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Robot Unicorn
Nurtured First
81 episodes
5 days ago
Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures. In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss. We are glad you are here. PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this name because she loves robots, and she loves unicorns, so why not? There was something about the playfulness of the name, the confidence in her voice, and the fact that it represents that you can love two things at once that just felt right.
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Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures. In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss. We are glad you are here. PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this name because she loves robots, and she loves unicorns, so why not? There was something about the playfulness of the name, the confidence in her voice, and the fact that it represents that you can love two things at once that just felt right.
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Episodes (20/81)
Robot Unicorn
“I Only Want Mommy!!”: Understanding Parental Preference

Why do children sometimes show a clear preference for one parent over the other? In this episode, Jess and Scott explore the psychology and science of parental preference. Drawing on attachment theory, developmental research, and family dynamics studies, we break down why children choose favourites, what influences these patterns, and how parents can respond in ways that strengthen connection, reduce conflict, and support healthy development.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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1 week ago
28 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Friendship For Girls: Drama, Cliques, And Learning To Belong

Why do friendship conflicts feel so catastrophic for young girls? This week, Jess and Scott dive deep into the complex world of girl friendship drama, exploring why the tween and teen years are a hotbed for relational aggression like gossip, exclusion, and social maneuvering. Learn the crucial difference between normal conflict and bullying that requires your intervention. This episode is packed with insights and practical tips on becoming a 'friendship coach' for your daughter and supporting her in building resilient, healthy relationships.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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2 weeks ago
50 minutes

Robot Unicorn
How To Use Playfulness As A Powerful Parenting Tool

In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the incredible power of shifting from a serious, stern approach to a playful one. They explore the brain science behind why play is a child's natural language, making them more receptive and cooperative. Discover the crucial difference between being playful and permissive, and learn how to maintain firm boundaries while still having fun. You'll leave with a toolbox of practical, easy-to-use strategies to transform stressful moments into opportunities for connection, even if you don't consider yourself a 'playful' person.


For more on playful parenting, check out these episodes of Robot Unicorn:
How To Become A Playful Parent

Is It Ok To Tease Your Kids?


For easy games and playful tools to do with your kids, check out The Playful Parent Toolkit here.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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3 weeks ago
51 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Q&A: ADHD, Skeptical Partners, and Staying Connected After Kids

We're opening up the floor and answering your most-asked questions in this listener Q&A episode. We get personal about our recent ADHD diagnoses and how neurodivergence shows up differently for each of us in our marriage. Join us as we explore the heart-wrenching 'birthday sadness' of watching kids grow up, share our journey of getting a skeptical partner on board with a new parenting style, and offer our top tip for staying connected amidst the chaos. This episode is packed with stories, a little F1 banter, and real-life insights for any parent navigating similar challenges.


This episode just touches the surface of many important topics. Check out the following episodes for more on these topics: 


Listen to this episode if you’re looking for more about skeptical parents. 


Listen to this episode to learn more about how childhood trauma impacts parenting. 


Listen to this episode if you want more on staying connected with your partner after having kids. 


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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4 weeks ago
35 minutes

Robot Unicorn
“I’m Being Consistent With My Discipline - Why Isn’t It Working?”

Ever feel like the advice to 'just be consistent' isn't working for your family? In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the power of 'flexible consistency' and why adapting to your child's needs is just as important as holding boundaries. They discuss how to shift your mindset from 'Why won't my child listen?' to 'Why can't they?', exploring concepts like temperament, skills gaps, and behaviour as communication. Learn how to become a 'behaviour detective' to understand the real reason behind your child's actions and move from frustration to a deeper, more effective connection.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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1 month ago
48 minutes

Robot Unicorn
How To Handle Big After-School Meltdowns

Why is your child perfect at school, only to completely fall apart the moment they get home? This episode dives deep into the common but misunderstood phenomenon of 'After-School Restraint Collapse.' Jess and Scott will help you understand that these explosions are a sign that your child feels safest with you, and give you practical strategies—from co-regulation to creating a 'soft landing'—to help your child decompress and turn these challenging moments into opportunities for connection.

Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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1 month ago
40 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Why Are Some Kids So Strong-Willed And Stubborn!? (REVISIT)

In this episode, Scott and Jess revisit a previous episode on strong-willed kids and add new commentary, insights, and stories to help parents understand and connect with their strong-willed kids. 


Jess and Scott share practical, respectful strategies to transform power struggles into moments of understanding, helping you become the confident, curious leader your child needs. Learn how to work with your child’s nature, not against it, and build a relationship that fosters cooperation instead of conflict.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 



Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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1 month ago
47 minutes

Robot Unicorn
How To Talk To Kids About Death, Suicide, And Other Difficult Topics

CW: Death, Suicide, Tragedy, Divorce


This week, Jess and Scott tackle difficult conversations: death, suicide, divorce, loss, and tragedy in the news. Drawing from Scott's personal experience with suicide in his family and Jess's expertise as a child therapist, they offer a raw and honest guide to navigating these tricky topics. Listeners will learn the biggest mistakes well-intentioned parents make, why you should never use euphemisms like "went to sleep," and how to support your child (and yourself) through grief. This episode provides the tools you need to handle life's hardest moments with grace and connection.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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1 month ago
37 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Letting Kids Use AI: Smart Move Or Serious Mistake?

Is AI a helpful tool or a 'Terminator' situation waiting to happen? In this episode, Jess finally gets to interview Scott as they tackle the complex world of AI safety for kids. They break down the different types of AI your child interacts with daily and reveal the hidden psychological risks. This episode will help you feel more empowered and less anxious about guiding your children through the new digital landscape. 


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 



Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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2 months ago
48 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Are You On Your Phone Too Much In Front Of Your Kids?

Ever feel a pang of guilt when you look up from your phone to see your child has moved on? You're not alone. In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the 'parents' paradox', how our phones are both a lifeline and a major source of distraction. They explore the 'digital still face' effect on our kids and the science behind why apps are so hard to put down. Tune in for practical, compassion-focused strategies to break the cycle, reduce your screen time, and reclaim real, meaningful connection with your family.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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2 months ago
52 minutes

Robot Unicorn
“But My Friend’s Parents Let Them…Why Can’t I?”

What do you do when your child hits you with the classic line, "But my friend's parents let them!"? This episode tackles the universal parenting challenge of setting and upholding family rules. You'll walk away with practical strategies to communicate your rules effectively, offer choices within boundaries, and build a collaborative family team without giving up your leadership role.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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2 months ago
50 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Biblical Discipline, Deconstruction, And Belonging with Kate Bowler

Jess sits down with Kate Bowler, historian, pastor, and New York Times bestselling author, to explore parenting, faith, and religious deconstruction. They unpack the history of harsh discipline like sparing the rod, question the idea of biblical discipline, and wrestle with whether kids are inherently sinful. This compassionate conversation offers space to question long-held beliefs, understand the pain of inauthentic belonging, and discover a faith grounded in love and grace, not just rules.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 



Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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2 months ago
1 hour 9 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Should We Force Kids To Say Sorry And Forgive Each Other?

Are you tired of forcing your kids to say 'I'm sorry,' only to see them repeat the same behaviour an hour later? In this episode, Jess and Scott dissect the common parenting trap of forced apologies and, more surprisingly, forced forgiveness. They explore why simply demanding these magic words can be meaningless and even teach children to override their own feelings. Discover practical, empathy-building strategies, like action-oriented repair, to move beyond the empty 'sorry' and guide your children toward genuine understanding and stronger relationships.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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3 months ago
34 minutes

Robot Unicorn
The Impact Of Birth Order: What All Parents Need To Understand

Are firstborns natural leaders, and the youngest the rebellious baby? Jess and Scott dismantle the popular—and surprisingly persistent—myths surrounding birth order. Scott shares fascinating research that reveals birth order's impact on personality and intelligence is almost non-existent. They explore the research on birth order and discuss the far more powerful forces that shape who our children become, including genetics, socioeconomic status, and most importantly, your parenting style. Tune in to free yourself from stereotypes and learn what truly matters in raising unique individuals.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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3 months ago
1 hour

Robot Unicorn
The Tween Years: Peers, Embarrassment, And Belonging

In this episode, Jess and Scott unpack the normal but challenging issues that arise in the tween years. They explore the fascinating science of the developing adolescent brain—explaining why teens have a 'powerful accelerator but underdeveloped brakes'—and discuss the crucial quest for identity that causes them to pull away. Learn how to shift from being a 'manager' to a 'coach,' build a 'social immune system' for your child, and, most importantly, how to stay connected even when they try to push you away.


Listen to the episodes Jess and Scott mention in the episode here: 

The Impact Of Social Media, Gaming And Smartphones On Kids

Impulse Control: What Every Parent Needs To Know


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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3 months ago
46 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Everyone Needs Me—But I'm Drowning

Inspired by a listener's email, this episode dives into the parts of parenting that often go undiscussed. Jess and Scott move beyond simplistic 'self-care' advice to explore realistic ways to nurture yourself amidst the chaos, especially when you feel burnt out and unsupported. Learn the critical difference between being tired and true burnout, discover how to effectively repair your relationship after you've lost your cool, and understand why self-compassion might be the most powerful tool a parent has.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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3 months ago
1 hour 2 minutes

Robot Unicorn
What Every Parent Needs To Know About Sibling Conflict

Tired of being the referee in constant sibling battles? This episode tackles a listener's question about managing the chaos of sibling play, especially between toddlers and preschoolers. We explore the developmental science behind why forcing a two-year-old to share is often a recipe for disaster. Discover a powerful mindset shift from being a frustrated 'referee' to an effective 'coach' who guides children through conflict. Learn practical strategies for fair turn-taking and how to build a loving, supportive team dynamic that will help your kids' relationship flourish for years to come.


Listen to the impulse control episode Jess mentions in the episode here. 


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 



Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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3 months ago
33 minutes

Robot Unicorn
The Truth Behind Swearing And Rude Language In Kids

When your sweet child suddenly starts using shocking language, it can be deeply unsettling - but this episode explains why it's often a normal developmental phase rather than a character flaw. Jess and Scott explore how children transition from physical to verbal aggression as they grow, and why words like 'stupid,' 'I hate you,' or even cursing serve different purposes from getting attention to expressing big emotions. 


You'll learn practical strategies for responding without accidentally reinforcing rude language, how to maintain boundaries without shaming, and the fascinating connection between ADHD and verbal outbursts. Whether your child is experimenting with shocking words or using language as a weapon when angry, this episode provides the developmental context and practical tools you need to navigate this challenging but normal phase.


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 


Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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4 months ago
46 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Are Timeouts Really Evidence-Based?

Jess and Scott dive deep into the controversial topic of timeouts, examining whether they're truly the evidence-based discipline method many claim. They explore how typical timeout implementation can potentially harm parent-child attachment and fail to teach children the emotional regulation skills they need. 


Listeners will gain insights into more developmentally appropriate alternatives like 'time-ins' and learn how to critically evaluate evidence-based parenting claims by asking: 'evidence-based for what outcome, under what conditions, and with what potential trade-offs?'


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 



Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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4 months ago
33 minutes

Robot Unicorn
The Research All Parents Need To Know About Punishments

Jess and Scott break down what research says about approaches like spanking, harsh verbal discipline, threats and bribes — and why authoritative parenting (balancing warmth with structure) leads to better outcomes.

This episode is perfect for parents who are curious about non-punitive strategies or who want to raise cooperative kids without relying on fear or control.

If you want to learn more about parenting without punishments, check out the Parenting Little Kids course here. 


Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.


We’d love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. 


Credits:

Editing by The Pod Cabin 

Artwork by Wallflower Studio 

Production by Nurtured First 



Learn more about The Anger Course here!

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4 months ago
1 hour 6 minutes

Robot Unicorn
Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures. In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss. We are glad you are here. PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this name because she loves robots, and she loves unicorns, so why not? There was something about the playfulness of the name, the confidence in her voice, and the fact that it represents that you can love two things at once that just felt right.