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Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

Beth Hillman | Parent Coach for Parents of Struggling Teens

161 episodes

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Misdiagnosis, trial-and-error medication, and treatment plans that miss the real issue are realities many families haave to face, even though the last thing you want is guesswork when it comes to your struggling teen’s or young adult’s care. That’s where psychological testing comes in. In this conversation with Liz Griffith, owner of Psychological Solutions, we dive into why comprehensive psychological testing for teens is such a critical piece of the puzzle. Liz shares how accurate testing h...

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Misdiagnosis, trial-and-error medication, and treatment plans that miss the real issue are realities many families haave to face, even though the last thing you want is guesswork when it comes to your struggling teen’s or young adult’s care. That’s where psychological testing comes in. In this conversation with Liz Griffith, owner of Psychological Solutions, we dive into why comprehensive psychological testing for teens is such a critical piece of the puzzle. Liz shares how accurate testing h...

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Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

159. Helping Your Teen Build Independence and Resilience With Virginia Townsand

You want to protect your child and give them a better life than you had. But sometimes, those good intentions backfire, leaving our teens less capable, less confident, and more dependent than we ever wanted. In this conversation with licensed clinical counselor and life coach Virginia Townsand, we explore how over-helping can unintentionally create learned helplessness, and what you can do instead to foster independence and resilience in your teen. Virginia and I talk about the difference bet...

2 days ago

29 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

158. Are You Helping or Enabling? How to Support Your Struggling Teen Or Young Adult Kid Without Rescuing

You step in to help, ease your kid’s struggles, but is your help actually helpful or is it keeping your struggling teen or young adult from making the changes they need most? You want the best for them, but how can you influence internal change? It’s a painful truth many parents don’t realize: sometimes “help” becomes enabling. By rescuing your struggling teen from discomfort, whether through financial support, extra comforts, or stepping in to soften the consequences, you may unintentionall...

1 week ago

28 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

157. Is This Normal Teen Behavior? A Parent’s Guide to Knowing the Difference, With Therapist Jen Murphy

Ever wondered if your teen’s latest mood swing, eye roll, or total shutdown is just part of growing up or a sign that something deeper is going on? You’re not alone. Parents ask me about normal teen behavior almost daily, especially when past struggles or treatment make it harder to tell what’s typical and what’s cause for concern. In this conversation with therapist and parent coach Jen Murphy, we explore how understanding human growth and development stages can take the guesswork (and the ...

2 weeks ago

38 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

156. Understanding Why Teens Lie, With Therapist Dana VanRenterghem

When your teen lies to you, it can feel like a betrayal, whether it’s about doing the dishes, where they were last night, or something much bigger. But what if their dishonesty isn’t a sign of disrespect, but a sign of something deeper? Today, therapist Dana VanRenterghem is back to unpack the emotional complexity behind why teens lie. From little white lies to big cover-ups, together we explore what’s often happening beneath the surface: fear, shame, and the deep need for connection. And wi...

3 weeks ago

31 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

155. The Pain of Watching Your Teen Resist Help: Understanding Resistance to Change

It’s one of the most heartbreaking parts of parenting a struggling kid: watching them resist the very help they need, even when they KNOW they need it. In today’s conversation, Seth and I talk about the resistance to change: what it looks like, why it shows up, and how powerless it can make you feel as a parent. Whether your teen is avoiding treatment, clinging to unhealthy coping mechanisms, or simply refusing to engage with the support you're offering, this kind of resistance can feel like...

1 month ago

22 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

154. What Struggling Teens Wish Their Parents Knew: Advice From Former Troubled Teen Enzo

What if your struggling kid isn’t defiant, out of control, or ungrateful… but just hurting, lost, and desperate to be understood? In this follow-up conversation, Enzo returns. Last week, he shared his story. This time, he’s here to offer something every parent craves: honest, compassionate advice from someone who’s been there. Someone who ran from treatment, overdosed, and nearly didn’t make it, but did. Enzo shares what he wishes his parents had done differently, why curiosity is more powe...

1 month ago

17 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

153. Inside the Mind of a Troubled Teen: Enzo's Journey Through Substance Abuse, Running From Treatment, and Two Overdoses

What’s underneath the chaos when your teen or young adult is out of control? I may seem like they don’t care about anything: school, their future, you. But what if underneath, there’s a deep sense of fear, loneliness, and the desperate need to belong? As parents, we often only see the surface: defiance, shutdowns, risky behavior, silence. But there's always something underneath. And this conversation offers a rare and incredibly valuable glimpse inside the mind of a troubled teen who lived t...

1 month ago

55 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

152. Self-Care for Parents: Knowing Your Worth and Setting Boundaries

You’re probably sick of hearing about self-care, and you’ve surely heard a hundred times that “you have to take care of yourself.” But when parenting a struggling teen or young adult, choosing yourself doesn’t always come naturally. So what does it actually look like to take care of yourself it feels like your family is in constant crisis? In today’s conversation, Seth and I dig into the often-overlooked emotional labor parents carry, and why putting yourself last isn’t what’s best for ever...

1 month ago

24 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

151. Advocate for Your Child at School: 10 Tips for a Successful IEP Meeting With Andrea Svendsen

There’s no handbook on how to advocate for your child at school, especially when things get hard. Navigating IEP meetings can feel overwhelming, intimidating, and downright confusing. You know your child needs support, but between the legal jargon, emotional stress, and resistance from schools, it’s hard to know how to show up as a strong advocate for your child, no matter their age. That’s why I invited Andrea Svendsen to join me for this conversation. Andrea has decades of experience in b...

1 month ago

44 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

150. Helping Your Teen Find Community & Belonging After Treatment With Hayley From ‘Not Therapy’ Coaching

Nobody really talks about what happens after treatment. The messy, vulnerable in-between where your teen or young adult is no longer in crisis but still doesn’t quite feel at home in the world. They’ve changed… and they can feel it. But instead of feeling proud, they often feel disconnected, misunderstood, or even rejected by their peers. They’ve gained emotional intelligence, insight, and tools most of their previous friends don’t have, and that can be incredibly isolating. Especially when ...

2 months ago

50 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

149. Setting Healthy Boundaries With Your Teen Through Complaints and Pushback

“You’re so controlling!” Did your kid ever tell you that? If your teen or young adult constantly complains about your rules, expectations, or structure, saying that you’re controlling them, you're not alone. Many parents trying to set healthy boundaries with their teen end up questioning themselves the moment they face pushback. You want to listen, validate, and stay connected… but does that mean giving up on the structure your kid actually needs? In this episode, Seth and I unpack the real...

2 months ago

24 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

148. Setting Boundaries With Grandparents and Extended Family + Where to Seek Support Instead

When you’re desperate for support, it’s tempting to turn to extended family. But sometimes their “help” just makes things harder. It’s a common and painful dynamic for many struggling parents: your teen is having a hard time, and suddenly the grandparents or extended family start weighing in with passive-aggressive comments, outdated advice, or judgmental questions. You’re already doing everything you can to support your struggling teen, and now it feels like you have to defend yourself, too....

2 months ago

26 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

147. Not Every Struggling Teen Needs Wilderness: Talking Family Intensives with Mom Kathy & Therapist Jen Murphy

What if the solution isn’t sending your teen away? When your child is struggling and the emotional rollercoaster has taken over your home, wilderness therapy might seem like the only real option. But what if it’s not the right option for your family? Today, I’m joined by mom Kathy and therapist Jen Murphy to talk about a different kind of approach for struggling teens, young adults, and families. Kathy shares her family’s journey of navigating ADHD, impulsivity, and emotional dysregulation ...

2 months ago

49 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

146. When Your Teen Doesn’t Want Your Advice

🔆 Small GROUP COACHING program starting June 11th, 2025 🔆 Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups I hope to see you there! You’re trying to help. They think you’re trying to control them. Sound familiar? As parents, we often step in with the best intentions: to protect, guide, or simply make things easier. But when your teen or young adult shuts down, gets defensive, or accuses you of being controlling, it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and stuck. So, what do...

3 months ago

27 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

145. How to Apologize to Your Teen or Young Adult Kid With Dana Vanrenterghem.

"I'm sorry" might be the hardest two words to say to your teen. But what if apologizing is actually the key to rebuilding trust and connection? In today’s episode, I sit down with therapist Dana VanRenterghem to unpack the real challenge of taking accountability with our teens and young adults. We dive into those messy moments when emotions run high, technology fails, and communication breaks down, and explore how a genuine apology can transform your relationship with your struggling teen or...

3 months ago

38 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

144. Parenting Without Enabling: How to Support Without Condoning Harmful Behavior

🔆 Small GROUP COACHING program starting June 11th, 2025 🔆 Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups I hope to see you there! When your kid makes harmful or self-destructive choices, it's natural to want to step in, correct, and fix. But at some point, empathy might feel like enabling. How do we listen with compassion without sending the message that their behavior is okay? In this episode, Seth and I unpack the fear that being supportive might mean condoning poor behav...

3 months ago

23 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

143. Motivating Behavior Change in Teens & Young Adults With Teen Mentor, Michael Corbett

When our kids struggle to make better choices, we often focus on offering consequences, creating a plan, and following through. It’s a natural instinct to try harder, create structure, and hold boundaries. But what often gets overlooked is the role that beliefs play in motivating behavior change, both our kids’ beliefs about themselves and our own beliefs as parents. That’s what I explore in today’s episode with teen mentor and author Michael Corbett. Michael shares how a deep understanding ...

3 months ago

43 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

142. Feeling Used by Your Teen? How to Move Away from Transactional Parenting With Trevor Allen

“I do so much for them, and they don’t even notice”. Sounds like a familiar thought? Many parents of struggling teens or young adults feel used, taken for granted, or stuck in a dynamic where love feels more like a series of trades than a relationship. In this episode, I’m joined again by therapist Trevor Allen to unpack the tricky dynamic of transactional parenting and behavior: what it is, how it shows up, and most importantly, how to shift out of it. From “I let you go out, so you should ...

4 months ago

46 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

141. What Are Your Expecting? - Navigating Expectations Before, During, and After Treatment

It’s not your child’s job to live up to your expectations. That might sound harsh, but it’s one of the most important truths I’ve had to learn as a parent, especially during the transition home after treatment. If you’re anything like me, you might be thinking: ‘But I don’t even have that many expectations!’ I used to think that too… I wasn’t asking for straight A’s or a high-powered career path. But the truth is, I had all sorts of hidden expectations: to be respected, to be liked, to have...

4 months ago

34 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

140. Parenting a Teen vs a Young Adult: Nuanced Changes at Every Stage

🌱 LIVE Online Workshop 'Resolve The Cycle of Conflict' 🌱 May 2nd & 16th, 2025 Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/conflictworkshop I hope to see you there! There’s a distinct shift that happens when your teen becomes a young adult, and it’s not just about age. Whether your child is living at home, in college, or fresh out of treatment, the transition from parenting a teenager to parenting a young adult is one of the most nuanced and challenging shifts we make as par...

4 months ago

29 minutes