Send us a text - This is a replay of a POD I did with Steve O'Connor from Catholics Fight Porn and wanted to share here as well.
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In this episode, I sit down with Tom Weaver from Come to the Table Ministry to talk about the real struggles of sex addiction, betrayal trauma, and the hope of lasting transformation. Tom shares his powerful story of being exposed to pornography as a young boy at the “Paper Shack” in his church, how that struggle carried into marriage, and how God brought him and his wife through deep betrayal to healing and restoration.
We also talk about the ministry’s Men’s and Women’s retreats and their Couples Conference, where hurting hearts find community, truth, and tools for recovery. Check out the 'Men Make Men' retreat and the 'Princess Warrior' retreat as well as the 'Maintaining the Bridge: Hope and Healing After Betrayal' Couples Conference!
Whether you’re battling addiction, walking through betrayal, or longing for deeper intimacy in your marriage, Tom offers encouragement that freedom is possible and healing is real.
To close, Tom takes on some rapid-fire questions about recovery and relationships—practical insights you won’t want to miss.
If you’ve ever wondered if there’s hope after betrayal, or if freedom is possible after years of struggle, this episode will speak directly to you.
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-Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship. Email Steve for more info.
Tradition has a lot to teach us about how to connect our bodies and emotions to our theology in our relationship with God. Many men "know" they are loved by God but do not often, if ever, experience His love. Could be shame, family of origin issues or trauma and sexual addiction that can become that spiritual road block! Join Tom Weaver with Matt Wenger from Begin Again Institute Friday as we talk about Contemplative Practice for Christian men in recovery! Feel free to join us and ask questions live in the comments section!
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Relational Honesty after Intimate Partner Betrayal - What does it look like? Is complete rigorous honesty necessary?Join Dan Drake, Founder & Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group, and I as we walk through the importance of honesty in the healing process after Partner Betrayal. We will discuss the importance of cleaning up the past as well as ongoing relational honesty & what it looks like and what it isn't.
A view on what AIR - Artificial Intimacy Relapse™ is and how it just came into the light this week. These are my thoughts on a video that was released recently and the affect it has on recovery and the partner.
And I didn't even touch on the neuroscience of it.
This video has since been removed from YouTube.
Contact us thru our website https://www.tableministry.com/ or info@tableministry.com
Join Tom, Michele and Brad Hughes from Precision Polygraph's in Fairfax VA as they discuss the purpose of polygraph's during recovery from betrayal, how it rebuilds trust, the process of taking one & disputing some of the myths about them! Join us for a live conversation with Brad. Ask live questions in the Chat! Get informed on the process!
Come catch a preview of the 2025 Men Make Men Sexual Recovery Retreat with Tom and the speakers that will be there!
Join Tom & Michele as they talk with Joanna & Matthew Raabsmith about the difficult topic about Sex and the difficulty or reintegrating sexual intimacy back into the relationship after the realization of betrayal, whether its porn, infidelity or a secret life now coming out of the darkness. When is it too soon to start having sex again? Will the betrayer feel like everything is ok if we do? Will I be feeding his addiction? Why do I feel so alone? These are just a few of the questions we hear when talking about this with couples and we will dive into these and more with the Raabsmith's in this episode!
We heard you loud & clear! The "dynamic duo" of Dr. Jake Porter & Dr. Barb Steffens were an awesome team at the Conference. The Q&A session was so impactful & they both graciously gave some more of their time to come back and do this Livestream to answer more of your questions! Some from the Conference that we did not get to, and some new ones as well! Great information! Enjoy!
Two different realities that can share similar yet extremely different feelings. Similar but different, hope and healing - surviving and thriving towards restoration.
The realization of what happens upon the discovery of his secret life and the partner betrayal trauma and the reality of it
As we roll into the new year, coming off the "bye" week and re-evaluating our own recoveries, lets not forget or minimizing the impacts of sexual addiction on the spouse. The Partner is living thru their own "personal quake" and the tremors are felt over and over. Get healing from this devastating trauma, learn empathy for her, show up in those times she needs you to, whether its a week, a month, a year or 15 years later. Be there it is trauma, it is devastating. But it does NOT have to define you or your relationship any longer!
Go to tableminsitry.com for more information as well as details on our Bridge to Intimacy Conference March 28-29 2025!
Join Tom as he discusses the "bye" week and how to look at ways to "self scout" our own recovery. Maybe taking a walk thru your step 6 again, evaluating your defects of character, maybe some new ones that cropped up, maybe identifying the one that has been hindering your progress the most. Not looking at how to defend but take the offense and take this opportunity to look at ways to do things differently and to improve yourself, your marriage, your relationships and your intimacy with God.
Email or text Michele or Tom for any questions you would like answered on future episodes. Also go to tableministry.com for more information on the Bridge to Intimacy Conference in March 2025.
Welcome to the Table. Have a seat sit back and lets talk about freedom from sexual sin and partner betrayal trauma. Its impact on the church, what our model at FBC may look like and future discussions and guests. We will have open Q&A live feeds starting in January and love to have folks chime in with questions, comments and even success stories about their journey!
Come to the Table Ministry hosted Pure Desire's Traci Wright and Dr. Jake Porter from Daring Ventures at its 3rd Annual Princess Warrior Retreat at Sandy Cove Resort in Northeast MD. What a healing weekend it was.
Listen to Session 2 from Dr. Jake Porter on "The Journey to Healing After Betrayal - Returning to You" | Part 1: A Worlds Creation.
Visit tableminsitry.com for information on this years Men's & Women's Retreats as well as our Conference in March 2025!
Join us as Dan Drake returns for another Podcast. Dan will be discussing an exercise for Empathetic Attunement called "Lion Heart Breathing" that he uses in his therapy and specifically during the Disclosure Process. Please join us as Dan walks thru this exercise with us live. You won't want to miss this truly impactful technique of "Holding Her Heart".
Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group https://www.banyantherapy.com/
in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father.
Buy Dan and Janice's books!
(these are paid links)
For you the Disclosing Partner (the blue books):
Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal - https://amzn.to/3IdtTIN
Your Disclosure Document: A 10-Step Guide - https://amzn.to/3uykzMw
For your Partner (the green books):
Full Disclosure: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal (part 1) - https://amzn.to/42RrXz9
Full Disclosure: Preparing For Disclosure On Your Terms (part 2) - https://amzn.to/49Kk2G5
Full Disclosure: Post Disclosure Healing (part 3) - https://amzn.to/3TayQsf
Contact Info for Dan:
Dan@banyantherapy.com
https://www.banyantherapy.com/
Tom & Michele
Tom@tableministry.com
Michele@tableministry.com
https://www.tableministry.com/
When, why, and how should I reveal sexual secrets to my wife? In this episode, disclosure expert Dan Drake will walk us through the process of full therapeutic disclosure from beginning to end. You'll learn how to restore truth in your relationship in a way that is healing rather than harmful. Join Tom and Dan Drake, co-author of "Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth after Sexual Betrayal, discuss the Disclosure process, Banyan Therapy & Dan's story and what led him to co-author these books with Dr. Janice Caudill. Also, Dan will share some wonderful tips to walking thru disclosure, emotional regulation & other tools paramount for walking this journey of healing from betrayal and sexual brokenness. Dan Drake and Dr. Janice Caudill co-founded Kintsugi Recovery Partners and co-authored 5 books in the Full Disclosure Series. They developed the first full disclosure training and certification course, and they provide the highest level of support for professionals using their Restoring Truth Model. Learn more at https://www.kintsugirecoverypartners.com or https://disclosurehope.com. Dan Drake is the Founder and Clinical Director of Banyan Therapy Group (https://www.banyantherapy.com/) in Los Angeles, California. He is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Supervisor and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. Dan is a Christian, a husband, and a father. Buy Dan and Janice's books! (these are paid links) For you (the blue books): Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal - https://amzn.to/3IdtTIN Your Disclosure Document: A 10-Step Guide - https://amzn.to/3uykzMw For your partner (the green books): Full Disclosure: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal (part 1) - https://amzn.to/42RrXz9 Full Disclosure: Preparing For Disclosure On Your Terms (part 2) - https://amzn.to/49Kk2G5 Full Disclosure: Post Disclosure Healing (part 3) - https://amzn.to/3TayQsf Contact Info for Dan: Dan@banyantherapy.com https://www.banyantherapy.com/ Tom & Michele Tom@tableministry.com Michele@tableministry.com https://www.tableministry.com/
Robert Dorband shares in Session 3 from the Men Make Men Retreat from Oct 2023. Robert is the author of "Beloved", former pastor, pilot and now fulltime Sex Addiction Therapist at 51to52 Counseling Center in Colorado Springs. Enjoy his final session in this series of healing from sexual brokenness and addiction.
Listen to Robert Dorband of 51to52 Counseling Center and Author of "Beloved" in Session 2 of the 2023 Men Make Men Retreat. This is week 2 of 3 replaying Robert's Sessions at the retreat! Enjoy!
What Churches get Wrong @ Porn. Join Tom today as he chats with Sam Black, Director of Recovery Education with Covenant Eyes. Sam discusses his new book "The Healing Church - What Churches Get Wrong @ Pornography AND How to Fix It". Sam will also be discussing a little about what is new at CE and sharing a little about his own journey! We thank Sam so much for taking some time with us today!
