In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique discuss the concept of 'perpetual freshman syndrome' where adults fail to take responsibility for their own growth and constantly rely on others for emotional labor. They explore how excusing such behavior can create codependency and normalize dysfunction. The discussion includes personal anecdotes about relationships and friendships where individuals refuse to grow and instead weaponize their incompetence. They also emphasize the importance of reciprocity, self-reflection, and setting boundaries to avoid being drained by others who refuse to do their own work.