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Healing For Love
Dr Gemma Gladstone
137 episodes
3 days ago
Send Gemma a message If you are asking can this improve, this episode gives you a simple lens. Gemma unpacks two essential capacities that predict whether change is possible in a relationship. You will hear why the brain repeats what is familiar, how schemas drive loops and how to assess real readiness for growth in yourself and in someone you are dating. In this episode Why patterns repeat even when you want something differentThe role of schemas in attraction, conflict and copingTwo essenti...
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Send Gemma a message If you are asking can this improve, this episode gives you a simple lens. Gemma unpacks two essential capacities that predict whether change is possible in a relationship. You will hear why the brain repeats what is familiar, how schemas drive loops and how to assess real readiness for growth in yourself and in someone you are dating. In this episode Why patterns repeat even when you want something differentThe role of schemas in attraction, conflict and copingTwo essenti...
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Episodes (20/137)
Healing For Love
127. Can they change? Two Essential Qualities That Make It Possible
Send Gemma a message If you are asking can this improve, this episode gives you a simple lens. Gemma unpacks two essential capacities that predict whether change is possible in a relationship. You will hear why the brain repeats what is familiar, how schemas drive loops and how to assess real readiness for growth in yourself and in someone you are dating. In this episode Why patterns repeat even when you want something differentThe role of schemas in attraction, conflict and copingTwo essenti...
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1 week ago
40 minutes

Healing For Love
126. Inside Limerence (Part 2): From fantasy to freedom
Send Gemma a message What limerence really is, why it hooks into our deepest unmet needs and how to gently unhook using a schema-therapy lens. In Part 2, Gemma explores limerence as a preoccupying, often intoxicating state that’s fueled by unmet needs - with abandonment and emotional deprivation schemas usually at the core. She explains why the brain’s reward systems (hello, dopamine) and a quieted prefrontal cortex can hijack rationality, making red flags easy to miss. You’ll learn practical...
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1 month ago
33 minutes

Healing For Love
125. Inside Limerence (Part 1): The psychology of the crush that won’t quit
Send us a text If you’ve ever been mentally and emotionally stuck on someone—checking for “signs,” fantasising a future, and riding waves of hope and anxiety—you may have experienced limerence. In Part 1, Gemma explains what limerence is (and isn’t), why uncertainty and fantasy make it so sticky, and why the real issue isn’t the person (the “limerent object”) but your unmet emotional needs. You’ll also hear where the concept came from and why it’s often confused with attachment or “true love....
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1 month ago
32 minutes

Healing For Love
124. Narcissism Explained: What to Watch For in Relationships
Send us a text A listener asks: “What exactly is narcissism and how can I tell if I’m dating someone with narcissistic traits?” In this episode, Gemma breaks narcissism down into plain English. You’ll learn why it’s best understood as a personality style on a spectrum, how narcissistic coping modes show up through self-absorption and poor tolerance for your subjectivity and the concrete signs to look for in the early dating stage. We also cover boundaries, reciprocity and practical way...
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1 month ago
46 minutes

Healing For Love
Inside Love Wisely: A Heart-Centred Journey to Rewrite Your Love Template
Send us a text Enrollments are Open, Doors Close Wednesday 17th 11:59PM (AEST) In this short bonus episode, I’m giving you a clear picture of what’s inside my 12-week group coaching program, Love Wisely, which begins Wednesday, September 24th. This program is for women who are ready to break free from old relationship patterns - especially the pull toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners and finally rewrite their Love Template so they can choose relationships that feel safe, s...
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2 months ago
4 minutes

Healing For Love
123. The Fears That Hold You Back: 5 Limiting Beliefs Keeping You From Healthy Love
Send us a text Gemma answers the most common questions she’s received about Love Wisely and widens the lens to address the deeper fears and limiting beliefs that stop women from changing their relationship patterns. You’ll learn how schemas (like abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness/shame, subjugation, approval-seeking and unrelenting standards) quietly shape attraction, tolerance, and your choices and what it looks like to shift from fear-driven decisions to wise, Healthy Adult ...
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2 months ago
43 minutes

Healing For Love
122. The Catch-22 of Attraction: Why We Want Love but End Up with Distance
Send us a text When your heart wants closeness but your “old map” keeps pulling you toward distance, you’re stuck in the Catch-22 of attraction. In this episode, Gemma explains how early schemas quietly shape who you’re drawn to, why “chemistry” so often points you toward the familiar (not the healthy), and what it takes to consciously rewrite your Love Template so you can choose emotionally available partners. In this episode, you’ll learn What a schema is (quick primer) and why it’s more us...
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2 months ago
46 minutes

Healing For Love
121. When “Staying Friends” Costs Your Self-Respect: Trauma Bonds, Avoidant Partners & Letting Go
Send us a text In this episode I answer a listener Q from “Maddie,” who’s in post-breakup limbo with an avoidant ex. I unpack blurred boundaries after a breakup, why “staying friends” can quietly erode self-respect, how trauma bonds differ from schema-triggered dynamics, and what it really takes to let go when your abandonment schema is pulling you back. You’ll also get a simple Relationship Review exercise to spot your patterns so you can date with clearer self-trust next time. What we cove...
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2 months ago
40 minutes

Healing For Love
120. The Rescuer Complex: Why Saving Them Won't Heal You
Send us a text Why do caring, empathic women end up doing the heavy lifting in love, staying out of guilt and “rescuing” partners at the expense of their own needs? In this episode, Gemma unpacks the unconscious pull to fix others, how childhood patterns (self-sacrifice, subjugation, emotional deprivation) set the stage, and the real cost of over-functioning. You’ll learn how to shift from “fixer” to “feeler,” build healthy entitlement, and make self-supporting choices, even when guilt shouts...
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2 months ago
31 minutes

Healing For Love
119. Your Past Relationships Are Trying to Tell You Something… Are You Listening?
Send us a text Every past relationship leaves clues. Patterns you’ve fallen into. The kinds of people you’re drawn to. The roles you find yourself playing without even realising it. In this episode of Healing for Love, I’m walking you through 6 powerful reflection questions to help you see your love life more clearly and prepare you to approach dating in a new way. These are the same questions I explore with my Love Wisely clients, because when you understand your patt...
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3 months ago
41 minutes

Healing For Love
118. 7 Psychological Reasons We Ignore Red Flags in Relationships
Send us a text Have you ever looked back at a relationship and thought, “Why didn’t I walk away sooner?” You’re not alone — and it’s not about weakness or denial. In this episode, Dr. Gemma Gladstone explores seven powerful psychological reasons we tend to ignore red flags in relationships — especially in the early stages. Drawing on schema therapy, attachment theory, and decades of clinical experience, Gemma breaks down why patterns like schema chemistry, abandonment fears, self-doubt, and...
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5 months ago
52 minutes

Healing For Love
117. How She Stopped Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Men — A Real Case Journey
Send us a text Meet Sophie, a 37-year-old woman who spent years feeling stuck in painful relationship cycles. Like many women I work with, she kept attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men — despite knowing, deep down, that something wasn’t right. In this episode, I’ll walk you through Sophie’s journey: from identifying her relational schemas (like abandonment, emotional deprivation, and subjugation), to understanding how her childhood shaped her “love template,” to the powerful...
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5 months ago
53 minutes

Healing For Love
116: Why Do We Minimize Harm in Relationships? Understanding the Psychology Behind Tolerating Abuse
Send us a text In this important solo episode, Gemma reflects on a disturbing real-life conversation overheard between two teenage girls — one of whom casually describes being physically assaulted by her boyfriend. What follows is a powerful deep dive into why girls and women downplay harmful, even abusive, behaviour in relationships. From shame, trauma bonding, and fear of judgement to deeply rooted schemas like abandonment, defectiveness, and subjugation, Gemma explores the internal and soc...
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6 months ago
1 hour 1 minute

Healing For Love
115 – Healing for Love: Why Reparenting Your Abandoned Inner Child is the First Step to Secure Relationships
Send us a text In this solo episode, Gemma explores one of the most foundational concepts when it comes to healing relationship patterns—the abandonment schema. Whether you're currently dating or in a long-term relationship, understanding your own abandonment schema and how it influences your emotions, choices, and reactions is essential for cultivating emotional safety and secure connection. Gemma explains: What the abandonment schema is and how it developsHow it shows up in dating and relat...
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6 months ago
44 minutes

Healing For Love
114. Are You Dating As Your True Self — Or a Coping Mode?
Send us a text The Red Flag Project – Learn how to break free from toxic relationship patterns – theredflagproject.com Schema Coaching & Support – Work with Dr. Gemma Gladstone Support the show Help support our continued production. Are you a regular listener who loves our show? Consider supporting us with a contribution each month to help us keep going! 🔗 Schema Circle Vault – Get your essential schema therapy resources here! Good Mood Hub goodmood.com.au Instagram Facebook The Re...
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7 months ago
43 minutes

Healing For Love
113. The Mailbox – Healing from the Mother Wound: Letting Go of the Hope That Keeps You Stuck
Send us a text In this mailbox episode, we dive into a listener question from Amy (name changed for privacy), who is struggling with the trauma bond with her narcissistic and emotionally neglectful mother. Amy shares her experience of emotional neglect, manipulation, gaslighting, and rejection—all while navigating the complicated reality of trying to maintain boundaries. Drs. Gemma and Justine discuss: ✔ What a trauma bond with a parent looks like – Why it’s so difficult to break free ...
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8 months ago
27 minutes

Healing For Love
112. Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: Six Questions to Help You Reconnect with Yourself
Send us a text In this episode, Dr Gemma takes a deep dive into one of the most common and persistent life patterns—people-pleasing. If you've ever found yourself constantly prioritizing others' needs over your own, struggling to say no, or feeling exhausted from always trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you. She explores: ✅ What people-pleasing really is and why it’s not just one behavior but a collection of patterns ✅ The three main schemas that drive people-pleasing ✅ How earl...
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8 months ago
46 minutes

Healing For Love
111. Seven Deadly Sins of the Narcissistic Dater: Red Flags You Can’t Ignore
Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away! Episode Description: Are you dating someone new and wondering if they’re truly a good match? Or do you have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners? In this episode, Gemma breaks down The 7 Deadly Sins of the Narcissistic Dater—key warning signs that indicate deeper personality issues and potential toxic relationship dynamics. These signs often reveal themselves early—sometimes even on the first date. Recognizing th...
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9 months ago
47 minutes

Healing For Love
110. Q&A: Understanding Emotional Availability and Narcissistic Family Challenges
Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away!Episode Overview:In this engaging Q&A episode, Dr. Gemma Gladstone answers two listener questions, diving into the nuances of emotional availability in relationships and managing complex dynamics with a narcissistic parent.Key Topics Covered:Emotional Availability in RelationshipsHow to assess emotional availability beyond just words like "I love you."Why actions, consistency, and reliability are key indicators of emotional connection.Navigating...
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9 months ago
38 minutes

Healing For Love
109. When Family Ties Hurt: Navigating Estrangement and Difficult Relationships
Hi, Do you have a question for us? Ask away!Episode Overview:In this deeply personal and insightful episode, Dr. Justine Corry shares her experience of family estrangement, reflecting on her relationship with a narcissistic mother and the impact on her life. Dr. Gemma Gladstone joins the conversation as they both discuss the psychological toll of estrangement and how schema therapy can help individuals heal and move forward.Key Topics Covered:What drives estrangement and why it’s never an eas...
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10 months ago
35 minutes

Healing For Love
Send Gemma a message If you are asking can this improve, this episode gives you a simple lens. Gemma unpacks two essential capacities that predict whether change is possible in a relationship. You will hear why the brain repeats what is familiar, how schemas drive loops and how to assess real readiness for growth in yourself and in someone you are dating. In this episode Why patterns repeat even when you want something differentThe role of schemas in attraction, conflict and copingTwo essenti...