Do you identify as a ‘high-achiever’? If not…you might by the end of this episode ;)
Today, Stacy and I are talking about ‘underground’ high-achievers. These are the folks who have an inner critic that never lets them rest. Stacy and I both know because we have BEEN there!
No matter how much we achieved, we feel like there wasn’t much to be proud of.
Stacy helps these high-achievers get where they want to be – HOW THEY WANT to be there.
Ready to come along? Get ready to ask the right questions and get honest with yourself so you can reconnect to what really matters to you.
Questions like:
Time to recalibrate your GPS to your own expectations and what truly feels good.
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Stacy is a life and leadership coach who empowers deeply caring and overextended high-achievers – like you – to honor your needs, do less, and say no so you can invest your time and energy in what matters most to you. She helps her clients shift from doing to being as they tap into the wisdom in their bodies and spirits instead of just their [over]thinking minds.
Stacy’s mission is to create a world where overachievers shift to tending to their own needs first, without feeling like they're letting everyone else down. She serves clients with 1:1 coaching and group coaching.
Stacy and I chatted on her podcast here:
https://www.outgrowthegrind.co/blog/prioritizeyouinsteadofperfection
Find the rest of Stacy’s podcast here:
https://www.stacyrayekellogg.com/podcast
Follow Stacy on Instagram here:
@outgrowthegrind
Hire Stacy and learn more about her work here:
www.stacyrayekellogg.com
It’s rare (in my world at least) to meet a human who describes themselves as ‘low on the people-pleasing spectrum’, but Natalie does just that.
This refreshing and frank conversation I had with Natalie sheds light on the disparities in wealth building between Black people, people of color, and white people.
Natalie knows this topic intimately as she lost her full-tuition scholarship during college because she *had* to work to pay her bills. After school, her student loan payment was more than her mortgage and car loan combined.
I was surprised/not surprised to hear that 12% of the population is black, but 70% of student loan debt belongs to Black people. Predatory lending has always disproportionately targeted people of color.
Listen in as Natalie and I unpack some of the underlying roots of the systems that create wealth inequality with a little sass and lots of laughs along the way!
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Natalie Bullen is a wealth and money mindset coach from Mobile, AL. As the owner of Unapologetic Wealth, she teaches financial empowerment and money mindset training for powerful women of color so they can step into the wealth they deserve and desire. She is also a Financial Planner who shuns traditional personal finance values rooted in shame, guilt and fear and encourages followers to dream bigger, increase their prices and magnify their gifts.
Listen to Natalie on Clubhouse:
Learn more about Natalie’s work and find her social media accounts here:
https://unapologeticwealth.ck.page/
Get on the waitlist for her highly anticipated networking group here!
You don't have to get rid of a single beanie baby in order to be organized and feel good in your home. There is no moral high ground to depriving yourself of "extra" stuff.
However... two things can be true at the same time. Minimalism can be used selectively in order to save you from the STUFF that you're constantly drowning in. You can be a happy maximalist, and still apply the principal of minimalism to specific areas of your home. This isn't an either-or world, and you get to make your own rules.
Krista Lockwood from Motherhood Simplified helps moms declutter and simplify their lives in order to maintain their sanity. Because motherhood is a season that, well... might require some selective minimalism so that you can keep up with the specific challenges that motherhood brings (and free up room for more JOY instead).
Kelly and Krista discuss both of their minimalism journeys (one was by accident, while the other was on purpose), and why they no longer believe that minimalism is a silver bullet to fix your problems. Do we hate minimalism? NO! Minimalism might be the right solution for your life, but it helps to be damn sure before you dive off the deep end and end up regretting all the stuff you later realize wasn't even the real problem. We discuss who it might be right for, and how *not* to do it so that you stay in alignment with your values.
Follow Krista on Instagram, and download her free "Clear Your Clutter" guide to plug into her amazing support group for moms who want less chaos and more joy in their journey. We're in this together!
Rachael Kay Albers (RKA) is the one woman SNL of biz comedy who started unapologetically naming names and pointing out unethical practices in online business in early 2021. She had spent years in marketing trying to get her clients to care about more than the bottom line and wondering how we got *here* in entrepreneurship. Her deep hunger for innovation and frustration with the modern cult of ‘branding’ led her to light all the bullshit on fire. RKA told the uncensored truth in her ‘Free School’ and publicly aired her grievances — as well as her hard-earned wisdom — to the Instagram world. Because…who doesn’t love a dumpster fire?
Listen in as RKA, creative director, brand strategist, and business comedian at RKA ink, brings us along for an entertaining and evocative ride of reinvention. Here’s to burning the rulebook and marketing in pursuit of meaning.
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Lauren Marie Fleming started coaching her peers on storytelling when she was 8 years old and giving speeches in 4H. Spoiler alert: she says snacks and asking ‘why’ were her secret key to success.
As she grew up, she learned the power of the stories we tell ourselves and others as she was deeply shamed and dangerously medicated for being fat. Finding proudly fat people to create community with allowed her to actively change her own narrative and started her journey of amplifying other voices that have been silenced and pushed to the sidelines.
Lauren helps aspiring authors ditch the starving artist cliche and thrive. She has written for prominent publications like Vice and Huffington post and spoken at prestigious conferences such as Blog Her and at colleges including Yale. For over two decades Lauren has coached writers and other storytellers to write books that honor their creativity and humanity while making more money and telling better stories.
She’s worked with some of the world’s most distinguished authors and speakers including Tony Robbins. She is a graduate of both film school and law school. Lauren’s goal in life is to encourage entrepreneurs to be more creative and to teach artists to think more like entrepreneurs.
Follow Lauren on Instagram here:
Grab Lauren’s Free Guide to Journaling Through Difficult Times here: schoolforwriters.com/journaling
Listen to the School for Writers Podcast here:
Write Your Friggin’ Book Already, Lauren’s program mentioned on the show is opening in February 2022. You can hop on the waitlist to get more info here:
Even in a workplace where you think things are going great, there’s always a way to make more room for diversity, equity, and inclusion. Stacey Gordon suggests asking a key question that might just open your eyes to exactly where the work needs to be done in your company or business, because being interested in the surface work of anti-racism just isn’t enough. Listen in to hear Stacey’s key question and how you can start conversations at work or on your entrepreneurial team to create what Stacey calls “unconscious inclusion.”
Stacey is an executive advisor and diversity strategist who coaches and councils executive leaders on DEI strategies for their businesses. With a focus on the intersection of diversity, inclusion, and workplace culture she has been invited as a keynote speaker and facilitator around the globe to tackle the tough conversations companies need to have.
Her no-nonsense approach to DEI comes through her book “UNBIAS: Addressing Unconscious Bias at Work” which debuted at #1 on Amazon’s hot new release list. She is the creator of A course on Unconscious bias which has earned the highest number of views on the LinkedIn learning platform. Along with her popular resume course she has reached over 1 million unique learners.
Follow Stacey on Instagram here
Join Stacey’s Free DEI Community here
Stacey’s website: www.reworkwork.com
Understanding the way your nervous system works is a crucial part of identifying and beginning to heal from trauma. Carrie and I chat in this episode about the difference between Big T trauma and little t trauma, how Carrie started her own healing journey, and what it looks like to start your own healing journey with gentleness and intention.
Carrie is the mom of four kids and after a decade of struggling from betrayal trauma she found hope and healing. Now, she shares the tools that changed her life with others. She’s a certified meditation teacher and trauma specialist.
Click here to find Carrie on Instagram
Just because you’ve made it through burnout once doesn’t mean it can’t happen again, and Nicole Liloia has learned that first hand. In this episode we chat about the corporate structures that keep us from solving problems and bringing down the patriarchy...and a few ways to escape them. We’re both here to cheer you, and your oh-so-valuable laziness on!
Nicole stuck out her 9 to 5 grind for three years before transitioning to freelance style work and then to a business truly built on her own terms that allowed her to travel more while she worked. She’s now a business strategist and social worker who helps women build bigger businesses and create consistent income without needing to be attached to their MacBooks 24/7. She loves helping them create multiple income streams that allow them the freedom to work less while still making more money. Nicole has been featured in Forbes, mindbodygreen, and The Huffington Post.
Want a little more of Nicole’s brilliance? Click here to download Nicole’s FREE Consistent Income Generator!
If you’re *not* one of those people who has boundless energy all day long and you’d love to know how to accommodate your fluctuating energy, inspiration, and motivation — this conversation is a must listen. There are always ways around the things you hate doing...in your home and in your business and Tracy Stanger is on the show today to add to your list of ‘shit moms can stop doing’ right now.
Tracy and I met on Instagram after obsessively sharing each other’s posts. In fact, we might be the same person with the same mission — in slightly different niches.
Tracy Stanger is an anti-hustle business coach who shows moms how to build their world changing business while momming. She wants everyone to remember that you don’t have to do it all. You actually can get better results (and less stress) when you do less, but do it better. She teaches her clients how to trim their to-do lists down to the most impactful tasks so they can make it easier to get those tasks done!
Hang out with Tracy on Instagram: @tracy.stanger
And find more about Tracy’s work at: tracystanger.com
Our instincts can be wrong, but your intuition never lies. You've got all the answers within yourself (I pinky promise!).
But, are you asking yourself the right questions? Sheila helps you ask yourself better question with Tarot readings and learn to trust yourself deeply through self-reflective exercises. Turns out, every single one of us is a "visionary" and a "good judge of character" when we learn how to listen to ourselves.
Sheila Masterson is a Philadelphia based career and business tarot reader and teacher, energy healing facilitator, and host of the Living Tarot Podcast. She has been reading people her whole life and “hearing” energy since she was a young child. She believes that everyone has the ability to connect deeply to their intuition and that tarot is an excellent tool for learning to trust yourself and learn to hear your own inner voice. She is on a mission to break the paradigm of old “fortune telling readings” and instead strives to empower clients through collaborative sessions that help them connect with their own inner wisdom and move forward with confidence on aligned action steps.
Find Sheila on Instagram @StarSageSpirit
Living Tarot Podcast
Becky Mollenkamp is a certified coach who helps women, femmes and thems unlearn patriarchal conditioning and create their own definition of success. Perhaps surprisingly to you - this is also the mission of this podcast.
All roads lead back to the Patriarchy when peeling back layers of trauma, working on self-improvement, dismantling systems of oppression, and creating a life free from the BS expectations of others.
Can't seem to put your finger on why life is so much harder than it needs to be, or why you are never quite satisfied with yourSELF, or why you feel so much GUILT for, well... everything? Its that sneaky patriarchal conditioning, my friend. Becky's skill is to help you pinpoint your own conditioning, and smash it to pieces to reveal more of YOU.
Find Becky on IG
Some people’s lights sparkle brighter. You know the type...
Emma Kaufman wants to ignite your sparkle, and help you to recognize your own inner voice. Uncover the mysteries of the universe (ok, your universe) with a life coach! It’s not just for high powered executives and mid life crises - life coaching is for you if your light is being dimmed, covered up, or completely burnt out.
Find Emma at www.emmaevolving.com
In America, the patriarchy is always judging our worth based on an outward image of productivity, contribution, and potential value to others. But who comes up with the "standard" of worth? This metric for measuring success is already BS, and even more so when you're considered an outsider trying to find your way in the good ol US of A.
When you're an immigrant, you might think of the patriarchy as your disapproving Aunty - whose expectations you can never live up to, no matter how perfectly you check off all the boxes.
Anya Cherrice, helps immigrants and people from immigrant communities redefine archaic ideas of success and dream bigger. Have a listen to hear how she helps people break through these barriers to thrive (and gain some perspective for those of us already from here).
Find Anya at www.navigatingculture.co
And check out her podcast Navigating Culture for more!
Who says you can't be creative for your own FUN (instead of for crumbs)?
After saying "that's enough" to playing “girl who’s unpleasantly surprised by scale” in Weight Watchers commercials... Amber Petty gave NYC the middle finger, moved to LA and started freelance writing instead.
We all know it sucks to be at the whim of an industry that considers you disposable. How does one maintain boundaries on your time and energy when that next missed call might be The Big Break? Or that 20 hour day of chasing auditions might lead you to co-star with Brad Pitt? A girl's gotta eat.
If you're a creative person trying to also pay the rent, listen up and let Amber help you find an outlet for that creativity without selling your soul to the dark web.
Find Amber on Instagram
or www.amberpetty.com
Sure, you can keep working a job that makes you cry on your commute every day, but there's a whole world of possibilities waiting for you on the other side of the obvious choices.
Nic Frick wants to help you transform your career (and life) into exactly what you want it to be. Do you even know what you want? Well, she can help with that too!
Nic knows what it's like to feel stuck in a job (or a whole career) that leaves you feeling blandly underwhelmed OR frantically overwhelmed - and she's here to tell you that the solution is the same for both: make it a priority to get to know your deepest self.
Your needs and your desires can cohabitate beautifully if you're willing to stop trying to do it all. Knock that off! And listen to this episode for an alternate approach from our patriarchal conditioning.
"The goal is freedom and authenticity. Good sex is a side effect"!
Natasha Riley has been a sex therapist long enough to tell you that your sexual woes aren't about sex. And you might be surprised to find out that the same process for getting your home organized is the one that gets her clients the results they seek in bed.
It's all about asking yourself the right questions, feeling confident in who you truly are, and peeling back the layers of stories you carry with you from everyone else.
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Organizing your home will uncover the answer to the most important questions. Like "what do I really want in life?" and "How do I get that?".
You have lots of dream, goals, and aspirations, but those will have to wait - because what you really need is for everyone to leave you alone so you can take a nap or a vacation...
There are lots of things that can help you get unstuck: Such as therapy, coaching, and personal development books. But what if you don't have an ounce of energy to spare for them?
START WITH YOUR HOME. Start with the physical space that you spend most of your time in. It will either support you to be the person you want to be, or it will drain your energy. It will help you to ask yourself the right questions. Then move on to the harder things when you have the energy to do them.
Need a kickstart? Get the free starter kit here: www.TheTidyRebel.com/ClutterRescueKit
To thrive in life, and to make money at work, we are told that there is a formula for success: work hard, hustle, be a team player, follow the rules, check off all the boxes, move up the ladder, think outside the box (but not that far outside!), and definitely don't let your personal life affect your work performance.
But what if you are inherently missing an ingredient in that formula? Alison Tedford is here to tell you that formulas are exclusionary by default, that you most decidedly do NOT have to hustle to thrive, and you can take care of your own wellbeing FIRST, while still making money.
Listen to this interview to hear how we can build a more accessible and equitable workforce, do work that works for us, and continue to dismantle the toxic/patriarchal/grind culture that leaves us all exhausted.
Alison is an author, diversity and inclusion expert and entrepreneur from Abbotsford, BC, Canada. She's an Indigenous mom with a disability and hope for a more accessible future.
Her book Chronic Profit helps entrepreneurs struggling with chronic pain to simplify, systematize and use self-care to build businesses and lives that work for them.
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If you've had enough with your current circumstances, but you just feel STUCK: the way out is to listen to your HEART. Sounds stupid easy, right? Nicole Catenazzi is here to teach you that this is a skill that requires practice, but it is where you will find all of the answers.
Call it your gut or call it your heart, you know when your soul is sending you one message, but your conscious brain is sending you another? It feels like something is off, it feels unsatisfying, it feels misaligned. But your brain instantly fills in the obvious information about why you should keep doing exactly what you are doing (or the next best course of action).
So you keep pushing through for things that don't feel aligned with who you are and what you want. What other choice do you have aside from just staying the course and grinding away?
STEP ONE to figuring out the right choices is learning that you have all of the answers within YOURSELF already. But, how the heck do you tell the difference between your ego and your heart? And shouldn't we be able to trust our thoughts anyway (spoiler alert: no)?
Find Nicole here for more help getting unstuck!
Nicolecatenazzi.com (The Fearless Heart Method)
Instagram
Have you ever felt betrayed by your own body, or mystified about why it doesn't "work" the way you want it to despite all of your best efforts? What if you had the innate power to manage parts of your own internal biology? And what if it wasn't mystical or magical?
Join me in a discussion with Parijat Deshpande as we discuss the mind-body connection, and how stress management can work "miracles" on your physical health - not just your mental health (spoiler alert: they are the same thing).
Her book: Pregnancy Brain: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Management During a High-Risk Pregnancy, is so good that I highlighted something on every single page (while saying "mmhmm!" and nodding to my highlighter like it was a good friend). Even if you are not pregnant, or ever plan to be, this interview is a woo-woo-free portal into the world of mind-body healing. Buckle up!
Get the book!
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