That quiet restlessness , the inner voice that whispers “I should be further along by now” , can sneak up even when things are going well. In this episode, Paula Fehrmann shares a personal story about ambition, reflection, and the small daily moments that help you turn dissatisfaction into gratitude.
After a conversation with her dad about drive and presence, Paula got reminded that the feeling of “not enough” isn’t a flaw it’s a signal. A call to pause, breathe, and notice how far you’ve already come.
We explore:🌿 Why inner dissatisfaction is part of growth (not a problem to fix)🌿 How to reframe restlessness into awareness and direction🌿 Daily check-ins and micro-practices for arriving in the present moment🌿 How Human Design and astrology can help you understand your relationship to drive and contentment🌿 Practical tools to celebrate what’s working, even as you keep evolving
This episode is your gentle reminder: you’re allowed to want more and to feel grateful for what is.
Connect with Paula:Instagram → @paula_fehrmannWebsite → https://www.paulafehrmann.comOn-the-Go Wellness Shop → https://www.paulafehrmann.com/shop-on-the-go-wellness
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In this episode of Accept & Reflect, Lea and Paula dive deep into the difference between self-trust and confidence, and how to use astrology and Human Design as tools for empowerment, not dependency.
We explore:
The difference between self-trust and confidence (and why it matters)
When astrology and Human Design can truly empower you
When not to use these systems, especially if you’re coming from fear, lack, or overthinking
What to do instead: how to identify, accept, and nurture the parts of you that feel unsafe
How to work with astrocartography and choose places that actually support your energy
This episode is your reminder that the chart is a map, not a manual. Use it to remember your strength, not question your worth.
About Accept & Reflect
Each month, Lea and Paula sit down to accept & reflect on personal lessons through the lens of Human Design and Astrology. Their intention is to offer grounded insights and real tools, so you feel empowered to release what’s stuck, live lighter, and love deeper.
Connect with us on Instagram:Lea → @leacristinPaula → @paula_fehrmann
Websites:
https://www.paulafehrmann.com
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What if transforming your inner voice didn’t take hours of journaling or deep shadow work, but less than one minute a day?
In this episode, Paula Fehrmann and Pia Kempe share a simple, powerful 30-day practice that helps you shift from self-judgment to self-love with less effort and more compassion.
We talk about:
How a one-minute-a-day tool can rewire your mindset over 30 days
Why small, consistent moments of self-kindness change everything
How to bring more softness, humour, and presence into your growth journey
Whether you’re in a season of self-improvement or simply craving more ease, this conversation will help you reconnect to your own tenderness and realise that self-love doesn’t have to be a project.
Connect with us:
✨ Paula FehrmannInstagram → @paula_fehrmannWebsite → https://www.paulafehrmann.comOn-the-Go Wellness Shop → https://www.paulafehrmann.com/shop-on-the-go-wellness
✨ Pia Kempe
Instagram → @pia_kempeWebsite → https://www.piakempe.com
💛 We'd love to hear about your journey in the comments!!
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Ever felt the push and pull between potential and restriction of the Human Design System? What if you could live fully in alignment with your Human Design, without turning it into a rulebook or a religion?
In this episode, Paula Fehrmann sits down with Nadia Gabrielle, creator of @projectorsinvited, to explore what it really means to live as a Projector in a grounded, human, and flexible way.
We talk about:
How to integrate Human Design without becoming rigid or self-critical
What it means to build a Projector-friendly life (and still have fun doing it)
The balance between devotion and chill, staying aligned without obsession
How to work with recognition, capacity, and invitations in real life
The difference between living your design and performing your design
If you’ve ever caught yourself overanalyzing, overcorrecting, or “doing HD perfectly,” this conversation is your permission slip to exhale, soften, and reconnect to what’s real.
Mentioned in this episode:Follow Nadia on Instagram → @projectorsinvitedWebsite → https://www.projectorsinvited.com
Follow Paula → @paula_fehrmann
Explore the On-the-Go Wellness Shop for Yoga Nidra & More → https://www.paulafehrmann.com/shop-on-the-go-wellnessWebsite → https://www.paulafehrmann.com
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In this milestone episode of our monthly series Accept & Reflect, Lea and Paula dive into one of the most common (and misunderstood) dynamics in relationships: how to express your needs without slipping into clinginess.
We explore:
Why asking for what you want can feel so vulnerable
The difference between healthy need-sharing and over-dependency
Free tools we love to support communication and self-awareness
Simple mindset shifts that make it easier to get your needs met
How to uplevel your relationships by owning your desires with confidence
Whether you’re navigating dating, long-term partnerships, or friendships, this conversation will help you reframe “needy” into empowered and connected.
Mentioned in this episode:Follow Paula on Instagram → @paulafehrmannFollow Lea on Instagram → @leacristin
Websites:
paulafehrmann.com
Join us every month to accept & reflect on personal lessons through the lens of Human Design & Astrology. Our aim to provide you a realistic insight into solutions, tools and remind you that whatever you’re going through, you’re not alone. After listening to this, you’ll remember that whatever is happening is happening FOR and not to you. You will feel empowered and excited about moving on with ease and welcome whatever life is throwing your way, because you deeply feel that it is working out in your favour.
Ever wonder if you’re actually growing, or just looping in the same old comfort zone? In this episode, I break down how to recognise your growth edge in real life, and how to know when you’re stretching in a way that’s expansive vs. stuck in patterns that feel safe but keep you small.
We’ll explore:
What the South Node and North Node represent in your birth chart
How to spot the difference between comfort vs. growth in everyday situations
My own story of learning this the hard (and liberating) way
Examples of how this axis plays out in different houses (so you can spot your own)
Your growth edge doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. It’s about that small, powerful stretch beyond your comfort zone that expands you without burning you out.
If you want to explore your own growth edge in detail, I’m offering a special 30-minute mini coaching session where we’ll dive into your chart, your South Node comfort zone, and your North Node growth path.
💫 Price: 50€
To unlock this offer, book a free intro call with me and include the word GROWTH when you schedule.
This is a focused, powerful way to understand your unique growth edge, to ask questions and start aligning with it right away.
What happens when reality TV meets Human Design? In this episode, Paula Fehrmann talks with Patrick from Love Is Blind UK about life after the show, navigating public backlash, and finding healing and authenticity through Human Design.
We cover:
Patrick’s journey on Love Is Blind UK and what came after
How he dealt with criticism in the spotlight
The role of Human Design in self-discovery and dating
Using Human Design for resilience, growth, and authentic living
What it’s really like to integrate HD after being on a global reality show
Whether you came for Love Is Blind or for Human Design wisdom, you’ll leave with insights on navigating challenges, staying grounded, and living true to yourself.
Mentioned in this episode:
Follow Patrick on Instagram: @projectorpatrick
Explore Paula’s Yin & Nidra practices: On-the-Go Wellness Shop
More episodes you’ll love:
Connect with Paula:Instagram → @paulafehrmannWebsite → paulafehrmann.com
Welcome to the very first episode of Accept & Reflect — a new monthly series on Human Design 101 with Paula & Lea.
In this series, two Projectors (Paula – a 5/1 Splenic Projector, and Lea – a 3/5 Splenic Projector) come together to process the past month’s lessons and share openly through the lens of Human Design and Astrology.
Our intention with Accept & Reflect is to:
Offer you realistic insights, solutions, and tools.
Remind you that whatever you’re going through, you’re never alone.
Help you feel that life is happening for you, not to you.
Empower you to move forward with ease and even excitement for what’s next.
This first episode dives into relationship needs, breakups, and healing , and how we can use Human Design and Astrology to navigate heartbreak and rise stronger.
After listening, we hope you’ll feel lighter, supported, and ready to welcome whatever life is throwing your way, knowing it’s ultimately working in your favor.
✨ Connect with us:
Paula: paulafehrmann.com | Instagram
Lea: leacristin.com | Instagram
Welcome back to Human Design 101! After a little pause, I’m so excited to be back with you and to share what’s been moving in my world.
In this episode, I open up about why the podcast went quiet for a while, the big life transition I’ve been navigating (including moving to Lisbon!), and how my Human Design has supported me through it all.
You’ll hear:
Why I paused the podcast and what felt important about coming back now
My personal story of choosing Lisbon as a Splenic Projector
The very human doubts and fears that came up along the way
How Human Design can be an anchor in times of transformation (real talk)
If you’re in your own transition, this episode is here to remind you that you already have the map inside you. Human Design is a tool to help you return to yourself, again and again.
🌿 Ready to go deeper into your design or book a session with me? Head to paulafehrmann.com/booking
Thank you for being here, for listening, and for letting me share this new chapter with you. If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend, tag me when you listen, or leave a review, it really helps this work reach more people.
With love,
Paula
Have you ever wondered if Human Design is actually making things harder instead of easier? In this episode, we’re unpacking a big question: When does Human Design support your growth, and when does it hold you back?
We’ll dive into:- Why we sometimes use Human Design as a reason to stay stuck
- The traps of over-identifying with your chart
- What to do when you feel low or unworthy (and what NOT to do)
- A simple process for moving through hard moments without overcomplicating it
- When to use Human Design as a tool, and when to step away from it
If you’ve ever found yourself overanalyzing your chart, waiting for the perfect transit, or wondering if your struggles are “because of your design,” this conversation will bring relief and clarity.
✨ Connect with me:Instagram → @paulafehrmannWebsite → paulafehrmann.com
In this episode, Paula Fehrmann sits down with Sofia Mellano, a 2/4 Reflector and embodiment coach, to explore the fascinating intersection of the nervous system and Human Design.
We dive into:
How nervous system regulation looks different for each Human Design type
Why alignment isn’t always about excitement (and what to look for instead)
The role of safety and embodiment in decision-making
Dating and relationships through the lens of your nervous system
How to use Human Design as a tool for empowerment, not as a box that limits you
Whether you’re curious about deconditioning, learning to trust your inner authority, or creating nervous system safety in your relationships, this conversation will give you powerful insights and practical takeaways.
LINKS & RESOURCES
Follow Sofia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humandesignwithsofia
Explore Yoga & Nidra practices for nervous system regulation: https://www.paulafehrmann.com/shop-on-the-go-wellness
Follow Paula on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula.fehrmann
Website: https://www.paulafehrmann.com
In this episode, we explore one of the juiciest, most misunderstood aspects of Human Design: your open and undefined centers.
Whether you're completely open in the Head, trying to prove your worth in the Heart, or feeling overwhelmed in the Solar Plexus , you’re not alone. These centers don’t just describe where you’re vulnerable to conditioning… they show you how you’ve been shaped by the world around you.
We’ll dive into:
What an open center is
What each center can feel like when it's open or undefined
Why these areas can be sources of deep wisdom or lifelong wounding
How to recognize when you’re acting from your conditioning
The hidden gifts of openness in your chart
This episode is inspired by a deep-dive Reddit thread, real-life patterns I see in clients, and my own experiences as a Projector with several open centers.
✨ If you’ve ever felt too sensitive, too lost, or too affected by others, this one’s for you.
🎧 Tune in on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or YouTube
🌿 Work with me or explore my offerings→ https://paulafehrmann.com
🧘♀️ Yin & Nidra practices for open center overwhelm→ On-the-Go Wellness Shop
🧠 Reddit thread that inspired this episode→ Undefined Centers & Conditioning – Reddit Discussion
🎧 Related Episode: “Starting the Center Series - Understanding your Core?”→ Listen on Spotify
In this solo episode, Paula dives deep into one of the most crucial (and overlooked) aspects of Human Design: conditioning by Type. Whether you’re a Generator, Manifestor, Projector, Reflector, or Manifesting Generator, you’ve likely been living with patterns that were never yours to carry.
Conditioning often begins in childhood and comes from family, school, society, and especially our open centers. In this episode, Paula breaks down how each Type gets most heavily conditioned, and offers grounded, practical insights on how to begin releasing those patterns so you can return to your natural, authentic rhythm.
✨ What you’ll learn:
Why Generators feel stuck or unsure how to make decisions
The trap of overthinking and restlessness for Projectors
How Manifestors lose power by avoiding communication
What Reflectors need most to protect their energy
How to begin the deconditioning process
Why Strategy & Authority still matter most
💫 Connect with PaulaInstagram: @paulafehrmann
Website: www.paulafehrmann.com
In this soulful and energizing conversation, Paula Fehrmann is joined by Lea Cristin Besemer, Human Design Mentor, Podcaster, Coach, and radiant example of someone living life in high frequency. Together, they explore the intersection of prayer, purpose, and partnership, how asking for what you want with full-hearted clarity can reshape your life.
Lea shares her personal practice of “praying for it all,” how she calls in both love and aligned work, and what it actually looks like to live in surrendered action. The episode flows through themes of worthiness, magnetism, emotional self-responsibility, and using embodiment as a compass for aligned decisions.
✨ What we talk about:
What it means to “pray for it all” and actually receive
The energetics of magnetism in love, business, and creativity
Embodiment as the bridge between vision and reality
What Lea did differently to call in healthy and powerful connections
How to trust your own enoughness, even in the waiting
Taking up space as a woman, emotionally and spiritually
The truth about desire, disappointment, and divine timing
Connect with Lea Cristin:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leacristin/Website: www.leacristin.com
🌿 Join Paula’s Human Design Retreat in Portugal, October 2025
A deeply transformative space to embody your design, connect with soul-aligned humans, and come back to your center.
👉 Learn more & apply here
Follow Paula on Instagram: @paulafehrmannVisit: www.paulafehrmann.com
Do you feel like your Splenic Authority should whisper, but… you’re not quite hearing it that way?
In this episode, Paula breaks down one of the most misunderstood aspects of Human Design: what the Spleen actually is, and what it’s not. You'll learn how your body speaks through the Spleen and how the mind can disguise itself as intuition.
Paula also shares a practical “Splenic Toolkit”: a collection of phrases and energetic postures you can use when your spontaneous knowing doesn’t align with other people’s expectations or formerly made plans.
This episode was inspired by a Reddit thread.
Splenic Toolkit: Sayings for speaking your truth with clarity & care
That doesn’t work for me, let’s find another way.
I’m doing this for me, not against you.
I’d rather not promise you that.
I totally see your perspective, and I’d like to choose differently.
I think I’ll go ahead and forgive myself for that right now.
I’m realising I’m not really interested in that, could we speak about something else?
I’d prefer to be with myself right now.
I’m sorry I was wrong.
I changed my mind.
It all sounds logical, but my gut is telling me something different.
I’m not available for that, and I’d rather be honest than resentful.
I know this might be inconvenient, but I need to trust what’s right for me right now.
Thank you for trusting me to be honest, even when it’s hard.
🌊🌴 Join us on Retreat
If this episode resonates and you’re craving in-person transformation, connection, and nervous system nourishment, you’re invited to join us for the Satori Retreat in Portugal this October.
This is where embodiment meets Human Design, and your body gets to lead.
🔗 Learn more & book your spot here
If you loved this episode, share it with a fellow Splenic or someone learning to trust their body again.
💌 Let’s connect
DM me on Instagram @paula_fehrmann if you’d like support in navigating your unique authority, or if you're curious about 1:1 Human Design coaching or retreat offerings.
In this episode, Paula Fehrmann and Mel McSherry explore the intersection of human design and business, particularly focusing on the projector type. They discuss the importance of redefining success beyond traditional metrics, the significance of invitations and recognition for projectors, and practical approaches to achieving mental, emotional, and financial profitability. The conversation also delves into the deconditioning process, the integration of human design with traditional business tools, and the necessity of rest and patience for projectors. Mel shares her personal journey and insights on how to navigate the entrepreneurial landscape with a human design perspective, emphasizing the importance of celebrating small wins and trusting the process of self-discovery.
Mentioned in the episode: The Archive (Somatic Human Design)
Connect with Mel on Instagram, LinkedIn or visit her website.
Connect with Paula on Instagram or visit her website.
Find out more about our Human Design Retreat in Portugal (1st-5th October 2025)
Inspired by a brilliant post by @humandesignwithsofia, I unpack how a trauma response can mimic a “Sacral Yes,” and why nervous system regulation is such an essential ingredient when we talk about aligned decision-making in Human Design.
We explore:✨ The difference between a grounded yes and a dysregulated one✨ How urgency, adrenaline, and stimulation can hijack your clarity✨ What a true, sustainable sacral response actually feels like✨ Why this conversation matters for all types, not just Generators
This one is a gentle nudge back into your body. Because your truth doesn’t spike and crash, it lands and lingers.
Let me know how this lands for you. Was there a moment in your life when you confused a high for a yes?
DM me on Instagram or share the episode with someone who’s navigating their own decision-making journey.
For Human Design Chart Readings and our Human Design Retreat in October, check out my website paulafehrmann.com
In this powerful episode of Human Design 101, Paula Fehrmann is joined by transformation specialist and emotional biohacker Akary Busto for a deep, grounded conversation on healing, self-awareness, and the nervous system.
Together, they explore how Human Design can be used as a roadmap for emotional regulation and trauma processing, especially when combined with somatic tools, breathwork, and heart rate variability (HRV) tracking. Akary shares how ancestral trauma patterns show up in the body, the unique role women often play in family dynamics, and why courage is essential for personal growth.
💫 This episode is a beautiful invitation to meet yourself where you are, mind, body, and soul.
What we cover:
How emotional biohacking supports deep healing
Using HRV and Human Design to build self-awareness
Trauma, stress & the nervous system: what your body is trying to tell you
Conditioning from childhood and how it shapes emotional responses
The impact of ancestral trauma and why healing is generational
Why women often lead spiritual growth in families
How Human Design supports emotional regulation
What it means to be the “strongest nervous system” in a relationship
Why growth requires both surrender and bravery
✨ Healing is a personal journey that shifts the collective.
Connect with Akary Busto:
Instagram: @uhkarebreathwork
Connect with Paula Fehrmann:
www.paulafehrmann.com
Instagram: @human_design_101
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After hosting two back-to-back retreats, I kept hearing the same question come up: "What does it actually mean to be emotional or non-emotional in Human Design?". So I decided to revisit one of the most downloaded episodes on the podcast and give it new life.
In this solo episode, I break down the foundational difference between defined and undefined Solar Plexus energy, what that means for your emotional experience, how to work with your authority (instead of fighting it), and why understanding this piece is crucial for relationships, self-trust, and nervous system regulation.
Whether you’re brand new to Human Design or deep in your experiment, this episode will help you tune into your emotional wave, or your spontaneous knowing with more compassion, clarity, and confidence.
🔑 Takeaways
The difference between emotional and non-emotional authority
How emotional waves affect decision-making
Why waiting for clarity matters
How non-emotionals are conditioned to feel what’s not theirs
Tips for navigating emotional intensity in relationships
How to bring nervous system awareness into your authority practice
🎧 Related Episodes
✨ Connect with PaulaInstagram: @human_design_101Website: www.paulafehrmann.com
In this episode of Human Design 101, we continue our Living Your Design series by exploring what it looks like when a Generator lives in deep alignment, without ever having formally studied Human Design. This is a grounded and honest conversation about living the experiment intuitively, led by the body and the sacral’s quiet wisdom.
We speak about the beauty of living your design naturally, through intuitive decisions, embodiment, and the sometimes messy process of deconditioning. You'll hear how self-compassion, frustration, and curiosity play a role in creating an aligned life, even without needing all the technical knowledge of the system.
This episode is a reminder that Human Design isn't about doing it perfectly, it's about listening deeply, experimenting courageously, and living with presence.
Takeaways:
You don’t need to study Human Design deeply to live it meaningfully
Generators thrive when they honor their sacral yes
Frustration is a signal, not a problem
People-pleasing keeps us disconnected from what’s true
Rituals and embodiment practices build a bridge back to self
Self-compassion is essential in the deconditioning process
Life is a living experiment, not a formula
Connect with us:
🎙 Paula Fehrmann — @paula_fehrmann | www.paulafehrmann.com
🌿 Pia Kempe — @pia_kempe | www.piakempe.com