Defining the ancestral calling , how it affects an individual’s mental health. How to deal with having a calling . The ego vs the self when gifted . Do traditional healers believe in God? Can you have a mental illness while gifted ?

Taking a bit of a break from the podcast to recharge see you in a month or two . Love and light .see you soon

This episode is based on black tax and how it emotionally affects bread winner . Bread winner often feel they are showing up for everyone , helping family members live their lives while theirs is procrastinated . The struggle to set boundaries as they carry a lot of survival guilt . Most pattern breakers and bread winners may be parentified children.

This episode speaks about grief and how the pain we feel keeps us connected to the people we have lost . It shows us that the reason we feel so much pain is because our love is as deep . The deeper the love , the greater the grief . It is okay to also grief people we ended up resenting it’s an expression of hope that was never fulfilled. It’s also okay to grieve something we initiated the ending of .

Sometimes we are very hard on ourselves when we realise the things or experiences we have put our unhealed selves through . It is important to understand that you didn’t know better at that time . You survived with the information you have according to our environment and how you were raised. So once you realise that some of the things you put yourself through were self inflicted be kind and gentle because at that time you didn’t know better . The healing version of yourself is bringing new information and you are unlearning being on survival mode , hence you are able to pinpoint unhealthy patterns .

Sometimes we want to connect but we have not learnt on how to be vulnerable with ourselves or others. We are scared that we are not worthy of deep connections and our authentic selves will be rejected by the world .

We haven’t learnt to be comfortable with our own imperfections hence we don’t feel deserving of deep connections . Vulnerability comes with connecting with self before connecting with others . Accepting our whole selves first and then being selectively vulnerable in spaces that feel safe .

Happy new year !!! What New Year’s resolutions have you set for yourself ? How realistic are they when it comes to your resources , finances and plans ? What didn’t you achieve that you want t carry over to 2025? Social media new year’s resolutions do they resonate with you ? . New year , new me ? Is it really new me ?or a flowing self into the new year while evolving . Consistency and discipline in achieving our goals and New Year’s resolutions.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year (singing) …Well

not for everyone . Some people it is a sad season of the year caused by grief , family dynamics , loneliness, financial pressure etc . We need to normalise that is it okay not to be okay during December time . It’s okay not to meet up to people expectations of wearing a mask and pretending to be happy when you are going through a lot . Self care tips are also included on the episode . Enjoy .

Emotional monitoring is a state of hyper vigilance that someone would have as a way of protecting themselves from potential rejection . They would constantly ask if others are “okay “ if they are mad and then try to meet up to everyone’s needs . They do not get to know their authentic selves as they are too preoccupied with compulsive care taking of others .

Enjoy …..

This episode speaks about how to differentiate between giving someone space to vent without emotionally hijacking their experience or trauma and making it about ourselves . How shared experiences help with healing and also setting boundaries with emotional vomiters .

It’s the last day of mental health month !!!This episode is based on understanding the human behind someone who is diagnosed with a mental illness . How to deal with your own mental illness , having a new diagnosis and not over identifying with your diagnosis that you forget to learn self . Your mental illness is just a part of you and not your whole self . Define it for yourself before the whole world tells you on how you need to be . Stay compliant with your meds .

This podcast speaks about celebrating women’s day in South Africa . What it meant in 1956 on the 9th August when the march occurred . What does it mean to be a South African woman now. Are we still rocks or soft ? . We are still oppressed as women in South Africa in different ways most of all we are not as liberated because we are being killed and we don’t have a soft landing because we are taught to be resilient.

This episode speaks about understanding the concept of dating and how it is beneficial to get to know self in relation to others. Dating allows you to understand certain concepts that still need work so you don’t date the same package in different people. It’s easy to form an illusion of a relationship when you don’t know where you stand when you are vibing with someone . Bread crumbing can also create an illusion of being in a relationship yet still starving . As long as there hasn’t been a conversation about being exclusive you are vibing or dating not in a relationship.