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Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

Beth Hillman | Parent Coach for Parents of Struggling Teens

149 episodes

2 days ago

When you’re desperate for support, it’s tempting to turn to extended family. But sometimes their “help” just makes things harder. It’s a common and painful dynamic for many struggling parents: your teen is having a hard time, and suddenly the grandparents or extended family start weighing in with passive-aggressive comments, outdated advice, or judgmental questions. You’re already doing everything you can to support your struggling teen, and now it feels like you have to defend yourself, too....

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When you’re desperate for support, it’s tempting to turn to extended family. But sometimes their “help” just makes things harder. It’s a common and painful dynamic for many struggling parents: your teen is having a hard time, and suddenly the grandparents or extended family start weighing in with passive-aggressive comments, outdated advice, or judgmental questions. You’re already doing everything you can to support your struggling teen, and now it feels like you have to defend yourself, too....

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Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

148. Setting Boundaries With Grandparents and Extended Family + Where to Seek Support Instead

When you’re desperate for support, it’s tempting to turn to extended family. But sometimes their “help” just makes things harder. It’s a common and painful dynamic for many struggling parents: your teen is having a hard time, and suddenly the grandparents or extended family start weighing in with passive-aggressive comments, outdated advice, or judgmental questions. You’re already doing everything you can to support your struggling teen, and now it feels like you have to defend yourself, too....

2 days ago

26 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

147. Not Every Struggling Teen Needs Wilderness: Talking Family Intensives with Mom Kathy & Therapist Jen Murphy

What if the solution isn’t sending your teen away? When your child is struggling and the emotional rollercoaster has taken over your home, wilderness therapy might seem like the only real option. But what if it’s not the right option for your family? Today, I’m joined by mom Kathy and therapist Jen Murphy to talk about a different kind of approach for struggling teens, young adults, and families. Kathy shares her family’s journey of navigating ADHD, impulsivity, and emotional dysregulation ...

1 week ago

49 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

146. When Your Teen Doesn’t Want Your Advice

🔆 Small GROUP COACHING program starting June 11th, 2025 🔆 Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups I hope to see you there! You’re trying to help. They think you’re trying to control them. Sound familiar? As parents, we often step in with the best intentions: to protect, guide, or simply make things easier. But when your teen or young adult shuts down, gets defensive, or accuses you of being controlling, it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and stuck. So, what do...

2 weeks ago

27 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

145. How to Apologize to Your Teen or Young Adult Kid With Dana Vanrenterghem.

"I'm sorry" might be the hardest two words to say to your teen. But what if apologizing is actually the key to rebuilding trust and connection? In today’s episode, I sit down with therapist Dana VanRenterghem to unpack the real challenge of taking accountability with our teens and young adults. We dive into those messy moments when emotions run high, technology fails, and communication breaks down, and explore how a genuine apology can transform your relationship with your struggling teen or...

3 weeks ago

38 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

144. Parenting Without Enabling: How to Support Without Condoning Harmful Behavior

🔆 Small GROUP COACHING program starting June 11th, 2025 🔆 Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/groups I hope to see you there! When your kid makes harmful or self-destructive choices, it's natural to want to step in, correct, and fix. But at some point, empathy might feel like enabling. How do we listen with compassion without sending the message that their behavior is okay? In this episode, Seth and I unpack the fear that being supportive might mean condoning poor behav...

1 month ago

23 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

143. Motivating Behavior Change in Teens & Young Adults With Teen Mentor, Michael Corbett

When our kids struggle to make better choices, we often focus on offering consequences, creating a plan, and following through. It’s a natural instinct to try harder, create structure, and hold boundaries. But what often gets overlooked is the role that beliefs play in motivating behavior change, both our kids’ beliefs about themselves and our own beliefs as parents. That’s what I explore in today’s episode with teen mentor and author Michael Corbett. Michael shares how a deep understanding ...

1 month ago

43 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

142. Feeling Used by Your Teen? How to Move Away from Transactional Parenting With Trevor Allen

“I do so much for them, and they don’t even notice”. Sounds like a familiar thought? Many parents of struggling teens or young adults feel used, taken for granted, or stuck in a dynamic where love feels more like a series of trades than a relationship. In this episode, I’m joined again by therapist Trevor Allen to unpack the tricky dynamic of transactional parenting and behavior: what it is, how it shows up, and most importantly, how to shift out of it. From “I let you go out, so you should ...

1 month ago

46 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

141. What Are Your Expecting? - Navigating Expectations Before, During, and After Treatment

It’s not your child’s job to live up to your expectations. That might sound harsh, but it’s one of the most important truths I’ve had to learn as a parent, especially during the transition home after treatment. If you’re anything like me, you might be thinking: ‘But I don’t even have that many expectations!’ I used to think that too… I wasn’t asking for straight A’s or a high-powered career path. But the truth is, I had all sorts of hidden expectations: to be respected, to be liked, to have...

1 month ago

34 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

140. Parenting a Teen vs a Young Adult: Nuanced Changes at Every Stage

🌱 LIVE Online Workshop 'Resolve The Cycle of Conflict' 🌱 May 2nd & 16th, 2025 Sign up or learn more over at www.bethhillmancoaching.com/conflictworkshop I hope to see you there! There’s a distinct shift that happens when your teen becomes a young adult, and it’s not just about age. Whether your child is living at home, in college, or fresh out of treatment, the transition from parenting a teenager to parenting a young adult is one of the most nuanced and challenging shifts we make as par...

1 month ago

29 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

139. How to Help Your Anxious Teen or Young Adult With Monica Crnogorac

If your teen seems anxious, unmotivated, or constantly overwhelmed, there's often more going on beneath the surface than meets the eye. Teen anxiety is more common and more complex than many parents realize. Life coach for teens Monica Crnogorac brings both personal and professional insight on how to help your anxious teen. Together, we explore how anxiety can show up for our teen or young adult kids, what it feels like from their perspective, and how you, as a parent, can better support your...

2 months ago

47 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

138. Life After Treatment: How Your Kid Can Find the Peer Support They Need

One of the most overlooked challenges after treatment? The loss of community. Teens and young adults often return home (or head off to college) and suddenly find themselves without the peer support they had in treatment, even though that kind of support, being seen and understood by someone who’s been through it too, can be one of the most powerful parts of the healing process. “Especially for young people, the need to belong is so important” - Ciara Fanlo Your child may be craving a sense ...

2 months ago

36 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

137. How to Care Without Losing Yourself When Your Teen Is in Crisis

When your teen or young adult is struggling, it’s easy for everything else to fall away, including you. It’s a pattern we both see often: parents abandoning their own needs in the name of care, staying on high alert for the next crisis, and losing themselves in the process. I remember the desperation I felt when my son was struggling. I poured every ounce of my energy into trying to get him to choose something different. I ignored my emotional, mental, and physical needs, because I couldn’t ...

2 months ago

19 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

136. Finding Balance While Shifting Parenting Patterns

When you're doing the work to grow as a parent, it's common to overcorrect. You recognize a pattern (maybe you tend to be explosive in conflict) so you swing to the opposite end and become overly passive. It feels like progress, but suddenly you're stuck in a new extreme. In this episode, Seth and I explore what we call the "pendulum swing" of behavior and how both parents and teens experience this while trying to make real, lasting change. Whether it’s yelling one day and withdrawing the ne...

2 months ago

24 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

135. Challenging the Stories We Tell Ourselves About Our Struggling Teens & Young Adults

We all have an inner dialogue. But it's too easy to take the stories we tell ourselves, about our kids, our parenting, and what’s going to happen next, to start feeling like facts. In this episode, Seth and I explore how our narratives can quietly shape our reactions, expectations, and ultimately our relationships with our teens and young adults. “We have to remember that almost everything we think is a narrative. … All narratives can change” - Beth Hillman When a child returns home from tr...

3 months ago

35 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

134. Helping Your (ADHD) Teen Manage Time & Build Executive Function Skills With Chrissy Nichols

If your teen or young adult constantly underestimates how long things take or insists they “have plenty of time” when they don’t, welcome to the club! This common struggle is called time dysmorphia, and it’s more than just procrastination or laziness. It actually has to do with executive functioning. In this episode, executive function coach Chrissy Nichols joins me to explain what time dysmorphia is, why it happens, and how parents can help their kids manage it without frustration or shame....

3 months ago

39 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

133. When to Step Back: The Power of Disengaging for Healthy Communication with Your Teen or Young-Adult

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a conversation that’s going in circles, desperately trying to find a resolution? It’s natural to want closure, but sometimes, the healthiest thing you can do is step back. In this episode, Seth and I explore how disengaging can actually strengthen healthy communication with your teen rather than shutting it down. When emotions run high, it can be difficult to recognize when a conversation is no longer productive. As parents, we often enter discussions with ...

3 months ago

31 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

132. Why Isn’t Your Love Enough to Make Your Struggling Teen Choose Better?

It’s devastating to watch your teen struggle and feel like nothing you do is making a difference. You love them more than anything, yet your support, advice, and care don’t seem to make a difference. If you’ve ever thought, Why isn’t my love enough to help my struggling teen?, you’re not alone. In this episode, Seth and I unpack why struggling teens may reject the love and support they need and what parents can do with this knowledge. Many parents take their child’s maladaptive behaviors p...

3 months ago

27 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

131. Navigating Home Visits: How to Approach Your Teen’s Visit Home from Treatment

Home visits after treatment can be both exciting and nerve-wracking for everyone involved. It’s a time filled with hope, but with that hope often comes fear: fear of falling back into old patterns, fear of things going wrong, and fear of not knowing what to expect. In this episode, Seth and I unpack what makes home visits so important, why they can feel overwhelming, and how to navigate them with intention. Every family member brings their own expectations to a home visit. As a parent, you m...

4 months ago

35 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

130. From Sibling to Mentor: The Sibling’s Perspective & Building Community After Treatment With Ethan Gordon

When a child struggles, the entire family feels it. But the sibling’s experience is often overlooked. Today, we get to hear the sibling’s perspective as Ethan Gordon, a mentor for struggling kids, teens, and young adults, joins me to share his unique perspective as both a sibling and a social worker. Drawing from his personal loss of a brother to drug addiction, Ethan offers insights into his unique experiences as a sibling of a struggling teen. Navigating how much to share with siblings whe...

4 months ago

29 minutes

Parenting Post-Wilderness: Parenting a Struggling Teen Before, During and After Treatment

129. Shifting to Healthy Communication with Your Teen and Family

Healthy communication is the foundation of strong relationships. But when emotions run high, it’s easy to fall into unhelpful patterns. In this episode, trauma therapist Sarah Allen joins me to explore how communication styles shape family dynamics and what it takes to shift toward healthier, more assertive communication with your struggling teen. If you’ve ever felt stuck between being too passive or too controlling in conversations with your teen, you’re not alone. Many parents default to ...

4 months ago

39 minutes