Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description:If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep going back to porn even when I don’t want to?” — this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we’re uncovering why so many men sabotage their progress when trying to quit porn, even when they’re motivated, committed, and know what’s at stake. Whether you're struggling with porn addiction, trying to break the habit of watching porn, or working to rebuild trust after betrayal, this episode dives into the root of why you keep slipping—and how to stop. You’ll learn: Why you keep relapsing during porn recovery even when you really want to change The emotional and psychological patterns that lead to self-sabotage during addiction recovery What’s actually happening when you feel triggered, overwhelmed, or disconnected—and how that leads back to porn How to work through the internal stories like “I’m never going to change” or “This is just who I am” How men use porn as a way to escape feelings like shame, rejection, failure, and not being enough Why many men unintentionally destroy the intimacy and trust they’re trying to rebuild with their wives The real reason your past efforts to quit pornography haven’t worked—and what to do differently Tools that actually work to build lasting freedom from porn, heal your marriage, and create long-term change How to stop numbing, hiding, and isolating when you're in emotional pain Real client stories of men who broke free from long-term porn habits, repaired emotional connection, and finally felt proud of who they were becoming If you’ve tried porn blockers, accountability groups, or even therapy—but still feel like something deeper is keeping you stuck—this episode will help you identify the real reason for your porn struggles and finally give you a clear path forward. This is for men who are serious about: How to quit watching porn How to stop masturbating to porn How to recover after cheating or lying about porn use How to rebuild trust after porn addiction in marriage How to stop watching porn without white-knuckling How to heal shame after pornography use How to fix your relationship after betrayal What to do when your wife doesn’t feel safe after porn How to build emotional safety in marriage And most of all—how to become the man you want to be This episode offers a proven path to breaking free from porn, getting unstuck, and healing your relationship—from the inside out.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: Is she still scared he’s watching porn—even if he says he’s not? And he feels discouraged hoping that his good efforts might not be helping? You’re not alone. In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and porn recovery expert, explains why wives still fear their husband is using pornography… and what actually rebuilds trust. You’ll learn why porn urges come back in moments of stress, loneliness, disconnection, or emotional overwhelm—and how to resolve those urges by targeting the real root. Whether you’re trying to stop watching porn, heal after pornography betrayal, or rebuild your marriage after porn addiction, this episode gives you a clear, proven framework to: Understand why men turn to porn Stop porn urges by addressing emotional triggers Rebuild trust in marriage after pornography Heal betrayal trauma and restore connection Know what to do when she fears he’s still using porn This is for couples healing from porn addiction, porn use in marriage, secret pornography habits, or emotional damage caused by porn. Learn how to stop pornography at the root—and finally feel safe and connected again.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: In this powerful episode, we explore why pornography addiction recovery often leaves couples feeling stuck — even after the behavior stops. If you’re a husband who’s no longer watching porn but still feels attacked or discouraged when your wife brings up the past, or a wife who still feels pain, confusion, and fear even though he says he’s changed, this episode is for you. You’ll learn why healing from porn addiction is about more than just stopping the behavior. True porn addiction recovery requires repairing the emotional meaning behind the betrayal, rebuilding emotional safety in marriage, and learning how to respond to each other in a way that fosters connection — not shutdowns, not avoidance, and not silence. We break down: The emotional disconnect that happens after the behavior stops Why your wife still brings up the past, even if he’s “doing everything right” The difference between quitting pornography and rebuilding trust How to navigate painful conversations without spiraling into shame or defensiveness What wives need in order to feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe How husbands can support healing without feeling like they’re “never enough” Why stopping porn isn’t the finish line — it’s the starting point for emotional repair and real connection If you’re trying to heal your marriage after porn addiction, this conversation will help you understand each other more deeply — and move forward with clarity, compassion, and real tools. This episode is packed with practical insight for anyone navigating marriage after betrayal, porn addiction in marriage, and the painful gap that can remain even after someone has stopped watching pornography.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: When a man is working to overcome pornography, it’s not just about stopping the behavior—it’s about learning to handle the emotional triggers that used to lead him back to porn in the first place. But what happens when those triggers—like stress, disconnection, or escape—start creeping back in? In this powerful coaching session, you’ll hear a real couple navigate the emotional aftermath of porn addiction, where old patterns of distraction resurface and start to erode their connection again. What starts as “just being on the phone” quickly becomes a deeper emotional trigger for the wife—bringing up pain, fear, and the belief that she’s not enough. This episode explores what happens when unresolved wounds from porn use in marriage resurface, even after the behavior has stopped. You'll learn how subtle behaviors can trigger relational anxiety, how communication often breaks down when underlying shame or disconnection hasn’t been fully addressed, and why many wives feel caught between nagging and staying silent. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m doing better, but my wife still doesn’t feel safe,” “Why is she reacting so strongly to something small?” “I don’t know how to rebuild trust after porn,” …this episode will help you understand what’s really going on underneath the surface. We walk through: The hidden emotional triggers that linger after porn addiction recovery How wives internalize the impact of pornography use, even months or years later Why avoiding hard conversations leads to more disconnection The root fears that cause communication to break down How to reconnect through emotional honesty—not surface-level behavior change Whether you're early in the process or years into healing, this episode will give you insight into what it really takes to heal your marriage after pornography, break the cycle of emotional withdrawal, and move toward deeper connection, clarity, and safety.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, reveals the only plan you need to quit pornography in 2025 — and why everything you’ve tried before may have failed not because you’re broken, but because you’ve been focused on the wrong problem. Instead of managing urges, guarding against temptation, or just adding more filters and check-ins, this episode explores how pornography use is a coping mechanism — and the real key is learning how to identify and resolve the root cause driving the behavior. Sam shares a powerful analogy using a tipping water bucket to illustrate why men often relapse into porn even when they’re doing everything “right.” You’ll hear a real story from a husband trying to make sense of why he fell back into porn use, and how the issue wasn’t a lack of discipline — it was unresolved shame and emotional pain building up inside. You'll learn: Why the right porn recovery plan must address underlying issues like shame, low self-worth, emotional disconnection, and perfectionism How stress isn’t the root issue — but the emotional meanings attached to it are What wives need to understand about pornography addiction in marriage How husbands can rebuild trust in their marriage by showing their wives they’re doing the real emotional work Why focusing only on urge management keeps you stuck, tired, and ashamed Whether you're a husband struggling with pornography or a wife trying to understand the healing process, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a clear framework to finally move forward.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: After porn addiction is discovered in a relationship, one question almost always rises to the surface:“Why did you do it?” It’s one of the most difficult conversations couples face after betrayal trauma, especially when it involves porn addiction and marriage. Wives are often left reeling — trying to make sense of what happened, searching for answers, and feeling like their entire reality has shifted. Husbands, on the other hand, feel overwhelmed, defensive, or shut down — thinking, “I already told her everything. What more can I say?” In this episode, we break down why the question “Why did he watch porn?” keeps coming up, and why giving the “right answer” is never really the point.We’ll explore what’s actually going on beneath the surface — and how to respond in a way that leads to emotional connection after betrayal instead of more disconnection. You’ll learn: Why “just being honest” isn’t always enough to rebuild trust after pornography How this question is often tied to deeper needs for emotional connection and safety Why shame and disclosure can block real healing if not handled with clarity How couples can begin healing from betrayal without getting stuck in endless rehashing The real reason most conversations break down when porn addiction recovery begins — and how to change that dynamic Practical tools for both partners to navigate this with compassion and presence If you’re navigating trust after pornography, this episode will help you stop spinning in circles and start having the conversations that actually move you forward. Whether you're early in your porn recovery marriage journey or years into the process, this episode will help you understand how to talk through the pain — not around it — and finally feel like you're making progress together.  

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Episode Description: If you've been stuck in the cycle of pornography for years, trying everything from filters to accountability partners, but still feel like you’re not making progress — this episode will change the way you see everything. In today’s episode, Sam Tielemans breaks down why so many traditional approaches to porn addiction recovery leave men feeling discouraged, ashamed, and trapped in endless management strategies.  If you’ve ever been told you just need to “have a plan” or “avoid triggering situations,” this episode offers a powerful reframe: it’s not about controlling your environment — it’s about healing the root. You’ll hear real client stories about men who struggled with urges to watch porn during travel, late nights, and moments of disconnection — and why the real issue wasn’t the situation, but unhealed emotional wounds like low self-worth and fear of rejection. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: ✔️ Why returning to porn is predictable — and why it’s not about the scenario, it’s about the story underneath✔️ The truth behind “guardrail” strategies and why they don’t lead to real freedom✔️ How to stop managing symptoms and instead use tools that address emotional triggers and shame✔️ The power of accurate diagnosis: how identifying the real problem makes the path to change simple✔️ Why relapse prevention isn't about more willpower — it’s about root-level transformation✔️ How to build a plan that supports healing, not just behavior management If you’ve been worn down by porn urges, constantly falling back into old patterns, or questioning your ability to ever be free — you’re not broken. You’ve just been using the wrong map. This episode is for you if you're ready to: Learn how to stop porn urges at the root Address the hidden link between shame and self-esteem and compulsive behaviors Rebuild connection in your marriage and understand the truth about marriage and porn Finally get clarity on how to quit porn in a way that feels doable, grounded, and lasting This isn’t just another pep talk — it’s a full reorientation. You don’t need more discipline.You need more clarity.

  Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Episode Description: If you’re trying to quit pornography but feel like you’re constantly falling behind, this episode is exactly what you need. In today’s conversation, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage therapist and coach, breaks down a powerful shift that can help you get unstuck — without burning out. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m not doing enough,” or you’ve slipped back into old patterns, this episode will help you refocus and move forward with confidence. You’ll learn:✅ Why feeling stuck in quitting porn doesn’t mean you’re off track✅ What to do when you feel like you’re falling behind in porn recovery✅ The real reason your wife might not feel emotionally safe (even if you haven’t turned back to porn)✅ How to rebuild trust after porn through connection, not just checklists✅ Why the “work” isn’t about doing everything — and how couples can redefine the process together✅ A practical feedback loop that shows you what to focus on to quit porn week by week✅ How to get back on track with quitting porn even after setbacks Whether you're just starting your journey to quit porn or you’ve been on this path for a while and feel discouraged, this episode will help you slow down, reset, and take the next right step in your porn addiction help process.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Episode Description: Struggling with urges to watch porn that seem to come out of nowhere? In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography podcast breaks down why those urges aren’t random — they’re emotional triggers pointing to deeper, unresolved issues. If you're serious about porn addiction recovery, this episode will help you stop chasing surface-level solutions and start focusing on true healing. You’ll learn: ✅ Why the urge is a lagging indicator — and what to do instead✅ How shame and self-esteem silently drive the cycle✅ The 3 leading causes behind most relapses (and how to spot them early)✅ How emotional disconnection in your marriage plays a hidden role in porn relapses✅ What actually works for relapse prevention — beyond filters and accountability partners Whether you're trying to figure out how to quit porn for good or support your husband through porn addiction recovery, this episode will show you how to stop reacting and start getting ahead of the cycle. This is more than behavior management — it’s about real freedom. If you’re tired of the fight, and you want to stop porn urges before they start… 👉 This is the one episode you don’t want to miss.  

Is it really codependency… or are you just craving safety after betrayal? In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage therapist and host of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast, unpacks one of the most misunderstood topics in relationships impacted by pornography: codependency. If you've ever felt “too needy” for reassurance, or struggled to reconnect after your spouse’s porn use, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface — and how to break the cycle. You'll learn: Why porn addiction creates deep attachment wounds in marriage The difference between codependent behavior and healthy reassurance-seeking How emotional insecurity shows up after betrayal (and what to do instead) A step-by-step example of how couples shift from defensiveness to vulnerability How to ask for reassurance in a way that builds emotional safety and trust The real reason “talking about it” often leads to shutdowns and fights — and how to change that Whether you're a husband trying to rebuild trust or a wife wondering if you're too much, this episode offers powerful insights and practical steps to heal the damage, stop the reactivity, and reconnect from a place of honesty and strength.   Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop – http://trust.stopporn.info   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship! 

Summertime can be one of the hardest seasons for men working to overcome porn addiction, stay sexually grounded, and rebuild trust in their marriage. With more revealing clothing and constant visual stimulation, many husbands feel guilt and frustration — while their wives feel fear, insecurity, and anxiety. In this powerful episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in porn addiction recovery, unpacks how to handle triggers without shame, how to lead your mind instead of being led by it, and how to create emotional safety in your relationship — even when temptation is everywhere. You’ll learn: Why visual triggers aren’t actually the problem (and what is) How to redirect your attention without suppressing desire What real sexual mastery looks like (and how to build it) Practical steps to regain focus and emotional control in public settings How to reassure your wife and rebuild trust through open leadership Whether you're trying to stop porn, navigate sexual triggers in marriage, or become the kind of man who stays grounded under pressure — this episode will give you the tools to stand firm like a pier in the waves.   Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship! 

Why Stress Triggers Porn Addiction — And How to Break the Pattern If you struggle with porn addiction and find yourself relapsing whenever life gets stressful or overwhelming, this episode is for you.  Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and expert in porn addiction recovery, reveals the hidden link between stress and pornography use — and how to break the cycle for good. You’ll discover: Why stress and overwhelm often trigger porn urges How your brain becomes conditioned to seek porn as an emotional escape The 5-step framework to stop using porn as a coping mechanism How to handle stress without turning to pornography Real client examples of men who rewired their patterns and overcame relapse How to start rebuilding trust in your marriage after porn use Whether you’re trying to quit porn, overcome chronic porn relapses, or heal your relationship from the damage porn has caused, this episode will give you a clear, actionable path forward.   Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free clarity call with Sam   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship! 

Welcome back! This is part three of a three-part series to help you make real progress on your healing journey. In the first episode, we talked about five key skills every man needs to stop using porn. In the second episode, we looked at five relationship skills that help couples rebuild trust and feel close again. Today, I want to share a simple framework that shows why people get stuck—and how to move forward faster. When I work with someone, I look for what’s in the way of their progress. It usually comes down to one of two things: A knowledge gap – they don’t know what to do. An emotional block – they do know what to do, but something inside stops them from doing it. In this episode, I’ll walk you through three real-life problems couples often deal with, and show you how this framework can help you figure out your next steps. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship! 

In today’s episode, we’re diving into five essential skills that will help you and your partner heal and grow after being impacted by pornography use. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure where to begin in the recovery process—or if you’re willing to do the work but just need direction—this episode is for you. You’ll learn about practical, proven skills that have helped hundreds of couples make real progress and strengthen their relationship, no matter what stage you’re in. These five skills can help you take the next step forward on your journey to healing together.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Tune in to get clarity, encouragement, and actionable steps to support your relationship! 

Struggling with porn use isn't about who you are—it's about the approach you've been using. Fighting urges after they appear is too late. The key is learning skills to prevent the first domino from falling. When you handle what causes porn use before urges start, freedom becomes possible. In this 3-part series, I'll cover skills to overcome porn use, rebuild relationships, and implement these changes effectively. Today's episode shares five core skills for men to break free. For women listening, seeing your partner work on these will bring you peace. Focus on what happens before the urge, not just on avoiding slips. True recovery means addressing what occurs five steps before temptation begins.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.  

Today we're talking about something couples rarely discuss: when a husband's interest in sex drops after he stops using porn. For wives, this can feel very confusing and hurtful. After working hard to heal the relationship, it's painful when intimacy doesn't return as expected. She might wonder, "Doesn't he find me attractive? Is he really getting better?" But lower sexual desire after recovery isn't always a bad sign. It's often part of a necessary reset in understanding healthy intimacy. The drive for sex that was powered by fantasy starts to quiet down, creating space for real connection to grow. Today I'll share five reasons why desire decreases during recovery and how couples can build a fulfilling sex life based on both people's needs, emotional safety, and genuine connection.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.    

In this episode, I'll show you my easy three-step plan to help you stop watching porn for good. Many people think they just need to try harder to resist urges or avoid things that trigger them. But fighting these urges all the time is exhausting, and you're always worried about slipping up again. I want to teach you a better way. Instead of just fighting urges, we can find out why they happen in the first place and fix that problem. As a therapist, I've helped hundreds of men on their journey to quit pornography. The ones who stay free for years are those who use this simple plan. Today you'll learn: Why fighting urges doesn't work (and it's not your fault) My three steps that get to the real cause of the problem Tools you can start using today This isn't about using more willpower. It's about understanding that urges are like messages telling you what really needs healing in your life. You can find real freedom without having to fight against yourself every day.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.  

I'm excited to share something special with you today - a real-life deep dive session with John where we uncover the root cause of his pornography struggle and work through it together in a single call.  Most men focus on surface-level solutions - having someone to call when triggered, avoiding certain situations, or just trying to resist temptation harder. But here's the truth: real freedom doesn't come from getting better at fighting urges. It comes from identifying and resolving why you're feeling tempted in the first place. In this episode, you'll hear me guide John through this process step-by-step. While I share tools on the podcast regularly, today you'll hear how these techniques actually work in practice. My hope is that by listening, you'll gain insights into identifying your own personal root cause and taking steps to resolve it.   Want to work with Sam and experience your own breakthrough? I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

Jacob used to struggled daily with pornography and fantasy, but now he's completely free and feels good about himself again. In the episode, we talk about the two-part approach most men miss - they focus on only one part, which is why they struggle for so long. He shares the simple tools that helped him handle emotions in healthy ways, rebuild his self-worth, and deal with stress differently. The best part? Jacob doesn't fight urges for pornography anymore because he's done the deeper work to address the real causes. In this episode, he shows you exactly what worked for him and how you can do the same in your own life.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.  

Feel like you're fighting an impossible battle - trying to overcome pornography while juggling an already overwhelming life? After thousands of therapy sessions, I've discovered something surprising: success doesn't always mean adding more to your plate. Think of someone running up a downward-moving escalator. They're putting in enormous effort, legs pumping furiously, yet barely staying in place. This is what traditional recovery can feel like - an endless list of must-dos: meetings, accountability partners, journaling, meditation, new habits, urge management techniques. While these tools can help, they often leave you feeling more exhausted than empowered. In today's episode, I'll share a completely different approach - one that works even when you're burned out and short on time. You'll learn how to get off that escalator and find a simpler, more effective path to lasting change. Sometimes doing less, but doing it smarter, creates better results than pushing harder against the downward flow.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.