In this deeply personal episode, I open up about what went wrong in my marriage. I share the raw truth of losing my marriage, what I learned on my healing journey, and reclaiming my identity.
If you’ve ever felt lost, shattered, or unsure of who you are after heartbreak, this conversation is for you. 💛✨
The "S" words that feed abuse: Silence, Shame, Secrets, Systems, Spiritual Forces
Chapters
00:00 Understanding Generational Trauma
02:06 The Silence of Abuse
07:57 Family Dynamics and Love
16:07 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse
16:19 Breaking the Silence
16:24 Spiritual Forces and Abuse
17:31 Community Dynamics and Abuse
18:04 The Role of Silence and Secrets
20:43 Breaking Generational Patterns
21:39 Empowerment and Healing
Sound Bites
"shame propagates the silence."
"Three generations in one body sharing the same traumatic environment." In this episode, through a conversation with her own mother, Dr. Shelley Ann Murray explores how trauma is transferred from one generation to the next through epigenetic changes in the DNA.
Takeaways We inherit not just trauma but also strength and resilience. Exploring family history can reveal the roots of our trauma. Trauma can be inherited through our DNA. Epigenetics plays a crucial role in how trauma affects generations. Understanding our parents' experiences can help us heal. My mother's story is a testament to breaking the cycle of trauma. Healing is possible even without all the answers. Generational trauma can manifest in various dysfunctional patterns. Acceptance of our family's brokenness is part of the healing process. The journey of healing starts with self-awareness and understanding.
Sound Bites
"Mommy, you're the real MVP." "I began exploring my family history." "Epigenetic markers- a highlighter." Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Generational Trauma
07:15 The Role of Epigenetic Changes in Trauma
11:11 My Mother's Story: A Journey of Pain
20:18 The Cycle of Trauma and Healing
23:51 The Path to Healing and Understanding
29:17 Introduction to Healing Journeys
29:26 Introduction to Healing and Growth
29:27 The Importance of Community in Healing
What if the key to "marriage wellness" and "divorce prevention" was hidden in the power of a healing journey? In I Vow to Heal, I share raw, real stories from my personal experience of navigating a painful divorce and my relentless hunger for emotional healing. This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a guide packed with practical advice, heartfelt storytelling, and transformative tips for anyone who’s dating, engaged, married, or even divorced.
If you’re ready to break generational cycles, deepen your connections, and cultivate healthier relationships, this is the podcast for you. Tune in and find out why "I Vow to Heal"— should be a promise you make to your life long partner.
Summary
In this episode of 'I Vow to Heal', Dr. Shelley Ann Murray attempts to answer the question of "how did I get here? She shares her personal journey through emotional trauma, the impact of generational trauma, and its impact on staying in a toxic marriage that eventually led to divorce.
Takeaways
1. Healing is a journey that requires self-discovery. 2. Emotional trauma can have lasting effects on relationships. 3. Generational trauma can influence current behaviors and beliefs. 4. It's important to address unhealed trauma before marriage. 5. Knowledge is key to breaking the cycle of trauma. 6. Seeking help is essential for personal and relational health.
7.. The pandemic has highlighted the importance of mental health. 8. Oxytocin plays a significant role in romantic attachment. 9. Understanding family history can guide emotional healing.
10. Commitment to healing can strengthen relationships. Sound Bites
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: A Journey Begins
03:34 The Impact of Divorce on Identity
08:25 A Hunger for Healing: The Beginning of the Journey
13:18 Understanding Equally Yoked Relationships
19:33 The Importance of Addressing Emotional Trauma
22:55 The Role of Hormones in Relationships
25:27 Uncovering Generational Trauma
28:20 Breaking the Cycle of Trauma