In this episode, Carrie and Angie unpack one of the biggest mindset blocks moms face when going back to work:
“Asking for help means I can’t handle it.”
Together, they dig into where this belief comes from, why it feels so true, and how it can quietly keep you stuck, exhausted, and afraid to move forward. You’ll learn how to reframe this story so you can step into your next chapter with more support and less guilt.
Asking for help is not weakness — it’s strategy.No one can do it all. Relying on others doesn’t make you less capable; it makes you more sustainable. Capable doesn’t mean doing everything yourself — it means making sure it gets done in a way that works.
Your beliefs are just thoughts you’ve practiced.The idea that “I should be able to manage it all” is often modeled for us and reinforced over time. Once you become aware of that pattern, you can start choosing new, healthier beliefs that serve the woman you’re becoming.
Redefine “capable.”True capability includes knowing your limits, outsourcing when possible, and accepting that delegation is a strength. You can do anything — but that doesn’t mean you should do everything.
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Balancing Household Responsibilities When You Go Back to Work
In this episode of Back to Work, Carrie and Angie get real about what it takes to rebalance household responsibilities when you return to work after being home with your kids. They unpack the guilt, the overwhelm, and the myth that you can keep doing it all exactly the same way.
You’ll hear stories from both hosts about what worked (and what didn’t), how to rethink priorities, and why your well-being has to be part of the household plan—not an afterthought.
If you’ve been wondering how to manage laundry, meal prep, and morning chaos without losing your mind, this one’s for you.
Redefine “balanced.” It doesn’t mean 50/50—it means what works now.
Get it out of your head. Write down every task you do and look at it with your partner and kids.
Set a realistic baseline. Everyone fed, clothed, and hugged? That’s a win.
One true priority. The word priority was singular for centuries for a reason—you can’t have ten “most important” things.
You come first. Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s maintenance for the glue that holds everything together.
What to do Next
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Adjusting Your Daily Routine When You Go Back to Work
In this episode, Carrie and Angie dive into one of the most underestimated parts of returning to work as a stay-at-home mom — adjusting your daily routine.
What sounds like a simple change—“just tweak your schedule”—is actually a major emotional and logistical shift for you and your family. The hosts share personal stories and practical insights to help you navigate that transition with more grace, patience, and flexibility.
They explore:
Why changing your daily routine is not a small thing
How family dynamics shift when mom goes back to work
The importance of giving yourself (and your kids) grace in the messy middle
Creative ways to rethink routines like mornings, meals, and bedtime
Letting go of guilt and perfection to find what works for your family
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed trying to “do it all” while re-entering the workforce, this conversation will remind you that you’re not failing—you’re simply transitioning.
Change is hard—and that’s okay.
Routines impact the whole family, not just you.
Grace beats guilt every time.
Experiment, adjust, and find your rhythm—it doesn’t have to be perfect.
Next Steps:
💌 Subscribe so you never miss an episode.
👭 Share this episode with another mom who’s preparing to go back to work.
🎁 Grab your free guide — Back to Work in 3 Steps It’s your first step toward returning to work with confidence and clarity.
🎧 Catch up on earlier episodes, especially Episode 1, where Carrie and Angie talk about the identity shift from stay-at-home mom to working mom.
Ep 4 - Childcare Real Talk: What No One Talks About When You're Going Back to Work
In this episode of Back to Work, Carrie and Angie dive into what happens after you land the job — the messy, beautiful, complicated logistics of actually being back at work. From finding childcare to juggling schedules, sick days, and the emotional load of it all, this conversation is here to name and normalize the very real challenges that come with re-entering the workforce as a mom.
What We Talk About:
The emotional and logistical shift from being home full-time to working outside the home
Real-life childcare stories: home daycares, family help, and the rising costs of care
Split schedules and how they affect relationships and mental load
The ripple effect of sick days and school closures
Why having a “school-age” child doesn’t automatically make things easier
The power of naming your challenges and normalizing the chaos
Key Takeaways:
💡 There’s no “perfect” childcare situation — only what works best for your family right now.
💡 Split shifts may save on daycare costs but can strain relationships and energy.
💡 Even with school-aged kids, expect interruptions — sick days, breaks, and random closures are part of the deal.
💡 You’re not failing — it’s just hard. Naming it helps you breathe easier.
💡 You are a badass for showing up in all of this.
Mentioned in the Episode:
ChildCare.gov – National resource for finding licensed childcare providers and learning about financial assistance options
NAEYC (National Association for the Education of Young Children) – Guidance on choosing quality early childhood programs
Care.com – Platform for finding local childcare providers, nannies, and babysitters
Quote of the Episode:
“Name it and normalize it. There’s nothing wrong with you — you’re doing great.”
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Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Returning to Work
Returning to work after being a stay-at-home mom is a huge transition—and it comes with emotions that are rarely talked about. In this episode, Carrie and Angie dive into the guilt, grief, anxiety, and even excitement that accompany stepping back into the workforce.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
Why guilt is often the first emotion moms feel when returning to work—and how it can sneak into every part of your day.
The role of grief in the transition and why not feeling sad can sometimes trigger guilt.
How anxiety and catastrophizing can make the adjustment harder, and strategies to recognize and manage these feelings.
The split-attention effect: balancing work responsibilities with family life without losing your mind.
Why excitement about returning to work is normal—and why it can sometimes trigger guilt too.
Practical tips for self-compassion, patience, and processing big emotions.
A teaser for tools and questions to help distinguish justified guilt from unnecessary mental overload (see show notes for links).
Key Takeaways:
All emotions you’re feeling are normal and expected.
There’s no “one right way” to navigate this transition.
Allowing yourself to feel these emotions without judgment is critical for moving forward successfully.
Support systems matter—find someone you can talk to about these big feelings.
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Episode 2: The Identity Shift
In this episode of Back to Work, Carrie and Angie dive into the messy, emotional, and very real transition from being a stay-at-home mom to stepping back into the workforce.
They talk about the identity shift that happens when you move from being the one who’s always home with the kids to sharing that role with others. It’s not just about finding a job—it’s about redefining who you are, grieving what you’re leaving behind, and learning to see that your value isn’t limited to one role.
Carrie shares her personal story of going back to work after eight years at home, the guilt she felt, and the moments that made her question her decision. Angie reflects on her own career transitions and how identity evolves across different life stages. Together, they normalize the mix of grief, guilt, and control issues moms often face in this process—while also pointing toward confidence, compassion, and a mindset shift that can make it easier.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
Why the “loss of identity” is a very real part of going back to work
Carrie’s raw experience of feeling like she was abandoning her kids
The cultural messages that pile on the guilt (like the dreaded “18 summers” line)
How control and fear of missing out play into the transition
The ongoing pressures on moms as primary caregivers, even when working full-time
How to reframe your role so you don’t feel like you’re “doing it wrong”
This conversation is here to remind you that you’re not alone in the shift—and that your identity is bigger than any one label.
Resources & Next Steps:
Catch our first episode for a full introduction to who we are and why we started this podcast.
If you’re curious about self-care for moms, check out our previous podcast, Self Care for Moms.
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Episode 1: The Truth About Moms Going Back to Work
When a stay-at-home mom decides to go back to work, it’s never just about getting a job. It’s about navigating identity shifts, family dynamics, emotions, and the logistics no one really talks about. That’s why we created the Back to Work podcast—for moms who are ready (or feel pushed) to re-enter the workforce but aren’t sure where to begin.
In this first episode, hosts Carrie McFarland and Angie Turgeon-Ledoux share their personal journeys of transition:
Carrie reflects on her unexpected return to work after 8 years at home, balancing motherhood, financial pressures, and identity shifts.
Angie shares her perspective as an educator, life coach, military spouse, and now retiree, drawing parallels between career changes, identity, and emotional transitions.
Together, they set the stage for what this podcast is about: honest conversations, practical tips, and real stories about finding, getting, and keeping a job that works for you and your family.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
Why going back to work is more than just “getting a job.”
The emotional layers of transition that often get overlooked.
Carrie’s HR and coaching expertise and how it shapes her advice for moms re-entering the workforce.
Angie’s lived experiences with big life shifts and how tarot and coaching support her process.
The shared vision behind Back to Work: addressing the in-between—the messy, emotional, real part of transition that often goes unspoken.
Takeaway:Transitions are hard, messy, and complex. You don’t have to rush through them or feel like you’re failing if it doesn’t come easily. This space is for moms like you, walking through the return-to-work journey with honesty, support, and encouragement.
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Hi Moms. I’m Carrie McFarland and if you’ve been with me since Self Care for Moms, you know that podcast was all about helping overwhelmed moms reclaim their time, energy, and well-being. I loved creating that show and seeing how it helped so many of you find confidence, joy, and fulfillment again. That season has wrapped up, but it opened the door to something new.
Because here’s the thing—once you start putting yourself first, the next question often comes up: what’s next for me? For many of us, the answer is going back to work. But that’s when the doubts, guilt, and second-guessing can come flooding in. I know this firsthand. I was a stay-at-home mom for eight years before I returned to work, and I felt torn in every direction. At work, I worried about my kids. At home, I worried about not doing my best at work. I felt like I was failing everywhere—and I know I’m not the only one who’s been there.
That’s why I started Back to Work. Angie and I are here to help stay-at-home moms move past the fear of reentering the workforce—because we all know it’s about so much more than just finding a job. I’ve lived it, and I also bring nearly 20 years in HR and recruiting to share what really makes a difference when you’re ready to step back in.
Each week you’ll hear tips, stories, and honest conversations to help you move forward with confidence. I hope you’ll join us for encouragement, clarity, and a few laughs along the way.
The first episode drops October 8th. We can’t wait to see you there.
In the meantime, checkout the Back To Work website and get your free guide to finding a job.
https://www.carriemcfarland.com/
Becoming a mom can often mean choosing your new identity over your old identity. The person you knew is gone and is replaced with someone who takes care of little humans and doesn't have much time for anything else. In this video we talk about the major contributing factors to moms losing their identity and what to do about it.
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In this episode, we chat about the stress and overwhelm many moms experience. We talk about how our habits can feel good in the moment but may have long-term downsides.
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In this episode, we talk about the challenges moms face when trying to make friends. Many moms feel anxious or doubt themselves, thinking that others won’t want to connect. It can also be tough to find the time to socialize with busy schedules and kids’ activities. To help with starting conversations, we’ve created a free Conversation Starter List to make it easier to break the ice. Click here to get your copy
Welcome to this week’s episode of Self-Care for Moms!
We’re tackling a big issue many moms face: feeling stuck in a rut and overwhelmed by the daily grind. 😓 If you’re finding yourself drained and stuck in the same old routine, you’re definitely not alone. But don’t worry—this episode has some great ideas to help you shake things up and add a little more joy to your life!
Tune in to learn how small, positive changes can make a big difference and help you feel refreshed and fulfilled. You won’t want to miss these easy tips for making your daily routine a bit more exciting! 💪😊
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Have you see the video on IG of the mom picking up her kid's toy literally as she is crossing the finish line from a race she just finished.
No celebrations, no congratulations, no acknowledgement of the amazing achievement she just accomplished.
This week we are diving into why moms feel so compelled to be in "mom mode" all the time.
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Saying no is never easy no matter who you are but especially for moms. Moms are supposed to always be caring, and giving, and selfless. Moms are supposed to put themselves last and do what's best for the family at all times.
Well I have one word for that expectation.
No. And I don't feel guilty about it.
Join us this week while we talk about saying no and why it's so hard for us moms.
As a mom, you are constantly pulled in a million different directions. You are always thinking about what everyone else needs. You put your own wants to the side.
You think “It’s just for now.”
But if you want to do something for yourself then right now is the perfect time.
In this episode we talk about doing things that are just for you, how to figure out what the heck you even want to do, and why it's important.
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Welcome to the best of the first. This week it's a replay of our very first episode - Self Care Is Supposed To Be Selfish. Only this time around you'll only hear the best parts!
I can't believe we have published 30 episodes since we started this journey. Thank you so much for supporting us and keep sharing us to moms who need to hear the message that self care is not selfish.
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Self care is not a "to do list". Self care shouldn't feel like a chore or something you have to do. This week on Self Care For Moms we talk about self care just being part of who you are. Self care can be woven into the fabric of your life so it's as easy and accepted as breathing. This is what I wish for all of you.
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This week's episode is all about joy and how to find it. If you are struggling with this then listen up for how you can find your joy.
This week we're talking about resentment. What it is, how it affects you, and what to do about it.
Resentment doesn't feel good in your body but it can be so hard to let go of because it seems like its out of your control.
This isn't true and in this episode we tell you how to move on from resentment, connect with the people you love and create the life you want.
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