Episode Title: Dealing with Painful Emotions and Relationships
💖 In this episode we cover: How to navigate challenging emotions in relationships and life’s lows with intentionality, grace, and self-care strategies.
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🌟 A Kat Perspective:
Main Insight: Overthinking and rumination can trap you in cycles of negativity. Sometimes, the key to breaking the cycle is doing the radical opposite of what your instinct tells you—like pushing through discomfort to go to the gym or acting as though everything is okay.
Additional Insight: Circuit breakers for emotions don’t have to follow a one-size-fits-all approach. It’s about finding what works for you.
🌼 A Lily Perspective:
Main Insight: Self-care can be intentional and structured, like creating a “Grace Kit” with actionable steps divided into prayer/mindfulness, wisdom/processing, and indulgent self-care.
Additional Insight: Respect in conflict and taking time to care for yourself are crucial to navigating relationships and emotions effectively.
✨ The Perfect Quote:
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” – Oscar Wilde
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway:
Create your own “Grace Kit” with three sections:
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💖 In this episode we cover:
The nuances of people-pleasing in relationships, setting boundaries, and embracing feminine responsibility.
🎤 Asking questions like: - Are you comfortable saying no? - How can people-pleasing sometimes be manipulative? - What does it mean to cherish yourself as a woman?
🌟 A Kat Perspective:
Main Insight: Kat shares her transformative experience of setting boundaries, including a bold decision to live abroad to regain clarity and sanity.
Additional Insight: She emphasises that respecting your own needs and boundaries allows others to value you more genuinely.
🌼 A Lilly Perspective:
Main Insight: Lilly reflects on her journey of learning to say no, recognising how people-pleasing can stem from a desire to maintain safety and avoid conflict.
Additional Insight: She highlights the importance of cherishing yourself first and how that fosters healthier relationships.
✨ The Perfect Quote:
“Boundaries are a litmus test for the quality of our relationships. Those who respect our boundaries love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can’t respect our boundaries are telling us they only love our yeses, our compliance.” – Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Boundaries
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway:
Pay attention to feelings of resentment—they’re often a sign you’ve overextended yourself. Start small by practicing saying no with flexibility, such as, “That doesn’t feel good to me. Do you have another solution that might work better?”
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love: - Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend - Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by Dr. John Gray - The Vibrant Flow Podcast – Episode: Influential Women vs. People Pleasing
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As a Woman, What is Your Feminine Responsibility?
💖 In this episode we cover: The concept of feminine responsibility and how it empowers women to take control of their lives. Join us as we explore the concepts of Feminine Responsibility and being a Self Possessed Woman through the Creator’s intent.
🎤 Asking questions like:
How does taking responsibility for your actions empower you?
Do you outsource your thoughts and opinions?
How can you cultivate self-possession?
🌟 A Kat Perspective: Main Insight: Kat discusses the importance of being energetically self-contained as a woman. Additional Insight: She emphasises that women often doubt their own thoughts and feelings, but trusting oneself is crucial.
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective: Main Insight: Lilly ponders on the importance of being a Self Possessed Woman. Additional Insight: Part of this journey to being Self Possessed is not outsourcing your thoughts and opinions, but taking the time to know your own mind.
✨ The Perfect Quote: “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” - Viktor E. Frankl
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway: Reflect on whether you outsource your thoughts and opinions. Make an effort to write down or spend time with your own thoughts or standards before discussing them with someone else.
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love:
The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
Instagram: Femininewomanhood - Martine De Luna
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💖 In this episode we cover:
Being able to embrace blessings without blocking them from God and our community is truly important. Kat’s Dad shares his gentle perspective on what a good man looks for in a woman: “A woman who can receive what he has to offer.” It’s also worth considering the impact on a woman who only serves without balancing it with the ability to receive and ask for help.
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🌟 A Kat Perspective:
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective:
✨ The Perfect Quote:
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Who Should I Talk to About My Man?
💖 In This Episode: We dive into the topic of seeking relationship advice. Who should you turn to for guidance? What aspects of your life should you share with others? How does self-awareness play a role in this? Are neurotic individuals the right people to approach with your problems? We emphasise the importance of seeking advice from those who share your values and whose relationships you admire.
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🌟 Kat’s Perspective:
🌼 Lilly’s Perspective:
✨ The Perfect Quote: “Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.” - Proverbs 28:26
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway: Take time to understand your own thoughts and feelings before seeking external advice. Strive to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. This process is unique for everyone. We find solace in prayer and journaling—Lilly prefers a book, while Kat uses her phone.
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💖 In this episode we cover:
How your sparkle can point out whether he is Mr Right (and what a sparkle is)!
Explore the nuance of what a provider is and how to be able to receive from him.
How Lilly’s five sisters were guided to beautiful marriages by her Mum’s simple wisdom of focusing on whether the sister was blooming in the relationship.
🎤Asking questions like:
What makes you sparkle?
Does he make you bloom into all the woman you can be?
Have you noticed what the men in your life provide for you?
A Kat Perspective:
Main Insight:
Look for a man with a provider mentality, like Kat’s dad. Women can often miss this important trait.
Additional Insight: It should feel fun and playful to be provided for by a man. Women, who are often people pleasers, can learn to enjoy the fun and play of being cared for.
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective:
Main Insight:A good man wants to make you happy.
Additional Insight: When a woman is happy, life flows around her with wild flourishing and abundance.
✨ The Perfect Quote:
“If a man loves a woman, she will know every minute of every day.” Ngaire Grubi, Lilly’s Nanny
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway:
Reflect on the moments when you felt truly sparkly. Who was with you, and what were the circumstances? Learn to foster an awareness for your sparkle.
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love:
The Queen’s Code, Alison Armstrong
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💖 In this episode we cover:
The inherent femininity of women and the journey of self-discovery. The importance of elevating women to elevate oneself. Comparison without projection.
🎤 Asking questions like:
What makes you feel like a woman?
What does feeling like a woman feel like for you? Can you describe some adjectives?
Can you remember a time when you felt most connected to your femininity?
🌟 A Kat Perspective:
Main Insight: Dressing cute may just bring out your femininity!
Additional Insight: A woman’s external environment can affect her inner world. Kat loves to say, a woman needs to feel good to do good (taken from Dr Pat Allen).
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective:
Main Insight: Allow yourself to be inspired by the women of your family, the women closest to you.
Additional Insight: Sometimes we can idealise the unknown, over the known and take the women closest to us, who love us, the most for granted.
✨ The Perfect Quote:
"Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don't." Jordan B. Peterson
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway:
Embrace and celebrate the women in your life, write a list of their names (start with three) what have the taught you, how do they influence you, what would you like to embody from their lives?
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love:
Matthew Hussey: Matthew Hussey YouTube Channel
12 Rules for Life, Jordan B. Peterson
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Is the ICK keeping you single? Do you feel like "there are no good men"? The “ICK” is seriously limiting your dating pool. The ICK is a bodily response that’s warning you AWAY from a partner. According to Kat, it’s the BIGGEST impediment to women having happy relationships.
🎤Asking questions like:
How is the ICK NOT working for you?
What was Lilly’s ICK?
How can you deal with your ICKs?
🌟 A Kat Perspective:
Main Insight: Stewing on an ICK can be enlightening!
Additional Insight: The ICK highlights an underlying value that we hold and once identified is such a help in focusing in what we want in a life partner.
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective:
Main Insight: Remember, the ICK may not be the whole story.
Additional Insight: We do love to box (hello, I love to box), but with the ‘ick’ trending, have we stopped thinking with a nuanced approach and are we SERIOUSLY ruling out some laughter from our relationships?
✨ The Perfect Quote:
"If laughter is what makes us human, then humour is a necessary tie that binds us to one another and reminds us that our relationships are designed to bring joy." - Zach Brittle on the Gottman Blog
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway:
Can you list your five biggest ICK moments and the underlying values they may be pointing you to? How can this knowledge help you SEE your Mr Right?
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love:
How to Get a Date Worth Keeping, Henry Cloud
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert - John Gottman and Nan Silver
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In this episode, we chat about why rest is incredibly important for your well-being and how it helps you feel more lovely and feminine. We talk about the GUILT around rest and the feminine wound. We also acknowledge the judgement from others when you decide to stop "hustling" and how to deal with it.
🎤 Asking questions like:
Do I really need to “earn” my rest, or can I just embrace it like a cosy blanket?
As a busy mum, is it that important to gently sneak in some much-needed rest?
Why is rest so essential for my sparkle and shine?
🌟 A Kat Perspective:
Main Insight: The guilt of modern women to rest.
Additional Insight: A modern women often feel guilty about resting due to societal pressures and lack of supportive structures, she does it all and can frequently be out of sync with her very cycle.
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective:
Main Insight: How can we create a world where we feel safe enough to rest.
Additional Insight: It truly begins with each of us and offering soft encouragement to women around the wisdom of rest.
✨ The Perfect Quote Match:
“A woman of true beauty is a woman who is at the depths of her soul at rest. She exudes a sense of calm, and invites those around her to rest as well... Her spacious beautiful soul invites others to come, to be, to taste and see the Lord is good.” - Staci Eldredge
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway:
Read the beauty of God’s creation in the story of Genesis, Chapter 1-2 and think about what God is trying to show His daughters by taking a day of rest.
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love:
Captivating, by Stasi Eldredge
The Queen’s Code, Alison Armstrong
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💖 In this episode we cover:
The issue with seeing your partner as a potential DIY project and still being able to use your voice to create a relationship where you both flourish.
🎤 Asking questions like:
Should you be dating his potential (the man he could be)?
Is it okay to see his flaws and want them to change?
What are Hello Missy’s Four Steps to sharing your concerns with your partner?
🌟 A Kat Perspective:
Do you think that dating for potential blinds you to the truth? Yes, I do!
Additional Insight: Recognising the difference between supporting growth and trying to change someone fundamentally.
🌼 A Lilly’s Perspective:
The beauty of being with a human who delights in your very essence, in who you are.
Additional Insight: How freeing it can be when you are accepted for who you are and the vibrancy this gives you to become your authentic self.
✨The Perfect Quote:
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” - Proverbs 15:22
🎁 A Goodie to Takeaway
Consider who in your social circle has a relationship that inspires you. Think about approaching them for relationship advice or using their relationship as a model for your own.
📚 Resources Hello Missy Loves for Love:
Hello Missy Podcast: How to know if HE is Mr. Right?
The Queen’s Code, Alison Armstrong
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