Send us a textOk we’ll ask it: can’t we figure out a way to collectively make this time of year less stressful?! The holidays come with a lot of very heavy baggage, mostly revolving around navigating other people’s feelings. And if there’s one thing moms are great at, it’s putting the needs of others first! Let’s explore that, shall we?This week, Erin and Ruby are chatting about how to manage these grand holiday expectations without sacrificing every single part of yourself. Loving ...

Send us a textPicture this: you grew up in a home that didn’t shame sexuality. You became an adult feeling confident in your sexuality and valued that in your partner.Now, you’re a parent. Your house feels like a nest of chaos + love, largely devoted to all your kids’ things because they’ve taken over (what feels like) every square inch of your space. Even your bedroom. So where do you and your partner fit into the mix?On this week’s episode of I Love My Baby, and…Ruby and Erin have a *ahem* ...

Send us a textThe conversations we have around here - in the therapy room, with our friends, or in our DMs - often end with “ok but how do I say this to my partner?” So I Love My Baby, and…is going to look a little different this week!We asked Ruby’s husband, Jon, to join her and answer some of these musings from a dad’s perspective. This week, Jon is answering YOUR DMs about the difficulties of parenting alongside your partner. Loving the show? We'd love your feedback! If you would...

Send us a textBody image obsession certainly doesn’t start in adulthood. But the liberties people take when they’re around someone who is pregnant (and, let’s be honest, after) to comment on, touch, or ask weird questions about their bodies is taken to a whooooolllllleeeee other level. In this week’s episode, Ruby and Erin dive into the commentary surrounding pregnancy and body image - who it comes from, how it’s become a societally acceptable thing to do, and steps you can take to ensur...

Send us a textGrowing your family is exciting! A wild ride! A developmental milestone! A….competition…? For a lot of families, this is absolutely the case. Whether it’s with extended family or your immediate family, the decision and timeline of growing your own family can come with a whole lotta baggage. This week, Erin and Ruby chat about the range of emotion felt when it comes to navigating the opinions + mind games of your inner circle. Loving the show? We'd love your feedback! I...

Send us a textIntrusive thoughts after having a baby are so common…and can be so awful. They play a role in the postpartum experience for you and can be distressing for the people who love you. Is there anything to do about them? Yes!In this week’s episode of I Love My Baby, and…Erin and Ruby chat about the ways in which intrusive thoughts can completely change the postpartum experience, and how normalizing and forgiving yourself for having them is an important first step in minimizing t...

Send us a textDo you ever feel like you’re comfortable in your role as a mom, but then those little intrusive thoughts come in and tell you that other moms are doing it better? And because you’re tired, you start to believe those thoughts? Same.We’re going to be really intentional with those quotes here, you guys. Because early parenthood is full of a lot of feelings and thoughts of “failure.” But this is a perception that we made up. And we gotta talk about that. Maybe it feels like you’re: ...

Send us a textWelcome back, friends!! We took the summer off to drive around to 178 different camps, travel, and plan some awesome episodes. We’re SO happy to be back. In this episode, Erin and Ruby continue to explore the concept of self-care as it relates to life after baby, and life in your relationship with your partner. We know it’s important to take care of ourselves - at ANY point in our lives, let alone after we’ve had a baby. But finding the routine, finding the meaning, and mak...

Send us a textWhether it’s something you’ve wanted your whole life or something that sorta just happened, the shift to motherhood and all that it entails can catch you by surprise. Suddenly, your life feels like it revolves around feeding, sleeping, enrichment activities, mom groups…the list goes on. So what happens to all of the things that made you YOU before becoming a mom? Can you find a way to prioritizethem without feeling guilt for doing so?We are so excited to be joined by Robin Hilma...

Send us a textAfter having a baby, people generally (not always) fall into one of 2 categories: the “I cannot WAIT to get back to work!” category and the “I no longer give a f*&^% about my job!” category. And it’s not uncommon to think you’re going to be in one of those categories and then change course after having your baby!This week, Ruby and Erin are talking about the ways in which motherhood influences career decisions, navigating the shift and accompanying fluctuating emotions, and ...

Send us a textLife changes instantly when you have a baby - the routines you know, the relationships you have, the sex you love. Wait…what?!? How can that be?? If you’re one of the millions of women whose relationship with sex changed after having a baby, this episode is for YOU!From the social pressure to “bounce back,” to the way our culture doesn’t really encourage talking about sex and sexuality, there is not guidebook on how to navigate postpartum intimacy. But in this week’s e...

Send us a textPostpartum partnership problems (say that 10 times fast): we know them, we hate them, we don’t know what to do about them. Your connection to your partner and the other important people in your world can suffer after having a baby, and while it’s totally common and normal, that doesn’t make it any less distressing. On this week’s episode, Erin and Ruby tackle an unconventional (but very prevalent) theme for postpartum moms, as well as the age-old “I thought this would be 50...

Send us a textListen. The mother-in-law (MIL) drama has become this funny, stereotypically negative relationship according to pop culture. But it’s the reality for a LOT of people; it’s a deeply complex relationship! Boundaries are so necessary and can feel SO hard to enforce.This week, Erin and Ruby break down various components of the MIL relationship, validate the crap out of your feelings around it, and talk about some tangible ways you can improve the situation for yourself.Loving ...

Send us a textMom Brain: sometimes it means you’re unable to string together your thoughts, and other times it means you’re stringing together 900 thoughts at 2 o’clock in the morning!In this week’s episode, Erin and Ruby are chatting about Instagram parenting courses (as discussed in this Glamour article) and how to determine what’s right for YOU. And the most important question we ask is: is this course something that’s right for you or have you been influenced?---- Our Mom Brain Musin...

Send us a textThe concept of the default parent is loaded with emotion - for good reason! Parenthood *is* loaded with emotion. There’s generally an association with this term and being the parent who “does it all.” But is there truly a one-size-fits-all definition to the term “default parent?” (Hint: there isn’t! We add our own meaning to things like this!) In the first installment of this 2-part episode, Erin and Ruby explore what it means to be the default parent, the societal expecta...

Send us a textOne of the most common things we hear both in our DMs and in the therapy room is that the pressure to “bounce back” to who you were before having feels like it’s hitting us from virtually every single corner of our lives. So we thought now might be a great time to re-visit this oldie-but-goodie episode from the vault. In this aptly titled episode, we dive into the pressures we feel, internally and externally, to achieve physical perfection, stay on top of all of our important re...

Send us a textHave you ever paid close attention to the ways people respond to something you share that is pregnancy or motherhood-related? If not, after listening to this episode, you’re gonna. Because when you’re telling someone about the anxiety you have while your newborn is sleeping, it’s important to note that upwards of 0 people have been helped by hearing something to the effect of “just wait til they’re crawling!!!!” This is something most, if not all, new moms can relate to. We...

Send us a textWe hear a lot about the “invisible load” of motherhood, and that’s almost always applied to stay-at-home moms. And what’s truly mind-blowing is that literally none of the work done by SAHMs is invisible!!! It’s constant! It’s ever-changing! You’re doing all the things everyone relies on! YOU. DON’T. STOP. Whether you knew all along that you wanted to be a SAHM, or it was something that happened somewhere along the way, you’re allowed to struggle with parts of this. The nuan...

Send us a text“Family planning” is kind of a weird term. It encompasses so many different aspects of, well, planning for your family. But is there really a clear definition? What if you’re the world’s worst planner?! What then?!?!For some, they have a very clear idea of what family planning looks like. For others, they thought they had a clear idea, but something happens along their journey in parenthood that totally changes things for them. There’s no right or wrong way to approach it, but i...

Send us a textDid you find out the gender of your baby? Did you keep it a secret or tell everyone? Did you start planning accordingly? Ok, now we have a harder question for you: did you experience disappointment after you found out?This is a common experience among tons of new moms (and their partners), and just like everything else related to the postpartum experience, it’s layered, and requires a deep dive into the roots of these feelings. In this week’s episode, Ruby and Erin are...