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Happy Life
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A collection of podcasts for people just like you, who are on the journey towards finding truth and fulfillment.
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A collection of podcasts for people just like you, who are on the journey towards finding truth and fulfillment.
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Parenting
Kids & Family,
Religion & Spirituality,
Society & Culture,
Spirituality,
Relationships
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Happy Life
Marriage Benefits – We Don’t Just Date For Fun

Marriage Benefits-We Don't Just Date For Fun



[Show Opens]



Myrtle Alegado: Do you remember when you began to seriously consider getting married? On today’s episode, we’ll talk to newlyweds who will share the progression in their relationship, from meeting, to courtship, and finally to marriage.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. Later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life



Myrtle: Today, I'd like to welcome our newlyweds from Yorba Linda, California to the podcast. Thanks so much for joining us on Happy Life, Aedelbert and Darlene!



Darlene Alejandro: Thank you for having us, Myrtle.



Aedelbert Alejandro: Hello! Thank you for having us.



Myrtle: How are you both doing today?



Darlene: We’re good.



Aedelbert: Doing good.



Myrtle: Well, as I understand it, you got married in January of this year, right?



Aedelbert: Correct.



Darlene: Yes.



Myrtle: Oh, well,congratulations to you both! Now, how did you both meet?



Aedelbert: So I moved to the Bay Area to finish college at San Francisco State University, and Darlene actually came up to me at one of our church events. It was a coastal cleanup. And, you know, I was hanging out with my guy friends, and Darlene came out of nowhere and just introduced herself to me.



Darlene: Yeah. [laughs]



Myrtle: Is that how you remember it, Darlene? Give us your take.



Darlene: Yeah, he was new to Daly City local congregation. And it was about a month before I met him that he was already living in Daly City. And normally when someone new or a new member [of the Church Of Christ] comes into Daly City, I usually meet them just to welcome them. I didn't meet him yet, so when I saw him at the coastal cleanup, yeah, I just went up to him and I was like, “Hi, I'm Darlene. I haven't met you yet, but welcome to Daly City.”



Myrtle: Aww. Well, that's cute, Darlene!



Darlene: Yes, so I went up to him at the coastal cleanup. And then maybe a couple days after that, one of our mutual friends on Instagram posted a picture of their friend group, and that person tagged him. Since I met him, I figured, “Okay, I can follow him now.”



And then fast forward a couple more days, he posted this story about working out and he asked, “Who wants to be my workout buddy?” Mind you, I did not work out at that time but something inside me was like, “I'm going to respond and I'm going to say I'm going to be his workout buddy.” And that's where we started talking or messaging with each other.



Aedelbert: Yeah, so after Darlene replied to my story and she said, you know, “I'll be your workout buddy,” we actually planned to hang out one day. And you know, one thing led to another, we started texting more, and started hanging out more. That led to me falling for Darlene,
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2 years ago
28 minutes 22 seconds

Happy Life
Supporting Each Other in a Health Crisis

Supporting Each Other in a Health Crisis



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: A health or medical crisis can have a significant impact on any marriage, but perhaps even more-so for newlyweds. You're still finding your footing early on in your marriage, so how do you ensure you support each other enough to help each other get through this ordeal? We'll find out about Joel and Richelle’s experience in today's episode.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I've been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. Later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: Because the topic of discussion today is an extremely sensitive one, and I know it may be difficult to talk about, I am so appreciative of Richelle and Joel, from London, who are here to chat with me today. Welcome to the Happy Life podcast, Joel and Richelle.



Joel Dela Cruz: Hello.



Richelle Dela Cruz: Hi. Hi, Myrtle. How are you?



Myrtle: I'm good. How are things over there, over the pond?



Joel: We’re good. Thank you very much. Thank you for having us.



Myrtle: So you two have been married for how long now?



Joel: Coming up to three years in September.



Myrtle: Oh, wow! Congratulations. So, now tell me about finding out that you were expecting your baby boy, Noah.



Joel: So, we weren't really planning. We just left it up to God and if He blessed us with a child, He blessed us. So, we weren't really actively trying to have a baby or conceive at the time.



Richelle: Yeah, so you can say that we were surprised when we found out. Actually I was the first one who found out. I realized it because that day, it was during the pandemic, and I was working from home and I don't usually eat junk food. But I realized I finished, like, a bag of crisps, or chips for America. I finished a whole bag and then I looked at it and I was like, “What's happening?” And then I messaged him, I was like, “Can you actually buy a test?” and when he came home, I tested and we actually filmed ourselves. And yeah, we were really surprised. We were really scared. It's something that we didn't expect, and we felt we weren't ready for it at that time.



Myrtle: But it was God's perfect time, right? [laughs]



Joel and Richelle: Yes.



Myrtle: And what was your pregnancy like?



Richelle: So my pregnancy went very well, if I can say that. Every stage of my pregnancy, from the moment that we found out that we were pregnant, to finding out the gender, up to the due date, we tried everything that we could to prepare ourselves. So, not just physically for me, mentally, and even more so spiritually. We held our devotional prayers, and I did some exercises as much as I could, tried to eat healthily.



Myrtle: So up until the delivery, was everything pretty normal with your pregnancy?



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2 years ago
46 minutes 37 seconds

Happy Life
Young Newlywed Entrepreneurs

Young Newlywed Entrepreneurs



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: They say that compared to older generations, young people can be very optimistic. They're full of energy and often come up with fresh ideas because they aren't always set in their ways. What does this have to do with today's topic? Stay tuned and find out.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I've been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. And later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: The willingness of the youth to try new things, coupled with their ability to quickly adapt to new technologies, make them natural leaders in the ever-developing small business climate. Our newlywed couple today are really quite young, but they're also aspiring entrepreneurs. Let's welcome Kegan and Ailafaye to Happy Life. Hello, you two. Kegan and Ailafaye Baker: Hello!



Myrtle: Both of you are still quite young. What made you decide that this is the right time to get married, and would you mind telling us how old you both are?



Kegan Baker: We're both 21 and we started dating when we were 18. Her parents were very strict. They had a lot of rules. We wanted to gain their trust. We had to be home at a certain time, very early in the night, like eight o'clock. We would rush home at like 6:30. We were like, “Oh we gotta get home. We don't want to get her parents to be mad at us. And we wanted to avoid temptations and to be careful.



We saw, like, a lot of people our age going out and doing things that weren't necessarily appropriate for Church Of Christ members, especially like later on in the night they’d go clubbing and things like that, or they’d go travel together and they're not married. And we wanted to avoid that as much as possible, because we are members of the Church [Of Christ]. We want God's blessing in everything that we do.



We wanted to also go and travel the world together, to embark on a new journey, and get to know each other better. So, that's why we decided to get married so early on, and we wanted to just start our lives together.



Ailafaye Baker: Aside from my parents, we had a lot of help from the brethren within the Church. One of the brethren was Brother Ricky Bravo, who's a minister in the Church Of Christ, and his wife, Sister May Bravo. So we would go over there for dinner, and they are a couple that we really really trust because, truthfully, they remind us a lot about ourselves. They shared stories with us that they're actually the opposite of us. Sister May and Brother Ricky Bravo, they got married later on in life, and she actually shared with me that they got criticized for being a lot older.



They always had their home open for us whenever we needed any type of guidance. That's why we developed a good relationship with them. Since he's a minister in the Church, we would always be comfortable enough to ask him questions and advice. He would share [with] us the words of Almighty G...
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2 years ago
31 minutes 53 seconds

Happy Life
Cross Border Love During A Pandemic

Cross Border Love During a Pandemic



[Show Opens]



Myrtle Alegado: With today's technology the world doesn't seem so large, and we can easily connect with friends and family. It has even made it easier to find a romantic love interest across borders, or even across the world, and stay in a long-distance relationship. We'll discuss more about this in our episode today.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I've been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. And later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: Our newlyweds, for this Happy Life episode, are a long-distance, cross border, transnational love story success! Zachary is originally from Toronto, Canada, and Isabelle is from the Bay Area of Northern California.



Thanks for agreeing to chat with us today on Happy Life, Zach and Isabelle.



Zachary Sese: Hello, Myrtle. Hello, everyone. Thank you.



Isabelle Sese: Hi, Myrtle. Thank you for having us.



Myrtle: So how was your day today?



Zachary: Not bad. We're here traveling towards an area in Wyoming, a long drive.



Isabelle: Yeah, it was a long drive. This is our seventh state in the past seven days.



Zachary: We've traveled seven states in seven days, yeah.



Myrtle: Wow! Well, we appreciate that you're joining us today, despite your traveling, and despite all the distance that you've logged on your car probably.



So we've had a lot of previous Happy Life guests who were also in long-distance relationships before marriage, but we haven't really discussed, in depth, the challenges of being in one. Why don't you two share how you met, and how you got engaged, and of course eventually married.



Zachary: Before we were married, we were actually both District KADIWA presidents. It's an organization in the Church Of Christ for the youth that's aged 18 and up who aren’t married. In 2018, we had a KadCon. This is a conference for those members within that organization. I was actually District KADIWA vice president at the time. Part of this activity is that we recorded something with KADIWA officers all across North America, and these videos would be shown to every local [congregation] across the world.



Through these videos, that's where I actually noticed Isabelle in one of the videos. I guess she definitely caught my eye. I started to like her from those videos. So, I guess you could say I was a fan of her, but I mentioned to a friend of mine that I thought she was cute, she was pretty. And it turned out that Isabelle had actually visited Toronto recently to attend a wedding, and the friend that I mentioned to had actually met Isabelle. So yes, it was actually interesting. We actually had mutual friends already.



Myrtle: That's so cool.



Isabelle: Yeah, so two months after that KadCon, late 2018 so probably late December and even early January 2019, the friend that Zach told that I was cute, shout out to Chryselle, she actually messaged me.
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2 years ago
35 minutes 23 seconds

Happy Life
Age Gaps in Marriage

Age Gaps In Marriage



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: When you hear that someone you know is dating an older person, perhaps several years older. What goes through your mind? Do you form an opinion either way about their relationship because of a potential generational gap. Let's see how the discussion unfolds today with our newlyweds with an age gap.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INCMedia Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I've been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. Later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle Alegado: As mentioned earlier, our newlywed couple today has an age gap that might even be considered a generational gap as well. Jasmine and Mac are from Winnipeg, Canada. Hi, you two, and welcome to Happy Life.



Jasmine Balacano: Hi!



Mac Balacano: Hi there.



Myrtle Alegado: How's Winnipeg life at the moment?



Jasmine Balacano: Pretty muddy, rainy. Not bad. [laughs]



Myrtle Alegado: It's rainy here too, but, you know, such is the case with our west coast city. So when did you both get married, and how have you been enjoying married life since then?



Jasmine Balacano: We got married last year, May 2021, during the pandemic. We had a pretty serious lockdown at the time, and it was very stressful. We had to change the wedding date about three or four times.



Myrtle Alegado: Oh, wow.



Jasmine Balacano: Yeah, and we were only allowed to have 10 people at the wedding. So, yup. [laughs]



Mac Balacano: Yeah, and it's  been a very busy year for us. I can't even believe it's been one year. I often joke with people that I feel like in 2021 I got a new life. We got married, [and] I ended up getting a new job. So, working in a new industry, building a new team, new processes and things like that. So work’s been very busy. We also got a new dog, Loki, who is a puppy. He's almost one now, but you know around that time when we first got him, he [was] obviously quite the handful. So life's been very busy, but of course we've been enjoying every moment of it.



Myrtle Alegado: I mean, all of that, plus a pandemic going on still. You know, I can imagine how, you know, hectic and intense the first year has been for you two. And I know other newlyweds can relate to how chaotic the first months can be.



So I know you have an age gap, and I won't mention exactly how many years. Let's just say that Jasmine's in her 20s and Mac’s in his 30s. What did you like about each other in the beginning, despite the age gap?



Mac Balacano: You know for me, when I first met Jasmine, it was really just that our conversation clicked. You know, at that time, when even reflecting back on when I was talking to other people or getting to know people, you know, there's always something kind of missing. And with Jasmine that was never the case. Our conversations just clicked, they flowed, they were very natural. We often talk about how we're best friends,
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2 years ago
36 minutes 35 seconds

Happy Life
Managing Time as a Married Couple

Managing Time as a Married Couple



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: With the many demands on our daily lives, newly married couples struggle in balancing their time between work, daily tasks, and other obligations. When we find ourselves very busy, is it still a reasonable goal to achieve work-life balance?



Today on the show, we’ll chat with a newlywed couple from Burlingame, California, to talk about how they make time for each other despite their busy schedules, while still prioritizing what truly matters in their relationship.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. Later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life



Myrtle: On Happy Life today, I’d like to welcome Paolo & Rachelle from Burlingame, California, and they’ve been married since August of 2021.



Hey there, Paolo & Rachelle!  Thanks so much for agreeing to chat with us today.



Rachelle de Dios: Hi!



Paolo de Dios: Hello!



Myrtle: How are you both doing?



Rachelle: We’re good. Happy to be here.



Myrtle: Oh, well, we're so glad you joined us. Can you tell us a little bit about yourselves and how you both met?



Paolo: Sure. Rachelle and I, we first met at a Church activity. It was August 2018, and it was a career fair for the Kadiwa [youth in the Church Of Christ aged 18 and up who are unmarried] members. She had just moved from Detroit about a month before that, and, you know, I'm sure she was still learning a lot about the new areas and things like that. Maybe it was coincidence, but yeah, we met through that activity and just kind of went from it.



Rachelle: Yeah, I was new, moving to California. So I was just kind of nervous about everything. But I remember when we were going through some of the notes for this career fair, I was like, “Oh, Paolo’s kind of cute.” I actually knew what to do with all the instructions of this career fair, but I pretended to not know much. So, I was messaging him like, “What are we supposed to wear? What do you mean for this job thing? What do we do?” I kind of just initiated the chatting.



Myrtle: Look at you being sneaky! Way to go for what you want. [laughs]



Rachelle: Woo!



Myrtle: Did you know that she already knew the answers, Paolo, but messaged you on the side just to have an excuse, I guess, to talk to you? Did you know that?



Paolo: Honestly, no. I think when she was messaging me, I thought, like, “Wow, I can really impress her.” You know, “I can tell her exactly what we need to do here. She needs my help.” You know, “I'm going to be that person to support her in her time of need.” But you know, she's smart.



Myrtle: But how long were you two talking before things became serious, and then when did you get engaged, and finally married? Rachelle: I want to say talking for about three or four months, and then when we got engaged, a year and a half to two years.
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3 years ago
32 minutes 2 seconds

Happy Life
Communication in Intercultural Marriage

Myrtle Alegado: Someone catches your eye, his or her personality is attractive, you get along well, and you start falling for this person. You live in the same country, but there's actually a language barrier. Today, we'll meet Michael and Cindy, from Belgium, and they'll share what it was like in the beginning of their cross-cultural relationship and how they're doing now as newlyweds.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage.



I’m your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. Later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life 



Myrtle: As mentioned earlier, our newlyweds today are from Belgium. Hi, Michael and Cindy. We hope you're both doing well over there.



Cindy Van Acker: I'm doing very good. Thank you so much, Myrtle, for your time for today.



Michael Van Acker: Hello, Myrtle. Thank you for having us and happy to be here.



Myrtle: So would you two mind giving us a little background information on where you both grew up?



Michael: I was born in Zele. Zele is a very small town in Belgium, a small community. Almost everyone knows each other, a lot of greens and nature close by. My dad, he is a Belgian while my mom is a Filipina.



Myrtle: You were born and raised in Zele.



Michael: Yes, I was born in Zele and also raised.



Myrtle: Oh wow. That's pretty awesome. So how about you, Cindy?



Cindy: For myself, my parents are both Filipino. I grew up in the capital city of Brussels, Belgium.



Myrtle: And now do you still live in Brussels or Zele or did you both move somewhere else?



Michael: Now we are living in Schoonaarde, also in Belgium of course, and it's about 45 minutes driving from the capital city, Brussels.



Myrtle: Okay, so a little bit on the outskirts up in the suburbs maybe. So, we talked previously and you mentioned that, although you live in the same country, you speak different languages, right?



Cindy: Yes. It is correct, Myrtle. Actually, in Belgium, we speak different languages. But it actually depends [on] where you live. Usually we speak French, Dutch or German. But for myself, since I live in the capital city of Brussels, I speak and am fluent in French.



Michael: And since I grew up in a Dutch area, I'm speaking Dutch. It’s my mother language. So actually, we don't speak each other’s languages.



Myrtle: That is so interesting. Okay, wait, I have to ask you both. How do you say happy life in Dutch and then in French?



Michael: In Dutch, it's gelukkig leven.



Myrtle: Okay, I will not even try to repeat that. [laughs] Cindy, how do you say it in French?



Cindy: La vie heureuse.



Myrtle:  Oh wow, that is so cool. So what was it like trying to talk to each other in the beginning when you first met?



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3 years ago
22 minutes 24 seconds

Happy Life
Sharing Common Interests as Newlyweds

Sharing Common Interests as Newlyweds



[Show Opens]



Myrtle Alegado: So you just got married and you’re basking in the giddiness of newlywed bliss. But have you thought about how to build that connection even more with your spouse?



In our last episode, we talked to a couple from Vista. Now let’s travel a few hours north on the I-5 and meet another California couple to discuss the importance of sharing common interests as newlyweds.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m your host, Myrtle Alegado, and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. Later, we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: On Happy Life today, I'd like to welcome Jasmine and Darryl and they're from Oakland, California. They've been married since April of 2019.



Hey there, Darryl and Jasmine! We're so glad you were able to join us today.



Jasmine San Pedro: Hi, thank you so much for having us.



Darryl San Pedro: Thanks for having us today.



Myrtle: So, you know, tell us a little bit about what life is like right now in the Bay Area.



Darryl: Gas prices are kind of crazy, but the weather's fine.



Myrtle: Well, send some of that warmth up here to Vancouver please. [laughs]



So you know, if you can, tell us a little bit about yourselves and how you two met and then became husband and wife.



Darryl: Yeah, so we met in college. We went to UC (University of California) Berkeley together and we met there at a theater production.



Myrtle: So how many years were you just friends?



Jasmine: Um, since 2012.



Darryl: Yeah, I want to say 2012.



Jasmine: 2012, yeah.



Myrtle: Oh okay, so that was a pretty good, you know, three years of building that friendship before it became something more.



So Darryl, you mentioned you were both in theater production. Was that the common interest that brought you together?



Darryl: Yeah, we shared a passion for performing and that was actually what formed the basis of our initial friendship.



Jasmine: Yeah, it was really easy to talk to each other because we liked a lot of the same things and, you know, just have a love for music and theater.



Myrtle: And, you know, as someone who can’t act or sing, I find it so amazing that you're both talented in those areas, so. You know, what do you love about having this common love for the arts?



Jasmine: Yeah, I mean, in a sense, we kind of speak the same language. Much of our life is shared, so we've really become in tune, pun intended, with each other.



There's really a lot of work that is needed to be done with, like, your bandmates, or your castmates, when you're in the creative space. So for me and Darryl, a lot of the time, we don't even need to say a word to each other, and we learned to communicate with each other in that way...
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3 years ago
25 minutes 31 seconds

Happy Life
Buying Your First House as Newlyweds

Buying Your First House as Newlyweds



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: Hi, Happy Life listeners. I'm pretty excited to have the discussion today with our newlywed couple. In my opinion, it's a topic that a lot of newlyweds, and married couples in general, want to know more about but are maybe hesitant to talk about. What is it, you ask? Well, today we'll chat about finances and whether buying a house as newlyweds is feasible.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm your host Myrtle Alegado and I've been married to my husband Paul since 1999. Later we'll hear some Bible-based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ. [Show catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life. 



Myrtle Alegado: I'm really grateful to have Chris and Alyssa here, our newlyweds from Vista, California, to share their financial journey thus far as a married couple. Hi, Chris and Alyssa and welcome to the Happy Life Podcast.



Chris Agana: Hi, Myrtle.



Alyssa Agana: Hi, Myrtle. Thank you for having us.



Myrtle Alegado: Oh, it's a pleasure. You know, what's life like right now there, down in Vista, California?



Chris Agana: It's not too bad. It's, you know, that SoCal weather. It's warm but nice and breezy. I know, it's the beginning of spring now. It's like the perfect weather so it's been just nice and cool



Alyssa Agana: Can't complain.



Myrtle Alegado: Well, send some of that sunshine over here to "Raincouver" as we like to call our city. Always jealous of the California sunshine. But again, it's so great to have you here on the Happy Life Podcast. So please let us know how you met and how long you've been married.



Chris Agana: Alright, so Alyssa and I actually met when we were teenagers. This is back when I first moved into the area, and I actually met her at church. And I'll have to say and admit that it was love at first sight.



Myrtle Alegado: Aww.



Chris Agana: We became friends, and got to know each other and actually dated for several years,



Alyssa Agana: Several years. And in 2019, Chris finally popped the question. And about a year later, we got married in November of 2020.



Myrtle Alegado: It's been almost a year and a half now that you've been married. My understanding is you became homeowners too before you got married. So for all the engaged to be wed couples out there who are currently planning ahead, can you share how this was even possible?



Chris Agana: Yeah, sure. So we actually both grew up with parents who taught us to always save, save, and save. Growing up, we would both always hear, save more than you spend and also live below your means. So early on, we developed good saving habits. And with the money that we both save individually, we knew that we had to be strategic in how we budget our money. And we had open conversations with each other to align and establish our priorities. The first thing was our wedding, second was a down payment on the house, and third was that we wanted to have enough money left over to have a comfortable emergency fund.



Alyssa Agana: We also reached out to friends who recently bought homes to learn more about their experiences. And through that we were able to find a first homebuyers program, which helped a lot.
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3 years ago
29 minutes 14 seconds

Happy Life
Having a Honeymoon Baby



Having a Honeymoon Baby



[Show opens]Myrtle Alegado: Being newlyweds is an exciting time in the marriage journey but have you known some newly married friends who found out that they were expecting a wedding night or honeymoon baby soon after marriage too? We're going to delve into that topic today as we launch season two, so stay tuned.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm Myrtle Alegado and I've been married to my husband Paul since 1999. And later, we'll hear some Bible based advice through Brother Felmar Serreno, a minister of the gospel in the Church Of Christ.



[Show Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle Alegado: In Season One of Happy Life, we talked about adjustments as newlyweds and the transition from the big day to your new life as husband and wife. Imagine now that one of those adjustments also includes welcoming a baby. And today we have with us Thirdy and Bianca all the way from London. Their wedding was in April of 2021, so another pandemic wedding. Hi, Thirdy and Bianca, and thanks so much for joining us on Happy Life.



Thirdy Magsino: Hi Myrtle. Thank you for having us.



Bianca Magsino: Yeah, thank you for having us.



Myrtle Alegado: Well, how are you two doing over there in London?



Thirdy & Bianca Magsino: We're good. We’re good.Thirdy Magsino: A bit sleep deprived, but we're good.



Myrtle Alegado: That's to be expected. So can you tell us a little more about your wedding and you know, your life together immediately afterwards?



Thirdy Magsino: So we got married last year, April 29, 2021. We have been in a long distance relationship for a couple of years. So she lives in Hamburg, Germany. And the wedding was on the 29th of April. And shortly afterwards, maybe three days after, she left…



Bianca Magsino: I had to go backThirdy Magsino: To go back to Germany to fix some paperwork and to handle some government things for the wedding.



Myrtle Alegado: Wow. Like only 3 days?



Thirdy Magsino: Yeah, it was, it was kind of bittersweet. It was like, from the high of the wedding. And then all of a sudden, like the sadness of saying goodbye straight away, like a few days after.



Myrtle Alegado: So you had your wedding, and then you went back to being kind of like an LDR [long distance relationship] couple .



Bianca Magsino: Yeah, yeah. But then it wasn't for too long. Because Thirdy then came to Hamburg to stay with me in June, until August, which was nice. So we’ve got to spend some time in Hamburg as well before I finally moved to the UK in September 2021.



Thirdy Magsino: We always said, looking back, it's not going to be long, but in the moment.



Bianca Magsino: In the moment, it always feels long.



Myrtle Alegado: Yeah, well, that's true. I mean, it was, what, four or five months. So it's kind of significant, a third of the year or whatnot. So but you know, on our episode today, we're talking about having a honeymoon baby or expecting a baby in your first year of marriage.First of all, congratulations to both of you on the recent birth of your baby girl. So when was she born? And what's her name?



Bianca Magsino: Thank you. She was born on the 19th of January 2022. And her name is…



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3 years ago
38 minutes 30 seconds

Happy Life
Happy Life Season 2 Launching Soon

 



HAPPY LIFE SEASON 2 LAUNCHING SOON



[trailer opens]



Myrtle Alegado: Being newlyweds, it’s a time filled with excitement and anticipation. After all, you’re not exactly sure what to expect in this new adventure of yours, right?



[Soundbites from episodes]



Thirdy Magsino: You're so overwhelmed by emotions, knowing that you're about to have a kid.



Bianca Magsino: We're first time parents, we haven't experienced this before.



Alyssa Agana: Once we became homeowners, all I could think about was the mortgage. And with being married, it's not just my money. I'm sharing that money with my spouse.



Chris Agana: God has definitely blessed us with amazing opportunities and has helped us financially.



Darryl San Pedro: We always find some kind of solution or compromise.



Jasmine San Pedro: Having a shared interest, it helps you work on yourself and your relationship at the same time.



Myrtle Alegado: I’m Myrtle Alegado, host of the Happy Life podcast produced by INC Media Audio. Please come along for the journey in season 2, as we continue talking to newly married couples about their challenges and struggles, and find out just how they overcame them. 



Stay tuned, and find us on the INC Media mobile app, Google podcast & Apple podcast.



[trailer closes]



 
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3 years ago

Happy Life
Benefits of Putting God First in Marriage

Benefits of Putting God First in Marriage



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado:



When you get married as newlyweds, you have goals, right, that you want to accomplish, whether they be advancing in your career or buying a home, traveling or even starting a family. In this episode, we're going to talk to a newlywed couple who has seen the benefits of putting God first in their marriage.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I'm Myrtle Alegado and I've been married to my husband Paul since 1999.



[Show catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you're listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle Alegado: According to verywellmind.com, a top priority for newlyweds should be keeping the romance alive as mentioned in Dr. Houston’s study. Other than that, during the first year of marriage, couples need to settle many things, including how to allocate and handle money.



On lifehack.org, they said that goals will help your marriage to thrive, and a couple of things to prioritize our financial goals, goals for your relationship as well as family health goals.



The newlyweds I'd like to introduce you all to are Christine and Marc, all the way from Sydney, Australia. Christine is a friend of mine and my colleague at INC Media. Good day, Marc and Christine, how are things in the Land of Oz?



Christine Afenir: Hi, Myrtle.



Marc Afenir: Good day, Myrtle. I'm loving the Aussie accent there. Well done.



Myrtle Alegado: I'm so glad I thought you were going to cringe and say how horrible because, you know, I'm really bad at accents. But I thought I'd give it a shot.



Marc Afenir: Let’s just say that it's good that you’re not recording video right now.



Myrtle Alegado:  I cry, I cry. Well, how are you both doing? You know, down there, I think the weather is opposite from here in North America. Right?



Marc Afenir: It is actually. It's winter here right now. So you know everything in Australia being upside down compared to the northern hemisphere. So whatever you have, we have in reverse so yeah, but we're doing well. And we're keeping warm during lockdown so.



Myrtle Alegado: Oh, still in lockdown. Wow. Okay. Well, glad to hear you're doing well. For those who don't know you, would you mind sharing a little bit about how you two met?



Christine Avenir: So, funny story. We actually met at the KADIWA formal, a Church event that was happening in London in 2008. We actually didn't interact with each other. We were there with kind of our own friends. And yeah, Marc traveled all the way from Australia to be there as well.



Marc Afenir: Yeah, that was also a very last minute trip for me. So I was working full time at an ad agency and kind of asked my boss who was also from the UK. And I think that kind of helped me get over the line to get my leave approved. But I told her I was going to London for about a week. 



And we met there, but we didn't really talk. So that was like she said back in 2008. So, it was close to a decade later that we started talking to each other. Like we've heard of each other, because we've worked in media. So Christine's been in INC Media since I think 2011 and I started around that time helping the bureau here in Sydney. She was in San Francisco. I've heard her name thrown around, be it she was a producer for some shows. But it wasn't until, like,
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3 years ago
31 minutes 26 seconds

Happy Life
Frontline Essential Workers and Marriage

Frontline Essential Workers and Marriage



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: When the world first heard about the global pandemic, I don’t think anyone was prepared for how much it would impact all of our lives. In our last episode, we met Sean and Vanessa, who talked about some of their struggles adapting to being newlyweds while also adjusting to all of the new government and public health restrictions. 



Now, imagine being newlyweds living in this time of pandemic and you’re both frontline workers. Today, let’s see how two newlywed frontline essential workers handle all of the pressures and stresses of their jobs. 



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media Audio, that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m Myrtle Alegado, and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999. 



[Show catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life.



In March of 2020, more than 3.9 billion people, or half of the world’s population, were asked to stay home by their governments to prevent the spread of the deadly COVID-19 virus. Thousands lost their jobs due to companies closing or establishments reducing hours of operations. But essential workers, most especially frontliners, like healthcare workers, were asked to keep working, even working overtime with increased risk of exposure to COVID-19. 



On our episode today, let’s welcome Lou and Ray Klipfel from Grand Rapids, Michigan. Hey there, Klipfels, and thanks for joining us today on Happy Life. 



Ray Klipfel: Hi Myrtle. 



Lou Klipfel: Hi Myrtle! How are you doing? Thank you so much for having us here.



Ray: Yeah, we’re really excited for this. 



Myrtle: Oh, we’re glad you took the time to join us today and talk about your experiences. I’m doing well, thanks for asking, and hope you are too. 



Lou: Yes, we’re doing really well here. It’s finally getting warmer where we are in Michigan, so we’re excited for that. 



Myrtle: Did you do anything interesting today? 



Ray: Yeah, we went for a hike over by the beach. Xena needed to get out of the house, so...



Lou: Xena is our little puppy, our dog.



Myrtle: I was just going to say, for those who don’t know… [laughs]



Lou: Yes. [laughs]



Myrtle: That’s nice. Like, you know, it’s always nice to be outdoors and to be able to just get that vitamin D from the sunshine.



Lou: It’s nice that we are able to spend some time with each other on the weekends so that we can go out and enjoy the outdoors. 



Myrtle: Oh absolutely. So, I mentioned you’re both frontline workers. Can you tell us a little bit about what your careers are? So, let’s start with Ray.



Ray: So, I’m active duty on the reserves. So you know, a full-time soldier. And, part of what I’ve gotta do is make sure that our equipment is up to par, it’s fully operational so that way in the event that an issue comes up, you know, our equipment is able to help us in completing our mission. The unit that I’m currently in is actually a water purification unit, and we actually got mobilized at the beginning of the COVID pandemic. Luckily, we didn’t have to really go anywhere at that time. But in the event that we are needed, we’re capable of providing thousands of gallons of purified water to the area that we’re deployed to. 



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3 years ago
28 minutes 45 seconds

Happy Life
Newlywed Life During COVID

[Show opens]



[Music starts]



Myrtle Alegado: When the world first heard about COVID-19 and countries started enforcing lockdowns, I don’t think anyone foresaw that we would still be in the same situation in 2021.



Back in March of 2020, personally, I was one of the individuals who kept asking, “How bad could this be? It’s only like the flu, right?” How wrong I was! It was only after hearing of people that I personally knew becoming ill and even passing away, that I was jolted to awareness. Now, imagine being a newlywed, already just trying to get used to married life, but now you’re doing that in the middle of a global pandemic. We’ll talk about that today. 



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INC Media that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m Myrtle Alegado, and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999.



[Show jingle/catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: In January of 2020, the World Health Organization or WHO began looking into a cluster of reported pneumonia cases in Wuhan, China. On January 31st, 2020, the Emergency Committee or EC advised the WHO Director-General that “the outbreak constituted a Public Health Emergency of international concern.” And on February 11th, this new coronavirus was given a name: COVID-19. One month later, on March 11th, the outbreak was declared a pandemic. Life, as we knew it, changed drastically.



Today, let’s welcome Sean and Vanessa from Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. They’ve been married since September of 2020. Hey there, Vanessa and Sean! We’re so glad you’re here with us today. How are you and things on the island?



Sean Condie: Hi, Myrtle. Things are good here, [I] can’t complain too much. But you know, it’s been the same for the past year.



Myrtle: True! At least we kind of had nice weather today, at least we did here. Was it nice there today? 



Sean: It was, yeah. I would say it’s been pretty nice. 



Vanessa Condie: I think we got a couple of weeks where we had, like, really hot weather in April, which was surprising. So that was good, we had like summer weather. 



Myrtle: I agree! It was like, “summer is here, yes!” and then it started to rain again.



Vanessa: Yes. [laughs] Exactly, like the time the weather changed so much, drastically. 



Myrtle: Well, for our listeners out there, Victoria is an hour and a half ferry ride away from mainland British Columbia. And honestly, it’s one of the most quaint and picturesque cities in Canada, in my humble opinion. 



Sean and Vanessa, I mentioned how I was completely unprepared for what we faced last year, when we first heard about the worldwide pandemic. Can you share what your initial reactions and thoughts were?



 Sean: I’m going to be honest, I was kind of in the same boat as you.  



Myrtle: Right? 



Sean: I didn’t actually take it as seriously as I thought it should have been taken seriously. But I guess here we are now, so it goes to show what I know.



Vanessa: Yeah, that’s exactly like me. In the beginning, it didn’t hit me as much. I was still going to work. And then when things started to shut down, and we started to get, like, know people that have had it, we were like, “Oh, this is really serious.”



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3 years ago
26 minutes 26 seconds

Happy Life
Planning a Wedding During COVID-19

Planning a Wedding During COVID-19



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: Worry, pressure, and stress. Lots of stress. A staggering 96% of couples admit to feeling this emotion while planning their wedding according to a study of 500 newlywed or engaged to be wed couples published on brides.com.



These numbers are even more telling - “40% of couples categorized wedding planning as “extremely stressful” while 71% thought it was more nerve-wracking than other major life events like finding a new job.”



Now, that article was published before COVID-19. Today, we’re going to look at what planning a wedding was like for one newlywed couple I had a chance to chat with who got married during the global pandemic.



Welcome to Happy Life, a podcast brought to you by INCMedia that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m Myrtle Alegado and I’ve been married to my husband Paul since 1999.



[INTRO MUSIC & CATCHPHRASE]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: Planning every detail of your big day really does take a lot of work. The happy couple has to decide on things like guest lists, decor, and even the reception venue.  When you add a global pandemic into the equation of wedding planning, you’ve got a whole new set of unexpected hurdles.



Let’s welcome our newlyweds for today’s topic, Kara and Alvin, from Saint John, New Brunswick, Canada. Hi Kara and Alvin! We’re so happy you’re here with us today.



Kara Pascual: Hello, Myrtle. Thank you so much for having us today on Happy Life. And Alvin and I are so grateful to take part in this topic, which is very timely for us. Right, Alvin?



Alvin Pascual: Yeah, but definitely quite nervous.



Myrtle: Aww, no need to be nervous. So how have you two been, you know, aside from the nervousness?



Kara: Well, of course we also gained weight as part of marriage.



Myrtle: Oh, I think that's part of the COVID-10 or COVID-15 people say.



Kara: COVID-15!



Myrtle: Everybody's  putting on 10 or 15 pounds. Can you explain where St. John is and what it’s like there?



Kara: So, St. John is in the province of New Brunswick, which is part of the 10 provinces here in Canada. And we're also part of the Atlantic provinces in the eastern part of the country.



Myrtle: And I had to actually Google Map it and even though I'm Canadian, and I've lived here all my life, I had to refresh my memory. I believe it's also between Quebec and Nova Scotia and then just a little bit north of Maine, correct?



Alvin: That's correct. So it's actually two hours away from the US border which is the State of Maine.



Myrtle: Okay so, Kara and Alvin, you've been married since August of 2020, correct?



Kara: Yep.



Myrtle: And that wasn't originally supposed to be your wedding date though right, so can you share the story on that?



Alvin: I proposed to Kara in May 2018 in Niagara Falls, Ontario. So, that was actually the happiest moment of my life at that point. We encountered a lot of challenges along the way, especially we have differing personalities. I am an introvert and Kara is an extrovert. So, a lot of challenges personally, within our internal selves, and together as a couple, as we're going through the relationship. We encountered that after the proposal. So,
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3 years ago
34 minutes 28 seconds

Happy Life
Communication in Marriage: Being Present

Effective Communication in Marriage: Being Present



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado: Do any of you remember what your lives were like before smartphones?Think about those times when, you know, you’d actually have to go into a restaurant and try their burger or wings to see if the food was any good, instead of just going online, reading the reviews and maybe not even giving that restaurant a chance.



Who remembers having to actually use a phone book and a landline phone? It didn't use to be a world full of smartphones.



Technology has changed our way of life. It has made a lot of tasks easier and it definitely has saved us a lot of time. But, have all the impacts of modern technology and smartphones been positive? And how have these changes affected married life? Are there times when technology might actually take away your time and attention from your spouse?



This leads us to our episode today which we decided to call, “Being Present”



So let’s get things going, as we continue our series on Effective Communication in Marriage.



Welcome to Happy Life. This podcast brought to you by INCMedia aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m Myrtle Alegado and I’ve been married to my husband Paul since 1999.



[Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive.. You’re listening to ‘Happy Life’



[Music ends]



Myrtle: “The smartphone has changed our lives for the better in some ways, but it definitely has its drawbacks, too,” says businessinsider.com



Dr. Suzana E. Flores, clinical psychologist and author of “Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives,” agrees that smartphones are useful, but can also cause friction in our lives.



In many households, at the dinner table or at bedtime are definitely occasions when you can share your thoughts with your spouse, catch up on how your day went, or just chat casually about anything under the sun.



But during those moments, are we 100% present with our spouse? Meaning, are we being as attentive as we ought to be when our spouse is communicating with us?



According to usu.edu, a study done in 2019 shows that: 45% consider technology a big problem in their marriage. 43% report that their spouse uses technology in bed every night or almost every night. 55% feel like their spouse/partner spends too much time on their cell phone. Let’s talk about how we can be physically, mentally and emotionally present for our spouse.Here with us today are Vic and Janelle from Burlingame, CA. Our newlyweds have been married since August of 2020. Welcome to Happy Life, Vic and Janelle! How have you two been?



Vic Laguisma: Hi!



Janelle Laguisma: Hi! We've been good. How are you?



Myrtle: You know, hanging in there, hanging in. Thanks for asking.So, it was mentioned that technology can cause problems in marriage. One example is when one feels like the other may be spending too much time on their phone.  Is this something you’ve noticed in your marriage? And If so, how often does it happen?



Janelle: Yes, definitely. I think I am very guilty of spending too much time on my phone just because everything's on there. And I love planning, so for the weekend I want to plan on where are we going to eat, what are we going to do, where to get the car oil changed,
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3 years ago
27 minutes 45 seconds

Happy Life
Communication in Marriage: Disagreements

Communication in Marriage: Disagreements



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado (host): Disagreements, quarrels, little arguments, or squabbles, these are all terms people use when there’s some conflict. And in marriage, some may say that little disputes or disagreements can be healthy, and even help you learn more about your spouse. But conflict that recurs or lingers over an extended period of time could have negative consequences on married life. And let’s talk about that today.



Welcome to Happy Life. This new podcast, brought to you by INCMedia, helps newlyweds navigate through the first months and years of marriage to remind us all that marriage is a blessing. I’m Myrtle Alegado and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since 1999.



[Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: On the website psychologytoday.com, they mentioned something called the Romantic Relationships Scale, and there are 30 items that cover the sources of disagreements in romantic relationships.



Some of them included: not showing enough love or affection, lack of communication, one not paying enough attention to the other, and not being appreciated, things that deal with chores and responsibilities like housekeeping, and other tasks at home and who does more work. And finally, these items such as goals in life, future plans, children, who should pay for something, or if one uses all the other’s money.



And to share their thoughts on disagreements in marriage, we have Martin and Erica, who are newlyweds from Toronto, Ontario, Canada. They got married [in] October of 2019. Hi Zerrudos! How are you two doing?



Martin Zerrudo: Hi!



Erica Zerrudo: Hi!



Martin: Thanks for having us.



Myrtle: How are you today?



Erica: We’re doing well, doing well. Thank you for asking.



Martin: [laughs] Excited to be part of this show. Thank you for having us.



Myrtle: From the list that I just read to you, can you relate to one of those reasons for disagreements or a few or maybe all of them?



Erica: [laughs] Well, I think definitely at first, you know, you’re adjusting to each other. So, definitely the lack of communication and maybe one not paying enough attention to the other, and you know, not showing enough love or affection when the other person needs it, definitely.



Martin: Yeah, I think because we were long distance, right, you can really show affection just through the phone or through a video call or you know, sending each other care packages. But once we were married, you know, very much excited to be in love and to be with each other physically, but we were still trying to kind of figure out, like you know, when you’re on the same flow in terms of when is the right time to show affection—does somebody need more, does somebody need less? And you’re kind of just learning that as you go along, because you know, we didn’t have the ability to kind of figure that out because we were long-distance. So I think, definitely that. We’re working from home during the pandemic and it just so happens that the pandemic was the same time as the first year of our marriage.



Erica [laughs]



Myrtle: Right, yeah.



Martin: And so we got to spend the time together physically because we had to stay at home, but at the same time, I’m working from home so it didn’t necessarily allow me to give the focused attention that I could have even if ...
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3 years ago
28 minutes 57 seconds

Happy Life
Communication in Marriage: Decision Making

Communication in Marriage: Decision Making



[Show opens]



Sis. Myrtle Alegado (Host): When your alarm goes off, you wake up and think about whether or not you should press that snooze button, right? Multiple times, every day, we make decisions. They could be small or inconsequential, and then there are those major ones that could be life-changing.



On the website www.goroberts.edu, it states that an adult makes about 35,000 remotely conscious decisions each day. And as surprising as it may sound, as a matter of fact, we make 226.7 decisions each day on just food alone, according to researchers at Cornell University. For me, I start my day by choosing between maybe a coffee or cappuccino, and whether or not I’ll have toast or cereal, or if I’m actually going to eat breakfast at all.



Now, those are just some examples of the small decisions we make on our own. What about when we get married and have to make decisions with our spouse— especially big decisions? Could it be that much different? How should married couples go about making decisions?



Welcome to Happy Life, the newest podcast brought to you by INCMedia that helps newlyweds navigate through the first months of marriage. I’m Myrtle Alegado and I’ve been married to my husband, Paul, since May of 1999.



[Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life.



Myrtle: According to www.tonyrobbins.com, in an article contributed by David Hilton of Life Marriage Retreats: In a relationship, the number of decisions we make on our own may decrease significantly, not because every decision must be made together, but we now consider the impact of our choices on the other person. Now, why is it so important that we give great care to the choices we make as a married couple?



In an article “Decision-Making In Marriage” written by Dr. David Isaacs on www.familylifeinstitutes.org, it is usually said that bad decision-making is one of the leading causes of problems in matrimony. As part of our ‘Effective Communication in Marriage’ series, in this episode we’ll learn about decision-making as a newlywed couple.



And to share with us their experiences as a married couple for three years now, here with us today from Calgary, Alberta, Canada are Patrick and Zandrhea De Guzman. Welcome to Happy Life, Patrick and Zandrhea! How are you both today?



Zandrhea De Guzman: Hi everyone! It’s so great to be here.



Patrick De Guzman: Hey, we’re doing good!



Myrtle: Good to hear! We’re happy to have you here. So, it’s normal and common for newlyweds to face a lot of firsts, new beginnings, different opportunities, and big decisions as a couple. So, Pat and Zandy, can you share with us some examples of major decisions you’ve made together, and how you went about them?



Patrick: Sure, I could start with our wedding. I guess that probably was our first big decision that we had to make. Knowing that we wanted to pay for our wedding ourselves, you know, we had to make cuts, right? And so, some of the things we were considering were how many people could we invite, what is our budget. As grand of a wedding we wanted, we also wanted to make sure that it’s within our budget. So, I want to say, yeah, maybe the wedding planning alone. Also, really, where do we choose where to live?
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4 years ago
25 minutes 25 seconds

Happy Life
Communication in Marriage: Expectations

[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado (host): Okay, newlyweds. After the wedding, many of you expect wedded bliss to be automatic. You've married the person of your dreams right, so they should be able to anticipate every thought, wish, and need. But even after decades of marriage, I can tell you, this is not the case. So, all you newlyweds out there stay tuned as we continue our series on effective communication in marriage. 



Welcome to Happy Life, the newest podcast brought to you by INCMedia that aims to help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage. I’m Myrtle Alegado and I've been married to my husband, Paul, for over 21 years. 



[Catchphrase]



Inspiration to make your marriage thrive, you’re listening to Happy Life



Myrtle Alegado: All right, so in this episode of our effective communication in marriage series, we'll be focusing on expectations. Is it relevant to a successful marriage that expectations are clear between the husband and wife? Sure, it is. In the same way that having unclear expectations contribute to an unsuccessful marriage. Consider for a moment this quote from an article entitled The Psychology Of Expectations, and I quote: Without actually verbalizing expectations about give and take in a relationship, people construct stories in their heads about legitimate expectations of each other, and unspoken expectations are almost guaranteed to go unfulfilled. In an article we found on psychologytoday.com, Dr. John Johnson, a psychology professor at Pennsylvania State University, explored how unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments. Now what exactly does that mean?



To get this discussion underway, I'd like to introduce today's guests, Darnelh and Kim from Fremont, California, and they've been married since August of 2019. Welcome to Happy Life, Kim and Darnelh.  



Darnelh: Hello



Kim: Hi, everyone.



Myrtle: How are you today?



Kim: Oh, we're doing great. It's really nice to be here, so thank  you.



Myrtle: Oh, we're happy to have you. Okay, so newlyweds. Going back to that saying “unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments.” Well, simply put, it means we feel happy when expectations are met but disappointed when they aren't, even though other expectations we have are actually without good reason. And to break it down further the example they used in the article was a cup of coffee. Okay, so now you're probably wondering, “Myrtle, what does a cup of coffee have to do with expectations in marriage?”



So, just bear with me for a second as I share with you my take on this. I was able to relate to the article's cup of coffee example, because when I wake up in the morning having a cup of coffee makes me happy. Darnelh and Kim, do you two look forward to your first cup of coffee in the morning too?



Kim: I do. I think I’m a big(ger) coffee drinker than Darnelh, but I always, it's like the first thing that I have to have in the morning.



Myrtle: Okay, so maybe Darnelh can relate to the article’s cup of coffee example with maybe his morning cereal, or his pancakes, or what have you. 



Obviously I know that I have to carry out steps to produce that cup of coffee, and that it just doesn't appear out of thin air on my counter waiting to greet me. But there have been times when my husband makes it to the kitchen before me, and in my head I'm like, “Oh, this is awesome. He'll probably have my coffee waiting for me when I get downstairs.” But, I never actually articulated or expressed to him before he went downstairs that I'd like him to mak...
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4 years ago
29 minutes 35 seconds

Happy Life
Effective Communication in Marriage: Intro





Effective Communication in Marriage: Introduction



[Show opens]



Myrtle Alegado (host): “Hello, everyone! For those joining us again we’re glad you’re back, and a warm welcome to our new listeners out there. I’m Myrtle Alegado, host of this newest podcast by INCMedia, Happy Life where we help newlyweds navigate through the first years of marriage.  As for me, I have been happily married for over 21 years to my husband, Paul.



In our last episode, we left off on the topic of communication. Today, we’re kicking off the series on effective communication in marriage.



On the website insightpsychological.ca it states that lack of communication is the root cause of marriage issues and on www.marriage.com they state and I quote:



“Communication is crucial in marriage and not being able to communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for both, impacting all aspects of a marriage. Poor communication is one of the biggest reasons for divorce.”



Stay tuned now as we talk about what communication is and look at some of the different methods.



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Myrtle Alegado: On Happy Life today, I’d like to welcome our guests Jannelle & Kurt, from Delta, British Columbia, Canada. They’ve been married a little over 2 years now. Hey, Kurt & Jannelle! How are you both today?



Jannelle Quines: Thank you  so much! We’re doing great, thanks!



Myrtle Alegado: Oh, that’s awesome! Kurt, how are you?



Kurt Quines: Pretty good. Hi, everyone!



Myrtle Alegado: So, before we jump into our discussion today, would you mind sharing a little bit about yourselves? You know, so we can get to know you a little. What do you both do professionally?



Kurt Quines: So, I’m a Structural Engineer at WHM Structural Consulting just outside of Vancouver.



Myrtle Alegado: Mmmhmm.



Jannelle Quines:  And I’m a Digital Marketing & Communications Professional. I work within a tech company that focuses on video editing software.



Myrtle Alegado: Oh wow, those definitely sound like busy careers. I know from our last conversation together, I know you met when you both worked in retail about 9 or 10 years ago. But you only got married 2 years ago, right?



Jannelle Quines: Yes, that’s right.



Myrtle Alegado: So for you personally, what does good communication in your marriage mean to you?



Kurt Quines: So for us, it basically means speaking with honesty and respect.



Myrtle Alegado: Right.



Jannelle Quines: Yeah, definitely, being able to speak with honesty and like, you know, being unafraid of your spouse’s reaction. Also, having an open mind and an open heart to listen to what your spouse is saying or trying to say.



Myrtle Alegado: So, in the little over 2 years that you’ve been married, but you’ve known each other for a total of 10, so what have you learned about communication with each other over the years? And did that change a little bit, you know, after you got married?



Kurt Quines: Definitely. So, communication in marriage is a lot different from when you’re dating.
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