This episode: From the Battlefield to the Boardroom: Chas Sampson on Confidence, Character, and the Power of Service.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Life's linear path vs. external circumstances. (0:04) Chas Sampson joins the podcast to discuss life's non-linear path. Overcoming adversity and building confidence through childhood experiences and taking calculated risks. (1:05) Chas Sampson shares his personal journey of overcoming adversity and taking massive action to become a stronger person. Chas's parents instilled confidence in him from a young age, encouraging him to be brave and try new things. His first business venture at 12 years old was a lawn mowing service, which he expanded with the help of friends and lost control of due to lack of proper planning. Personal growth, overcoming fear, and finding success through hard work and perseverance. (3:25) Chas shared his experiences working in various businesses in a small North Carolina town. He discussed how he overcame obstacles and built relationships with clients, including a white nationalist who taught him about finance and communication. Chas emphasized the importance of respect and persistence in business, citing his successful lawn mowing business and subsequent work at Winn Dixie Grocery Store and Sonic. Military service, transitioning to civilian life, and sports agency work. (6:54) Chas explains how Military service taught him relationships matter, not tough acts. War criminals often lack love, attention, and empathy. Deployments showed Chas people want to be heard, respected, and loved. Chas had multiple career options after leaving the military, including working in finance, football, and sports agency. He invested in a pass-through draft for college athletes transitioning to the NFL, earning up to $100,000 in expenses and training. Managing investment deals and NFL player representation. (11:54) Chas faces challenges managing opportunities in his business, including selling the company or focusing on NFL players. He prioritizes culture and team fit in hiring and growing his organization, using a strict evaluation process. Chas aims to provide balance and solve the mission for clients, while also growing his mentorship programs and organizations. He discusses different aspects of his job, including mortgage backed securities, mergers, and VA claims. Chas highlights the importance of adapting communication s...

This episode: From Rock Bottom to Rebuilding Love: How Mitchell Osmond Transformed His Marriage, Mind, and Mission.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast (0:03) Host Drew Deraney introduces the podcast and mentions that Mitchell is recovering from being sick. Drew thanks Jessica Velarde for introducing Mitchell to the podcast. Drew discusses the concept of life being linear until external circumstances derail it. He introduces the idea of three types of men: those who ignore adversity, those who see it as a barrier, and those who see it as an opportunity for growth. Mitchell's Turning Points (2:13) Mitchell shares his first turning point, a fight with his wife that made him realize he was on the verge of losing his marriage. He describes his struggles with depression, weight issues, and financial debt. Mitchell recounts a funeral he attended where he was inspired to live a life worthy of admiration. He reflects on his difficult childhood and how it affected his marriage and personal life. Commitment to Change and Seeking Mentorship (6:21) Mitchell decides to take ownership of his life, focusing on his marriage, finances, health, and spirituality. He seeks out mentors who have successful marriages and lifestyles to guide him. Mitchell creates a framework called the Iron Five, which includes a protector, provider, pusher, partner, and pioneer. His mentors help him set goals and hold him accountable for his progress. Starting the Podcast and Coaching Practice (7:28) Mitchell starts a podcast to share his story and help other men. The podcast quickly gains popularity, and Mitchell begins coaching men to reclaim their lives. Mitchell's coaching practice focuses on helping men in areas like finances, fitness, and emotional health. His mentors encourage him to use his platform to make a broader impact. Rebuilding His Marriage (14:28) Mitchell returns home from the funeral and has a difficult conversation with his wife about his past mistakes. He commits to changing his behavior and rebuilding his marriage over six months. Mitchell's wife initially doesn't believe him but eventually sees the changes in him.

This episode: The Day Everything Changed: How Hussein Hallak Turned Grief into Growth and Purpose. Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Initial Setup (0:03) Host Drew Deraney thanks the person who introduced him to Guest Hussein Hallak, Hussein’s wife Rama, and mentions the introduction came through PodPitch. Drew discusses the concept of life being linear until external adversity derails the path, introducing the three types of men who react differently to adversity. Hussein's Transformational Moment (1:26) Drew introduces Hussein Hallak as the third type of man who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth. Hussein shares that the most transformational moment in his life was when his uncle died in his arms. He describes his uncle as a significant figure in his life, a second father who was well-respected and influential. The uncle's sudden death left Hussein feeling uncertain and alone, realizing he had to take control of his life. Impact of the Uncle's Death (4:49) Drew expresses sympathy and asks about the first time Hussein realized the absence of his uncle. Hussein explains that it took him a decade to start reaching out for help, initially feeling responsible for his family's future. He attended a coaching workshop in 2009, which helped him understand the importance of asking for help and not seeing it as a weakness. Drew and Hussein discuss the societal pressure on men to avoid asking for help, emphasizing that it is not a sign of weakness. Transition to Writing and Personal Growth (6:20) Hussein shares that the financial crisis in 2008 led him to reevaluate his life and career, shifting from a creative director to a writer. He spent $5,000 on a coaching workshop, which helped him connect with who he truly was and pursue what mattered most to him. Hussein discusses the concept of work-life balance, arguing that it is more about fusion and bringing strengths from both areas. Drew and Hussein agree that it is important to be authentic and integrate personal and professional aspects of life. Entrepreneurship and Mentorship (9:42) Hussein defines entrepreneurship as the natural state of being human, pursuing ideas with vigor and joy. He describes his current focus on helping entrepreneurs grow and become more than they are through mentorship. Hussein explains that he prefers the term "mentor" over "coach" because he helps entrepreneurs understand and master principle...

This episode: From Rock Bottom to Reclaimed Purpose: How Ron Souers Turned Homelessness into Healing.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Initial Setup (0:04) Host Drew Deraney introduces Guest Ronald Souers. Drew thanks Christine Blodsdale for introducing Ron to PodPitch, which is how Ron found this show. Drew discusses the concept of life being linear until adversity disrupts it, introducing the three types of men: those who ignore adversity, those who blame others, and those who see it as an opportunity. Drew introduces Ron Souers and asks him to share his defining moment that transformed him from man number one or two to man number three. Ron's Transformative Moment (2:06) Ron shares his story of waking up homeless in DC, which led him to realize he needed help. He describes the cold reality of his situation and his decision to change his life. Ron explains the process of admitting his addiction and seeking help, which involved giving up his relationship with drugs. He discusses the initial struggle with taking responsibility for his actions and the role of his sponsor in guiding him. The Journey to Sobriety (6:01) Ron talks about his experience in a treatment center and the structure it provided. He describes the challenges of maintaining sobriety and the thoughts of using that still lingered. Ron emphasizes the importance of the 12-step program and the process of self-acceptance. He shares a specific incident where he had to take responsibility for his actions in a shared living situation. Discovering ADHD (7:01) Ron explains how he discovered he had ADHD after his job performance suffered. He describes the initial fear of losing his job and seeking help from a therapist. Ron shares his experience of being diagnosed with ADHD and the relief it brought. He discusses the challenges of managing ADHD and the importance of therapy in his recovery. Mindfulness and Professional Transformation (11:31) Ron talks about his introduction to mindfulness through his coach. He describes the initial skepticism and the transformative experience of practicing mindfulness. Ron explains how mindfulness helped him manage anxiety and build his business. He discusses...

This episode: From Tragedy to Triumph: Candice Snyder on Resilience, Gratitude, and Mental Health Advocacy.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast (0:00) Host Drew Deraney introduces Guest Candice Snyder on the podcast, expressing gratitude for the introduction by Rob Wentz. Drew discusses the concept of life being linear and how external circumstances can change our paths. He categorizes women into three types: those who ignore adversity, those who see it as a barrier, and those who take action to overcome it. Drew highlights Candice as an example of Woman number three, who takes proactive steps to overcome adversity. Candice's Journey from Dental Hygienist to Direct Sales (2:31) Candice shares her background, including her father's influence in choosing a career in dental hygiene. She describes her initial interest in liberal arts and law but ultimately pursuing dental hygiene due to her father's guidance. Candice recounts a life-changing injury that forced her to leave her career as a dental hygienist. She discovered direct sales through making her own jewelry and connecting with a representative who inspired her. Transition to Direct Sales and Personal Growth (4:01) Candice explains her involvement in direct sales for almost 10 years and the personal growth she experienced. She describes the impact of the company's decision to sell and her subsequent involvement with another company aligned with her science background. Candice shares her experience as a gratitude ambassador and the personal significance of being chosen for the program. She discusses the emotional impact of the virtual conference where she was recognized as a gratitude ambassador. Starting the Podcast and Focusing on Mental Health (7:23) Candice's life coach suggested starting a podcast, despite her initial reluctance due to technology. She describes the podcast's focus on mental health, suicide prevention, and stories of transformation and resilience. Candice shares her personal experience of losing her brother to suicide and her efforts to advocate for mental health causes. She highlights the importance of the podcast in providing a platform for highlighting lesser-known organizations and causes. Impact of Brother's Death and Advocacy Efforts (11:11) Candice discusses the impact of her brother's death on her family and her own persona...

This episode: Redefining Ability: Brilly Semenov on Self-Advocacy, Resilience, and Empowering Families.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Seminar (0:00) Host Drew Deraney introduces the podcast, mentioning it is the first live in-person event for “From Caving in to Crushing It" podcast. The interview is held at the Residence Inn by Marriott in Saddle River, New Jersey. Drew thanks Priscilla Leto, the founder and owner of the nonprofit Mission: Kid Success, for introducing the guest speaker, Brilly Semenov. The interview aims to discuss overcoming adversity and the different types of women who face it. Types of Women Facing Adversity (1:08) Drew explains the three types of women who face adversity: Woman number one who is unaware of adversity, Woman number two who sees it as a barrier, and Woman number three who sees it as an opportunity for self-awareness and growth. He emphasizes the importance of taking massive action to become a stronger woman. Drew invites Brilly to share a defining moment in her life that transformed her from her past self to her present self. Brilly's Journey and Self-Advocacy (2:43) Brilly shares her experience of growing up with cerebral palsy and the challenges she faced in middle and elementary school. She explains how she learned to advocate for herself and prove that people with different abilities can achieve their goals. Brilly discusses the importance of self-advocacy and how it helped her overcome obstacles and prove her capabilities to others. She emphasizes the need for inclusion and diversity in society. Challenges and Rewards of Overcoming Adversity (7:49) Drew and Brilly discuss the emotional challenges of dealing with unsolicited advice and judgments from others. Brilly shares how she handled these challenges by asking for permission to try new things and proving her capabilities. They talk about the importance of self-awareness and how it helps in advocating for oneself. Brilly highlights the rewards of accomplishing goals and sharing her success with others. Professional Services and Support for Families (8:27) Drew introduces Brilly's professional services and how she helps families and caregivers of individuals with disabilities. Brilly explains her process of understanding the needs of families and developing growth maps for their children.

This episode: From the Front Lines to Mental Health Advocacy: Troy Siewert’s Journey of Service, Crisis Intervention, and Growth.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Meeting (0:00) Guest Troy Siewert expresses gratitude for the invitation and thanks the host for the opportunity to speak. Host Drew Deraney introduces Troy Siewert and thanks Suzanne Taylor King for the introduction. Drew discusses the linear nature of life and how adversity can disrupt this linearity, introducing the concept of three types of men: those who are blind to adversity, those who blame others, and those who see adversity as an opportunity for growth. He identifies Troy as a representative of the third type of man who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth and asks Troy to share his defining moment that transformed him. Troy's Background and Early Career Challenges (2:56) Troy begins by thanking Drew for the compliment and explains that his transformation was not due to a single crisis but a series of events. He shares his background as a retired police lieutenant with 30 years of law enforcement experience, starting in 1992. Troy describes the lack of training in handling mental health crisis calls during his early years in policing, leading to frustration and ineffective responses. He recounts a pivotal moment when he was assigned to run a Crisis Intervention Team (CIT) program, which provided the training he needed to handle mental health crises effectively. Turning Point 1: Introduction to Crisis Intervention Training (6:07) Troy explains the initial resistance he felt towards the CIT training but acknowledges its pivotal role in his career and personal growth. He describes the week-long, 40-hour training class as one of the best he received, leading to the development of the Crisis Intervention Team. Troy shares his experience of handling mental health calls more effectively after the training and the positive impact it had on his officers and the community. He emphasizes the importance of proper training for officers to handle mental health crises effectively and reduce potential liability. Turning Point 2: Impactful Call with a Single Mother (6:54) Troy recounts a specific call involving a single mother with a son suffering from schizophrenia and the impact it had on him. He describes the challenging nature of the call, the use of cannabis counteracting the son's schizophrenia, and the successful resolution of the crisis. Troy shares the emotional moment when the mother hugged him, expressing gratitude for the care and s...

This episode: From Grief to Guidance: Jeannie Dougherty on Caregiving, Money, and Turning Adversity into Advocacy.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Meeting (0:02) Drew initiates the recording and introduces Jeannie Dougherty, expressing excitement about the discussion. Drew thanks Priscilla Leto for introducing Jeannie and sets the stage for the conversation. He discusses the linear view of life taught in childhood and how external circumstances can derail this path. Drew introduces the concept of three types of women: one with blind spots, one who sees adversity as a victim, and one who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth. Jeannie's Journey to Becoming a Caregiver Advocate (1:53) Jeannie shares her background, mentioning that both her parents passed away from Alzheimer's with no previous family history. She describes the financial exploitation her mother faced from a family member, which was hidden until after her death. Jeannie recounts her defining moment at her mother's grave site, where she realized she would not let the situation kill her and decided to make changes. She explains the impact of her parents' deaths and the financial exploitation on her family, emphasizing the importance of awareness and prevention. Impact of Parents' Illnesses and Financial Exploitation (3:55) Drew and Jeannie discuss the initial shock of Jeannie's father's Alzheimer's diagnosis and the lack of clear information from doctors. Jeannie shares her experience of her mother's Alzheimer's diagnosis and the control issues within her family. She describes the challenges of being the official caregiver and the emotional toll of dealing with financial exploitation. Jeannie reflects on the importance of addressing financial expectations and the need for open communication about final wishes. Transition to Caregiver Advocacy and Emotional Money Coaching (6:00) Jeannie talks about her job working for a federal government contractor, where she built a retirement readiness and caregiver program. She shares her experience of taking dance classes and discovering emotional behavioral learning, which led her to become an emotional money coach. Jeannie explains the concept of emotional money coaching and the importance of addressing family rules and emotions related to money. She discusses the impact of the pandemic on caregivers and the need for better support and resources for caregivers. Challenges and I...

This episode: Rediscovering the Treasures of Life: Mike & Karen Burkhard on Adversity, Love, and Passing Wisdom Forward.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Meeting (0:00) Host Drew Deraney introduces Mike and Karen Burkhard, thanking Frank Zaccari for the introduction. Drew discusses the concept of life being linear and how external circumstances can derail that path. He categorizes people into three types: those who don't see adversity, those who see it but blame others, and those who see it as an opportunity for growth. Drew sets the stage for Karen to share her defining moment that transformed her from Woman number one or two to the woman she is now. Karen's Defining Moment (2:25) Karen shares her upbringing in a loving home with a disciplinarian father and a gentle mother. She recounts her struggle with math and failing the New York State Regents at 14. Her father tutored her in algebra over the summer, and she passed the Regents with a 92, thanks to his mentorship. Karen reflects on how her father's faith in her taught her that she could achieve anything. Mike's Defining Moment (5:08) Mike shares his experience of his mother's battle with liver cancer and her eventual death at 58. He describes how his mother's illness made him realize the preciousness of life and the importance of total health. Mike explains how his mother's experience deepened his love for life and his children. He reflects on how his mother's death changed him from an internal to an external person, focusing on others' well-being. Similarities in Defining Moments (7:35) Drew asks Mike and Karen to touch on the similarities in their defining moments. Karen notes that both her parents were strong personalities and wonderful mentors who shaped her to pass on mentorship to others. Mike agrees, adding that his parents' influence led to a change in his emotions, from arrogance to a deeper love for life. Drew comments on how time doesn’t necessarily heal wounds and good memories remain important. Meeting and Early Careers (9:41) Drew transitions to discussing how Mike and Karen met and their early careers. Karen explains that their shared love of sports brought them together and that Mike made the first move at a dance.

This episode: Choosing Happiness Through Adversity: Christine Matus on Mindset, Motherhood, and Protecting Families with Special Needs.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Christine Matus' Introduction and Personal Background (0:04) Host Drew Deraney introduces Christine Matus, highlighting her as the 150th episode guest and expresses excitement about her presence. Drew discusses the concept of life being linear until external circumstances derail the path, introducing three types of women who face adversity differently. Christine Matus shares her journey from being unaware of adversity to recognizing it and taking action to become a stronger person. Christine recounts the birth of her daughter with Down syndrome and autism, describing the initial shock and the transformative dream she had. Transformative Moments and Mindset Shifts (3:17) Christine explains how her father's perspective and her husband's happiness influenced her mindset, leading her to choose happiness as a conscious decision. She describes the effort required to change her mindset and the importance of surrounding herself with positive and uplifting people. Christine shares her experiences of attending support groups and learning from other families with similar challenges. She emphasizes the importance of mindset work and the ongoing effort to maintain a positive outlook. Challenges and Adjustments During Pregnancy (6:33) Drew inquires about Christine's awareness during pregnancy, and Christine recounts the initial shock and the process of learning about her daughter's conditions. Christine discusses the decision to have an amniocentesis and her initial reluctance to face the reality of her daughter's conditions. She reflects on the emotional impact of the news and the support she received from her family and friends. Christine highlights the importance of being prepared and educated about special needs, especially for first-time parents. Navigating Special Needs and Legal Advice (14:10) Christine shares her journey of learning about her daughter's autism and the impact it had on their family. She discusses the importance of legal advice and the role of special needs trusts in protecting and supporting her daughter. Christine explains the different types of trusts available and the benefits of having them in place. She emphasizes the need for proper legal guidance to ensure the best outcomes for families with special needs. Professional Journey and...

This episode: Speak Your Mind: Mario Spano From Trauma to Truth and the Power of Men’s Mental Health.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Interview (0:07) Host Drew Deraney welcomes Guest Mario Spano and thanks him for joining the podcast. Drew explains the purpose of the interview, emphasizing the importance of guests being good human beings and contributing to the community. He mentions that Mario stands out from his competitors due to his unique approach and contributions. Drew introduces the concept of life's non-linear nature and the three types of men: those who are blind to adversity, those who see it as a barrier, and those who see it as an opportunity. Mario's Defining Moment (3:05) Drew asks Mario about the defining moment that transformed him from his past self to his current self. Mario reflects on his childhood and the dissonance he felt, including family trauma and substance abuse. He shares his decision to move out of his father's house at 18 and his intense focus on achieving success through hard work and education. Mario discusses the impact of his first child's birth, which was traumatic and led to a deep realization of his disconnection from his true self. Impact of Son’s Traumatic Childbirth (8:19) Mario describes the traumatic birth experience of his son Oliver, including a 36-hour labor and a C-section. He explains how the traumatic birth led to his first experience with depression and a realization of his disconnection from his heart and soul. Mario reflects on his previous life of overachieving and living for others, and how the birth of his child forced him to confront his true self. Drew and Mario discuss the concept of "gifts wrapped in sandpaper" and how difficult experiences can lead to personal growth. Personal and Professional Changes (14:46) Mario talks about the end of his marriage and the challenges of co-parenting from a distance. He shares his journey of self-discovery, including yoga, meditation, and spiritual exploration. Mario explains his transition from a corporate job to pursuing his passion for starting businesses and solving problems. He discusses the creation of his nonprofit, Speak Your Mind, which focuses on mental health awareness for men. Growth of Speak Your Mind (16:12) Mario provides an update on the growth of Speak Your Mind, including its social media presen...

This episode: Perfectly Imperfect: Bill Walters Turning Adversity, Caregiving, and Special Needs into Strength.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast (0:01) Host Drew Deraney initiates the recording and introduces Guest Bill Walters, expressing gratitude to Priscilla Leto for introducing them. Drew discusses the linear view of life taught in childhood and how external circumstances often derail this path. He introduces the three types of men: one who doesn't notice adversity, one who blames others, and one who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth. Drew invites Bill Walters to share his defining moment that transformed him into the person he is today. Bill Walters' Early Life and Adversity (1:41) Bill Walters shares his early life, including being born with hip dysplasia and having to learn to walk multiple times. He describes how he learned to read at a young age, using encyclopedias as entertainment. Bill recounts taking care of his mother for six years after his father's death, learning various caregiving skills. He shares the story of his daughter's educational journey and her success despite initial challenges. Balancing Caregiving and Personal Growth (3:43) Bill discusses the importance of adjusting to adversity and not complaining or blaming others. Drew asks Bill about his understanding of his father's instruction to take care of his mother. Bill explains that his father wanted him to see the real challenges his mother faced as she aged. He reflects on the balance between his personal life and caregiving responsibilities, including the physical toll it took on him. Professional Life and Business Ventures (11:03) Bill talks about his professional life as a financial advisor and his transition to Transamerica. He explains the name of his company, "Both Perfectly Imperfect Families," and its focus on helping families with atypical children. Bill describes his client base, which includes executives, small business owners, and families with special needs children. He emphasizes the importance of financial planning and the challenges families face in navigating government assistance for special needs children. Advice for Families with Special Needs Children (14:06) Bill advises families to start planning for their child's future by age 14, including guardianship, medical, and financial decisions.

This episode:  Warrior to Healer: Tom LaGrave’s Battle with Addiction and His Mission to Guide the Next Generation.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Initial Context (0:10) Host Drew Deraney discusses the linear path of life from childhood to adulthood and how internal circumstances can derail this path, leading to adversity. Drew introduces the concept of three types of men: one who doesn't see adversity, one who sees it as life happening to him, and one who sees it as an opportunity for growth. He asks Guest Thomas LaGrave to share a defining moment that transformed his life and how it impacted his professional and personal growth. Tom's Early Life and Military Service (3:16) Tom recounts his early life, starting with his first drink and drug at age 14 and his subsequent struggles with addiction. At age 18, Tom was kicked out of his father's house and joined the military, where he excelled in special forces training. Despite his success in the military, Tom continued to struggle with addiction, leading to his discharge after nine and a half years for drug use. Tom describes his return home and his father's ultimatum, which led him to enter a 90-day recovery facility. Transition to Recovery and Counseling (6:32) Tom explains the challenges of living life without drugs and alcohol, having been trained in the military to suppress emotions. At about a year into his recovery, Tom felt a fear of failure and the possibility of incarceration if he couldn't figure out how to live without substances. He decided to become an overnight counselor at a recovery facility for adolescents to learn how to live life and understand emotions. Over four years, Tom gained valuable insights and began a journey dedicated to helping adolescents transition to adulthood. Professional Development and Education (9:53) Tom discusses his transition from the recovery facility to becoming the director of a Boys and Girls Club, where he worked with children aged six to 18. Despite initial feelings of disrespect, he committed to staying and helping the children, which led to a better understanding of their needs. Recognizing his lack of formal education, Tom returned to school to obtain a bachelor's, master's, and certification in his field. He emphasizes the importance of being able to answer the questions and needs of the children he worked with, leading to his dedication to lifelong learning. Relapse and Personal Growth (11:53) Tom shares his experience of relap...

This episode: Breaking the Silence: Leo Marrs on Surviving Abuse, Reclaiming Identity, and Leading with Breath.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Meeting Introduction and Initial Connection (0:10) Host Drew Deraney thanks Guest Leo Marrs’ virtual assistant for introducing him and emphasizes the importance of meeting guests in person to build a connection. Drew discusses the concept of life's teachings and how external circumstances can derail plans, introducing the idea of three types of people: those who ignore adversity, those who blame others, and those who take action. He explains the concept of "Leo Marrs," a person who recognizes adversity and takes action to change their circumstances. Leo shares his background, mentioning his age (42) and two significant turning points in his life at 27 and 30. First Turning Point: Spiritual Experience and Depression (2:27) Leo describes a profound spiritual experience at 27 while visiting his father in Alaska, where he lost his sense of self and had a shattering realization. This experience led to a decade of inquiry and a period of depression as he struggled to reconcile his identity. Drew acknowledges the difficulty of understanding how someone can control depression despite significant life changes. Leo explains that the experience was a turning point but also led to a period of self-loathing and confusion. Second Turning Point: Discovering Trauma and Meeting a Partner (5:25) At 33, Leo discovered early childhood trauma that had influenced his life, leading to a realization that he had misinterpreted his world and self-worth. He met a partner who initially treated him well but later revealed a sociopathic personality, using his vulnerabilities against him. Leo describes the initial stages of the relationship, which felt like a level-up, but eventually led to a series of assaults and manipulation. The partner's manipulative behavior included calling the police on Leo, leading to a traumatic experience and a police report. The Relationship's Deterioration and Its Impact (27:30) Leo shares how the relationship deteriorated, with the partner becoming increasingly controlling and violent. He describes the partner's attempts to manipulate and defame him after he left the relationship, leading to significant personal and professional losses. Leo emphasizes the importance of recognizing when someone shows their true nature and the dangers of giving second chances to the wrong people. The partner's defamation efforts included imp...

This episode: From 9/11 Trauma to Dude Nation: Ben Curtis on Redefining Masculinity, Healing, and Turning Adversity Into Art.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Life's non-linear path and how we respond to adversity. (0:11) Ben Curtis shares his story of overcoming life's adversities with resilience and gratitude. Personal growth and overcoming adversity through different perspectives. (2:20) Host Drew Deraney: 3 types of men respond to adversity - victim, survivor, or warrior. Ben Curtis: Adversity is opportunity for growth, not a barrier. Life changes after 9/11 and personal growth. (5:40) Ben recounts life-changing events before and after 9/11, including PTSD and spiritual growth. Tisch School of the Arts, personal experiences, and family dynamics. (8:01) Ben’s family dynamics and personal experiences influenced his decision to pursue acting and theater. Drew’s son's life coach, Jim Stroker, shared a story about Ally Stroker, a wheelchair-bound actress who attended Tisch School of the Arts, inspiring the speaker to pursue their dreams. Healing, identity, and sexuality through adversity. (14:50) Ben reflects on his upbringing, parents' divorce, and father's journey as an openly gay minister. Personal growth, trauma, and resilience after 9/11. (16:59) Ben reflects on his experiences after 9/11, including their struggle with depression and anxiety, and how they found help through therapy and medication. He has since become a mental health advocate and helps others with PTSD, veterans, and those struggling with depression and suicide. Reclaiming personal branding and creative expression. (20:39) Ben reclaims "dude" as a source of empowerment through art and self-expression. Personal struggles with addiction and legal issues. (23:01) Ben reflects on past experiences with addiction and legal issues, wondering how their life would be different without those events. PTSD, addiction, and healing through art and self-awareness. (25:39) Ben shares his personal journey with PTSD and addiction, using art and film to cope and help others. He emphasizes the importance of addressing root causes of suffering, rather than just symptoms, to achieve freedom and well-...

This episode:  From Gas Pumps to Guard Duty: Brad Carey on Hustle, Humility, and the Power of Kindness and Calculated Risks.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Kindness and small world connections. (0:00) Host Drew Deraney recounts encounter with gas station attendant who shared personal story and revealed he went to high school with the host's oldest son. Drew reflects on the encounter as a reminder that small acts of kindness and connection can have a profound impact on our lives. Personal growth and business ventures. (3:02) Drew identifies three types of men: blind spots, victim blaming, and transformative action. Brad Cary reflects on past mistakes and decisions, seeking self-improvement and personal growth. He starts Airbnb business, seeking financial independence and avoiding traditional employment. Brad discusses real estate investing, including rental arbitrage and property management. He shares lessons learned from experience, including the importance of insurance and trust-building with clients. Financial struggles and pursuing a better life. (10:49) Brad Cary struggled with business debt after buying a property. He had to take out loans for business expenses and lost money. Brad reflected on past decisions and decided to pursue a better path. Sales career goals and Air National Guard experience. (14:55) Brad joined the Air National Guard to pay off debts and gain a leg up in life. He's been in the process of joining for almost a year, waiting for boot camp. Brad wants to pursue a career in sales during his time in the Air National Guard. He believes sales is a good fit for him due to his social personality and ability to build relationships. Taking calculated risks and staying optimistic in life and business. (21:53) Brad Carey advises young people to take calculated risks and stay optimistic in life and business.   To learn more about Brad’s mission, go to his LinkedIn profile at https://www.linkedin.com/in/brad-cary-4b00562a0/             or his email at bradcary02@gmail.com    Brad Cary Bio Brad Cary is a 22-year-old entrepreneur...

This episode: From NICU to New Beginnings: How Susie Taylor Turned Tragedy Into a Storytelling Mission That Heals and Empowers.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Initial Meeting (0:00) Host Drew Deraney thanks the person who introduced them to Susie Taylor, mentioning a networking event hosted by Suzanne Taylor King (STK). Drew explains the concept of life being linear and how external circumstances can derail it. He introduces three types of women: those with blind spots, those who blame external factors, and those who see adversity as an opportunity. Susie Taylor is introduced as the third type of woman who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth. Susie Taylor's Defining Moment (3:08) Susie Taylor shares her story of becoming a public relations professional and coordinating a statewide election campaign. Susie's water broke at 19 weeks, leading to the birth of her son Evan at 26 weeks gestation. Evan spent five months in the hospital, and Susie had to stay home to care for him. Susie and her husband decided she would stay home to care for Evan, who had a brain hemorrhage and hydrocephalus. Evan's Health Challenges and Susie's Adaptation (7:57) Evan suffered from hydrocephalus and had a shunt in his brain, requiring constant care. Susie describes the daily routines and medical appointments required to care for Evan. Evan had seizures, and Susie had to learn medical terms to communicate with doctors. Susie's son Philip was born 16 months after Evan and had ADHD, while their third son Derek had absence seizures. Philip and Derek's Lives (14:20) Philip became a dog musher in Utah, coordinating dog sled rides for tourists. Susie explains how Philip's ADHD helped him excel in dog sledding. Derek had absence seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy, which affected his ability to join the Marines. Derek eventually grew out of his seizures and managed to get off his medication, but he still needs to be careful about his health. Evan's Passing and Susie's Reflection (21:05) Evan had severe pain due to a herniated fundoplication, leading to a surgery that he never recovered from. Evan developed sepsis and passed away on Susie and her husband's wedding anniversary. Susie reflects on the legacy Evan left behind and the impact...

This episode: From Betrayal to Breakthrough: How Sheila Williams Reclaimed Her Power and Now Coaches Men to Do the Same.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Technical Difficulties (0:05) Host Drew Deraney and Guest Sheila Williams exchange greetings and discuss minor technical difficulties. Drew thanks David Quick and Jojo LaRiccia for introducing Sheila to the host. Drew discusses the concept of life being a linear path and how external circumstances can derail it. He introduces the three types of women: those who ignore adversity, those who blame others, and those who see adversity as an opportunity for growth. Sheila's Transformation Journey (3:09) Drew asks Sheila to share the defining moment that transformed her life. Sheila reflects on her past relationships and the realization that her partner was having an affair. She describes the wake-up call she received and how it led to a shift in her mindset. Sheila emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and taking control of one's thoughts and beliefs. Rebuilding Herself and Her Support System (10:06) Drew inquires about the support system Sheila had during her transformation. Sheila mentions her youngest son, who was a source of inspiration and support. She describes how she shifted her focus to fun and play to improve her mental health. Sheila discusses the importance of reprogramming her thought patterns and focusing on what she wants. Professional Shifts and Coaching (12:09) Drew asks about Sheila's professional journey and how it shifted after her personal transformation. Sheila shares her experience of moving from corporate training to opening a childcare center and then back to corporate training. She explains how her new mindset allowed her to find a more fulfilling role in corporate training. Sheila discusses her transition to coaching full-time and her focus on coaching men. The Impact of Coaching on Men (15:18) Drew and Sheila discuss the importance of men seeking coaching and the unique perspective women coaches can offer. Sheila shares a success story of a male client who had a breakthrough in managing household chores and resentment. She emphasizes the importance of giving men the choice to change their mindset and behavior.

This episode: The Masculine Myth: Scott Raven on Breaking Free from Burnout and Building a Legacy.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Scott Raven's Introduction and Life Philosophy (0:06) Host Drew Deraney introduces Guest Scott Raven and thanks Jim Swan for the introduction. Drew discusses the linear path of life and how external circumstances can derail it. He categorizes men into three types: those who don't notice adversity, those who blame everything, and those who see adversity as an opportunity. Scott Raven is introduced as the third type of man who sees adversity as an opportunity to become stronger. Scott Raven's Health Scare and Career Challenges (1:46) Scott Raven shares his significant health scare in 2017, including severe chest pains and high blood pressure. Scott reflects on his life in Atlanta, chasing bigger titles and pay, and his poor relationship with his boss. He describes the impact of a company merger on his job security and his initial denial of the situation. Scott's mid-year performance evaluation in June 2017 highlights his lack of self-awareness and accountability. The Turning Point and Personal Reflection (4:07) Scott's job elimination in August 2017 leads to a deep sense of identity loss and depression. His struggle with alcoholism and the realization of his acute anxiety disorder. Scott's decision to address his anxiety and the perseverance required him to run a marathon despite his condition. His medical journey and the importance of addressing the root cause of his anxiety. Entrepreneurial Ventures and Lessons Learned (7:18) Scott's transition to entrepreneurship and the challenges of becoming a franchisee. His reflection on the failure of his franchise venture and the lessons learned about self-reflection and accountability. Scott's shift in focus to helping others achieve a happy flow state professionally and personally. The importance of addressing internal causes of stress and the need for men to seek help for anxiety. The Importance of Relational Success and Integrated Life (10:48) Drew and Scott discuss the difference between transactional and relational success. Scott emphasizes the myth of work-life balance and the importance of integrating thoughts, behaviors, and actions for harmony. The role of...

This episode: From Japan to Joy: How Andrew Darlow Turned Life’s Detours Into Purpose and Photography.   Here’s what you’ll learn about: Introduction and Background of Guest Andrew Darlow (0:00) Host Drew Deraney thanks Sajjad Hussein for introducing him to Andrew Darlow and recounts their initial meeting at a networking event on March 7, 2024. Drew discusses the concept of linear life and how external circumstances can derail it, introducing three types of men: those who are blind to adversity, those who blame external factors, and those who see adversity as an opportunity. Drew introduces Andrew Darlow as the embodiment of the third type of man, who sees adversity as an opportunity for growth and massive action. Andrew Darlow begins sharing his story, starting with a significant event at age 17 when he was offered a scholarship to high school in Japan. Experience in Japan and Cultural Adjustments (2:35) Andrew Darlow describes his experience of moving to Japan at age 18, where he lived with a host family and attended Japanese high school. He shares anecdotes about cultural differences, such as students balancing cleaning duties and the importance of removing shoes inside the home. Andrew recounts his first speech in Japanese to the entire student body, which was translated by his host father. He discusses the process of learning Japanese, including using books like "Japanese in 10 Minutes a Day" and attending a crash course at the University of Washington. Return to the U.S. and College Education (8:52) Andrew Darlow talks about his return to the U.S. and his decision to attend The College of New Jersey, which had an exchange program with a university in Japan. He explains how his college experience allowed him to continue learning Japanese and explore his passion for Japan. Andrew mentions staying in touch with his host family and visiting them again in Japan. He discusses his major in business and finance and how his interest in photography influenced his career choices. Entrepreneurial Journey and Photography Career (10:45) Andrew Darlow describes his first job at a family-owned printing company, where he combined his passion for photography with his work. He shares how he learned Photoshop and helped build a studio, eventually working on projects for companies like Rolex and the New York Times. Andrew explains the challenges and opportunities of being self-employed in the photography industry, focusing on organizing and printing photos. He discusses the importance of referral partners and how he h...