In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress takes us on a deep dive into the quiet prisons we build in the name of safety. She unpacks how survival mode can trick us into believing that control equals security ; when in truth, it often keeps us small, tense, and disconnected.
Through real, relatable examples like overworking because we don’t trust rest, being hyper-independent to avoid disappointment, or shutting down emotionally to feel safe, Ress invites listeners to pause and reflect: Are the structures in your life protecting you, or are they caging you?
This conversation is both grounding and liberating . A reminder that emotional safety isn’t found in rigid control, but in trust, softness, and connection. Ress challenges us to audit the personal “rules” we live by and to allow those structures to evolve as we do. She closes with a soulful call to action: Trust yourself. Let your life be a living, breathing structure .One that grows with you, not against you.
In this reflective check-in episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress dives deep into the shadow side of empathy, what she calls “overstanding”: the habit of stretching your compassion so far that you lose yourself in someone else’s story. She unpacks how constantly excusing, explaining, and empathizing with others,especially at your own expense becomes a quiet form of self-abandonment.
Using personal stories, sharp metaphors, and grounded insight, Ress explores how emotional overextension can leave you drained, resentful, and far from your center. She offers empowering truths on how to recognize when you’re sacrificing your peace in the name of “being a good person” and shares practices for reclaiming your boundaries, energy, and authenticity.
In this season of sacred exhaustion, the She Wolf is pulling back. The podcast is going mini-mode while the host reclaims their energy. The She Wolf Alchemy podcast is switching gears, think less marathon and more mindful jog as your host reckons with the myth of Chiron. It’s time to alchemize the burnout, say yes to softness, and remember: you don’t have to bleed to prove you care.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique discuss the concept of 'perpetual freshman syndrome' where adults fail to take responsibility for their own growth and constantly rely on others for emotional labor. They explore how excusing such behavior can create codependency and normalize dysfunction. The discussion includes personal anecdotes about relationships and friendships where individuals refuse to grow and instead weaponize their incompetence. They also emphasize the importance of reciprocity, self-reflection, and setting boundaries to avoid being drained by others who refuse to do their own work.
Is "peace of mind" just you ignoring red flags in high definition? In this episode, hosts Nique and Ress take a candid dive into the emotional gymnastics we perform to keep the peace — whether it’s with bae, your bestie, your boss, or your cousin who still owes you money from 2018.
From sweeping issues under the rug (until you trip over the damn thing) to the slow drip of self-betrayal we call "keeping it together," they unpack the cost of pretending everything's fine when it’s clearly... not.
Tune in for real talk, personal stories, and tangible strategies on how to know when to speak up, when to let it ride, and how to stop betraying yourself for the sake of "vibes."
Because sometimes, "keeping the peace" is actually starting a war — with yourself.
Ress and Ashley unpack the real meaning behind “all skinfolk ain’t kinfolk,” getting into the messiness of how not everyone who looks like you is necessarily for you. They get into why some folks in marginalized communities end up caping for the very systems that hurt them — yes, Uncle Tom energy is still alive and well. From awkward work dynamics to celebrity betrayals, they dish on how peer pressure, self-interest, and clout-chasing can warp loyalty. The takeaway? Look beyond the optics, know what you believe, and uplift the people walking the walk — not just talking it on timelines.
In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique delve into the rising and complex world of house husbands! Listen as they discuss the growing number of men who trade briefcases for brooms while women climb the corporate ladder. Ress grapples with ambition versus domestic bliss, while Nique humorously tries to figure out how a house husband would work when she is trying to be a housewife. The pair talk about societal judgments, gender norms, and the occasional Xbox antics. With witty banter and personal anecdotes, they explore everything from financial dynamics to public displays of affection, striking a balance between humor and serious reflections on modern love. Don't miss out on tips for vetting house husbands and avoiding 'professional bums'—this insightful and funny look at non-traditional relationships is a must-listen!
You guys asked us to run it back on this topic so here we go again- This one's for the overachievers, emotional contortionists, and secret softies. Nique and Ress get real about the cost of being an over functioner — when vulnerability feels unsafe, and slowing down feels like failure. When being soft feels risky, and hyper-independence becomes your whole personality.From childhood pressure to adult burnout, they get vulnerable about emotional armor, grief over lost girlhood, and why slowing down feels terrifying (but necessary). If you’ve ever been praised for your independence while quietly drowning, prepare to feel seen.
This week, Ress and Gabi unpack what it feels like to be “love bombed by life”—those whirlwind moments when everything happens all at once: big wins, major curveballs, and life-altering changes that don’t exactly wait their turn. From new jobs and personal breakthroughs to emotional overload and decision fatigue, they explore how even the best things can feel like too much when they hit all at once.
Gabi opens up about her recent season of growth and transition, highlighting the unsung heroes—support systems, boundaries, and a solid cup of coffee. The duo dives into the idea of love bombing in relationships and cleverly flips it on its head to talk about how life itself can sometimes overwhelm us with "too much of everything."
They discuss the sneaky signs of burnout, the pressure to say yes to every opportunity, and why it’s okay to hit pause—even when life’s throwing glitter. With honest reflections and practical tips (think commitment audits, grounding rituals, and protecting your peace), Ress and Gabi remind us that while intense chapters are temporary, our well-being is not negotiable.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley dive headfirst into the philosophical deep end to ask: Do we actually make our own choices, or are we just puppets in a cosmic puppet show? From the sneaky tactics of advertisers to the subtle strings of propaganda and upbringing, they unravel how much of our "free will" is actually... well, free.
With a mix of sharp wit and personal confessions, they explore whether we're driven by destiny, DNA, or just really persuasive YouTube ads. And while they admit the case for free will is a little shaky, they also argue that believing in it might just be the thing that keeps us human.
Grab your favorite existential beverage—this one's a ride.
Nique and Ress wade into the murky waters of breakups—the kind where both people walk away convinced they were the wronged party. They dissect the art of mutually assured villainy, trading stories where the endings were messy, the perspectives mismatched, and closure was more of a rumor than a reality. Along the way, they reflect (with varying degrees of grace) on the tangled business of accountability, the temptation to rewrite history for comfort, and the delicate skill of letting go without setting the past on fire. There’s talk of emotional scar tissue, DIY self-soothing, and the quiet impossibility of forgiving someone without dragging the whole mess back into the light.
In this episode, Nique and Ress unpack the sneaky trap of calling something "growth" just because it’s not as bad as your last relationship. We get real about how easy it is to mistake a slightly better partner for a healthy one — especially when your baseline was dysfunction.
Together, we break down how to tell the difference between true healing and just trauma-dodging. We talk emotional safety, consistency, respect, and how to raise your standards beyond “he’s not terrible.” We also dig into the dangers of love bombing and the pressure to settle just because someone isn’t outright toxic.
Whether you’re dating, healing, or trying to figure out what love should even feel like — this one’s for you!
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Ashley and Ress get real about the “messy middle” of personal growth—the awkward, in-between stage where you’re too self-aware to be toxic but still too triggered to be totally healed. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
They dish on their own face-palm-worthy moments and breakthroughs in this emotional limbo, where the only thing more chaotic than your group chat is your inner monologue. Together, they explore the power of grace, boundaries, and community when your healing is a work-in-progress (aka: always).
From navigating triggers without spiraling, to ditching the myth of "healed girl" perfection, this episode is your permission slip to be human, messy, and still growing. Because real progress? It’s quiet, subtle, and never as Instagrammable as you'd like.
This week on She Wolf Alchemy—Nique and Ress are breaking all the rules (and maybe a few hearts) as they dive into the wild world of dating as single moms.
From dodging judgment to redefining love on their terms, these two are getting real about the emotional rollercoaster of balancing romance, motherhood, and self-worth. They break down the "dating categories" society tries to shove single moms into—and flip the script with bold honesty and humor.
You’ll hear personal stories, hard-earned wisdom, and fire advice on how to spot the difference between “he’s nice” and “he’s safe.” Plus: a discussion about when (or how) to weave a new partner into your child's life .
Because modeling healthy love matters—and you don't have to settle for crumbs when you deserve the whole damn bakery.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley ask the hard question: Why do we keep running into burning buildings for people who lit the match?
It’s time to talk boundaries—especially with those chaos-loving characters who treat your peace like it’s optional. From drama-magnet friends to emotionally messy family and partners, our hosts break down why the "rescuer role" is exhausting—and unnecessary.
Nique and Ress sit down to unpack a handful of real-life questions pulled from online advice threads—covering everything from dating doubts to deeper insecurities.
We start with a man feeling insecure about his sexual performance compared to his partner’s ex, . Then, we offer reassurance to an 18-year-old feeling behind in love and life, encouraging patience and focusing on growth at your own pace. There's a 62-year-old single father of two young children navigating dating and we give him some honest answers about why he is struggling to find a match. Meanwhile, a young woman trying to decode mixed signals from a date is reminded that actions—not likes or emojis—tell the real story. There's a question around a former high school bully-turned-coworker .And finally, we talk through a man’s insecurities about his girlfriend’s sexual past. Throughout the episode, we share our usual mix of humor, empathy, and personal stories, wrapping up with some powerful reminders about self-worth, boundaries, and what it really means to put yourself first.
Ever dated someone and at some point it felt like they low-key hated you? Gabi and Ress are diving deep into the confusing (and let’s be real—soul-crushing) dynamics of being with a partner who shows more disdain than affection. From sneaky shade to full-blown emotional sabotage, they break down the red flags you might’ve brushed off—and share their own “what-was-I-thinking” stories. This episode isn’t just tea, it’s therapy. Expect real talk on toxic patterns, exit strategies, and the emotional clean-up that comes after. Because healing, self-worth, and surrounding yourself with people who actually like you? Non-negotiables. Tune in and reclaim your peace.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique discuss a unique kind of loneliness experienced by those who are everyone's go-to person. They dive deep into the emotional toll of always being the strong one who others rely on for support, yet rarely receiving the same in return. They share personal experiences of feeling invisible and emotionally unheard despite being surrounded by people. They explore themes of over-functioning in relationships, the burden of constantly being depended upon, and the struggle to ask for help. They also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and the need to find relationships that offer reciprocation and emotional support. Throughout, they emphasize the significance of communication and the necessity of making conscious efforts to bring in people who can genuinely meet their emotional needs.
In this episode, Nique and Ress bust the myth that love is something you earn after achieving full emotional enlightenment (or attending a suspicious number of sound baths). They unpack the illusion of needing to be "healed" before being lovable, likening it to a cosmic punch card that magically unlocks intimacy once fully stamped. Instead, they offer a refreshing take: love is a co-creative, sometimes messy partnership—not a reward at the finish line of your self-help journey. The duo also side-eyes the 'healing industrial complex' for turning growth into a capitalist grind and remind us that real love doesn’t demand perfection, just participation.
Join Ress and Gabby for a hilariously insightful ride through the messy intersection of childhood wounds and modern dating. Are you really into bad texters, or is that just your inner child clinging to emotionally unavailable dad vibes? Ress breaks down how dating your “type” might actually be a subconscious stroll down memory lane, while Gabby makes the case for therapy, self-reflection, and choosing peace over chaos (hint: boring isn’t always bad). Expect personal stories, uncomfortable truths, and a reminder that you don’t need to be perfectly healed to date—just self-aware enough to spot your patterns and swipe differently.
