Ever feel totally fine… until your partner seems a little off? And suddenly you’re questioning yourself, replaying conversations, or wondering if you did something wrong? That’s outsourcing your self-worth — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it. In this episode, we break down why your partner’s mood or behavior can feel like it determines your value, how this pattern quietly shows up in relationships, and what it actually takes to stop letting someone else’s emotions dictate how you feel about yourself.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Ever notice how when one part of your life feels off, everything else starts to feel a little off too? In this episode, we explore how all areas of your health:  mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and even financial are deeply connected. We talk about why you can’t truly feel well if you’re neglecting one area, how imbalance shows up in subtle ways, and what it actually looks like to bring yourself back into alignment. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how caring for one area of your life creates a ripple effect of healing and wholeness in the others.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We think we want “I’m sorry,” but what we’re really craving is to be seen in our pain. In this episode, we share a story from one of our own past fights and talk about why apologies sometimes don’t land the way we hope they will. Because not all of the pain is from the moment—it’s often old, living in our bodies and showing up when we least expect it. We’ll unpack what it really means to feel seen, and how to repair in a way that brings you closer instead of getting stuck in the same loop. This one’s for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why doesn’t their apology feel like enough?”   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection, which is the unconscious defense mechanism that makes us see our own wounds, insecurities, and traits in others. We talk about why projection is so sneaky, how it keeps both people stuck, and what to do when you’re either the one projecting or the one being projected onto. You’ll hear real examples of how projection shows up in relationships (including ours) from jealousy and criticism to perfectionism and even social media comparison and how to recognize when it’s happening. If you’re ready to stop seeing your pain in someone else and start meeting it within yourself, this episode will help you take that first step. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up about the sneaky, unintentional ways she's tried to control situations or people, and how manipulation can quietly show up in our relationships, families, and even faith. We explore what manipulation actually is (and isn’t), why we do it, and how fear, control, and learned behavior play a role. From saying “everyone thinks this way” during an argument, to guilt-tripping someone we love, to using silence or comparison to get our needs met — manipulation is often a mask for unmet needs and unspoken fears. This episode invites you to look inward with compassion and courage. Because when we stop trying to control others, we finally create space for real love, respect, and trust to grow.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

You can be sitting next to someone you love and still feel completely alone.In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have an absent partner and how absence isn’t just physical. It can be emotional, mental, relational, or even spiritual. We explore the subtle ways absence shows up in relationships: when your partner stops sharing what’s really going on inside, when conversations stay surface-level, when you’re carrying the weight of connection, or when they’re home but their spirit feels miles away. Being with an absent partner can actually feel lonelier than being single and that loneliness can quietly erode trust and intimacy over time. But absence doesn’t always mean it’s over. Sometimes, it’s a signal of something unhealed, unspoken, or unmanaged beneath the surface. This episode is a compassionate look at what happens when distance creeps in, and what it actually takes to rebuild closeness, safety, and love again.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have something we’re missing. We avoid because we don’t want to feel what’s already here. And while both patterns can sometimes lead to “good” outcomes, neither one ultimately brings the fulfillment we’re longing for. We’ll also dive into how this plays out in relationships—how trying to control, manipulate, or look outside the partnership for certain feelings can keep us stuck if we don’t recognize what’s really going on inside of us. Most importantly, we’ll talk about how to break free from this cycle. What would it look like to actually confront the feeling you’re avoiding? What do you believe you don’t already have that you’re chasing? And how do you begin to shift into a place of awareness and wholeness, instead of chasing or running away? Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com  

We’ve all hit that moment of wondering: do I need to slow down, or do I just need to push a little harder? In this episode, we unpack how to tell the difference. Self-compassion doesn’t mean complacency—it’s what fuels resilience and lasting growth. Research shows that when we meet ourselves with kindness, we actually achieve more, not less. But pushing when your body and nervous system are already tapped out can do more harm than good. We explore why rest isn’t the opposite of productivity but the very thing that sustains it, how self-acceptance lays the foundation for real change, and what happens when personal growth turns into perfectionism in disguise. Dave shares his own story of shifting from striving for validation to pursuing true inspiration, and how that completely changed his relationship with growth. At the heart of it, this is a conversation about learning to listen—so you can know when to pause, when to push, and how to keep moving forward without losing yourself along the way.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Where’s the line between a healthy boundary and trying to control someone you love? In this episode, we dive into the difference. Boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect in a relationship — while control often comes from fear, insecurity, or a need to manage the other person. We’ll share real-life examples of what healthy boundaries sound like versus what control looks like in disguise, and how to know when you’re crossing the line. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I setting a boundary, or am I just trying to get my way?” this episode is for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

What if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t about looking put together or pretending you’ve got it all figured out, but about healing the parts of you that were hurt in the first place? In this episode, we’re breaking down what real self-confidence looks like and why it can’t come from surface-level fixes. We talk about the wounds that shape how we see ourselves and the subtle ways we avoid facing our insecurities. You’ll hear personal stories of the areas we lack self confidence and how we work on the parts of ourselves that need it. By the end, you’ll see why healing, not hiding, is the only true path to lasting self-confidence.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Jealousy is one of those emotions everyone feels but no one really likes to talk about. Is it a natural part of love, or does it always point to deeper insecurity? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of jealousy — where it comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and what it might actually be trying to tell us. We also share how our own views of jealousy have shifted over time and the ways we’ve learned to navigate it in a healthier, more honest way. If you’ve ever wrestled with jealousy (and let’s be real — who hasn’t?) this episode will give you a fresh perspective and practical tools to bring more trust and safety into your relationship.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions, and random musings that don’t quite fit into a full topic but are too wild and funny to keep off the mic. From believing that social media isn’t bad to discussing why sometimes eating “unhealthy” is actually the healthier choice, we’re sharing the things we’re currently chewing on. These takes aren’t set in stone—we believe them today, might change our minds tomorrow, and that’s half the fun. Tune in for laughs, unfiltered conversation, and a peek into how our brains spiral when we let loose. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Why do we sometimes get in our own way, even when things are going really well? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in our lives—whether in relationships, career, or even moments of peace and happiness. We explore the beliefs that fuel it (“What if it all gets taken away?” “Do I really deserve this?”), and how old family patterns may have shaped what we think love, success, and safety are supposed to look like. Together, we share personal stories of times we’ve caught ourselves sabotaging, the emotions that come up when life feels too good, and the practical tools we use to break the cycle. You’ll walk away with insights on how to recognize your own patterns, how to push through self-sabotage, and most importantly—what it looks like to actually let things be good.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Attraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when “the spark” feels like it’s fading, and how to tell if it’s really gone or just asking for your attention. We share how to discern whether a lack of attraction is about your own inner world or the dynamic between you and your partner, how insecurity and self-sabotage can make things worse, and why being with a secure partner matters. You’ll hear real stories from our own marriage about times we’ve felt less attracted to each other (and how we handled it), why quick fixes like big date nights aren’t enough, and the small daily habits that actually keep chemistry alive. If you’ve ever wondered whether attraction can come back and what to do in those moments when it feels like it’s slipping away this conversation will give you the perspective, tools, and hope you need.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages shape the way we approach money today. We explore the role of safety, control, and values in how couples relate to money, what habits have actually brought us closer, and why there’s no one right way to manage money in a relationship. Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel less alone and a little more equipped to talk about money with the person you love.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shifting those beliefs changed everything. We unpack the idea that couples aren’t actually fighting about money, but about the deeper stories and wounds attached to it. We also explore how someone's money behaviors—like overspending, withholding, or controlling—can create attraction issues, trigger power dynamics, and erode safety in a relationship. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or disconnected when it comes to finances with your partner, this one’s for you.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict!   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If you’ve ever wondered if it’s possible to come back from a rocky start—this one’s for you.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self. We dig into things like:👉 Why is it so hard to disappoint people?👉 Can you be fully yourself and a people pleaser?👉 Does it actually hurt connection more than it helps? You'll walk away feeling seen, maybe called out (in the best way), and reminded that it’s okay to disappoint others — and that the people who love you can handle it. This one's for the over-functioners, the “I just want everyone to be okay” crew, and anyone learning to take their dang power back.

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight. Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything. We talk about: How to recognize when you’re emotionally charged The power of becoming the watcher of your thoughts Why naming your feelings is one of the most disarming tools in conflict How learning to feel can change the energy of your entire relationship If you’ve ever found yourself in a fight that started over something small but spiraled quickly… this one’s for you.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com