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Choosing to Stay
Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
138 episodes
2 hours ago
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your host Certified Relational Recovery Coaches for Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com
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Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your host Certified Relational Recovery Coaches for Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com
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Choosing to Stay
#132 When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace

In this heartfelt episode, When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace, Hali and Stephanie talk about how to navigate the holidays when your heart is still healing from betrayal. The season that’s “supposed to be” full of joy and family connection can feel heavy and disorienting after trust has been broken. Together they explore how to name and honor the layers of grief that surface this time of year, release the pressure to perform or pretend, and give yourself permission to do things differently. You’ll hear honest reflections about how grief can show up for both partners — from sadness and guilt to numbness or overwhelm — and how authenticity can become the first step toward peace.

They also share practical ways to protect your healing through boundaries, compassion, and grace. From creating a “holiday boundary check-in” to pausing for moments of shared breath and acknowledgment, this conversation offers tools to help couples stay grounded and connected through the discomfort. Whether you choose quiet simplicity or small new traditions, this episode is an invitation to honor your reality and care for your nervous system

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio


Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio

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19 hours ago
24 minutes 13 seconds

Choosing to Stay
***BONUS EPISODE*** Rooted & Rising: A New Space for Women Healing After Betrayal

In this special episode, Hali shares from the heart about her next chapter — the creation of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, a new podcast and healing community for women walking the path of recovery after infidelity and betrayal.

While Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal will continue to support couples doing the brave work of relational healing, Rooted & Rising offers a sacred space just for women to reconnect with their truth, rebuild self-trust, and rise into their next chapter with clarity, courage, and community.

If you’ve ever thought, “I wish there was a space just for me — where I could feel seen, understood, and supported,” this episode is your invitation.

  • The vision and heart behind Rooted & Rising After Betrayal

  • Why individual healing is important for relational repair

  • The meaning behind being Rooted (in truth) and Rising (into empowerment)

  • How community and connection accelerate healing

  • Ways to stay connected through new resources and groups


    In This Episode🔗 Resources Mentioned

🎙️ Rooted & Rising After Betrayal Podcast

A brand-new podcast by Hali Roderick for women healing after betrayal — featuring short, heartfelt episodes, somatic tools, and empowering conversations.

👉 Follow Along HERE

📘 Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Guide

A free resource to help you begin rebuilding safety, clarity, and self-trust after the devastation of betrayal.

👉 Download your copy HERE

🧘‍♀️ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing.

Quick, simple mindfulness and grounding practices to help regulate your body and calm your nervous system during moments of overwhelm.

👉 Get started HERE

 Help Her Heal Men’s Group

A safe space for men ready to rebuild trust, empathy, and emotional connection after betrayal.

👉 Register HERE.


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2 days ago
7 minutes 55 seconds

Choosing to Stay
#131 When Healing Feels Exhausting

Healing after betrayal is some of the hardest emotional work a person can face — and it is exhausting. Recovery requires constant emotional energy, rebuilding trust, courage, and change over time. That level of effort wears on everyone involved.

In this episode, we acknowledge how draining the process can feel for both the betrayed partner and the partner in recovery, and how that exhaustion can affect the relationship. You’ll learn why fatigue is a normal part of healing, how to recognize when you’re shutting down, and what small practices can help each partner stay engaged without burning out.

This conversation offers validation, understanding, and practical support for anyone navigating the long road back from relational trauma.

You’re not weak. You’re not failing. You’re healing — and healing takes energy.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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6 days ago
21 minutes 34 seconds

Choosing to Stay
#130 Honesty After Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Lying and Rebuilding Trust

Lying often begins as self-protection—but in the aftermath of betrayal, it becomes one of the biggest barriers to rebuilding connection. In this solo episode, Hali explores why lying becomes a habit, how it deepens disconnection, and what it takes to courageously choose honesty as part of the healing journey. Whether you’re the partner in recovery or the betrayed partner navigating trust issues, this conversation is about more than just telling the truth—it’s about reclaiming integrity, safety, and authentic connection. “Honesty isn’t just about facts. It’s about aligning your inner and outer world—and that’s where real healing begins.”

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why lying becomes a default pattern in betrayal
  • The hidden fears that fuel dishonesty (rejection, shame, loss of control)
  • How dishonesty creates a cycle of disconnection and mistrust
  • Practical steps to build honesty like a muscle—even in low-stakes moments
  • How to repair trust through accountability and consistent truth-telling
  • Why support systems matter in sustaining honesty and recovery
  • Lying often starts as a survival skill—but it can’t coexist with real intimacy.
  • Honesty is a practice, not a one-time choice.
  • Rebuilding trust requires truth, accountability, and self-regulation.
  • Both partners need safe spaces to process pain and grow.

Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit — November 6–9, 2025 | Mesa, AZ

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns—even after trying therapy, groups, or self-help—you’re not alone. Healing after betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress isn’t just a “mind thing.” It lives in the brain, body, and nervous system.

That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, a 4-day immersive experience designed to help men reset and reclaim their strength from the inside out.

If you’re ready to reset, reconnect, and rise, this may be the missing piece you’ve been looking for.

📅 Dates: November 6–9, 2025
📍 Location: Mesa, Arizona
✉️ To learn more or schedule a consultation:

  • Email Hali at: haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com

  • Or Dr. Jeff Roderick at: proactivebrainhealth@gmail.com

👉 Learn more and register here

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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2 weeks ago
19 minutes 49 seconds

Choosing to Stay
#129- Can We Dream Again? Finding New Hopes After Betrayal

After betrayal, the future can feel like it’s been stolen. For the betrayed partner, dreams may feel shattered or unsafe to hold. For the one seeking recovery, hope for the future may be tangled with guilt, fear, or the pressure to “make things right.”

In this episode, we’ll talk about what it means to truly process grief, why timing matters, and how both partners can begin to cautiously, safely, and authentically dream again.

You’ll discover:

  • Why trauma makes future-thinking feel dangerous.

  • How the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery experience hopes differently.

  • Signs you may be ready to imagine new possibilities.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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3 weeks ago
29 minutes 39 seconds

Choosing to Stay
#128- Acceptance vs. Resignation When Choosing to Stay

When couples stay together after betrayal, there’s a difference between acceptance and resignation. Acceptance leads to hope and healing; resignation leads to disconnection and despair. In this episode

  • What acceptance vs. resignation really looks like
  • How it shows up for both the betrayed and betraying partner
  • Key questions to help you discern where you are
  • Practical steps to move from resignation into true acceptance

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio


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    4 weeks ago
    30 minutes 14 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #127- When Choosing To Stay is Healthy vs Unhealthy

    Betrayal cuts deep, leaving both partners facing painful choices about the future of their relationship. For some, staying is the beginning of an authentic rebuilding process; for others, it becomes a form of self-betrayal. In this episode, we unpack the why and the how of staying after betrayal.

    We approach this conversation from both perspectives: the betrayed partner and the one who has betrayed. Together, we’ll explore what makes staying a healthy path toward healing—and when it becomes unhealthy, unsafe, or unwise.

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    1 month ago
    28 minutes 10 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #126 Small Ways To Rebuild Trust

    Trust after betrayal doesn’t return with one big moment. It’s not only rebuilt through formal disclosures, powerful apologies, or recovery milestones—it’s the hundreds of small choices made day after day.

    In this episode, we talk about the power of micro-trust: those tiny interactions that slowly teach a partner’s heart and nervous system, “Maybe I can breathe again. Maybe I can risk hope.”

    You’ll learn:

    • What micro-trust is and why it matters in healing after betrayal.

    • Everyday examples of micro-trust builders that make a real difference.

    • Common hurdles couples face when practicing micro-trust.

    • Simple, steady ways to keep showing up, even when it feels overwhelming.

    Rebuilding trust is not about rushing or fixing it all at once. It’s about steady, consistent deposits that eventually create a foundation strong enough to hold safety, hope, and repair.Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio


    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

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    1 month ago
    22 minutes 36 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #125 An Invitation for Men: Step Into Whole Body Healing

    In this episode of the Choosing to Stay Podcast, I’m opening up about something personal: my dad’s journey with Lewy Body Dementia and how it sparked my own concerns about brain health. As I walked through my own healing from emotional trauma, I began to realize something powerful—trauma isn’t just about thoughts or mindset. It lives in the brain and the body, shaping the way we show up in life and relationships.Most of the men I work with are carrying the weight of early adverse childhood experiences, and those wounds often fuel the destructive patterns that cause so much pain. If you’ve been working hard in therapy, recovery programs, or support groups but still feel stuck, it’s not because you’re failing. Trauma and addiction don’t just live in your thoughts—they live in your nervous system, your cells, and the physical patterns of stress in your body. Healing requires a whole-person approach.That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, happening November 6–9 in Mesa, Arizona. This 4-day immersive experience goes beyond talk therapy and gives men direct access to healing at the root level—brain, body, and spirit. Together with my husband, Dr. Jeff Roderick, a functional health chiropractor, and my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, an LMFT intern and brainspotting practitioner, we’ll be guiding participants through science-backed brain therapies, somatic healing, and hands-on restoration. You’ll walk away with practical skills, renewed confidence, and a roadmap for continued growth.If you’re ready to reset and reclaim your strength, this summit may be the missing piece. Join us for a transformational experience of healing, clarity, and brotherhood. Learn more HERE. To schedule a consultation to see if this summit is a good fit for you, please reach out to me at: haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com or Dr. Jeff Roderick at : proactivebrainhealth@gmail.com. 

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    1 month ago
    18 minutes 44 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #124 Breaking Shame, Building Connection: Chandler Rogers on Recovery & The Relay App

    Chandler Rogers is the CEO and founder of Relay, an app designed to help people overcome pornography and sexual addiction through community and shame-free accountability. Inspired by his own recovery journey, Chandler created Relay to provide structure, daily tools, and connection for thousands navigating healing. He lives in Orem, Utah with his wife, their 18-month-old son, and another little one on the way.

    🌐 Learn more: www.joinrelay.app

    💡 Listener Offer: Use code CHOOSE20 for 20% off your first subscription.

    In this episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay App. Chandler shares his personal recovery story, the power of community in healing, and what he’s learned from guiding thousands through recovery. Together, we explore why connection is the opposite of addiction, the role of self-care, and the key differences between those who grow and those who stay stuck.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    1 month ago
    43 minutes 1 second

    Choosing to Stay
    #123 Disorganized Attachment – The Push-Pull Chaos



    Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.

    You’ll learn:

    • What disorganized attachment is and how it develops

    • The emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look for

    • Why betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationships

    • The nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamic

    • Practical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachment

    We’ll explore simple yet powerful ways to:

    • Name and interrupt old patterns in the moment

    • Regulate your body before responding

    • Offer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from others

    • Communicate needs clearly instead of testing

    • Repair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerability

    Whether you’ve experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

    Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

    Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. 

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio


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    2 months ago
    35 minutes 11 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #122 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

     Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

    In this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You’ll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.

    Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.

    In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. 

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachment

    • How core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationships

    • Common behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidance

    • The hidden anxiety behind emotional distance

    • Practical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationships

    • How to balance independence with authentic vulnerability

    • Tools to repair connection after withdrawing


    Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

    Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

    Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. 

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!



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    2 months ago
    31 minutes 32 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #121 When fear of abandonment meets betrayal: How Anxious Attachment amplifies the pain

    In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    2 months ago
    25 minutes 10 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #120 Moving Toward Secure Attachment After Betrayal


    In this episode of Choosing to Stay, certified relational and recovery coaches Halle Roddick and Stephanie Hamby continue their multi-part series on attachment styles, focusing on secure attachment — what it looks like, how it develops, and why it’s a vital goal after infidelity and betrayal.

    They explore:

    • What attachment theory is and the four main styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)

    • How secure attachment shows up in healthy romantic relationships

    • Why betrayal ruptures both real and perceived secure attachments

    • The importance of building self-secure attachment before working on relational repair

    • Practical ways to cultivate internal safety, self-worth, and groundedness

    • The role of individual healing work for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery

    • How rupture and repair cycles strengthen trust in secure relationships

    Resources Mentioned:

    • You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)

    • No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)

    • Altogether You – Jenna Riemersma (Book Link)

    • Help.Her.Heal – Carol J. Sheets (Book Link)

    • Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute (Website)

    Connect with Us: Follow the podcast for candid discussions on healing, growth, and the journey of choosing to stay after betrayal.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    2 months ago
    28 minutes 9 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #119 How Family of Origin Shapes Our Relationships Before and After Betrayal

    Thank you for tuning in!

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

    The patterns we learned in childhood often become the lens through which we respond to betrayal. In this episode, we explore how your family of origin shapes the way you love, trust, and handle conflict—and why recognizing these patterns is essential for healing. From attachment styles to emotional suppression, we unpack common dynamics that show up after betrayal and share how awareness can lead to transformation.

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    3 months ago
    33 minutes 55 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #118 From Victim to Survivor to Thriver: A New Path for Both Partners After Betrayal

    After betrayal, healing isn’t about rushing to “get over it”—it’s about honoring what happened and who you’re becoming.

    In this episode, we walk through the transformation from victim to survivor to thriver—not as a formula, but as a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming your peace, your power, and your partnership (if you choose to stay).

    You’ll learn:

    • What each phase really looks and feels like—emotionally, relationally, and somatically

    • How to recognize if you're stuck in survival—and what might help you move forward

    • Why thriving doesn't mean the betrayal disappears—but it stops defining you

    • What relational thriving looks like when both partners commit to individual healing

    • How the betrayer can move from shame to accountability and integrity

    • How the betrayed can reclaim voice, body, and boundaries

    Whether you’re in the earliest days of devastation or years into the work of rebuilding, this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and consider: What stage am I in—and what does healing on my terms look like? Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    3 months ago
    34 minutes 53 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #117 Relational Injustice: Who breaks and roles in rebuilding

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    Betrayal doesn’t just damage trust—it disrupts the very foundation of fairness and emotional safety in a relationship. In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali and Stephanie unpack a critical truth that many couples overlook in the early stages of healing: true recovery begins when the betraying partner takes the lead.This episode explores why betrayal is not just a mistake but a relational injustice—and why expecting the betrayed partner to initiate healing only deepens that wound. We discuss how the power dynamic shifts after betrayal, what it means to take responsible leadership in the recovery process, and how consistent, vulnerable actions by the betraying partner can begin to restore a sense of safety and connection.Whether you’re the partner who’s been hurt or the one who caused the harm, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a grounded path forward.
    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    3 months ago
    23 minutes 9 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #116 Partner-Sensitive Recovery: The Missing Key to True Intimacy with Stephen Thomas

     In this episode of Choosing to Stay, Hali welcomes Stephen Thomas, a seasoned sexual recovery coach who brings years of experience and a deeply personal understanding of the recovery journey. Stephen specializes in helping men move beyond behavior-focused sobriety by adopting a partner-sensitive lens—one that centers empathy, honesty, and emotional connection.

    Together, they unpack why true recovery must include the betrayed partner’s experience, how relational healing is possible when humility and transparency lead, and what it really means to develop healthy sexuality. If you've felt stuck in cycles or confused about the next step in recovery, this episode will give you clarity and hope.

    👤 About Stephen Thomas: Stephen has coached men and couples professionally for over four years and previously led recovery work in ministry for several years. His approach combines trauma-awareness, deep empathy, and a commitment to helping men redefine sexuality in a way that strengthens—not severs—their most important relationships.

    📩 Connect with Stephen: Stephen Thomas, Sexual Recovery Coach 📧 Stephen@StephenThomasConsulting.com

    🎧 Listen now and share with someone who needs this conversation.

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    3 months ago
    29 minutes 37 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #115 Rebuilding After the Fall: The Path of Shame Resilience

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    ​​Shame Resilience in Recovery with Joseph McKinley In this episode of Choosing to Stay, we sit down with coach Joseph McKinley to talk about the role of shame in recovery and relational repair. We explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships, and why vulnerability and ownership are key to healing. Joseph shares tools, insights from his coaching work, and personal reflections on building resilience through self-compassion and connection.

    About Joseph McKinley: Joseph McKinley is a recovery coach specializing in overcoming unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors, intimacy anorexia, and partner betrayal trauma. He is certified as a Sexual Recovery Coach (SRC), Intimacy Anorexia Coach (IAC), Partners Recovery Coach (PRC), and Partner Betrayal Trauma Coach (PBTC) through the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). He is also a Certified Mental Health Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors. Joseph provides personalized coaching to help clients address the root causes of their struggles and heal from trauma, empowering both men and partners to reclaim their lives and relationships.

    Contact Joseph: 📧 joseph@greenwayrecovery.com 🌐 www.greenwayrecovery.com

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio


    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

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    3 months ago
    38 minutes 18 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    #114 Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After Betrayal

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    Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After Betrayal

    When betrayal shatters your world, safety feels lost. In this episode, we explore how true safety begins within, not in someone else's behavior. Whether you’re the one healing or the one working to rebuild trust, internal grounding is key

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    4 months ago
    23 minutes 52 seconds

    Choosing to Stay
    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your host Certified Relational Recovery Coaches for Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com