Is sex supposed to be this hard?
Let’s be honest...some of us said “I do” and still weren’t ready for what sex inside marriage would feel like.This week on Daring Discussions, we’re talking all things Sex & The Christian Wife with @alexisfreddyb . We discuss mismatched desire to pleasure guilt, and what it means to be a whole woman in a Christian marriage.Whether you were taught that sex is a duty, you’re trying to rediscover your sexual self after years of giving without receiving, or you’re just tired of feeling like you don’t have a voice in your own bedroom… this conversation is for you.We’re getting into:💍 The difference between duty and desire💍 What to do when your sex drive doesn’t match your husband’s💍 Why pleasure isn’t selfish—it’s sacred💍 How to communicate your needs without shame or shutdownYou can love Jesus, love your husband, and still be learning how to love yourself intimately.Press play and meet us at the intersection of faith, freedom, and God Given sexual joy!#SexAndTheChristianWife #DaringDiscussions #FaithAndSexuality #MarriedAndSaved #ChristianWifeLife #SexAndSanctificationAlexis Freddy Bhttps://alexisfreddyb.com/https://www.instagram.com/alexisfreddyb/
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Help Me, We Don’t Have Enough Sex (Workshop Replay)In this special episode of Daring Discussions, I’m sharing the full replay of my live workshop for Christian husbands navigating the quiet frustration of sexual dissatisfaction in a sexless marriage.We talk about the real reasons intimacy dries up, the emotional and spiritual toll it takes, and—most importantly—how to rebuild a marriage bed that’s full of connection, freedom, and mutual satisfaction.If you’ve ever felt unwanted, unseen, or unsure how to fix the growing gap in your marriage, this conversation is for you.No shame. No judgment. Just real talk, rooted in truth, healing, and hope.In this episode: • Why sexual frustration is deeper than just “wanting more” • The hidden impact of purity culture on married sex • How to lead with love, not pressure • Practical steps to rebuild desire, safety, and passion with your wife
This week on Daring Discussions, I’m joined by Sheila Gregoire author of The Great Sex Rescue and a fierce advocate for healthy, mutual intimacy in #EvangelicalChristian marriages. We’re talking about the toxic teachings so many of us were handed, and how to unlearn what hurts so we can make room for intimacy that actually honors God and both partners.In this episode, we get into:-The damaging belief that sex is a wife’s “duty”-What scripture actually says about pleasure, consent, and connection-Why frequency doesn’t equal faithfulness-How to rebuild intimacy when your sex life was shaped by fear or obligationIf you’ve ever felt conflicted, disconnected, or confused about sex within your marriage....this is your episode. You’re not broken, sis. There’s a better way.Press play and let’s Discuss
If you’ve ever asked, “What does the bible say about sex?”... this conversation is for you.
Let’s be honest, church taught a lot of us what not to do when it came to sex, but not enough about what sex is for.
In this episode of Daring Discussions, I’m joined by Pastor Joel Moorefield Jr., and we’re digging into what scripture really says about sex, not just rules, but God’s design, intention, and heart behind it all.
We’re unpacking:
Why sex is spiritual (and not just physical)
What scripture says about pleasure, marriage, and desire
The weight of shame and how bad theology can keep people bound
How to ask "Is this allowed?" without getting stuck in fear or legalism
What it looks like to unlearn purity culture and still honor holiness
Bring your questions, your Bible, and your curiosity. Let’s Discuss!
Whew—this one’s for everybody trying to live holy with followers watching 👀
This week on Daring Discussions, I’m joined by Christian comedian Will Johnson and we’re digging into the real tension between sex, influence, and faith.
What happens when you’re in the spotlight, trying to date, and still trying to honor God with your body? How do you protect your image without losing yourself—or your integrity?
We’re talking:
Navigating sex & dating when people expect perfection
Setting boundaries without being performative
Public pressure vs. private convictions
Why being saved doesn’t mean you stop being human
This conversation is funny, honest, and full of wisdom for anyone trying to balance influence and intimacy without losing their mind or their witness.
Let’s be real, sis #dating is already stressful enough. Add in anxiety, being a Black woman, trying to honor God, and navigate your own desires? That’s a lot.This week on Daring Discussions, I’m sitting down with licensed psychologist and my good sis, Dr. Chanda Reynolds / paging.dr.chanda talk about the intersection of Sex & Anxiety—and not just in the bedroom, but in our dating lives, our minds, and our faith walk.We’re discussing:💭 How anxiety creeps into dating, intimacy & decision-making💭 The unique pressure of being a Black woman, Christian, and “strong” while wrestling with anxiety💭 How spiritual bypassing and “churchy” messaging sometimes keep us from healing💭 What moral masochism is and why so many of us confuse suffering with righteousness💭 How to hold space for both faith and your mental health without shameThis one is full of freedom, truth, and practical tools to help you show up whole...in your faith, your relationships, and your own body.Like, Share, Subscribe!
In this episode of Daring Discussions, I’m joined by the incredible Shanae Adams of Wellness From the Womb—a doula and clinical psychotherapist who understands the deep connection between our bodies, minds, and relationships
We’re talking all things Sex & Maternal Health—what happens to our bodies and our minds before, during, and after birth. We’re getting into postpartum healing, intimacy after trauma, reproductive justice, and why Black maternal health has to be part of our sexual wellness conversation.
This is for the mamas, the mamas-to-be, and the folks who’ve ever felt unseen or disconnected in their bodies after giving life. Sis, your story matters. Your pleasure still matters. And you are allowed to heal.
Hit play and let’s discuss 💜
Sex, intimacy, and relationships don’t end after an HIV diagnosis—but the stigma surrounding it is still holding people back.
This week on Daring Discussions, I’m joined by LaDeia Joyce, an advocate and educator who is changing the narrative around HIV, pleasure, and self-worth. We’re talking about what it really means to navigate love, dating, and sex while living with HIV, and why the conversation needs to change.
In this episode, we break down:
✔️ The truth about U=U (Undetectable = Untransmittable)
✔️ The impact of HIV stigma on relationships and mental health
✔️ The challenges and realities of disclosure when dating
✔️ How faith and sexuality can coexist after a diagnosis
This conversation is necessary, insightful, and full of real talk. Whether you’re living with HIV or just want to be more informed, this episode is for you. Hit play and let’s break the stigma together.
#HIVAwareness #SexAndHIV #DaringDiscussions #HIVStigma #FaithAndSexuality #SexualHealth
Menopause is not the end of your sex life, but let’s be real—it does change things. So how do you navigate intimacy when your body is moving through a whole new season?
This week on Daring Discussions, I’m joined by Dr. Shamyra Howard-Blackburn, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist, and we’re breaking down what menopause really means for your pleasure, confidence, and relationships. From vaginal dryness and shifting libidos to rediscovering intimacy on your terms, we’re talking about how to keep your sex life fulfilling—without shame, fear, or feeling like your best years are behind you.
This one is for every woman who’s been told that menopause means the end of all that it means to be a woman. It doesn’t. Hit play and let’s get into it.
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Let’s talk about it—your attachment style is absolutely showing up in your sex life, whether you realize it or not.
Are you someone who craves closeness and reassurance after sex? Or do you pull away when things start feeling too intimate? Maybe you’re out here wondering why you always seem to attract the same type of partner.
This week on Daring Discussions, I’m sitting down with a relational trauma therapist to break down how our attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—shape the way we experience intimacy. We’re getting into childhood wounds, emotional safety, and what it actually takes to build healthy sexual and emotional connections.
Because listen, sis—understanding yourself is the first step to healing your patterns. And we’re doing that work together. Hit play, take some notes, and let’s grow!
What does salvation have to do with sex? In this episode of Daring Discussions, I’m joined by Sefana Samples, a Christian family and relationship coach who specializes in helping you become successfully single!. This Daring Discussion is about the ongoing tension between faith, sexuality, desire, and intimacy.We’re breaking down how to honor God with your body and your desires, what purity culture gets wrong, and how to navigate singleness without shame. Can you embrace your sexuality while staying rooted in your faith? The answer might surprise you.This episode is full of grace, truth, and some real talk for anyone who’s ever felt stuck between their spiritual walk and human needs. Hit that play button, and let’s have the conversation you didn’t know you needed!
Fatherhood and intimacy—how do they coexist? In this episode of Daring Discussions, I’m chopping it up with Larry Jr. from Daps with Dads, and we’re getting into it all.We’re talking about what it really means to date a single father (and why it’s not for the weak), how fatherhood shifts a man’s understanding of intimacy, and the hard realities of co-parenting. Plus, we’re diving into the dreams and challenges of building healthy blended families and raising kids to learn from our past mistakes instead of repeating them.Whether you’re a dad, dating one, or just curious about how fatherhood changes the way men approach relationships, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it!Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe—this one’s real, raw, and necessary.
Girlfraans, you ever wonder what research has to say about good sex? Well, today we’re getting ALL the tea! I’m joined by Dr. Candice Hargon—author of Good Sex—and she’s breaking down what science says about pleasure, desire, and intimacy. We’re talking about how to unlearn sexual myths, reclaim your body, and use knowledge to empower your love life.This episode is for all my sisters trying to balance faith, freedom, and feeling good in their own skin. Trust me, you’ll be taking notes on this one!Grab your headphones, a journal, and a little bit of courage because we’re having the conversation you need. Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe—let’s learn and grow together!
Here is the link to get your copy of Good Sex:Here is the link to the Sexual Possibilities Inventory:
Season 2 premiere!!!
Do you spend money like a Christian?
I’m joined by the incredible Aronissa Harris, Founder and CEO of The Money Clinic Ministries and Harris & Associates. Known as a Spiritual Financial Architect, Aronissa’s mission is to teach stewardship through the lens of discipleship.
Together, we dare to discuss the connection between faith, finances, pleasure and intimacy. How do your money habits reflect your values? How does financial stress impact your bedroom? And most importantly, how can we align our spending with the truth of the gospel?
You don’t want to miss this real, raw, and righteous conversation about stewarding your finances and building stronger relationships in the process.
Let’s Discuss!
Let’s talk about orgasms—18 different types to be exact! This season finale is one for the books, y’all. We’re diving into the science of pleasure, breaking down the anatomy, and defining what makes each type of climax unique. From clitoral to prostate, birthgasms to coregasms (yes, that’s a thing), this episode will leave you informed, empowered, and maybe even a little inspired.
PLUS, we’re answering a listener question about exploring new sensations in the bedroom and breaking down stigma around pleasure. You don’t want to miss this candid and educational conversation about the beauty and complexity of our bodies.
Let’s end this season on a high note. 😉
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TW/CW: Consent. Compliance sex. Overcoming sexual trauma. This episode of the Daring Discussions Podcast was RECORDED LIVE and isn’t an easy one, but it’s a necessary one. We’re getting straight to the heart of what it means to give and obtain consent, including the not often discussed topic of compliance sex—sex you go along with but don’t necessarily want to have. Together, we’ll explore how to reclaim your voice, set and respect boundaries, and begin the journey toward healing - which includes acknowledging our stories as someone who's been hurt or someone who has caused harm. If you’ve ever struggled with understanding consent, felt trapped in compliance sex, or are working through sexual trauma, this conversation is for you. You are not alone, and there is hope for restoration and wholeness.
This episode of Daring Discussions is the #sexeducation you've always known you needed.... but couldn't seem to find! We are talking all about Anatomy, Physiology, Sexual Health & Reproduction. This episode is heavily visual, consider watching on YouTube Let’s be real—most of us grew up in homes or churches where talking about this stuff was either awkward, avoided, or downright shameful. But here’s the thing: understanding how our bodies work is a vital part of honoring the temples God gave us. Here's an episode breakdown: * The anatomy of the uterus, vulva and penis (yes, I said it—anatomy is God’s design, and we’re talking about it). * Menstruation and Ovulation * What the Bible says about caring for our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:19-20 is the blueprint). *The woman with the issue of blood (Luke 8:43-48) and what her story teaches us about seeking healing, breaking shame, and trusting God with our health. Knowledge is the key to good stewardship, —learning to care for these bodies God gave us while unlearning all the myths and stigma. We’re taking it there, and I promise, you’ll walk away feeling informed, empowered, and maybe even a little less awkward. So grab your notebook, hit play, and let’s talk about it! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and drop a comment—I want to hear your thoughts.
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Who are you when the labels, the expectations, and the opinions of others are stripped away? That’s what we’re discussing today in this week’s episode of Daring Discussions. We’re learning about Sexual Identity—what it really means to embrace who God created us to be. You are made in God’s image (Genesis 1:27), full stop. The world might try to box you in, but God calls you worthy, chosen, and loved. Oh, and we’re talking about the Ethiopian eunuch (Acts8), Leah's journey through rejection (Genesis29), and Hannah's fertility struggles (1Samuel)—trust me, it’s got EVERYTHING to do with identity and belonging. Links Intimacy Insiders Email List Daring Discussions Sex & Relationships Convo Cards for Christians Naked & Unashamed Bible Study Sow a Seed (PayPal) Sow a Seed (CashApp) Sow a Seed (Venmo) Host
Here is Episode 2 of our series, “What Makes Us Seckual Beings" a look into the #CirclesofSexuality for Christians. The focus is all about #Intimacy. And no, I’m not just talking about candles and rose petals! We’re breaking down the nuances of intimacy, and defining different types of intimacy like: #emotional, #spiritual, physical, sexual, #financial, social—and how each one brings us closer to the people in our lives and to #God. As we bridge the gap between science and scripture, Genesis 2:24-25 leads the way. Some of your favorite biblical relationships like God & Adam, Adam & Eve, David & Jonathan, Ruth & Naomi teach us about how intimacy in all its forms requires open and authentic communication, trust, #vulnerability, and joy. Are you ready to move beyond surface-level connections and curate relationships that go the distance? This one’s for you! Links Intimacy Insiders Email List Daring Discussions Sex & Intimacy Convo Cards Naked & Unashamed Monthly Bible StudySow a Seed (PayPal)Sow a Seed (CashApp)Sow a Seed (Venmo) Host
We are kicking off a brand-new series, “What Makes Us Sexual Beings?” This series is about discovering all the layers of our sexuality. Using both the Circles of Sexuality model and God's word, we are truly bridging the gap between science and scripture. In part 1 of the series, we’re starting with Sensuality, a key way that we connect with ourselves and experience the world around us. Today’s episode we are having Daring Discussions that defines Sensuality, as well as body image, skin hunger, the sexual response cycle, and fantasies. Psalm 139:13-14 teaches us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” It’s time to see yourself the way God sees you—no shame, no judgment, just appreciation and compassion. And the Song of Solomon? We go there, too. That book celebrates physical attraction, intimacy, and sensual connection as part of God’s good design for us. My hope is that after this episode you get comfortable with what it means to be a sensual being, embracing your desires, your body, and every layer that makes you whole. (I also hope you've subscribed and will return each week for the rest of the series) Here is the link to the Circles of Sexuality Model that will guide this series: https://bit.ly/4hNi1xN I would love to have you join the Intimacy Insiders by hitting that subscribe button, leaving a comment, and following along on our Real. Righteous. Sex Talk. Journey!
