Amy digs deeper into the topic of disrespect and what many of the reasons are for your high tolerance of it. Last week she covered several submitted responses to the question, "Why do YOU think you tolerate too much?" And this week she's tackling even more from over-empathizing, not communicating a boundary is breached to having no limits on extending others the benefit of the doubt. Tune in to hear Amy offer you further insight and your next steps towards changing these patterns and struggles for good!
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As mentioned in this episode, the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors Course will reopen enrollment in January of the new year! To hear about it first and receive early bird discounts, place your Name and Email on the Waitlist here.
Amy responds to your submissions about why you believe you tolerate too much and over-communicate your boundaries. She provides you with further guidance for introspection, deeper understanding into your fears and patterns as well as what your next steps are towards changing it!
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The resources mentioned in this episode to support you are linked below!
- Access Amy's recommend Somatic Exercise program here.
- Download Identifying Your Trauma Triggers Guide here.
- Join the Waitlist for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course, opening enrollment January 2024.
- Join the Waitlist for Rebuilding Self-Trust, re-opening enrollment March 2024.
This week Amy shares the top 3 ways you're shown and taught to not have boundaries growing up. She provides insight and understanding into the fears, unhealthy coping mechanisms and survival strategies adapted from being exposed to this type of caregiver modeling. Amy leaves you with a list of self-reflective prompts to get started reviewing your own relationships and behavior patterns. This episode will support you in identifying any current struggles as we move into what Amy calls "Boundary Season" and help you bring awareness to what you'd like to improve upon.
If you're wanting additional support in the boundary setting process, especially after childhood or adulthood trauma, use this link to join the WAITLIST for the Boundary Setting for Trauma Survivors course re-opening this January 2024.
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Amy discusses what is happening inside an individual who is unloading their pain but resistant to making any changes in their life. She digs into the different scenarios you may have encountered with friends, family or even partners and the distinctions between someone seeking validation, wanting guidance or just wanting to complain. She leaves you with insight into how to navigate these relationships in the most supportive ways possible for yourself and for them!
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Amy discusses the concept of "extreme thinking" and what fuels the behavior pattern. She offers her insights into how this binary way of thinking can show up in mental health social media content and perpetuate victimhood. By the end of the episode, you're left with more knowledge on this topic as well as what you will want to work on improving to step away from thinking in extremes!
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In this episode, Amy highlights what is hindering you from healing. She emphasizes the tangible steps that MUST happen in order to move from having experienced trauma and emotional pain to processing, releasing and changing your adapted survival and coping strategies.
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If you're ready to rebuild your foundation after experiencing trauma, abuse, childhood trauma or any type of emotional pain. And ready to heal your people pleasing, fears of abandonment, trust issues + more! Join Amy as she walks you hand-in-hand through all (3) steps of healing (mentioned in episode) and provides you the proven strategy to rebuild your self-trust in her course: Rebuilding Self-Trust . Enrollment ends on 11/22/23 for the year so do not miss your opportunity to take this essential step!
Amy returns after a brief break to dig into why you're attaching to potential in your relationships. What happens when you attach? What's the underlying root problem that keeps you stuck and wanting to fix, save and rescue others? And most importantly, what tangible steps can you take today to begin making changes and breaking this pattern!
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For more resources on Boundary Setting, learn more about Amy's course here.
Amy discusses why we experience anxiety especially in relationships. She talks about why anxiety is a symptom of 1 of 3 root problems and shares how to take steps to improve all of them. You'll hear about her personal struggles with an Anxiety Disorder in her teens and what helped her most in healing from it.
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If you'd like access to the highly recommended Somatic Program Amy mentions in this episode, use this link: http://collabs.shop/etrgun . If you'd like to learn more about Rebuilding Self-Trust, you can go here: https://amy-fiedler.teachable.com/p/rebuilding-self-trust .
Amy gives you a look inside a secure relationship from the perspective of someone who has experienced trauma from past abusive relationship. She offers you (5) insider tips to help you become aware of and normalize what you can expect to occur within a secure attachment. She also shares solutions on how to navigate conflict and confusion in the most supportive way!
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Amy provides you a full rundown of what 'ghosting' is, what people commonly confuse it to be, why people ghost and how to cope with being ghosted! She offers you real-life examples of being ghosting, deconstructs what is happening for the ghost-er and ghost-ee and her expertise on how harmful and abusive this behavior can be.
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Amy announces some big changes in her life, answers a few FAQs and shares how she's navigating it all, what she's prioritizing and how she's finding a healthy balance. She offers you key points and takeaways that not only pertain to what she's going through, but how they may connect to you and your life and relationships.
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Amy shares a quick life update about her recent travels and the "adventure" (re: disaster) that occurred on the way back home. She discusses how to approach having an honest conversation with someone, even if that individual is incapable or unwilling. You'll hear her deconstruct why sometimes we are uncomfortable in relationship to others (hint: their behavior may not align with our truth) and provides you clear insight and practical steps in navigating the nuances of difficult relationships!
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Amy breaks down the necessary steps of navigating conflict in a healthy and supportive way. She discusses in depth the challenges many face, the steps most skip and how a history of trauma can impact your willingness and awareness to take these steps.
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In this episode, Amy mentions a helpful guide called Identifying Your Trauma Triggers which you can access and download here.
In this episode, Amy answers the question, 'what does healing really look like?' With so much misinformation online, Amy discusses the nuances on the topic of trauma healing. Tune in to hear her debunk myths, identify misconceptions and educate you further on what works, what doesn't, what is clickbait online and what the overall truth is about healing from trauma!
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Kute Blackson is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose.
THIS EPISODE WILL DISCUSS:
- Kute's personal journey to becoming an inspirational speaker + transformational teacher.
- the importance of self-trust.
- choosing your authentic truth over the plan someone else mapped out for you.
- difficult conversations (with parents).
- how following the nudging of your soul brings freedom!
- a balanced + nuanced look at what surrendering is.
- choosing to view life as a miracle in spite of hardships.
- Kute's book, "The Magic of Surrender" + what you can expect from it!
FOLLOW + CONNECT WITH KUTE:
Purchase your copy of Kute's book, The Magic of Surrender on Amazon: www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094
Check out how to work with Kute at www.kuteblackson.com
Check out Kute's Bali Breakthrough Experience at www.boundlessblissbali.com SOCIAL MEDIA: Facebook: www.facebook.com/kuteblacksonlovenow
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Amy discusses what triangulation is, how challenging it can be to navigate and real-life examples of how she does it! She deconstructs this form of abuse and manipulation to make it digestible and help you understand how it presents itself in relationships.
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- What triangulation can look and sound like.
- Real-life examples of experiencing triangulation within a family.
- How to navigate and what practical coping methods can you use for triangulation.
- Life updates from Amy!
- Insecurities
- Boundary Setting
- Toxic family dynamics
Amy's brand-new online course for The Supportive People to Trauma Survivors has now launched and is mentioned in this episode of Connect The Dots B*tch! If you are navigating a challenging relationship with someone who may or may not be aware of their own trauma, this course is for you. If you are a trauma survivor wanting to be more supportive without losing yourself or needing others to behave and communicate in more supportive ways, this course is for you. Use code OGLISTENER for 10% off your purchase today: The Course for the Supportive People to Trauma Survivors | Amy Fiedler (teachable.com)
