As a psychiatrist, I have the privilege of sitting in the front row as people from all walks of life entrust me with their deepest thoughts and feelings. Their life stories provide me with a wealth of knowledge that cannot be found in journals or textbooks.
Our achievement-oriented society diminishes the life of everyday people by glamorizing the accumulation of wealth, fame, and power. It elevates star athletes, successful entrepreneurs, and professionals with titles next to their names, as if they are not flawed human beings who experience struggles like the rest of us.
Yet, we have so much to learn from people we encounter in our daily lives. Though painful, their slip-ups remind us of the landmines hidden from plain sight. The cost of not paying close attention is needlessly repeating the same mistakes.
Their achievements also leave behind crumbs that can help you reach your own goals. Studying their success can provide you with a blueprint to achieve your desired goals.
Internet challenges can be fascinating to teens, who can be both impulsive and drawn to behavior that gets attention – especially in social media.
Some social media challenges, like the ALS ice bucket challenge or the mannequin challenge, can be fun and positive activities. But other challenges that pop up on the internet are dangerous and can lead to permanent harm.
You may have heard of social media trends like the Tide pod challenge, the choking game or "blackout" challenge, the cinnamon challenge or the salt and ice challenge. Then there's the Benadryl challenge and another that involves cooking chicken in NyQuil (the Sleepy Chicken challenge), which prompted the U.S. Food & Drug Administration to warn against the dangers of medicine misuse.
On the day of my mother’s funeral, I remember sitting in the back seat of our car, pulling into the parking lot where the service was going to be held, and seeing two old friends of mine from elementary school walking inside. I was 15 at the time. It had never occurred to me that they would miss school to be there for me. This simple act of support meant more to me than they will ever know.
Fast-forward about 20 or so years to the day my daughter got sent home from school with head lice. My friend showed up at my door unexpectedly and spent hours with me, helping to wash all the sheets and clothing, and keeping me tethered in my then-frantic state. These acts of kindness are indelible in my mind, and their power is immeasurable.
It turns out that the value of small and random acts of kindness is greatly underestimated by the one doing the kind act, and in fact, the person receiving the kindness is far more positively impacted than the doer imagines. This was explored in a series of research studies reported in the Journal of Experimental Psychology. In one study, participants at an ice-skating rink who were given hot chocolate had the opportunity to give away their cups to a stranger. When asked to rate what they thought the impact of this would be on the recipient, it turned out to be far lower than what the recipient actually reported.
If you search Google on selfishness, the majority of entries will tell you that you have to be selfish to look after yourself and to succeed in life. You are ensuring that you are contributing to society and not a burden. It is a sort of natural selfishness and is closely related to our survival. It must take priority over helping others. Pretty harmless, you might think…
Then you will find entries on what is termed ‘bad selfishness’ where people exploit others, commit criminal acts to gain money or power by means of fraud, dishonesty and violence. Very nasty, you might shudder…
I have given two rather extreme examples above, but have you thought about more subtle ways in which you may have been selfish unknowingly? Here are 10 examples of the way selfish people behave and without even realizing it.
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-signs-youre-actually-very-selfish-though-you-havent-noticed.html
Being in the wellness industry, it's important for our brand to support overall wellness, and that includes lots of self love. It's so easy to compare your life to our friends, or even strangers on the internet. We're a brand that encourages you to take care of yourself, starting with a safe option for deodorant. Here are ways our author, Trevor McDonald, encourages more self love:
When we think of wellness, most of us think about things like diet and exercise. The term, however, encompasses so much more than taking care of our physical selves. If you want to be truly healthy, you must create a healthy relationship with yourself. And it’s not as easy as it sounds.
Loving and accepting yourself for who you are takes a lot of work. It’s a process that involves a great deal of self-reflection. But this work is essential if you want to thrive in other areas of your life.
Here are six tips to help you create a healthy relationship with yourself.
Another year; another Christmas around the corner.
The conversation around the watercooler these days has evolved into the annual “where has the time gone?” discussion–how quickly the neighborhood kids have become high school graduates; how our hot July beach vacations seem like they were just yesterday; and how we haven’t baked cookies or sent cards or bought gifts yet because time has just been flying by.
It’s become a common complaint–almost a joke–that time seems to whiz by faster and faster as we get older.
Of course, aging doesn’t grant us the power to disrupt the space-time continuum, so it’s not a real problem. But why do we perceive it to be?
Psychologist William James, in his 1890 text Principles of Psychology, wrote that as we age, time seems to speed up because adulthood is accompanied by fewer and fewer memorable events. When the passage of time is measured by “firsts” (first kiss, first day of school, first family vacation), the lack of new experiences in adulthood, James morosely argues, causes “the days and weeks [to] smooth themselves out…and the years grow hollow and collapse.”
If one day in the future you are visited by a powerful being and are offered a single wish, what would it be? Mind you, it can be whatever you want. This includes power, money, a special title, or anything else you wish. And maybe ask yourself a question before making that wish:
“When I’m taking my last breath, can I look back and say that my life was good?”
Here’s a suggestion: Wish for the ability to adapt to change. That is a good wish.
Why is there so much emphasis on change? Why does change make such a difference in the outcome of your life? Well, there is one rule we all face. We cannot get away from it, and there is nothing we can do to alter this rule. It’s the fact that life changes, and few things stay the same.
While some things may not drastically change, change is inevitable. We may live with our parents for years, we may spend a large portion of our lives in a relationship, or we may find a fulfilling career that provides stability for decades. But change will still come. Sometimes we can control these changes, but oftentimes we cannot. When the change comes, it can be fast, sometimes difficult, and even shocking.
There is good news. If we have that gift of adjusting to change, our lives are good. This is because most, if not all of our suffering comes from not dealing well with change. Here’s an example:
You need to realize that men are kind of like cats. Just hear me out.
Ever see the variety of cat toys out there? They're shiny, sparkly, colorful, some of them make noise (and all kinds of noises), shaped in all kinds of ways, with various textures, sizes, and some are even meant to stimulate different parts of a cat's brain.
When you dangle a sparkly, plush fish with bells attached to its fringe, and make sure it remains slightly out of reach, a cat will literally go crazy for it. They jump around, chase, sprint, go full warp-speed and do pretty much anything it can to to catch this "just out of reach" little plush fish.
Bizarrely, guys are exactly the same when it comes to dating women. If you're fun, exciting, playful, flirty, and constantly just out of reach, then he's more likely to desire you and chase after you.
But don't worry — this is a phase that men grow out of once you're in a committed relationship, assuming he's actually boyfriend material.
Going to the gym in and of itself doesn't make you fit. Eating right isn't the only important factor for staying healthy either. You need to take a holistic approach to ensure your overall well-being, including your physical, mental, emotional, and social health.
High-value men aren't looking exclusively for a skinny woman, gym bunny or nutritionist who's obsessed with juice cleanses. However, studies show that both men and women are naturally attracted to someone who appears to be healthy. So overall health should be a priority for you — regardless of whether you're looking for love.
I once read a quote that said, “Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat.” And I can’t emphasize it enough.
We are a society quick to judge the success of others based on external appearances. But I can’t think of a more foolish metric to utilize.
Some psychologists argue this is natural for humans. “Our unconscious mind starts from whatever objective data is available to us—usually spotty—and helps to shape and construct the more complete picture we consciously perceive.”
I suppose this makes sense to me. But here’s the problem:
We’re terrible at it! Like really, really bad.
In fact, in one study, scientists asked students at a Chinese university to look at selfies and evaluate the personalities of the people pictured in five key personality characteristics. The students were wrong 80% of the time!
80% of the time they were unable to determine the personality or character of a person based solely on appearance.
Every moment of our lives, we have the option to either tell the complete truth or make up a bold-faced lie. Lies can cover true feelings, make it easier to get out of things we don’t want to do and make us look better. They can also hurt not just the person that we tell the lie to, but ourselves as well. A big reason to not lie is to avoid the downfall of getting caught. However, many will still wonder what the most important aspects of telling the truth are.
What are the reasons why you should always tell the truth? You should always tell the truth because:
Who am I? Who am I really?
It’s the question we often ask ourselves and usually find difficult to answer with full and authentic honesty. Instead, we may opt to conform: to do what we think is right and be the kind of person we believe will be most accepted by our peers. Such behavior is deeply rooted in us, reflecting the biology of our primal ancestors. As a result, when someone tells you to disregard what others think and “just be yourself,” you are, in a way, working against an internal need to be liked and accepted by others.
Carl Jung wrote extensively about the process of individuation, which, in short, is the layered process of finding your true, authentic self. Individuation occurs when you recognize and acknowledge your persona (the personality that you present to the world) and integrate it with the contents of your unconscious mind, including your shadow (the disowned and hidden part of you that exists in the background of your everyday life). By connecting to your inner voice—your authentic self—you become conscious and aware of your true vocation. This is the journey toward the person you are meant to be, your journey to wholeness.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/strategies-living/202207/how-be-your-true-self?fbclid=IwAR0p7hnXnkuJIkuaiA6gRvkdL4nUkDfiNZ0-_WrvuvO0B51ocZ_UT0Dfz2c
More than ever before, we now hear the buzz words “self-love” and “self-care.” For some, the concepts may be clear, but many are still seeking clarity on exactly what self-love and self-care mean and look like.
I identify myself as a “Vocabulary Nerd” who loves to look up word definitions to deepen my understanding of a concept. So we will begin with my definition of self-love and -care:
Self-love and -care go well beyond bubble baths, a silent moment to yourself before going inside your home after a long day of work, or a cup of tea before bed. Although these are great examples of self-love and -care, they are only examples and do not capture the full essence of these concepts.
Self-care means intentionally devoting attention and efforts to enhancing and protecting your well-being.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/make-it-make-sense/202207/self-love-is-self-care?fbclid=IwAR2zcpP3Mwvfm7v7DoOH79_d7yItdbxO52vA6uerMFy4scLPtKlfaqFGaaI
'Dirt is my makeup. Race fuel is my perfume.'
Why do women ride motorbikes? For transportation, yes, but also because we look good on one, and want all the benefits that bike riding brings. From a sense of freedom to weight loss, bike riding is an activity we should all consider.
A woman on a bike is not alone anymore. A recent Motorcycle Industry Council survey revealed that one in every five motorcycle riders is female. This revelation shifts societal expectations and mindsets altogether. Women are allowed to ride motorbikes, and we are good at it too.
Most of us want to be a better person—whether at home, in the office, or just when we’re out running errands. The problem is where exactly do you start?
I realized a couple years ago that I was a jerk at times to people I worked with and to people I feel I couldn’t get any value out of. Over the past couple years I’ve become a much better person by working on myself.
Here are some of the things I’ve been implementing into my daily routine to become a better person on a daily basis.
While the history books are filled with many a first (the first airplane to circumnavigate the globe, the first radio transmission, and the first president), there is one very notable first that is sadly omitted: the BJ.
Who honestly was it who took a look at the D and said, OK, put that in my mouth now?
After doing some research on the subject it appears there are some who trace fellatio back to prehistoric times. In fact, French paleontologist Yves Coppens suggested that the famous Lucy (the first prehistoric woman) did the job 3.2 million years ago. This underscores the belief that mammals have an inherent desire to explore their surroundings with their mouths.
But it is the Egyptians who leave us with the most traceable proof of oral sex (via cave paintings and myths alike), including some very well-hung hieroglyphic males doing it to themselves. Although it is hard to say exactly who was responsible for crossing the threshold into the nether regions for the first time, we did learn a lot in our quest for an answer.
Here, 10 interesting takeaways from the hummer’s illustrious history.
It’s very common amongst women to shave their private parts but for men, it is still considered a bit of a taboo to shave or trim the pubic area. Most men think that shaving the pubic area will make them look like a kid which is why they just skip the idea of shaving their armpits or pubic hair.
However, the reality is quite different, manscaping is the most hygienic way to keep your genitals and private parts safe from germs and infections. Let’s discuss the three main reasons to do it.
Shaving off the pubic hair will make the base of your penis visible which makes it look bigger in size. When you shave the pubic hair the base of the penis is no longer covered with pubic hair and this is the main reason it makes your dong look 1 or 2 inches bigger in size and who doesn’t like it to look bigger in size.
This is why it’s the number one reason why you should trim or shave your pubic hair. You can order a good body groomer online and at goodelectricshaver.com you can check out the buying guide on body groomers.
Chinadoll went up to the North Woods in Wisconsin and boy did she bring home some screwed up stories
If I ever write a highly erotic version of the Bible, and I might, the scene where Moses goes up Mount Sinai to retrieve the word of God will have a slightly different spin. In my version, what the prophet will bring back to us will still be 10 Commandments, but they will be the 10 Blow Job Commandments, and they will go something like this:
1. Thou Shalt Not Use Teeth
"I gave my first blow jobs when I was a counselor at camp, and my boyfriend, Nick—he wore board-shorts while he played tennis, so hot—had to tell me what was up. If you're going to give head, your teeth cannot exist. There are a million ways to give an unsatisfactory blow job, but this is the sure-fire way to give an unpleasant one." --Erica, 27, lawyer2.Thou Shalt Explore Around Your Comfort Zone
"Be open minded about blow jobs. Tips that sound kind of awkward can be the most rewarding. Don't keep your best BJ tricks to yourself. At the very least, share them with your best friend. Or if you happen to be a sex blogger, share them with thousands of readers," says Rosemary, my fellow sex blogger. Listen to Rosemary. You're putting a penis in your mouth with the goal of getting him to come, or at very least getting him halfway there. Get into it. Try new things. Even if they sound weird or gross. All that said, you need to be comfy, both physically and emotionally. Make sure you're in a good position. If his hip movements or his hand anywhere near your head is bothering you, make sure he knows that's not OK.
Men are just so unnecessarily complex a lot of the time. A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that men are simple creatures; that it’s going to be easy to decipher their feelings and their needs.
There are so many things going on underneath that rough and rugged exterior – and you can’t be underestimated just what kind of depth a man is capable if you really want to fall in love with one.
It pays to know just what makes a man tick; so that you can tap into that knowledge in an effort to really connect and bond with him as a human being.
It’s all really a matter of making your man feel happy and fulfilled. And this can be done through both grand and simple gestures that you practice in your everyday life as a couple. You really need to be able to touch him in ways that no one else can.
We get it: Wives and girlfriends are hard to shop for.
Nailing down the perfect gifts for her can be tricky (and stressful).
So if you have to do some last minute shopping—just don’t do what these guys did.
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/g19534246/women-reveal-worst-gifts-they-have-recieved/?slide=1