You can’t swipe your way into secure love if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode.
This week, I’m getting real about what happened when I was forced to slow down — and what it revealed about my own patterns around productivity, self-worth, and why "resting" in life or taking a break from dating can feel so damn triggering… especially if you’re someone who’s always doing the most.
We’re talking about:
If you’ve been feeling burnt out, anxious, or like love is taking too long to arrive — this episode is for you.
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What if your greatest heartbreak could become your most powerful transformation?
In this raw conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Meagan Norris – former lawyer turned life and divorce coach who revolutionized her entire life after her divorce. She shares how she left a marriage that looked perfect on paper but felt deeply wrong in her body, and transformed that pain into purpose.
But this isn't just a divorce story. It's a masterclass in the exact emotional alchemy required to find extraordinary love at any age.
Meagan reveals how the same skills that helped her create a peaceful divorce against all odds – managing emotions, validating herself, and focusing relentlessly on her vision – are precisely what create magnetic attraction in dating. Her journey illuminates why so many women struggle to find authentic partnership when they're unconsciously outsourcing their worth to potential partners.
Whether you're healing from heartbreak, stuck in situationships, or simply ready to call in a deeper love, Megan's wisdom offers the roadmap to becoming the woman who naturally attracts what she desires – by becoming complete in herself first.
In This Episode You'll Discover:
About Meagan Norris: Meagan is a single mom to three children who transformed her life through radical self-responsibility. After leaving her law career in 2010, she discovered life coaching in 2019, which gave her the tools to navigate her divorce with unprecedented speed and grace. Now, she helps women rewrite their divorce stories through her signature programs: The Divorce Accelerator and Beyond Divorce membership.
Connect with Megan: Follow Meagan and learn more about working with her on Instagram: @MeganNorrisCoaching
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In today’s episode, I’m sharing a juicy story from my single days—when I unintentionally created a dating challenge that completely changed how I showed up in love. Spoiler: I didn’t meet my husband during the challenge, but it was one of the biggest shifts that helped me become magnetic and emotionally grounded in dating.
You'll learn:
This episode is for you if:
✨ You’re tired of dating feeling like a chore
✨ You keep overthinking every text, glance, or comment from the guy
✨ You want to feel confident, grounded, and have fun while dating
Let’s connect:
DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove or email me at shonda@shondahoward.com and tell me your biggest dating energy block—I’d love to help.
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In this episode of the Finding Love After 30 podcast, we dive deep into a topic that so many of you have been asking about: how to meet high-quality men in real life, without relying on dating apps. If you're tired of swiping and feeling frustrated with online dating, this episode is for you! I’ll be sharing my top strategies for meeting men offline, but before we dive into the “how,” we’ll focus on an essential mindset shift: who before how. This is all about getting your energy aligned so you can show up as your most magnetic self before putting yourself out there. Once you've got your mindset right, I'll give you actionable tips on where to go and how to meet men in the real world.
Key Topics Covered:
· Why it’s important to take a break from dating apps when you’re feeling burned out
· The importance of who before how—cleaning up your mindset and energy before taking action
· How to connect with your future self to boost your confidence and attract the right energy
· Practical, real-life strategies to meet men, including switching up your routine, trying new activities, and joining local events
· The role of being open, curious, and present in creating magnetic energy that draws people in
Resources Mentioned:
· Book a call with me here– Join my Find The One program for personalized support in your dating journey.
· Instagram – DM me with your questions or share your experiences with implementing these strategies!
· Take Action: Listen in, and don’t forget to DM me on Instagram @shondahowardlove to let me know which strategies you’re trying. I’m here to support you every step of the way!
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Episode Summary:
In this episode Shonda welcomes special guest and business coach, Lauren Ciesco. Together, they explore how the principles of embodiment, emotional healing, and inner guidance apply to attracting your soulmate (and soulmate clients if you’re a business owner). Lauren shares her personal journey of going from emotionally unavailable to open-hearted in dating, and how that parallels her experience of building a thriving, soul-aligned business. Tune in to learn why “the how” isn’t the most important factor in success—whether in love or in business—and how trusting yourself, processing emotions, and embracing your full self can create magnetic results.
The Power of Embodiment
Emotional Work & Safety
From “Pick Me” to “I’m Chosen”
Feminine Energy & Flow
Parallels Between Love & Business
Lauren Ciesco helps soul-led entrepreneurs unlock their full potential—financially, energetically, and strategically. With 20 years of experience in sales and business, she blends deep embodiment work with intuitive sales and money coaching, guiding creatives, coaches, and service providers to make money doing what they love without the burnout, hustle, or sleazy tactics.
After leaving a high-level corporate sales career that left her feeling empty, Lauren redefined success on her own terms. Now, she’s on a mission to help others do the same—teaching them to step into their power, trust their inner guidance, and build businesses that light them up and fill their bank accounts.
Check out Lauren's website and FREE masterclass library HERE and Follow her on Instagram HERE!
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If you're single and Dreading Valentine's day then this is for YOU! I'm sharing my recent masterclass: Non-Sucky Valentine's day.
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After a weekend in NYC (where I may have cried every ten blocks), I had a massive realization about what actually matters when it comes to meeting an amazing man.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
✨ The surprising truth about the year before I met my husband (and why it was just as amazing as the year I met him)
✨ The biggest mindset shift you need to make if you’re serious about finding love
✨ How to shake up your routine, shift your energy, and become magnetic AF
✨ Why your single season is just as important as your relationship season—and how to actually enjoy it
If you’ve been waiting for love to start living, this episode is your wake-up call.
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In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked yet powerful aspects of dating: inner safety. If you’re tired of dating feeling like a high-stakes game where you’re always waiting for validation or reassurance, this episode is for you.
Inner safety is the sense of calm, security, and self-trust that comes from within. It’s what keeps you grounded, confident, and able to navigate dating without getting overly attached or anxious. When you build this internal sense of safety, dating becomes less of a rollercoaster and more of a steady, enjoyable process.
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Key Takeaways
Practical Tips
Listen to This Episode If…
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This week I’m interviewing life and business coach Lindsey Mango about how she created her DREAM relationship! In this episode Lindsey breaks down:
Lindsey helps women create lives and businesses that they are obsessed with everyday possible through her program The Anything but Average Life Membership.You can learn more about the ABA Life membership here and follow Lindsey on IG for more inspo (and pics of her adorable new baby) here!
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In this week's episode I'm breaking down the importance of self-confidence when you're dating over 30 AND I'm giving you my hack for showing up securely as your most confident self to your next date! No more second guessing yourself, waiting around for him to ask you out again, and no more settling.
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In this week's episode I'm giving you a peak into my personal life and breaking down why you need to take a break from dating, and what you need to do instead if you want to find love this year!
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This week I’m giving you a peak into a client’s journey to find love, how she became magnetic and started attracting better quality men (and more opportunities in her career and life!) and the sneaky way she started self-sabotaging.
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In this week's episode I'm breaking down exactly why you need to stop chasing a "spark" in dating if you want to find a healthy, committed relationship - and what to look for instead!
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This week we’re talking about the popular dating advice to “date in your league”. If you’re frustrated with the types of men you seem to date (ghosters, bread-crumbers, chads, d-bags) then the best strategy might be to change your league! Listen to find out how!
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In this episode I’m unpacking the frustrating world of mixed signals in dating. Inspired by a thought-provoking quote I saw on Instagram, I’m sharing my insights to help you interpret those mixed signals and I’m giving you a fool proof texting strategy for when this happens to you.
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In this episode I'm breaking down a unique theory about dating that will help you stop feeling like you’ve wasted time on the wrong man. Whether you've faced heartbreak, ghosting, or situationships, this perspective will offer you comfort and motivation to keep moving forward and stay in the dating game with an open heart so can find your person.
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Ashleigh Renard is the best selling author of the book "Swing" - a new genre of HOT SELF HELP! We're talking all things finding empowerment in relationships, dating and the bedroom. You can find Ashleigh on Instagram here
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In this episode I'm giving you some life updates and breaking down why you need to stay unattached + cultivate your intuition in dating if you want to stay sane and find your person.
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Today you're getting my post Abraham-Hicks workshop download (Part 1!) I share my personal journey with Abraham-Hicks, and the lessons I learned from attending the workshop.
Conversation Highlights:
{10:20} Abraham
{15:30} My journey with Abraham’s teaching
{26:35} Have a soft desire with no resistance.
{36:00} Release yourself from needing to defend yourself.
A couple of my fav Abraham videos to listen to:
https://youtu.be/a4HxcEHeaTo
https://youtu.be/Fj0iYY1ZUiE
Abraham-Hicks website: https://www.abraham-hicks.com/
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In this episode I'll be breaking down two tools that you can implement immediately to help you shift your thinking and make peace with your current circumstances so you can begin to change them.
Conversation Highlights:
{04:40} When your thoughts are negative.
{08:05} Recognize the difference between thoughts and truths.
{09:00} Define your negative thoughts that keep surfacing and separate them from yourself and choose a new thought.
{12:58} Acceptance vs resistance
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