How Your Child’s Hurtful Words Reveal the #1 Thing You Need Most
Join the Calm Superpower Cohort HERE!
In this 3-week live experience, starting November 3rd, we’ll walk through the three biggest areas of toddler struggle:
1️⃣ Listening and cooperation
2️⃣ Meltdowns and emotional coaching
3️⃣ Triggers and your own calm superpower
You’ll get live Q&As, short lessons, and strategies that actually work in real life.
And when you enroll by October 31st, you’ll save $100 and get a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt while supplies last.
Listen to a related and helpful episode, 'The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle' here.
Back to the Episode:
Ever feel stung by your toddler's words?
In this episode, we talk about why toddlers say hurtful things like 'Go away, Mommy' and 'I don't love you,' and how these moments reveal what you need most as a parent.
We'll discuss toddler tantrums, emotional boundaries, and the hidden fix-it loop that can leave you feeling drained. Learn how to stay calm and ensure your peace doesn't depend on your child's behavior.
Plus, join the Calm Superpower cohort starting November 3rd for strategies to handle listening, meltdowns, and triggers. Sign up by October 31st to save $100 and get a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt!
00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Fix-It Loop
00:31 Understanding Toddler Tantrums and Hurtful Words
00:58 Introducing the Calm Superpower Cohort
02:19 Exploring Emotional Boundaries
06:51 The Hidden Fix-It Loop Explained
10:14 Nervous System Link: Safety vs. Seeking
11:30 Emotional Boundaries vs. Emotional Walls
18:26 Practical Responses to Hurtful Words
20:25 Conclusion and Next Steps
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Embrace and Enjoy Parenting with Devin Kuntzman!
Follow Devon Kuntzman here on Instagram
Get Devon's new book, Transforming Toddlerhood here!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we're thrilled to have modern parenting expert Devin Kuntzman.
Devin is well-known for her work on Instagram as the original toddler parenting coach, trusted by millions of parents worldwide.
Devin shares her mission to shift the narrative around toddlerhood, viewing it as a stage filled with opportunities rather than challenges. She discusses her comprehensive new book, 'Transforming Toddlerhood,' coming out on October 21, 2025, that's packed with actionable advice for caregivers.
Devin also talks about the importance of understanding toddler behavior as communication and shares practical tips for dealing with power struggles and tantrums. Join us as we explore ways to navigate the ups and downs of toddlerhood with confidence and joy.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Behavior Challenges
01:05 Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:11 Meet Devon Kuntzman: Transforming Toddlerhood
03:59 Understanding Toddler Behavior as Communication
09:03 The Importance of Realistic Expectations
12:54 Practical Tips for Positive Parenting
22:40 Behavioral Red Flags to Watch For
25:23 Navigating Parenting Overwhelm
26:33 The Messiness of Toddlerhood
27:31 Empathy and Parenting Challenges
29:11 Balancing Discipline and Emotional Wellbeing
31:00 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting
34:17 Real-Life Parenting Struggles
38:35 Building Awareness and Growth Mindset
42:15 The Impact of Transforming Toddlerhood
46:10 Final Thoughts and Resources
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Stop Trying to Get Your Toddler to Listen: Right Intention, Wrong Strategy
The Calm Superpower Cohort starts the week of November 3rd.
It’s three weeks, three live Q&As on Zoom (recordings available after), and one calm superpower that changes everything.
You’ll learn how to handle meltdowns, power struggles, and those “push your button” moments with tools that actually work in real life.
Enroll before October 31st to get the Sweet Treat Deal — $97 (regularly $197) and a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt (value of $30 USD) for the first 5 sign-ups. Sign up here!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we’re exploring the true meaning of 'listening' when it comes to toddlers.
Learn how to distinguish between mere compliance and genuine cooperation, and discover why the latter is crucial for your child's long-term development.
Join us as we discuss practical tips for fostering cooperation, the hidden costs of enforcing compliance, and the importance of connection in shaping resilient kids. Plus, get all the details on the upcoming Calm Superpower cohort starting the week of November 3rd, designed to equip you with real-life tools for handling toddler meltdowns and power struggles.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:02 Understanding Listening vs. Cooperation
00:56 Introducing the Calm Superpower Cohort
02:38 Back to the Episode: Listening vs. Compliance
04:04 The Importance of True Cooperation
06:26 Compliance vs. Cooperation Pathways
12:07 The Hidden Costs of Good Listening
16:51 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle | Toddler Toolkit Podcast
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, I reflect on a key insight inspired between my personal life and by an interview with Katie Krimitsos (coming on air soon!): why is it easier for moms to show compassion to their children than to themselves?
We dive into real-life scenarios where self-criticism depletes our patience, explore the concept of 'compassion leaks,' and discuss how this imbalance affects our ability to care for our kids effectively.
I share personal stories and offer practical steps for practicing self-compassion and maintaining emotional balance. Join me for an honest conversation about the importance of giving yourself grace and how it benefits both you and your family.
00:00 Introduction: The Compassion Dilemma
01:11 A Real-Life Example: Nighttime Meltdown
04:28 Understanding Compassion Leaks
04:44 Common Compassion Leak Scenarios
08:30 The Importance of Self-Compassion
12:47 Practical Steps for Preventative Regulation
14:44 Conclusion: Embracing Imperfection
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness
🎤I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel,
More than 100,000 families are already joining in. Together, we’ll hear from 25+ parenting experts sharing practical tools for real family life—the messy, imperfect, beautiful kind.
👉 Get a Free Ticket Here. 🎫
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In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore why toddlers often seem defiant and how parents might unintentionally suppress kindness in their children.
Learn the three common mistakes—missing the care, shaming the care, and focusing on the negative—and find out how to reframe these moments to foster kindness instead of conflict.
I'll share real-life examples, exact words you can use, and practical tools for parenting.
Plus, don't miss insights from the upcoming Happily Family Conference, featuring experts like Dr. Daniel Siegel. Tune in to strengthen your parent-child bond and nurture emotional intelligence in your kids.
00:00 Introduction: Understanding Toddler Behavior
01:00 Common Parenting Challenges
01:47 The Concept of Invisible Care
04:04 Three Ways Parents Shut Down Kindness
05:28 Real-Life Examples and Reframes
12:32 Biology and Negativity Bias
16:20 Growing More Kindness
18:05 Conclusion and Upcoming Events
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Realistic Fitness and Nutrition for Busy Moms ft. Athena Concannon | Toddler Toolkit Podcast
Most moms don’t fail because they lack willpower—they’re stuck in fitness myths that don’t work. In this episode, Athena Concannon reveals the truth that actually helps busy moms see real results without extremes.
Connect with Athena HERE:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/athenaconcannon/
Website: https://www.achievewithathena.com/
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I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel! My favorite author in the parenting education and neuroscience space. 💛
-A lot of different people come to the Happily Family Conference… foster and adoptive parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, therapists, and coaches. If you live with kids or work with them, then this conference is for YOU. People attend from all over the globe.
-More than 100,000 families are already joining in. Together, we’ll hear from 25+ parenting experts sharing practical tools for real family life…the messy, imperfect, beautiful kind.
👉 Save your free spot and get your FREE TICKET HERE!
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Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Join us on today's episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast as we welcome Athena Concannon, a certified personal trainer, nutrition coach, and creator of the Balanced Body Project.
Athena shares her journey from fitness enthusiast to helping busy women, especially moms, achieve their fitness goals without the extremes.
Learn about her practical strategies, the importance of balance, and how to prioritize self-care in the chaos of motherhood. Athena also talks about the impact of mindset shifts and how to avoid the common all-or-nothing trap. Perfect for moms looking for realistic and compassionate approaches to health and fitness.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement
00:51 Athena's Journey into Fitness and Nutrition
04:22 Balancing Fitness with Motherhood
06:42 Overcoming the All or Nothing Trap
10:17 Realistic Fitness Strategies for Moms
23:13 Customizable Fitness Plans
28:37 Mindset Shifts and Client Success Stories
35:15 Final Thoughts and Contact Information
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, we explore the difference between control language and connection language when dealing with toddler meltdowns.
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Learn why phrases like 'calm down' and 'stop crying' often backfire, and discover 12 effective swaps to help support your child's emotional regulation. We also discuss the importance of intention and body language in parenting.
Plus, hear about the upcoming Happy Family Online Conference in October 2025 and get tips on how to navigate meltdowns even when you're burned out.
00:00 Introduction: From Control to Connection
01:35 Understanding Control Language
02:44 The Importance of Connection Language
04:42 12 Helpful Swaps from Control to Connection
10:18 Real-Life Examples and Final Thoughts
12:25 Upcoming Events and Conclusion
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
From Tantrums to ‘I’m Sorry’: Emotional Milestones Every Parent Should Know
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Episode Mentions:
3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes
What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything
Today's Episode:
Parents love celebrating first steps and words, but what about emotional milestones?
In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, we'll talk about key emotional milestones like empathy, self-calming, and remorse.
Join us as we share practical tips and real-life stories, including an embarrassing but insightful incident at Chick-fil-A, to help you recognize and celebrate your child's emotional growth.
Learn how to notice and name these important skills and how to support your toddler’s emotional development. Plus, hear about special announcements including upcoming conferences and our second anniversary celebration!
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Milestones
01:06 The Indoor Play Place Incident
04:35 Key Emotional Milestones
07:29 7 Notice and Name Scripts
09:40 Understanding Delayed Processing
11:21 Regret vs. Remorse
13:06 Supporting Emotional Growth
14:46 Announcements and Upcoming Events
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode, Heather shares personal stories and practical tips for parents to help their toddlers build resilience. Through reassurance and a growth mindset, toddlers can overcome frustration and perfectionism.
The episode includes specific scripts for parents to use, discusses common toddler struggles, and emphasizes the importance of validating emotions and encouraging retrying. Listeners will learn how early intervention can have a long-lasting positive impact on their child's development. The episode concludes with an invitation to explore further resources and celebrate the podcast's achievements over its two-year journey.
00:00 Welcome to the Podcast
00:02 Understanding Toddler Meltdowns
01:26 The Remote Truck Struggle
03:36 Teaching Moments from Accidents
06:28 Validating and Reassuring Your Child
09:29 Common Toddler Perfectionism Triggers
12:17 Building Resilience for Life
13:01 Exciting Announcements and Final Thoughts
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Why School Drop-Off Can Get Hard & What to Do About Late Separation Anxiety
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we discuss why separation anxiety can show up later than expected and offer creative strategies to ease drop-offs. Sharing personal experiences and practical tips like Jobs of Connection, you'll learn how to help your toddler feel more secure and connected during their transition to preschool or kindergarten. Tune in for helpful insights and support for handling these common challenges.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:10 Understanding Delayed Separation Anxiety
01:42 Real-Life Examples of Separation Anxiety
02:50 Why Separation Anxiety Happens
05:13 Creative Solutions for Drop-Off Challenges
05:39 Jobs of Connection: Practical Tips
10:32 Conclusion and Additional Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Understanding Your Toddler's Tantrums: Find Your Parenting Style
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
This episode was referenced for you to also listen to:
What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything
Why Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do Instead
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we tackle toddler tantrums and the different styles parents use to handle them: the fixer, the shusher, the avoider, and the controller. We discuss why these behaviors happen, what might be missing in each approach, and introduce the balanced parent style for a healthier way to manage meltdowns. We'll also reflect on how our own upbringing influences our reactions and offer insights to help you become more intentional and self-aware in your parenting. Don't forget to grab the free guide 'Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast' from the show notes.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:22 Understanding Tantrum Styles
04:02 The Fixer Tantrum Style
07:45 The Shusher Tantrum Style
13:01 The Avoider Tantrum Style
15:13 The Controller Tantrum Style
18:01 Becoming a Balanced Parent
22:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Why Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do Instead
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
This episode was referenced for you to also listen to:
What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we dive into the power of holding space for your toddler's big emotions without trying to fix or debate them. Learn three core practices: holding space, matching and leading the energy down, and repairing over perfection. Discover practical steps to calm your child's nervous system, turning meltdowns into teachable moments. Get insights on how to use your presence, body language, and tone to create safety and connection. Plus, hear a real-life story about handling playground dynamics effectively. For more resources, check out the free guide on solving toddler struggles in the show notes.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:03 Understanding the Power of Holding Space
00:52 Mindset Shift: You Don't Have to Fix Every Meltdown
01:50 Core Practice 1: Holding Space
05:32 Core Practice 2: Match, Then Lead the Energy Down
06:45 Core Practice 3: Repair Beats Perfection
08:15 Real-Life Example: Holding Space at the Park
12:22 Five Lessons from the Story
15:47 Final Thoughts and Resources
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Bribes vs. Earning: Effective Toddler Parenting Strategies
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Listen to this episode that pairs with this one,
Get Your Toddler to Cooperate Without Bribes or Threats
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore the critical difference between bribing and helping toddlers work towards something.
The podcast covers why this distinction matters, real-life examples, and effective strategies to foster intrinsic motivation in children. We also discuss why bribes often backfire, the hierarchy of motivation, and provide practical tips from the host's background as a special education teacher and toddler parenting coach.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
01:13 Understanding Bribes vs. Earning Rewards
03:01 Examples and Real-Life Analogies
05:42 Proactive Strategies and Habit Building
16:31 Hierarchy of Motivation
19:34 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Why Your Toddler Isn’t Talking More & What You Can Do About It w/ Paige O'Dwyer
In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, Heather chats with Paige O'Dwyer, a speech language pathologist and the founder of Talk First Words.
Paige shares her journey into the field and how her platform helps parents empower their late talkers. With insights into how parents can turn daily routines into language-building opportunities, she explains the benefits of a parent coaching model over traditional speech therapy.
Paige also touches on the importance of early intervention and offers practical, easy-to-implement tips for nurturing communication skills in toddlers. Don't miss out on her valuable advice and resources!
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:02 Meet Paige O'Dwyer: Speech Language Pathologist and Founder of Talk First Words
00:39 Paige's Journey into Speech and Language Development
01:25 The Birth of Talk First Words
02:10 Challenges and Innovations in Speech Therapy
04:11 Inclusive Play School: Partners in Play
06:05 Motherhood and Its Impact on Paige's Work
07:53 Common Mistakes Parents Make in Speech Development
14:32 The Power of Parent Coaching
19:25 Balancing Speech Therapy with Everyday Life
24:09 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Parents
28:08 Where to Find More Resources and Connect with Paige
Connect with Page, send her the word "toolkit" on Instagram for her special toddler toolkit bundle for our listeners.
➤ Instagram: @talkfirstwords
➤ Website: www.talkfirstwords.com
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
How to Get Your Toddler to Cooperate Without Bribes or Threats!
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we explore how to get your toddler to cooperate without using bribes or threats.
Learn practical strategies for setting clear expectations and creating cooperation before conflict ever starts. I'll share my personal experiences with my own toddler twins, especially in challenging situations like grocery store visits. We'll discuss the common pitfalls of relying on consequences, threats, and bribes, and why being proactive is the game-changer. Don't forget to check out the link in the show notes for more tools and strategies!
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:37 The Power of Setting Clear Expectations
01:52 Reality Check: The Role of Consequences
03:00 Proactive Strategies in Action
04:17 Grocery Store Example: Setting Expectations
09:52 The Importance of Clarity and Roles
10:57 Contrasting Threats and Bribes
12:21 Real-Life Analogies: Why Bribes and Threats Fail
16:08 Building Habits and Skills Over Time
19:04 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Celebrating 10k Downloads on Toddler Toolkit: Top Episodes, Advice and Mic Drop Moments!
Welcome to a special celebration episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast! We've hit 10,000 downloads and we're diving into the most downloaded episodes of all time to help you navigate toddlerhood.
✨Join the Toddler Mom Community, and Share your Toddler Wins and Struggles!
✨Read the blog and get Notes from the Show!
We'll also share the top six mic drop moments from our guests, filled with humor and insights to make your parenting journey smoother. Shout outs to our top listener locations and heartfelt thanks to our amazing listeners. Join us for this special milestone and get ready for some great takeaways!
Top Episodes: 🎧 Top Toddler Toolkit Episodes (Most Downloaded of All Time)-Click the Links to Listen!
1. Handling the "No" Phase: How to Get Your Toddler to Listen Without a Battle
Do you feel like you're going to lose your cool if you hear your toddler shout, "NO!" one more time? Here's how to navigate the resistance phase without constant battles.
2. Navigating Meltdowns: When Toddlers Don’t Get What They Want
Why do toddlers melt down even after getting what they asked for—or flip-flop between yes and no? This episode breaks down their brain wiring and how to guide them through it.
3. Toddlerhood: Navigating 18 Months to 2 ½ Years
A big-picture look at what’s happening developmentally and emotionally during this stage—plus how to respond in ways that support growth and reduce chaos.
4. 5 Common Pitfalls of Toddler Boundaries and How to Avoid Them
Boundaries are helpful—but not magic. Learn the common ways they backfire and what to do instead to see real behavior change.
The Insightful and FUNNY Mic Drop Moments:
💬 “Your body deserves healing, not just surviving.”
– Clare Samol & Heather Thompson, Healing Your Body After Baby
💬 “You are not failing. You’re in the messy middle of figuring out what works for your family.”
– Taylor Greenberg, From Books to Breakthroughs: The Parenting Advice That Changed My Life
💬 “Feeding isn’t just about the bottle or breast—it’s about identity, overwhelm, and feeling seen as a mother.”
– Roxie Alsruhe, Breast Milk, Bottles & Burnout: Surviving Baby Feeding Overwhelm
The Most Memorable and Insightful Mic Drop Moments:
💬 “Sleep battles are rarely about sleep—they’re about trust and transitions.”
– Jensine Casey, My Toddler Isn’t Napping and Not Comfortable Being Alone to Fall Asleep
💬 “Play tells us everything. If a child is throwing, lining up, or crashing toys—there’s always a story behind it.”
– Ruth Vercoe, From Throwing to Lining Up: What Your Child’s Play Is Really Telling You
💬 “Rest isn’t the absence of noise—it’s the presence of safety.”
– Jonathan Martinez, End Bedtime Battles: One Shift to Reclaim Your Evenings
00:00 Welcome to the Celebration Episode!
00:48 Reflecting on the Podcast's Growth
01:49 Top Cities and Countries Tuning In
02:43 Most Downloaded Episodes Revealed
02:55 Handling the No Phase
03:46 Navigating Toddler Meltdowns
04:40 Toddlerhood: 18 Months to 2.5 Years
06:02 Avoiding Common Pitfalls in Toddler Boundaries
07:30 Top Mic Drop Moments: Humor and Insights
21:07 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
5 Strategies that are more Powerful than Time Out
The Toddler Toolkit Podcast, is so close to 10k downloads, please help support the podcast by downloading a helpful episode or sharing the podcast with a friend or family member in need- so these free resources can reach & support more families.
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Join us on the Toddler Toolkit Podcast as we explore five powerful strategies to manage toddler behavior more effectively than traditional timeout. Discover the reasons why timeout can backfire and learn actionable techniques to address your child's needs, build essential skills, and foster a positive parent-child connection. This episode offers reflective questions for parents and practical advice on teaching and reinforcing the right behaviors. Tune in and gain valuable insights to navigate your parenting journey with confidence!
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:25 Why Timeout Often Fails
03:09 Reflective Questions for Parents
09:27 Five Strategies Better Than Timeout
15:18 Closing Thoughts and Additional Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
What “No!”, “Go Away!”, and Other Toddler Phrases Actually Mean
You wont want to miss out on my 'tug-of-war' metaphor that changes how you show up for your toddler during tough moments!
The Toddler Toolkit Podcast, is so close to 10k downloads, please help support the podcast by downloading a helpful episode or sharing the podcast with a friend or family member in need- so these free resources can reach & support more families.
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In this episode, we discuss the deeper meaning behind your toddler saying 'No' or 'Go away.' I share a personal update and emphasize the importance of support and community, revealing my journey as a bestselling co-author.
We explore how to interpret your child's challenging moments as a cry for safety and connection rather than rejection. Learn practical strategies to respond effectively, ensuring you maintain strong, supportive bonds with your little ones. Plus, discover useful phrases and tools to help both you and your toddler navigate big emotions. Stay tuned for insights that can transform your parenting approach and strengthen your relationship with your child.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:02 Personal Updates
01:46 Supporting the Podcast and Special Ask from Listeners
02:46 Understanding Toddler Rejection
05:14 Reframing Toddler Behavior
06:12 Why Toddlers Say 'Go Away' or 'No'
07:30 Interpreting Toddler Language
14:03 Responding to Toddler Outbursts
14:24 The Tug of War Metaphor
23:20 Long-Term Impact of Emotional Support
24:03 Conclusion and Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
In this heartwarming episode of The Toddler Toolkit, Heather sits down with Jonathan Martinez—dad of two, former special education teacher, registered nurse, and creator of Yawnimals, a soothing bedtime audiobook series helping families find calm at the end of the day.
🎧Listen to Yawnimals on Spotify
Jonathan shares how his unique path—from caring for patients on their hardest days to leading classrooms with compassion—inspired him to create stories that are more than bedtime entertainment. They’re a way for parents to be the emotional anchor, the steady mountain children can lean on.
Together, they explore why rest is about more than sleep, how setting clear expectations creates security, and why helping kids wind down isn’t a battle—it’s a bridge to connection. You’ll hear Jonathan’s perspective on bringing entrepreneurship into parenting, thinking creatively to serve others, and modeling resilience and presence for your kids.
Whether you’re struggling with bedtime meltdowns or simply want to make evenings more peaceful, this conversation will inspire you to approach bedtime as a time to connect, restore, and show up as your child’s safe place—even on the toughest days.
Tune in to hear about his innovative bedtime strategies, his children's involvement in the project, and insights about maintaining compassion and regulation as both a parent and professional caregiver.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:03 Meet Jonathan Martinez: A Multifaceted Journey
02:35 Lessons from Special Education
06:51 From Teaching to Nursing
08:09 The Birth of Yawn Animals
12:07 Creative Entrepreneurship with Kids
16:46 Bedtime Challenges and Solutions
22:35 The Power of Imagination in Children's Bedtime
23:51 Transitioning Through Toddler Years
25:01 Engaging Bedtime Routines
26:21 Parental Strategies for Bedtime
30:30 The Importance of Rest for Parents
36:58 Emotional Regulation and Compassion
40:44 New Projects and Social Media
45:30 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Listen to Yawnimals:
Yawnimals on Spotify
Yawnimals on Hoopla
Yawnimals on Libby
Yawnimals on Audible
Yawnimals on Apple Books
Yawnimals on Amazon (Kindle Addition)
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Navigating the Toddler Years: Ages 3-4
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Hey parents! Welcome to Toddler Toolkit. Struggling with your three to four-year-old's listening skills? You're not alone. In this episode, we share real parent struggles and provide insights to help you navigate these challenging years. From cognitive development to handling big emotions, we cover the key skills your toddler is building. Plus, check out our 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast guide for practical tips. Join us as we break down what's normal at this stage and how you can support your child's growth. Don't miss out on essential advice for this unpredictable but important time in your child's life.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit
00:58 Common Toddler Struggles
03:04 Understanding Toddler Development
03:40 Cognitive Development in Toddlers
06:41 Physical Development Milestones
07:28 Social and Emotional Growth
09:02 Managing Big Emotions
13:47 Common Challenges and Solutions
20:05 Final Thoughts and Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
