares his journey from childhood trauma and multiple addictions to becoming a manifestation coach. He reveals a powerful truth: manifestation isn't just about positive thinking—it's about clearing the roadblocks first. He teaches us that it's our birthright to...

What if the ancient wisdom of martial arts could transform your relationship? After 30 years of practicing Tai Chi and over 20 years teaching it, I've discovered parallels between what I learned about practicing Tai Chi and being in relationship. It was the start of my reconditioning as a man and what it means to be in relationship. In this episode, I share the parable of Wei (the student) and Master Still Waters, and explore how pushing and creating tension invites resistance, while yieldin...

Ever wonder why you keep falling into the same relationship patterns? The answer could be in your relationship with your father. The emotional legacy left by our fathers shapes how we love as adults in ways most men never realize. Whether your father was physically absent, emotionally unavailable, overly critical, or placed on a pedestal, these experiences impact how you love in your adult relationship in how you handle conflict, express your emotions, and recognize your own sense of worth wh...

Remember the laughs that came so easily between you and your partner? The joy that made you feel alive, connected, and reminded you why you chose each other in the first place? If those moments have become rare, you're not alone. In this episode, I share Tom & Angel's story, and how their everyday stress and responsibilities gradually took its toll on their connection until they found themselves in a rut. Finding fun again changed everything. This isn't just a feel-good story. Scie...