Hello Worthy Lovers, today we’re going to talk about attraction in romantic relationships. If you're looking for insights into how to understand your own attraction toward others, then this episode is for you. We discuss a lot of things ranging from what we seek in a short term and a long term partner are different to value different things and pretentiousness in our preferences.
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Hello Worthy Lovers, in the last two episodes, we’ve talked about the importance of making better decisions and what are the obstacles towards it. Today, we’re going to talk about a very simple idea that has interesting implications in practice. This idea comes from a friend of mine in the middle of an honest conversation when I’m talking about my problems with her. In honor to celebrate her birthday, we discuss this very simple idea.
Happy Birthday Kak Mutiara Maharini! May you and your loved ones be showered by all kinds of blessings.
What are some of the challenges and obstacles toward cultivating decision-making skills in your romantic relationship?
In this episode, we're trying to answer that exact question.
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(01:09) Background for The Theme
(03:20) Challenges in Vulnerability
(05:02) Carl Roger’s Ideas
(09:21) Challenges in Understanding
(17:00) Incompatibility
(26:45) Hard Conversations
(32:50) Viewing Problems Differently
(37:12) Incompetent Judge
(42:30) “I don’t feel like it”
(46:00) I can’t change…
(49:00) Or I don’t want to?
(53:40) The Last Dance
(56:14) Entitlement and Arrogance
(62:12) Injecting Humility
(68:07) Closing Statements
When you've just had a rough experience in your romantic relationships, it's probably because you're lacking self-love, right? Right? If you're skeptical... then perhaps this series is for you.
Welcome to Valet Amandum Podcast.
With a new series called Love Letters.
Its tagline, Love is Not Enough.
Hosted by 2 people: a Roman and a Greek.
Hope you enjoy listening!
Hello Worthy Lovers, welcome to the Valet Amandum Podcast. In this episode, I talked about my hypothesis that can help solve the problem of unequal access to mental health in Indonesia. There are different kinds of ideas—taboos, controversies, innovation—that are being discussed to tackle the hypothesis itself. Overall, it's a pleasant discussion and ends with a reminder about the long history of understanding the true and tragic knowledge of the human condition.
Hello Worthy Lovers, welcome back to Valet Amandum Podcast with your host Yega. In today's episode, we're going to have a conversation about Omnibus Law with my good friend Athar. It is in my deep interest to steel man that bill, and to give credit where credit due. Because I'm beginning to feel a little bit tired from hearing people's comments that only straw man the bill. John Stuart Mill talks about this in his book On Liberty, "He who knows only his own side of the case, knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them. But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side; if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion."
And so there are 3 things that we're gonna talk about. The teleology of this bill, the pros and cons, and the dynamics of the discussion that we have regarding this bill. Athar tells me to give you a disclaimer that at the time of this podcast, he just woke up from his nap. However, let me assure you that the ideas we're going to propose in this episode are far from boring or even gullible.
Perhaps, my only apologies to you guys are about the sound quality. Athar's headset is broken so sometimes you'll hear my sound echoing when I talk, and that's about it. Hope you enjoy this episode!
Hello Worthy Lovers, welcome back to Valet Amandum Podcast with your host Yega. In today's episode, Bahres returns to talk about controversial views and how conversations allow for people to talk about them. We also talk about Skin in The Game and First Principle Reasoning. I hope you guys enjoy this episode!
Timestamp: (01:30) Risk in making controversial ideas. (02:15) Virtue is risk-taking. (04:28) What Bahres tries to do with his song. (11:50) Be careful about discussing ideal. (13:35) The problem with certain kinds of intellectuals. (21:29) The pursuit of trying to solve the problem with consciousness. (26:13) Perfecting the ways to find the truth, not the truth itself. (27:15) The problem lies in the interpretation. (29:05) We might never find the answer, but we can always try. (30:15) Talking about the stories about the house of wisdom. (32:50) First Principle Reasoning in Islam. (34:53) Write a book when you disagree with someone. (37:00) The fact that we're afraid to find the Truth in other ways. (40:54) Stories about perfection and progress. (44:32) The idea of perfection is an imperfect one. (49:12) Discussing religion critically counts as taboo. (50:07) Finding intellectuals in Indonesia. (Returning to the idea in our first podcast). (52:41) Researching Dukun in Indonesia. (56:31) The best part of Bahres' last song. (59:41) An explanation of satire. (01:00:21) An explanation of meta-satire. (01:02:40) Playing the game or talking about it. (01:05:15) Being critical of your own views. (01:07:11) The necessity of art. (01:08:25) Extending the notion of yourself. (01:09:15) The reason I don't like ideologues. (01:11:32) Two outcomes when you expose your ideas. (01:12:45) Change is painful. (01:17:58) Opening your eyes to places that you don't want to visit. (01:19:21) Move then adjust your goals. (01:22:30) Skin in The Game balances First Principle Reasoning. (01:25:35) Being called out by Nassim Taleb's book. (01:33:11) Quote by Anton Ego from Ratatouille. (01:38:00) How do we define a great artist? (01:38:00) Express? Impress? Both? (01:40:30) Art that works. (01:42:15) The necessary capabilities in expressing and impressing. (01:44:48) The 3rd argument about art. (01:47:23) Skillset about expressing can impress someone. (01:50:08) The market aspect of art. (01:53:40) The notion of high culture and low culture. (01:56:13) The 4th argument about art. (02:02:42) Experts need skin in the game.
Hello Worthy Lovers, balik lagi sama Yega disini. Karena minggu ini yang sangat padat, maka untuk episode kali ini gua akan menjawab beberapa pertanyaan yang udah kalian ajukan di Instagram gua. Thank you so much buat yang udah tanya. I'll try to answer your question with the best of my abilities. Hope you enjoy this QnA! | Timestamp: (00:50) Tips untuk mengingat hal-hal menarik yang udah dibaca di sebuah buku. (02:13) Novel Romance Favorit. (O3:15) Ebook atau Buku Fisik. (04:35) Tipe baca buku. (06:49) Cara milih buku untuk dibaca.
Hello Worthy Lovers, you’re in for a treat today. We have Mahari back in the podcast. And since we’ve talked last time she has grown a lot. She’s the chief product officer at Satu Persen - Indonesian Life School. She’s also a mentor that helps deals with life problems, from overthinking to your love life. Her start-up, Future Parents Project, has collaborated with a lot of brands including CintaSetara, TigaGenerasi, ChildPlace, and many more. But that’s not all, she’s also been accepted on her graduate study in the Faculty of Psychology at Universitas of Indonesia. And in celebrating that I’m uploading an old recording on the both of us. Hope you enjoy it! | Timestamp: (04:20) Yang Mahari rasakan saat mendapatkan juara harapan 2 di Final Abnon Jakarta. (08:20) Analogi untuk menjelaskan situasi pada saat Final Abnon. (13:22) Gak menang boleh bahagia. (17:43) Challenging the idea of ‘All emotions are Valid’. (20:40) Humanistic approach in looking at emotions. (22:25) Output yang terbatas. (24:21) Menikmati kesedihan. (26:30) Ada framework Achievement over Fullfilment. (28:00) Bersyukur as a mode of being. (30:50) From Tactics to Being. (36:38) Bringing awareness and soul in your work. (42:35) Ketika value yang ditawarkan tidak cocok dengan organisasinya. (45:15) Perbedaan fundamental antar staff dan bph di BEM. (50:41) Yang menarik ketika jadi orang tua. (55:53) What does it mean to be a good BPH? (01:00:37) What do you miss most about being a BPH? (01:01:51) Lanjut atau tidak lanjut. (01:03:55) Kenapa Mahari mau jadi TI pada saat itu? (01:06:00) Penjelasan atas Attachment terhadap organisasi. (01:09:45) Side story gua kenapa tertarik sama BEM. (01:13:00) Pendapat Mahari tentang podcast pertamanya. (01:17:25) Matching your heartbeat with the heartbeat of the universe. (01:21:43) What is the best way to matter in this world? (01:24:32) Interpretasi tulisan John Green.
Hello Worthy People. Hari ini kita bakal menjawab semua pertanyaan kalian yang udah tanyain di dm dan juga question box. Hope you enjoy this episode!!! | Timestamp: (02:20) love itu commitment/feeling? (04:05) Is love worth changing your plans and goals? (10:11) How one can be so experienced in loving but had so little experience in dating? (12:15) White lies tuh bagus ga sih dlm relationship? (15:27) Harus seopen apa sama pasangan? (18:10) Cara nolak orang yg pdkt tapi terus2an ngedeketin? (posisinya cewe ke cowo) (27:52) Cara buka hati ke orang gimana sih? (35:15) How to move on from someone that you don’t even date? (41:54) Type of love. (44:03) Kalau cinta harus berkorban ga? (51:49) Cara bedain dia pdkt sm dia temen doang gmn? (59:40) Kalo cinta beda agama gmn? (01:03:42) Kapan sih waktu yang tepat buat kita berhenti perjuangin doi? (01:10:22) Gimana sih cara kita tau intensi orang kalau kita lagi jalin hubungan (temenan dkk)? (01:10:45) Avoiding commitment. (01:11:33) How to get out from unhealthy relationship. (01:22:57) What makes a good marriage? (1:25:32) How can you explain cheating? (01:31:53) Opinion + examples of “Falling in love with yourself before falling with anyone” (01:35:07) How to be in love with uncertainty? (01:37:43) What does it take to love yourself back after losing yourself in love? (01:40:34) Other ways to pursue happiness if we are not interested in love. (01:42:42) What do you think about having a child from a sperm donor when you are single and fertile?
Hello Worthy People. Welcome to the Valet Amandum Podcast dengan host kalian Yega disini. Hari ini kita kedatangan seseorang yang sudah lama ingin gua wawancarain. He’s basically the real-life person of who Nassim Nicholas Taleb says in his book Skin in The Game, “Don’t tell me what you think, tell me what you do”. In high school, he manages to found his school’s cinematography club. He also manages to join an exchange program in the united states. And while he’s there he manages to make one of his films that he filmed with his club, screened in the Santa Monica International Teen Film Festival. In college, he manages to join the UI MUN Club and become UI’s delegation in 2016 and 2017. He manages to win the best delegate award in the European International Model United Nations. But that’s not all, he’s representing FISIP in MAPRES and manages to win the 3rd place for The Best MAPRES category, Best Paper, and Presentation, and Best English. And if you think he’s finished achieving in life, then that’s where you’re wrong. He co-founded GotongRoyong with his friend, a platform in which people can donate money without money. He’s the ASEAN Young Ambassador. His current adventure is located in Papua where he volunteered as one of the teachers as part of a program called Indonesia Mengajar. He’s an inspiration; someone that I’ve considered as my mentor and it’s been my privilege to get to know him as a close friend. During this interview, he tells the stories about his high school years, his personal motivation for achieving during his college years, and his definition of a life that is worth loving. Hope you enjoy it! | Timestamp: (03:00) What Radhiyan learns during his time in the US. (09:00) The story behind his cinematography club. (13:20) His teacher’s reaction to his film. (15:33) His portfolio is proof that he has skin in the game. (17:20) His story about choosing where to study next. (20:30) The contrast from his initial thought about MUN. (21:40) The skills from MUN that he still uses. (22:36) The process that he went through to win his first title. (28:00) From MUN to MAPRES. (31:46) His drive to become a MAPRES. (34:30) An insight from MAPRES. (36:37) The importance of having a rival. (37:20) His drive for competition. (39:50) His favorite quote from Eyeshield 21. (41:00) The books that influence him. (44:10) Common Humanity over Common Enemy. (45:58) Trying to include everyone in policymaking. (52:10) Education in Indonesia. (54:25) Key takeaways from his experience in Papua. (57:40) From competition to service. (1:02:00) The person that inspires him from Indonesia. (1:05:00) How GotongRoyong came about. (1:06:20) GotongRoyong’s Story. (1:11:40) Reconceptualizing BEM. (1:16:40) Rebuilding his connection with people that matter most to him. (1:20:28) Being the ASEAN Young Ambassador and ASEAN’s function. (1:27:40) Discussing uncomfortable topics in ASEAN. (1:30:30) Showing our worth to the world. (1:36:00) His definition of a life that is worth loving. (1:40:05) Quote to anchor that definition.
Ahmad Kemal Maulana is an undergraduate of international business from the Institute Technology of Bandung. His interest in business and coffee leads him to co-found Inersia Kopi & Coklat. He’s also been involved in the QuranID Project as one of the reciters, along the lines of Afgan, Dewi Sandra, and many more. He’s a content creator on Instagram and YouTube that talks about Islam and how we can all be benefitted by practicing the virtues that are presented in the Quran and Hadith. And in this episode, we talk just about that. Hope you guys enjoy this episode! Timestamp: (03:00) Alasan bikin podcast tentang agama. (04:32) Perbedaan pendapat dalam hidup. (06:24) Alasan Kemal mau open up tentang sesuatu. (09:15) Alasan Kemal tidak mau open up tentang sesuatu. (12:06) Hal-hal yang Kemal batasin di social media. (19:38) Hal-hal yang menjadi pemicu Kemal untuk mendalami agama. (30:40) Kita perlu meluruskan niat setiap saat. (32:52) Arti zikir sebenarnya. (37:45) Perbandingan penekanan zikir pada ritualnya dengan arti meta fisikanya. (43:26) Agama perlu disebarkan ke segala kalangan. (46:48) Atheis tetap menuhankan sesuatu. (50:55) Diskusi antara mualaf dan murtad. (52:43) Merasa paling benar dihadapan Tuhan. (55:00) Ayat favorit Kemal dan penjelasannya. (1:27:45) Ayat favorit Yega dan penjelasannya. (01:42:12) Diskusi tentang quote dari buku The Letters to A Young Muslim. (1:47:37) Menjadi duta besar agama Islam. (1:51:00) Ujian untuk orang beriman. (1:54:24) Ujian untuk setiap value yang dipegang seseorang. (2:00:05) Definisi Kemal akan hidup yang worth loving.
Bahreisy Imadudien is a psychology student with an interest in finding meaning from a personal responsibility standpoint. He's the champion of the 2020 Asian English Olympics in the field of storytelling. He's also a content creator. He creates video essays on his YouTube channel that deconstruct fictional stories and characters from their psychological and philosophical importance and songs on his Instagram account that talks about our existential struggle as a human being. In this podcast, we covered a lot of material from content to culture to building arguments with the constraint of western and eastern philosophy. Hope you enjoy listening to it!
Hai gengs, untuk podcast kali ini, gua pingin bawa salah satu temen gua yang paling rajin nyatet di kelas. Namanya Rania. Kita bakal breakdown materi yang ada buat UAS. Don't forget to share it and hope you enjoy it! Semua rangkuman Rania bisa dilihat di https://bit.ly/MPSIRANI
Timeframe: Within-Subject Design 01:18 | Repeated Measure ANOVA 35:23 | Two Factor Analysis of Variance 01:07:20 | Mixed Design 01.32.00
Jangan lupa belajar pake contoh soal yaa gengs!!!
Let's talk about past relationships. What do you think about them? Any bad memories? Any good lessons? Whether you want to acknowledge it or not, our past help us determine the course that we will take for the rest of our lives. BUT, we can always choose differently. We can choose to love differently. What do I mean by that? Find out more in today's podcast!
In this episode, me and my friend, Kania, explore the idea of "The Right Person in a Relationship". We talked about becoming the right person instead of finding the right one. We talked about the notion of 'The Wrong Person', and despite the fact that it's different for everyone, we can still find commonalities in them. We also talked about how to determine whether a relationship is a success or a failure from a different angle. Lastly, where do we draw the line in all of those ideas. One thing to note tho, the way we view love is polar opposite. I stand for "Love a person for who they could be", and she stand for "Love a person for who they are". So it's interesting that we can find an agreement in this episode. Hope you enjoy it guys!
Hai gengs, untuk yang kangen ngedengerin bacotan gua tentang sejarah aliran psikologi, di podcast kali ini gua bawa temen gua yang kalau ngomong lebih artikulatif dari pada gua. Namanya Jesi, dan gua yakin kalian bakal seneng sama episode kali ini. Karena kita akan ngebreak down materi teori perkembangan untuk UAS. Rangkuman Jesi sama temen2nya bisa dilihat di bit.ly/Raber. Don't forget to share it guys and hope you enjoy listening it!
It's been a while since I've uploaded any episode. So have fun listening to this rant!
Hey guys, this is my friend Nisa. She is basically one of those person that can really bring the best version out of me. In this podcast, we talked for a long time. Like a really long time. So, buckle up. We talked about her trip to Bandung, my introductory questions that includes who she is, and 3 words to describe her self. We also talked about Logic and Emotions; how both of us actually do things logically than most people. We get deep down about loyalty, and how it can affect a friendship. We talked about Mark Manson's book, and how it makes me think about how she view the world. We also talked how I kill my own feelings, and how it affects me on catching my feelings. We also talked about adoring someone, and why sometimes she do the opposite of what I do. We also talked about why she uses the word 'like' more often than 'love'. And to be honest, most of the things we talked about is love. We talked about death and astronomy in the last 30 minutes or so. Then finally, I asked her on what's her definition of a life that is worth loving. Oh wait, Did I mention that she's going to be at the same university as I am? Hope you guys enjoy this episode!
